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It sounds like a life time experience and the kids would be so emotionally intelligent.

They would also be very hands on & be very resourceful.

Lostchild:
In 1994 I saw my mother dancing.

She was jubilating
She was celebrating
She was extremely very happy
She was so full of joy to the point where I have no choice but to asked her, mama, why are you this happy?

She happily told me her brother who traveled abroad in the 70/80s is back home. Her brother who traveled to London for many years has come back home, and he came with his western wife and children.

My mother kept dancing as she was preparing to travel to the village to go and spend time with her lost and found brother.

Three days later, I saw my mother rolling on the floor crying. She was crying, calling the name of her brother. I asked, why is mama crying ?

The uncle who just came back from London to Nigeria, has died. Just within three days of living back home, he slept and never wake up. The western wife was in shocked as she carried her children and fled back to London

At that time I was a young boy, but my instinct still tells me that village people has used this man as suya.

I have seen this many times, again and again, where people travels abroad and come back home and died, has been happening since the 90s and I first saw this happened to my mother.

This can still tell how fast the devils call kill a person in this land of suffering

FINAL WORDS

It is better to be a coward in the western world than being dead for a lifetime...

Nigeria is an evil place.

I don't know about your final words however, it is such a sad story and wonder the disappointment and sadness your mother and her family felt.

oneolajire:
Nonsense post.

Firstly, we children of God follow God's rules as singles and married. God told us to abstain from fornication and adultery some we do.

He told us to abstain from worldly lust, so we do.

You guys want to eat your cakes and have it. You want to fornicate and commit adultery, make ladies commit abortions and blame them for not wife materials and unable to give birth to babies.

You have used I G M, (I Go Marry) to deceive many ladies, now they are desperate and careless.

Give your life to Jesus, follow his rules so that your life and marriage will make a meaning.

Mine is meaningful.

My brother, sit back and watch them confuse themselves.

What might be bondage to the OP might be demanding accountability for his actions and refusal to accept his excesses

SimplyShit:
Robust reply

Extremely robust.

This is a classic case of talking all day and saying nothing

Counter attempted robbery with rape.

Hmmmmm.

descarado:
You can't change an adult's encoded behaviour eg smoking, nagging and this.

Once you notice it, japa.
That's the beginning of resentment and anger. It builds up and other things will follow. Then you will forget its simply cleaning after oneself that's the culprit.

True

That's why doing a SWOT analysis helps.

overdrive:
Very simple something. Just follow her to the state. End of discussion.

God bless you my brother

BRATISLAVA:
Tears of joy, perhaps?

She doesn't look happy nor does her body language portray such.

Maybe it is just them been conservative sha.

Everyone is entitled to their choice and should be ready to face the consequences.

If you want to marry inter-tribally, carry go.

If you think it is full of stress and prefer your village person, no lele.

Some advantages/disadvantages of a practice or custom would vary depending on circumstances, position in life and location.

The stress that Yewande and Nnamdi might face at Enugu wouldn't be same as they might face in Lagos or the UK.

The in-law problems Mama Ejima who is a pepper seller would have is different from the one Omotola Ekeinde or Tara Durotoye would face.

Toeyean1507:
I was only being a good friend o. I learnt the lesson of my life Sha.

One thing about those two is that they are weird. When they fight, they beat themselves like contestants in WWE. The next minute, they are gisting like they've never had an argument their entire life.

@bold:

Coming from someone who attended boarding house with about six pairs of twins and university with some more, they are not strange.

And there is always one instigating or pushing the other into trickery i.e. one is naughtier than the other.

mardis:
I can do all this except no. 3, i won't even know when i am cleaning it. As in i can't just over look, it will just be chuking my eyes

That's why you are a good fit

E pele

@Toeyean1507

You actually attempted to separate fighting twins?

You get mind

@OP:

I have never separated a fight; in fact I have fought only once in my life.

I run away from physical combat like kilode

Mayyvin:
This is a thread for people who are currently going through a rough patch and just wants to unburden, share their struggles and possibly get the encouragement to go on.

There's a refreshing feeling when you know you're not alone and there are people who can identify with your struggles. This is exactly what this thread is created for.

There's no benchmark for pain. Hence, making fun of people's problems or undermining their struggles is not allowed.

You're welcome to share whatever it is you're going through.

@Bold:

Are you creating a kumbaya thread because if people start to unburden, someone might read and proffer solutions which while not palatable would solve their problems?

