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SimplyFacts:
In music, 2face & true love songs be like bread & butter. But in reality, 2face & true love be like word & opposite.

Hahahahahahahahaha!

crossfm:
Sensational singer 2baba has released a song featuring Bongos Ikwue,titled "Searching".

He talked about searching for true love and peace of mind. Could this song be an insight about what is going on in his family?.
What amasterpieces.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DViU44z_nIE

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WZS6CzSzO7w.



https://www.instagram.com/p/CThGRSaMF2U/?utm_medium=copy_link

Tuface is still searching for true love after three women and seven children.

Aye le o!

pocohantas:
Whoever came up with the saying “anything a man can do, a woman can do better”, was in the future.

The future is what again? The future is heart attack for men o.

Nedu's wife literally said that?!

That's what my people call 'a tragic comedy'.

I trust myself that I would laugh with reckless abandon if I was in the meeting where she said that.

Las las, I will chop slap from Nedu.

But that laughter, I will not carry it over.

Iyaebe:
hmmm I hate these type of men

What kind of men?

Ndi Team Foreign Women

Both genders have mad members.

There is no saint: Redpillers & Modern Feminists take note.

Regex:
Come this one no follow. If the wife carried the pregnancy, why do testing again?

Babies are switched in hospitals.

Shokoloko:
Well said. She is now the outsider

Any pampering or remorse from the husband & family is till the baby comes.

After that, she is on her own.

Classic case of 'out of sight is out of mind'.

EstatePropertyP:
First, Christianity upon which America was built has been destroyed. Now, the monster America built is coming back for her @ss...

Man is never satisfied.
This is just the prelude.

@bold:
Never ever

@OP:

Everywhere with their madness.

More than ever, parents need to ensure they intentionally instill the values THEY want into their kids.

Gasapoto:
So far, we have two children in which one is my exact carbon copy while one did not in anyway resemble me but resemble the mother especially having the same complexion(fair) like my father inlaw who is also fair in complexion and posses some other features like him and my wife but did not in anyway takes after me.Once anybody see the one that is my carbon copy,you dont need to ask who is his father and i am happy for that.

Due to the growing rate of cases of father not being the biological father of his child(children) common these days after DNA test,most times i used to be worried whether i am the biological father of the one that did not in anyway resemble and i dont have the money for now to go and conduct DNA test.

I begin to ask whether its advisable to call my wife and sit her down and her ask to please tell me whether i am truly the biological father of the one that did not resemble me. But i dont know what will be her response or how she will feel if i ask such ?. Its not that i am suspecting her but most times i am scared considering news of whats happening these days in paternity test and results. Please kindly advise on the best way to handle this.

Is it wise to engage your wife out of thin air or suspicion?

Nope!

If you have doubts, do your research aka DNA test.

Also ensure you test that the wife is the mom (if the test is negative) so you have all your facts before engagement.

larryjonze:
Imagine watching king of scotland, nd the lead role dey bend to urinate
I just want you people to know looking for words or using big grammar to defend the title aint worth it ... we know its a FRICTION, just a delusion in one gurlz head, so no wahala.

On the otherhand, its seem hollywood don't know about these "Figurative thing" ...the series queen of south should av been king of south or maybe they don't just share low esteem as naija women, gurlz don't even believe in there own title, tonto is stil fighting to be called a father, hmm! more figuratives please movie get end reality does not

Please type properly when next you want to quote me

That way, I can assume you understand what figurative means.

I believe 'The Devil's Advocate' actually means the person advocating for Satan.

mofedamijo:
[n]WHEN A SUPPOSED TO BE ARTIST/ACTOR DOESN'T UNDERSTAND WHAT FIGURATIVE AND LITERAL MEANS, THEN HE KNOWS NOTHING ABOUT HIS/HER TRADE.[/b]

THAT GUY IS A SOPHISTICATED ILLITERATE. PEOPLE LIKE HIM WILL NEVER SEE THE CAMERA IN A WELL ESTABLISHED MOVIE INDUSTRY.

Apparently he knows nothing about the craft.

@bold:

It is a shame.

Someone would soon ask why the movie is 'King of Boys' and not 'King of Men' or 'Queen of Men'.

Sighs.

chukwugoziegi:
Well done chichi!

Thank you for putting the Foul Mouthed, Badly Raised imp in his place.

