₦airaland Forum

prepre12:
1. I use to believe that there are men who won’t cheat on their women but now I wonder if they are really out there anymore.

2. One can be hardworking, have your own money, not be demanding and support you man all through the way but at the end they will still cheat and hit you for finding out.

3. You try to be godly. But you don’t get godly men in return

1. There are faithful husbands.

2. That is one of the lies feminism sold to women. Men & women are not same so the above qualities you listed are not women's selling points for men on a sexual level. (Abeg, I do not want misquoting that I said women should not earn/work bla bla bla). A man can leave a rich business woman for a woman he clothes till her panties and be faithful to her. The questions should be asking is 'does he love me'? 'is he God-fearing/moral'? 'Does he have principles he abides by'? 'what does he think about men/women relationships'? 'Thoughts about manhood's bla bla bla.

3. In your quest of godliness, how did you get the man? Where did he find you? What signs/proof did he present to show that he is also godly or 'trying to be godly'?

Jman06:
This is not true!

If we must state the truth, a man's nature is not such that allows him multiple sexual contact at a go nor in a day! I don't know how old you are or how many sexual encounters you've had, but believe me, I'm experienced enough to tell you the truth. How many rounds of sex can you realistically go and for how long before getting tired? Honestly answer that question and then you'll realize that nature never made you to be with multiple women.

Most men that cheat do that for the thrills, not really for the sex. Most of such men like going for the young girls just for the game of having to chase these girls and the thrills thereof.

I have been with girls that kept sugar daddies and I know that they don't get sexual satisfaction from such relationships. They eat these men's money and allow them feel that youthful thrills. The sex is usually nothing to write home about for the girls.

Another reason why men cheat, aside the thrills, is ego. Some men see it as an ego boost to frolic with as many women as they want. Some especially like having other men's wives for that same ego boosting effect. It gives them a false sense of superiority to bed other men's young wives. They may even be weak on bed, but would still chase people's wives to feel alpha. It's all psychological.

Also, being in an unhappy marriage is another factor. Many men are having it hot from their wives at home, so they seek happiness from other women outside.

On a final note, if a man is happily married to his kind of lady, is not egoistic, and is psychological balanced with a sound sense of judgement, he'll not cheat on his wife.

Nice one

sarang60:
Exactly what I said.

What series is this?

NoToPile:
Loool I doubt he can even see for that price.

Nothing is impossible in Naija

I stumbled on 'Pretty Man' (C-Drama) and I love, love , love the first episode especially the build up to the kissing scene.

I loved the obvious conflict, restraint and decision to fall anyways.

So human, so perfectly done.

I hope the story leaves me with a good impression.

sarang60:
1. I understand and agree but he doesn't know everything that we know (like they love him, trying to protect him and all that). To the best of his knowledge, people that should have protected him made him a nobody, see him as a nobody(and some still do) and 2. eventhough it was a persona he created to hide his true intentions, he still needs to be liberated from it by fire by thunder and Mu Deok is doing it the way she knows how.....they have been successful so far in my books.

3. I do see her love for him and I even feel bad for her because she might end up sacrificing herself for him. It was very evident when they talked about the letter they wrote eachother. She is seriously holding herself back and I am convinced it is in her character to do so.

4. Let's not also forget that these are the children of the people she thought for years ruined her family.

1. I agree

2. She should ease up a bit jare

3. I am not sold yet. The fact she was willing to betray him to the Assistant Mage's man till he gave her that Jade stuff left a very bad taste in my mouth. Let's keep watching sha

4. But now she knows that they were justified in killing him because he had become a soul eater. Anyways, the hatred built over the decades wouldn't dissolve in a week.

Throwback:
Someone once opined on this forum, that this David Hundeyin is actually hollow and shallow.

I now believe by the above tweet he made.

Is it just today that David is knowing that Nigeria supports a lot of our West African neighbours with financial grants and material support, aside from the many bilateral pacts we have with these ECOWAS neighbours?

Did the government tell him they were hiding anything, such that he is calling it "brazen" and "daring" for being legally budgeted for?

What manner of hysterical journalism is this anarchist trying to push to his mob of fellow hate group members?

Even if Peter Obi is voted President, Nigeria will still continue to support our neighbouring countries, one way or another, and they will be budgeted just as this "discovery" from an idle mind that serves the devil well.

Is this an attempt to justify this madness?

Is Nigeria in a state to 'support' any neighbouring nation with N1b plus?

Congratulations ladies

More wins to Nigeria.

uuzba:
So if you send Afeez to go and buy cement and Afeez got stuck in traffic jam for 3 hrs, will you pay Afeez 3 hrs money, or you will say, that 3 hrs no concern you? Afeez will fight you O.

Thought provoking

Because while Afeez is not adding any value for the three hours he is stuck in traffic, he is not being slothful either.

Cc: Pocohantas

Interesting thread.