I think you should state a caveat if it is just an encouragement thread.

KiNg0G:
THE answer was clear, was vividly shown.


I saw this pic within a second I saw what was wrong in it.


Am woke,

The question is are you woke.



This thread was created in crime section to give some of us an ideal.

And yet some keeps talking about his shoes.

His socks.

How tall he was, that he didn't have to jump.

So they mean I didn't see all that.... when I asked what was wrong about the pic



this is the simplest question ever to A black man who is Woke

Lecturer KiNg0G, e ma binu

I am not woke

Is it coincidental that Nollywood actors are dying daily?

If it were an occupational hazard, won't their women and foreign actors be dropping dead?

These peeps should check what is going on: is it lifestyle or something else?

May God console his family and all he left behind.

KiNg0G:
I give no damn about this black man.


He was a lost soul.

he's was a disgrace....am ashamed of him.
he's just a tool, that doesn't know he was slave to a white man will.

They used him for his height same way Jose mourinho mentioned he prefers black strikers on his team.


what I was waiting to hear is WHY THEY ISN'T JUST ONE BLACK FAN AMONG THIS CROWD, watching him play on the basketball court that day.






VERDICT : NO ONE GOT IT.




NO ONE WAS READY TO CHOP MY 50K




JUST ONLY ONE PERSON HAD A SIMILAR VIEW, BUT DIDN'T SAY WHAT I WAS EXPECTING TO HEAR.

I actually scrolled to this post to see the answer.

Na wa for you, don't become a lecturer or teacher o

Healthquest:
As the post says; kindly furnish me with the best brand or type of washing machine from experience not hear say. I don't want to belive some reviews am seeing because they can be paid ones.
Nairalanders, pls do ur thing.
Those who has been using washing machine with less or no faults. Kindly suggest for me.

@bold:

Your hands.

Modrov:
I have given you my idea of what happened...plus I believe in a secular society, and am not too favourable on Sharia law., or any religion mixing with government...including my own.....so stop accusing me of defending Hisbah or whatever.

For once, the law intervened on the side of women's personal choice.

Again, I am not defending any relgion, or hisbah...I am just pointing out the problems with your ideas of the case.

You are free, however, to believe what you want to believe.


P.S

If you had a legal case against your family, and you won, and you know your winning means that you are now estranged from your family permanently, you would cry too.

Also, if you had been fighting for your right to marry your choice, and had to go though a long court case, in a court influenced by a very patriachial religion, and the court , for once rules in your favour...contrary to its patriachial teaching....you would weep tears of joy too.

Again, I prefer a totaly secular court and legal and government system myself.

@bold:

The story we are told says same however the pictures doesn't.

The lady in green hijab doesn't look like she is crying joyfully; she looks so sad.

She doesn't have the joy of a bride who finally married her sweetheart after 'winning' her father.

Modrov:
The women had 1) CHOSEN their husbands, not had them chosen for them 2) THEIR father was for reasons best known to him saying no, and not even providing alternatives. 3) The women were over 30 years of age. 4) The women wanted to marry the men in question, and the men too wanted to marry them

The Court has ruled in favour of the women, and has ordered the Hisbah to see to it that they are married to the men of their choice.

Stereotypes aren't good.

The girls especially the one in green hijab doesnot look happy or 'rescued'.

I think you should look past the narrative you want to peddle in favour of Hisbah and search deeper (if you can).

UstazAhmed:
Islam is the best religion. Know this and know peace.
Isn't it better that they are married off than prostitution at this age

So in your world, anyone who is not married is automatically a prostitute?

Is that how the women in your area are?

angelfallz:
Fear fear.

I looked the picture only once sef.

Like they say: woman know thine self

Hmmmmmmm

What was the father's reason for objecting?

Did the court override the father's decision because the daughters were support of it? (who by the way don't look too euthanistic about the marriage// perhaps it is their conservativeness at play)

The woman leader sounded like she was 'saving' the girls from their father however they don't look happy. The one in green looked like she has cried her eyes out.

We need more background to understand what happened.

Is the duvet in 3D?

The snakes are so vivid.

Anyways to OP, NO!

My skin would crawl once my body hits the bed on an alternate universe then the nightmares would begin.

I know myself too much to play that kin play

Devonelle:
Is it a crime for a lady to be out in public alone?!

Can’t a lady sit and enjoy her meal in a restaurant without a random weirdo trying to start a boring conversation??!!