Badly raised imp

pocohantas:
But money is good o. Ever since this Zubby Michael hammer, come dey roll with Obi Cubana and Davido, he has an opinion on everything.

Truly you should never trust the humility of a broke man. Give am small money first, you go see as e go dey shout for age grade meeting. Next thing na to tell you say e no dey chop soup wey sleep for freezer. Tufiakwa!



I believe the title is figurative (not literal), but I don’t expect sexist people like you to see that. Everything is a d**k measuring contest to your kind. Any small thing you start having palpitations, like say person dey drag pr**k with una.

Funny enough, it is only a category of men you see in this unending show of masculinity. The real alphas are busy with their business.

Very very funny @Zubby Micheal. I never knew he was this uncouth, classless and ill mannered. aka lacks home training according to my people.

Zubby: A woman can never be KOB

Eniola: Clears the Table and makes Maka King while she becomes governor.

Obviously, the title is figurative.

I loved Odogwu Malay and felt his death. Everytime he can onscreen, it was a beauty of Igbo culture/ language even though I understood nada

Interestingly, he called her Eze while Ade Tiger called her Oba.

Na laziness never make me review the movie on NL

Anyone that has issues with the title should leave the movie.

Ettepapa:
No it doesnt reflect alert. If it does, then it was an inside job

How does fake alert work?

@Ochason,

Your male moniker is giving this thread very fake vibes beht we move.

First, count yourself very very lucky that your husband spilled the beans immediately. (Your mother's prayers are working).

Now your husband has laid his cards, the ball is in your court.

However, note that:

1. Your husband is now a polygamist and your Iyawo would be married in the abroad. Hence, the talk of divorcing her after some years na wash! (You also know that) especially as it is your husband planning to divorce and not the woman wanting it. If the woman wanted the divorce in the West, then it is a different ball game.

2. Your husband is based abroad with the new wife so you are now the other wife. When the second wife gives birth, they have formed their little family so you are now the intruder. Know that he & his family would always support the second wife and you would become the witch who wants some time with a husband who is babysitting his new baby. Accept you are fine with married but living single.

3. How do you intend to get pregnant? Baba will leave his family and come to Nigeria to try? He would sneak you into a hotel in US and sleep with you? When you finally carry belle, you will stay alone in Nigeria? You would squat with his sister in the US? You would beg your Iyawo to let you perch with them? Would your husband get you another house/accommodation there? Or would you sort out your accommodation yourself? After birth and you are back to Naija, will your husband shuttle Naija & US?

Remember that your in-laws and even family would advise you from the POV that benefits them the most.

Do a SWOT analysis: what is the benefit of this new model of marriage to you? Are you better off single?

Husband committed adultery so you are legally, morally and all ways within your right to divorce him.

If you want to stay, better make sure it very very worth it.

NoToPile:


You just had to use the 'men are polygamous in nature' statement as an example

It is was the easiest statement to prove that point.

VTJN:
YOU
Your definition of love is in Monetary terms. There's no point educating you futher

Good day!

@bold:

Sad, innit?

Antoeni:
Davido and Chioma, with the almighty 30billion in their account couldn't even survive this 8years..
Paul Okoye of PSquare dumps his marriage..
Tuface and Annie Idibia's marriage has just been hit by the storm..
Tonto Dikeh's fiancee disappears.. Not about 40seconds or 40hours in action..
Alex Ekubo and his fiancee, Fancy Acholonu did not even start theirs.. it has yakpa a few weeks to the wedding.. they Made all the ashoebi we sewed a fancy..
Jim Iyke became so jobless that a mere social media tantrum wey we de knack for here, e reach him turn, him carry fight go Uche Maduagwu house!
.
But how come Annie is just realizing that she is a co wife

@bold:

Really cracked me up!

Dimmatic:
Wedding dubai, marriage issues Nigeria, somebody can't rest again in this country?

Very annoying sumtim.

Abeg, let them go back to Dubai to sort out their issues.

Mikecold:
Apparently 2face can't make decisions for himself with the way this whole thing was revealed.

I don't think Anny is the problem since 2face isn't man enough, pero is obviously using the children leverage

If Tuface cannot decide for himself, then Annie should blame her wandering husband and not her fellow woman.

It is not Pero's responsibility to keep the sanity in Tuface's home.