@No 2, what exactly do you think made the wife get away with not cooking during Ileya?

fineboynl:
When returning from church I have a taste for chicken. And I prefer the one I will prepare myself because I like slow frying chicken for it to dried properly. So I enter the mall name withheld.

One thing I noticed was that the place was very scanty unlike what it use to be on a Sunday.

I pick my chicken and gizzard and was looking for vegetable oil to fry it

The prices I was seeing was confusing my eyes. I saw this one that 2k something was written at the line. I was like wow this one is cheaper. I just picked it and head straight to pay. When I give them my card I never bother to check the total balance until I they gave me receipts and I was shock to see 5999 for the oil.

You withheld the name of the mall in your post and shared the receipt.

I beg you with the love of Christ: if you see 3L ororo for N2k anywhere, DON'T BUY!

trutharena:
Yes just as the rest of the southern governors are chronic bigots for having Christian-Christian ticket.

All the Islamic blackmail don’t work no more. We’ve seen through the bigotry and hypocrisy.

If a governor is very sure of winning with a Muslim-Muslim, he should try it since they say majority carry the vote.

Since we’ve all made it about religion, we shouldn’t hypocritically condemn one side and uplift the other side.

You either eschew all religious bigotry OR learn to live with the other side when they do it.

What in God's green earth are you talking about?

I cringe when people see white and call it black. Who has spoken against M/M or C/C gubernatorial ticket?

Why are you deceitfully comparing two unequal stuffs?

@OP: that's the thought process of a number of them; the cleric just has a platform.

sarang60:
I don't think so on the contrary, I love how she pushes him because that is exactly what he needs. She was raised with discipline to accomplish missions without fail and he was raised to be a nobody with a golden spoon and even now, there are still people trying to keep him hidden.

Don't forget that she is a trained assassin with almost not emotions and her character development with him and because of him is amazing.

She should use the stick & carrot approach though I understand that would be very hard for an assassin. I am not yet sold on 'her' love for him.

@bold: I don't see it like that.

Remember that only we the viewers know that the Mage leaders love him. He is really struggling with rejection (was previously rejected by 12 masters & his father) and lack of identity (gossip that his father is not his).

In addition, he was also plagued with severe health conditions before his energy gate was opened.

I think his carefreeness was a persona he created to hide the burden he is carrying till he met Naksu.

The people (aka The Master of Songhrim) that doesn't want him to train are actually protecting him. There is a bounty on his head and he can only get out of harm's way by doing nothing.

Although we know that he must sha commit at the end.

Who is watching Extraordinary Attorney Woo?

What do you think of the case in episode 10?

sarang60:
Alchemy of SOULS still =bae

The FL is too harsh on the ML jare.

@Advice21:

There is nothing to salvage in this suitationship.

See it as a mistake on your life's journey & move on.

Pacesetter2021:
God didnt fail you, you failed God.

Please hear me out.

Its funny how that your story is very similar to mine...its almost shocking.

I had same question as you, i served God with my whole heart, I married a virgin, why did God allow me enter the wrong hands.

Thankfully, through the help of the Holy Spirit and the teachings of anointed ministers I have studied through the years I discovered the following;

I FAILED GOD;
-When I Idolized my virginity and even thought, I can even walk with my eyes closed, God loves me too much to allow me enter gutter, i am too "precious"

-When i was a "Christian virgin" but was into pornography and masturbation

-When i idolized my Pastor instead of truly developing true relationship with Jesus

-When I didnt know what true fellowship with God was and thought that just being a church worker was good enough.

-When i started unclean chats and sex calls with my "ishmael"
-When I gave up my virginity to my "ishmael" because I felt we were getting married anyway.

If you did any of the above I did, you owe God an apology and seek His face on how you can make it up to Him

HOW WAS GOD SUPPOSE TO STOP ME FROM ENTERING ONE CHANCE WHEN I WAS MY OWN GOD, doing what ever I wanted and shouting hallelujah in church

Sorry but the best you can do is to learn how to now truly live for God in spirit and in truth.
In a nutshell, you cannot keep all of Gods statutes and he will ALLOW u enter one chance.

Where did you miss it? Ask God for forgiveness and raise awareness top younger ones how not to miss God...it will add purpose to your pain.

Safe delivery and all the best.

Hmmmmm

So insightful.

Drfernandez:
It is not wise to quit marriage just because of ordinarily beating, cheating, drug peddling and yahooing that have not killed you. He is not murderer to start with, so I wonder what the fuse is all about. His actions will only make you a better Christian and strong woman.

Just listen to your wise parents because with prayer everything will be alright in due time. Don't allow any of these frustrated people here to deceive you with their wrong advice because they are only here to steal, kill and destroy.

@bold:

I believe this is sarcasm?

gloryhomemaker:
Nsala soup is one soups that you can't get enough of. It's easy to prepare and yet so rich and very tasty.

Have you eaten Nsala soup before?