Is it a sin for me to go out to the movies with hearing corny pickup lines, like dude, let me enjoy my evening!

Upon all the stress I get at work during the week, you men still won’t let me have a peaceful weekend.

STOP IT!

Expecting men to stop approaching women especially in the places you mentioned is a tall dream

A more realistic approach is to assertively (not rude or aggressively) tell any guy who approaches you that you are not interested.

And men should also learn to be gentlemanly and step back when a lady tells you she is not interested in what you are selling.

InfernoNig:
Men are Liverpool. "You will never work alone"

This cracked me up

Authority1o1:
Okay...


Consequence of multiple factors.

First, Quota System allows pass-mark Northerners greater advantage which the Igbos can't smell or dream of. Look at this: An Hausa boy with a JAMB score of 160 gets into a Federal University that a Southerner, especially of Igbo extraction, with 240 can't get into. Same course, same Nigerians. They tag it ELDS as if it's a golden privilege to be less-privileged.

Southerners and the affiliated now have to change their names to bear at least one Hausa appellation so as to be considered for government jobs without the stress they naturally have to go through as Southerners.

Secondly, Igbos are more business-inclined that they barely look the direction of education these days.

@bold:

One of the major reason I detest the quota system.

Ten years down the line, the Hausa man has forgotten how he got there and starts to look down on the Igbo man that scored 240.

@Thanos:

A very good read.

There is a popular meme redpillers like to use (in another context though // who says I can't borrow )

Hard times breed strong men;
Strong men create good times;
Good times create weak men;
Weak men create hard times...

So really, it is a cycle.

And yes, humans are very dumb with herd mentality.

@Natural selection: Whenever I see the 1% of the 1% in any society, I often notice that they 'encourage' freedom of choice especially in vices while they strictly rein their kids and family in. They teach people to be 'modern and woke' while they are traditional etc.

And I have figured that they want to maintain that privileged post and don't want others to come up there.

So let the dumb people keep up with trends and enjoying their freedom

chatinent:
Boarding school?

Is it safer there?

Everything has a risk

All I know is that in my set, the pregnant lady was a day student who went to sleep with her mechanic boyfriend everyday for a term.

N.B. I AM NOT SAYING BOARING HOUSE IS AN ELDORADO OR BREEDS SAINTS

chatinent:
Nice one.

So, you prefer she lives in campus or go from home?



A phone is a phone

I understand you are going the avoidance of social media way...well, calls and messages can still do what Facebook and the rest will do.

Girl kids don't go to boarding house in you people's world?

It is online here I am seeing people so paranoid about the girl child.

@OP: When you decide your children are old enough to have a phone; every parents' standard is different.

When I remember the story of a girl locked at home who still got pregnant because her boyfriend disguised as a girl, I laugh at the peeps on this thread.

Train up a child in the way he/she should go, and when they are old, they would not depart from it.

cococandy:
I’ve noticed it’s common these days to misuse what woke means. Anyway…

If you know you would be sympathetic to Christians speaking out about what they might experience at the hands of the Taliban, then you know I’m right about this. I don’t expect you to agree that you’re being harsh because it’s a different sexual group who don’t share your beliefs.

Just don’t mask that apathy with “I don’t tolerate entitlement and victim mentality”. The fact that you even consider it entitlement is mind boggling.

I just saw you modified your older post.

I find it strange you compare Christians with homosexuals.

That aside, I do not expect Christians with common sense to make videos like these. Instead, it would be their affiliate Churches outside Afghanistan that would be praying for them and looking for ways to evacuate them or the Christians in Afghan sneaking messages to the outside world while some others would just take it as God's will and move on.

Christians do not do 'rights' and ALWAYS find a way to live in peace with their society. So in this case, except they are fishing out Christians because they do not go to the mosque or expect them to deny their faith, they will be fine.

Every serious Christian knows that wearing hijab/burqa or shifting their worship days to Friday or any other adjustment they need to make does not hinder their relationship with God. Christians also know that except a government directive is a direct disobedience of God's word, they would obey. E.g. A government directive to close all churches in Afghanistan would see all churches closed and families worshipping God in their privacy.

They also know that if they cannot physically gather for a while, it does not change their status of Christianity.

Finally, Christians count it worthy and a great honor to die for their beliefs. After all, Jesus Christ died for us, why can't we die for Him?

I would advise you pick up a copy of the Bible and study to understand so you don't make certain comparison.

descarado:
The guy is very daft.