Annie is also a problem: she knew her husband has three kids with a woman while in a situationship with her yet she married him. If I remember correctly, Tuface proposed to Annie the day Pero put to bed for her twins. Did Annie ever ask why Tuface proposed to her?

Why is she suddenly disturbing us now? She was fine rotating the man before; she should continue.

Mikecold:
if she won't marry no problem

But she must allow 2face family have their privacy and peace

If the kids are the excuse 2face can house them in his home

I ask again:

Is Tuface a child that he cannot make decisions for himself & family?

Is Pero holding him to her body?

Did she go to Tuface's house and demands he sleeps with her?

Please leave Pero out of their shenanigans. If not Pero, it would be Nneka.

Pero is not the problem: Tuface & Anita are.

Mikecold:
Annie idibia is in Lagos Atleast from the Instagram posts she revealed 2face brother won't stop coming to their home

2face brother confirmed he always comes but to see the kids

The issue is Peru should go and get married and have a life, she still wants 2face to fill her empty void forgetting he is married

2face has another baby mama Ms adeniyi who is now married and she never brings up issues for the idibia family no excuse of children to destroy another person's marriage

Pero spiritually summoned Tuface or Tuface lacks the agency to decide what is best for himself & family?

Pero has decided not to marry, everyone should break their keyboards.

As if marriage stops people from doing what they will.

His second baby mama was very married when she carried the first belle for Tuface.

Simps & Alfa Mails, please don't derail the thread.

Richy4:
This thread/ article reminded me of philosophy and logic GST 103 in my jambite days... It could quickly send some one to sleep while reading it if care is no taken

FuturelsFemale:
Honestly lol

Make una no vex.

The thread would have been longer

SleekGist:
Actress Annie Idibia has described herself as the devil in reaction to her husband, Tuface's brother, Charles' new call-out posts on Instagram.

Tuface's brother in the call-out posts, listed how Annie has allegedly disrespected her husband and his family.

Responding to this via an Instastory post, Annie said Charles is now tired of insulting her and her mother and now cooking up sympathy messages.

Annie who also claimed that Charles is still living in her house, alleged that her husband's brother is now "changing direction" and "trying to get sympathy with more lies". She also wondered why a man will be in love with her since she was 16 if she was evil and the devil.

See her post below............

https://sleekgist.com/yes-i-am-a-devil-annie-idibia-replies-husband-tufaces-brother-charles-idibias-call-out-posts/

@bold:

Annie Idibia still intepretes all of Tuface's actions over the last twenty years as love?

Toor!

Goldbw122:
Yeah women are very emotional

Olufemiolaolu:
Obviously women

Did you read the OP?

iamtardey:
And I wasn't talking to you lady . I was just saying ok?

You commented on my thread on the topic and you are not talking to me? Interesting.

DoggoneDogg:
Without women there would be no word like emotion.

Everything they do is based off emotions. Very gullible set of creatures. Reason why playboys and fraudsters like pastors get them easily.

Do you understand the meaning of emotions?

internationalman:
Women are logical before fûck happens, then they become emotional after fûck has happened..

Men are emotional before fûck happens, then they become logical after fûck has happened..

The person more emotionally invested in the relationship is more 'emotional' (in quotes because it doesn't matter the person's primary state of mind).

Shade is clinging to Gbade after sex to define the relationship; meanwhile, Gbade is chasing Tola for the past three years and Chuks thinks Shade is the best thing after sliced bread.

iamtardey:
I bet you're not half as emotional as I am...

I'm an emotional mess trust me

I never said I was emotional na

Move to the wise state of mind.

yanabasee2:
Lol...

You're just trying to pat yourself on the back for a job well done.... Me that will not read half of the first paragraph..... Yes, I can be that lazy!!!

I was just stating a fact:

Most of my threads are long.

Gosh! I like long threads sha

MODIFIED:

Caveat: Please read the OP before you comment.

Good day peeps

This thread was inspired by recent exchanges with NL members on the topic.

All through ages, we have heard that women are more emotional than men which implies men are more logical than women. Interestingly, this alleged ability for women to be ‘more emotional’ is perceived from a negative point of view i.e. whenever women are said to be ‘more emotional’, it is seen as a disadvantage.

