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descarado:
He guys
Which drama do you anticipate most among these.
The law cafe- Lee seung gi
Adamas- jisung
Big mouth- Lee Jong suk and yoona
Tell me your wish- ji chang wok.
Today's webtoon- choi Daniel.
I am anticipating adamas because I miss jisung. And then again its like heal me kill me cos he is acting as twin with two diff personalities.
That drama was one of the best I have ever watched.

Bukatyne, have you watched heal me kill me?

Aside W- the two world, (mostly because it was fast paced and don't make sense ) I am not invested in LJS dramas. Hope this one will be it for me. But he is a fine boy.

I missed choice Daniel too. Its been long.

There are some I can't remember now.

ahnie:
I now see the reason why funke akindele said...jjc grills wasn't submissive.


I don't see any crime in a woman more financially ahead of her husband,if she's bn treated well, expect her to be submissive,
But on a serious note watin be some **low self esteemed*men problem sef?

xynerise:
1. A man supposed to be the head and seek advice from the wife in making decisions.

2. I am not of the school of thought that the man makes all the decisions,

3. sometimes he can be a jerk at decision making but when he is not a jerk and he lost that financial empowerment, the wife shouldn't take advantage of it.

4. She should still see him as that one time sweetheart, don't you think ?

NoToPile:
All these threads sef

Provide fully - lailai
Wife is working now makes more money - trouble.

I don't even understand what the problem is exactly.

Tallesty1:
If and only when the only thing the man brings to the table is money.

Beverlyjean:
We women are our worst enemies... we keep on proving men right .... with what I have seen , I will never allow my son marry a woman thats more financially successful than him

xynerise:
Some of them get carried away when they foot the bigger bills and always think their opinion is best.

Ugomajority:
Very true. Most times. Currently see wht happened to the actress husband (Funke). In the time past, in abroad, women get there (esp nurse) earn higher than d man and start mistreating their husband

And you know there, the court will always favour them.

My dear, it is rare to see a woman who will respect u. They exist bt few

RillJ:
As true as that can be, I would certainly my wife to have as much more as legally possible.

Most women do not have regards for their husband one way of the other, and that's irrespective of the financial position.
If the man has more money but not strong (not bully plz) some wives would disregard such a man a million times over
If a man has more money but is impaired or weakened by ailment or age, some wives would go full throttle on disregard drive
If a man has more, is heathy, strong willed and all that, some wives would roughshod in disregarding the hapless husband.

Las las, the wan wey no go regard no go ever regard. She may lie low for a while but sooner than later the true color go show!

Emperor88:
I don't have a problem with the husband that refuse his wife from working, my problem is with the stup1d wife that agrees to marry someone who will prevent her from working.

ahnie:
Abegi
Men una get issues no be small.

xynerise:
They are not programmed to be the head of the family. So if they eventually becomes the decision maker or bread winner, it only takes the grace of God for them not to explode

averageguy:
Two sides to the problem because the Nigerian culture considers men as financial providers

Female side: Some women expect a men to take care of all financial obligations, and get quite a bit selfish. So, they judge the man just by that yardstick.

Male side: Some men don't have much to contribute to a lady's life other than money. Some men also can't deal with a lady who makes more and either won't ask her out or would try to frustrate her life.

Just choose the person with beliefs similar to yours

guobe:
I have a very close relation that refused his wife from working because he felt if she starts working and earning well she may nolonger regard him. Is it true that when women start having money they nolonger regard their husband.

descarado:
Like Nigerian politicians like an average Nigerian.
Get quick rich syndrome.


Poverty has a way of making people value hard labour and contentment. Even our plate of food is triple the normal plate of food cos in our head, we are eating all cos we may not see that food again.

We are greedy unto ourselves. We compete against ourselves.

Tribal warriors, over to you.

oneolajire:
Sorry for you.

I say so because you value the song and entertainment of people over their lives and happiness.


It is their lives, let them live it the way they want. Are they living and performing to please you?

When I see business owners like you, you'll finish the lives of your workers, you let them work 7am to 9pm, no leave, no holidays, meager salaries all to satisfy you.

Acidosis:
Sinach released one of her best songs ever after her wedding. She also had her largest stage performance (at Joel Osteen's church) while still married.

With or without marriage, Simi's name won't be everywhere forever. People's tastes and expectations in music change overtime. It appears she's losing it but she's not. You all have only just decided to move on to new trends and artistes like Tems and Ayra Starr. When was the last time you listened to a Yemi Alade's song? Shey na single-hood affect that one too?

Competition is the issue not Adekunle Gold. The same competitive forces working against a married Simi is also affecting the single ones like Teni, Yemi Alade, Niniola, and Tiwa.

Meanwhile, Mercy Chinwo is like the only gospel artiste in Nigeria that is still single. 99.9% are married and thriving. Most of the artistes under her label (EeZee concepts) are all married, from Minister GUC to Judikay, Chris Morgan, etc..

Novemberaura:
Is there anyone here married to a feminist lady.

I need inputs.

What are the challenges and benefits. Is it really as awful as people say it is

Why do feminist ladies end up not married or have failed marriages.

bigtt76:
From what I read and heard on the news, when the doctor rejected him due to the age declaration, the family now started maltreating the boy who also saw that he was going to be set back home high and dry, decided to escape from their home to the police. The senator and wife were arrested on their way to Turkey.

modsfucker:
He fit hire Abba Kyari na, fittn't he?