In this video, I showed detailed procedures of how to make Nsala soup with fresh chicken and fresh cat fish with Utazi leaves the Anambra style. You can alternate with any protein of your choice but it comes out better with fresh produce.

Ingredients:

Fresh hard Chicken
Fresh Cat Fish
Yam (fot thickening)
Pepper
Crayfish
Okpei
Utazi leaves
Uziza seeds
Uda seed
Salt
Seasoning



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CltMHqGhrnc

Nice one

The ever elusive Work/Life balance

Right how, companies treat it as a buzz word because they never put systems in place to achieve it.

Systems like good pay to enable peeps live closer to the office, very reasonable workload, reasonable expectations/commitment to customers, automation of processes, reduction of bureaucracy and ability to actually rate employees by their contribution & not perception.

Instead of doing the above, they want to enroll us for stress and time management courses

I think service providers are worse hit; every promise to deliver faster and better service to your customers equals your employees working longer hours and doing tasks outside their scope.

I am still looking for the service provider who have balanced quality service and less stressed employees; I want to check something.

Nigeria has not matured to hourly pay yet.

Our major issues are underemployment, unemployment, slave wages and sub-human working conditions.

We need our defunct labour commission to rise up to their responsibilities.

If I were to choose, I prefer the current system of monthly salary. I like to have my money in bulk & plan with it.

Nice, thought provoking thread.

Evolutionlove:
I once wrote a lengthy piece about the bolded. There Is something seriously wrong somewhere and I'm sure the westerners knows about It..

Hahahahahaha

Is the piece on NL?

Tundex911:
After most of them leave the banking industry na loan app dem create up and down, and you expect me to pay?

Ole ni gbogbo wa

Part of the black minds we are talking about.

Does your post make sense to you?

justmondris:
The banks are more to be blamed than government. Most companies in Nigeria take advantage of the unemployment rate in the country and pay peanuts as salary even when they are making profits in billions. As a software engineer, I love this news.

If the government had systems in place to checkmate them, they wouldn't try it.

LikeAking:
Yet they dont talk bad about their country like Nigerian do.

Even de man earning one million naira per month is complaining... Imagine that kind country.

We are just great compainers, negative minded.

I hope you stop deceiving yourself fast enough.

Because this is serious self-deception.

This current Govt are not willing to enable growth and works very hard to stifle those who have managed to grow.

sonssyo:
Let her go with Orange group,it is a manufacturing company,
Her growth will be fast
Her experience to move to the next level is fast
The company is good
They give other allowances
She should not miss it
From there she can move to another company with better pay, she should also enroll for ICAN too, very important
The money now may be small but sooner she can opt to move with experience and earn higher pay.
Manufacturing experience is bae
She shouldn't miss it.

In today's reality, the manufacturing sector is struggling under cost of alternate power (diesel), cost of raw materials, cost of transportation, sourcing for FX for their raw materials.

So if they are not manufacturing what people can absolutely do without and/or manufacturing the affordable brands of essentials, then it is well.

I think she should review both packages. I am seriously biased towards the Bank job because it is much closer to the house and pays more.

The financial sector also seems more 'secure' than the manufacturing sector right now.

However, I remember that even banks have their retrenchment waves.

It is well.

These things are bringing the country's realities to the fore.

GboyegaD:
The idea of a secret DNA testing.

If I were the guy, I might do open testing sef.

Secret testing in this case is serious aponle.

And if she finds out, is to thank the guy for his sensitivity and thoughtfulness under her breath.

xynerise:
26k per month?

It is crazy.

It is probably all these agencies who collect their own cut in a salary that is not enough.

And they would complain about our leaders.

Solofresh2:
Hello Nairalanders,please I need you to clearify me on something
A bank cleaner job with 26k per month in Lagos or a guest house Job with 4k per week At Ibadan, free accommodation.
Please which one is better

For the Bank job, where would you sleep/ live? How will you feed? What is the proximity from your house to the bank?

While the probability of getting another job in Lagos is much higher, N26k/mth will not do anything for you in Lagos except you are not paying for feeding, shelter and transportation.

If these are your options because of education qualification, I will advise you stay at Ibadan, seek to develop yourself online so more options would open up to you.

It would be rough, however it is better rough for a short while (few years) than choosing options that would not allow you break out of that cycle of poverty.

It is well with you.

Modupetemmy1:
I suggest you sit her down and have heart to heart talk with her, then the conclusion of the talk will determine if you will go for dna test, but think it very well oooo
Cos if after it and the baby is yours wallai if your wife get to find out I am sure she won't forgive you for ever and ever

What is the wife not forgiving in this matter?

There is also nothing to talk about.

The OP should run a DNA test if the paternity of the child really matters to him.

Next time, if someone wants to come back in this manner, give it sometime so some of the reasons can manifest.

If you waited at least 6 months to observe, you won't be in this mess.