EMOTIONS:
What are emotions? Emotions are biologically-based psychological states brought on by neurophysiological changes, variously associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioural responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure. We can also say that emotions can be defined as "a positive or negative experience that is associated with a particular pattern of physiological activity.

Examples of emotions/ psychological states are Acceptance, Affection, Amusement, Anger, Angst, Anguish, Annoyance, Anticipation, Anxiety, Apathy, Arousal, Awe, Boredom, Confidence, Contempt, Contentment, Courage, Curiosity, Depression, Desire, Disappointment, Disgust, Distrust, Doubt, Ecstasy, Embarrassment, Empathy, Enthusiasm, Envy, Euphoria, Faith, Fear, Frustration, Gratification, Gratitude, Greed, Grief, Guilt, Happiness, Hatred, Hope, Horror, Hostility, Humiliation, Interest, Jealousy, Joy, Kindness, Loneliness, Love, Lust, Nostalgia, Outrage, Panic, Passion, Pity, Pleasure, Pride, Rage, Regret, Rejection, Remorse, Resentment, Sadness, Self-pity, Shame, Shock, Shyness, Social connection, Sorrow, Suffering, Surprise, Trust, Wonder, Worry etc.

Looking at the examples (the whole seventy-five of them) above, we would agree that these psychological states are not peculiar to women or experienced by women more (which is what would qualify them to be more emotional). A beautiful example of men displaying emotions is during sports aka football. Watch a match (qualifiers or finals are goldmines) and watch men display raw and strong emotions: rage, euphoria, sadness, passion, hope, joy, pride etc.

LOGIC:
Logic is reasoning conducted or assessed according to strict principles of validity. It can also be defined as a method of making decisions that uses sound and rational decision making to find the best conclusion.

There are majorly three types of reasoning in logic:

1. Deductive Reasoning (Conclusion guaranteed):
A deductive argument is one whose premises are intended to guarantee the truth of its conclusion. In other words, a deductive argument seeks to reach its conclusion by logical necessity. For instance, the following argument is deductive. Examples of application is the field of Mathematics.
• Victoria is tall. (1)
• Victoria has brown hair. (2)
• Therefore, Victoria is tall and has brown hair (this is the only natural conclusion)

A conclusion can be sound (true) or unsound (false) depending on the truth of the original premise (in the example above, the referenced Victoria can be short therefore the conclusion is unsound). However, a conclusion is valid or invalid depending on the deductive inference therefore an unsound conclusion can be valid. In the example above, the conclusion is valid even if Victoria is short (wrong premise). A real-life application of a valid conclusion that is unsound is the below:
• Men are polygamous in nature (A)
• Naturally polygamous people cannot be martially faithful (B)
• Therefore, men are polygamous and cannot be martially faithful.

Deductive reasoning is limited such that it cannot predict the future and all premises must be correct else it would lead to an unsound conclusion even if valid. It is however the most accepted type of reasoning in Logic.

2. Inductive Reasoning (Conclusion most likely):
Inductive reasoning begins with observations that are specific and limited in scope, and proceeds to a generalized conclusion that is likely, but not certain, in light of accumulated evidence. The conclusion of inductive reasoning is said to be cogent (the evidence seems complete, relevant, and generally convincing, and the conclusion is therefore probably true) or not cogent instead of Valid(true) or invalid(false) because it is not possible to be 100% certain of the conclusion. Application includes scientific experiments: gathering evidence, seeking patterns, and forming a hypothesis or theory to explain what is seen.

Inductive Reasoning while not 100% accurate can increase human knowledge and be used to forecast the future. Example:
• Victoria is tall. (1)
• Tall people are generally good at basketball. (2)
• Therefore, Victoria is good at basketball. (Conclusion: not necessarily true)


3. Abductive reasoning (taking your best shot):
Abductive reasoning typically begins with an incomplete set of observations and proceeds to the likeliest possible explanation for the set. Abductive reasoning yields the kind of daily decision-making that does its best with the information at hand, which often is incomplete. Application includes medical diagnosis and ruling a Legal case.
The abductive reasoning can be creative, intuitive, and even revolutionary. Example below:
• Victoria is tall (1)
• Victoria has brown hair (2)
• Therefore, Victoria must have a tall or brown-haired ancestor (conclusion: at best an assumption since we have no information about any of her ancestors.)