1stGenAmerican:
I’m shocked that so many Nigerians are coming to the defense of a politically that helped himself to all the public’s money. He can embezzle yet these guys think that he’s above what he’s currently being held in jail for. Amazing.

seunny4lif:
USA weapons manufacturing companies loved it like that.
An average person in USA have more military weapons that a Nigeria military man

Princewill1:
Why I don't like commenting on US gun ownership is that I really believe that every given people or society reserve the right to live in whichever way they chooses to live.

That's why i fancy China's foreign policy of non-interference on domestic issues of countries.

I don't care if every American adult and children owns an assault rifle, if women can't drive in Saudi Arabia or if it is the lady that pays marriage dowry in India.

So far as that's how the majority chooses to live their lives there I'm good with it.

obynzo:
No you guys campaigned for Bubu in 2015. A certain Oba threatened those who didn't support with Lagoon drowning treatment.

Buyalltools:
Be wise man. Our leaders are the problem not our tribes.

If you continue in this line, you will be presenting OBI as an Igbo agenda (even though that's the mindset) instead of a better Nigeria agenda.

Do not spoil OBI chance with reckless statements.

Only SE, SS votes can not win this battle. We need to convince all tribes to vote OBI not insulting other tribes.
Be wise.

SensualMan1:
We will we will, 8 years Don waka!

Yorubas are still waiting for $1 to N1

gloryhomemaker:
18th June 2011, it's been 11 years of togetherness and love.
Thank God we prevailed over the challenges and won on every side.
This Afang soup was made with so much love as always.
Thank you Daddy for all you are and all you do for us.
I love you dearly.

Please celebrate with us everyone.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PXTzUAjVAVk

Ingredients:

Goat meat
Okazi leaves
Water leaves
Stock fish
Dry Cat fish
Kpomo
Periwinkles
Smoked Shrimps
Palm oil
Crayfish
Yellow & red pepper
Seasoning cubes
Salt

DonBenny77:
finally someone thinks like me

Psalme91:
We are blessed with seven children girls and boys and I have been on family planning after having my twin boys last year in October. But I am surprised that the contraception has failed and I am now 4 weeks pregnant with baby number 8. I don't really want to have this baby because my hands are full with kids and chores I have been doing it all alone since I don't have any house help ( any girl I bring to my house my husband will sleep with them) I have decided not to bring anyone else to stay with us. He is still cheating and doesn't really have my time or our children times . When I has our boys after 5 girls I tought everything will change and he will stop cheating but it has been worser than that. I don't want to bring another child to this world to suffer like the others and I want to terminate the pregnancy as soon as possible without him knowing but I don't know if it will be a very good thing to do.
Please advice me if I should go ahead or not ?

Demobbb:
We have both made sacrifices. He is a good husband. I have apologised again & i pray to God to never do this again. God forbid i destroy my narriage with my own hands.

Demobbb:
Help me please. Me & my husband got into an argument. He said something that made me think he is putting a female friend’s feeling over mine

I guess i got so jeolosy & so angry withought thinking my immediate response was to raise my hand as it to throw something i was holding at him. I quickly realised what i was about to do & i stopped myself. I didnt hit him.

He was shocked too & he just said what kind of a wife is this. He also stated that action shows that i dont value him. I apologised yesterday but i woke up today feeling regret, and shame. Should i apologise again? But then the initial argurment i still feel like he was in the wrong?

***** Decided to add more Context***
A friend asked if my husband can provide a reference for a project shes doing.

my husband is normally busy & i gave her an excuse & said im not sure he will be able to do so.
I then mentioned this to my husband a few days later in passing and told him that she was asking for a reference but i had given an excuse.

The next day whilst at work he then texted me saying its ok she can bring the reference forms and he will sign them. Which i even replied are you sure please dont stress yourself. He then said her own family had provided us with references when needed so its ok he didnt mind but she should bring all necessary docs.

She then went to my hubbys office with her brother to get the forms signed. My husband signed them. She sent a message thanking me.

When my hubby came home he was unhappy because she didnt bring all required documents & there was a part he was unhappy with.

I then said why didnt you tell her if you where unhappy. Why did you sign. He then kept saying you brought this person to me its your fault.

I took my phone and texted her to edit the part that my husband was unhappy with. She responded saying fine she will edit.

But my husband was still not happy & was shouting at me that it was my fault. I then told him its ok let me just tell her not to use him as a reference anymore.

My husband then kept saying no dont send the message “YOU WANT ME TO LOOK BAD” & stopped me from sending the text. This is when withought thinking i raised my hand as if to throw the phone at him. Which i instantly regretted and still do. I apologised twice but now he wont talk to me & refused to eat .

My marriage means so much to me. We have come a long way from not having a cent , gave up my career to support his own career, raise our kids. Now he is a successful man . But i feel its now in vain

bepositive11:
You felt used... but did it anyway so that she won't get hurt... that's interesting. I didn't think about that

It's true that there are men who respect women who respect themselves but the default tends to be disrespect until the woman has proven herself. Some men feel threatened by women who are worthy of respect and shame her instead

I think the difference is in a social gathering, men do work but don't directly serve women, whereas women are expected to do work that directly serves men as a servant or maid would