Emotions and Logic are the two thought processes that drive decision making. Research has shown that most decisions made are from an emotional point of view which brought about the wave of EI: Emotional Intelligence and EQ: Emotional Quotient. The brain then rationalizes our decisions i.e. help to provide a reason (Left-Brain Interpreter). The emotional thought process is currently further researched and applied in Sales, Marketing and Medicine.

To add more context, I will highlight another stereotypical statement about men & women:

“Women are moved by words while Men are moved by sight”

This statement is dating advise 101 and used to explain almost every situation. However, let’s do a deep dive:
a. Women are moved by words: True, does not mean they are not ‘moved’ by sight either. A handsome power dresser would be appreciated by a lot of women and there is a reason artists (who sell their looks in addition to their art) have loads of female fans who think they are ‘hot’, ‘sexy’, ‘zaddy’ bla bla in addition to their performance. Also looking at things made for women shows the manufacturer trying to entice women by the appearance of the item. Our bags shoes, articles of dressing, household items, gadgets, fashion accessories, books etc. are more visually appealing. Verdict: Women are also moved by sight.

b. Men are moved by sight: True, does not mean they are not ‘moved’ by words either. Infact, the major tool of ego message is words which is also the major tool of emasculation. One of the general love languages of men is words of affirmation. Only a few things get a man charged and roaring to go than words of affirmation genuinely met.


STATES OF MIND:
• Reasonable Mind (Think): is the logical state of mind that people use when doing the math, reading a map, and various other concrete tasks. It is described as the “cool” state of mind that we use to deal with empirical facts. Using a reasonable mind to solve an emotional problem is a disaster e.g. Trying to address a person’s fear of flying by explaining aerodynamics and the latest safety standards of the Airspace Agency.

• Emotional Mind (Feel): is the state of mind in which we feel the depth of our emotions and act from an emotional state. In an extreme, this state of mind would be used if we reacted impulsively out of anger without regard to consequences. This part responds to feelings, even if those feelings don’t match up with what we are observing. This is considered the “hot” state of mind. Using an emotional mind to solve a logical problem is a disaster e.g. unable to decide how to distribute limited medical resources during a pandemic.

• Wise Mind (Know): is the state of mind in the middle of both logical and emotional mind. In wise mind, we are aware of our feelings, and we decide how to act in a way to honor our feelings and goals. In wise mind, if we were angered, we would acknowledge our feelings and act in a way that would not create negative consequences for ourselves. This is the highest state and the balance we should strive for to become ‘Emotionally Intelligent’

Everyone have their default state of mind therefore someone can be logical, emotional, or wise. An extreme of reasonable mind or emotional mind makes an individual appear cold or dramatic. Thus, we need a balance to successfully interact in our society. Consider the example below (a fave of mine ):
A and B are friends and did not reach out to each other for a year. B decides to call A and the following scene plays out:

B: Ah! A longest time, you just forgot about me abi?
> Logical A: B, nothing stopped you from reaching out to me either
> Emotion A: B, Did you call me? You are very XXXX for accusing me. It is my fault for picking up.
> Wise A: Nor vex B, life has been busy


In summary, how men and women make decisions (which is what determines who is emotional/logical) is largely based on their dominant state of mind (which is how they would process information). This doesn’t mean that men and women are same, think alike or react alike to same situations (outside the scope of this thread); the difference is not emotion vs logic.


References:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Emotion
https://www.bizjournals.com/columbus/stories/2004/11/01/smallb2.html
https://www.philosophybasics.com/branch_logic.html
http://www.butte.edu/departments/cas/tipsheets/thinking/reasoning.html
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Logic
https://www.solutionfocusedparenting.com/a-lesson-in-mindfulness-the-3-states-of-mind/

suffering:
Lol. She is likely seeking his attention. Maybe she’s fixed her endometriosis problem and is ready to take in for him. Knowing Wizkid, he won’t let this insult pass without putting in a word or two. Clapping leads to dances and sparks lead to fires. A single response and she’ll rope him in for the kill.

My OAP friends claim she worked for only one year with BeatFM and has never worked as an OAP after that. I don’t know if it’s bad belle or facts, but they don’t understand how she’s more of a celebrity than them who’ve worked at least half a decade in the industry.

@bold:

Hahahahahaha

Or a mix of the two

@OP:

The Amala part is not her story to tell.