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Common sense is not common.

You cheated on a man and gave birth to a bastard.

Shouldn't you hang your head in shame and move on especially as he has done so & did not make noise?

Three celebrity marriages crashed in less than a month?

Na wa o!

Mercychen:
Breakthrough in what? Is money not always the goal end of most people for traveling abroad?

I don't know o, sister Mercy.

descarado:
I know u will support this

It is true na.

I just read one crazy story about a woman her husband's mistress wants to kill.

RightToReject:
He's right. I've always marveled at the erroneous interpretation and application of leadership by most men. Leadership is a call to serve, not a call to be served or to be an oppressor - a true leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way. Of course, serving doesn't equate to servility; being a helper doesn't confer the right to oppress, and wearing the woman tag doesn't automatically qualify every woman the privilege to enjoy the service of a man.

In summary, most people from both genders have fundamental problems.

All parts in bold:

Absolutely on point!

Especially at 'a true leader is one who knows the way, goes the way and shows (others) the way'.

Just perfect.

socialmediaman:
Following his line of argument, as head of the house, you can as well delegate the task of cooking to the woman so she can help out with that

This is actually funny.

There is no system without a workaround abi?

Is Sharia expressly against polyandry?

zed7:
There is a big problem on the hands of parents. It's not just about raising good daughters, we that have boys need to teach our boys to grow up as alpha male and not be moved by lose, morally bankrupt girls looking for whom to destroy.

The boys of this generation have a lot on their hands. The ability to look for a gem in the pile of rubbish is no small task. If a boy is not well mentored, he will be easy prey for these useless girls we have now.

As for me, I find women more attractive with clothes on. Most women don't have great bodies when nude anyway.

@bold:

Well said.

I will not say 'alpha male' because it is vague. I would say 'gentlemanly, well behaved assertive men'.

TheGidRedpiller:
It all started when i was only nine years old.

Still Typing...

It is good you have done soul searching and have traced the source of your view towards women.

While you carry the bitterness around and develop uncomfortable habits (you confessed to not feeling good after masturbation) to handle the issue, the perpetrators are flexing and living their lives.

1. First you need to forgive them to drop the burden you are carrying.

2. Next go for therapy; you might look for a male therapist if you would be more comfortable

3. Make lifestyle adjustments where necessary.

4. Get rid of the AWALT mentality; it builds cynicism. What is the hope when you think all women are same? You would always interact with the wrong ones and when they mess up as always, your prophecy becomes self-fulfilling.

When you even pick a good girl by mistake, your cynicism and disrespect would push her away from you and you are back to square one.

I wish you healing on this journey.

Good luck.

jmoore:
Why not ask yourself why Americans are not flooding Nigeria in order to escape the 'expensive' in USA?

Why should Americans flood Nigeria?

They have better infrastructure, healthcare, power, education amongst others.

They also earn in dollars and spend in dollars

And it is their motherland.

Mercychen:
Na now you know?

No matter what, naija is still a place you can survive well without working your ass out, if you have a steady income. The only reason it looks like abroad is better is because of availability of jobs compared to naija that getting a job has become impossible except God is on your case.

At least in naija, you can still get a decent meal for one dollar. Over there, i doubt.
Here you can get a regular cheap cosmetic product for 3 dollars at the most equivalent to 1,590 in naira but there the cheapest would be around 20 or 30 dollars which is like 15k naira value. It's crazy. I've not even talked about the cost of making your hair or mending your clothes and shoes. Which cost an arm.
That's why I don't fancy all this traveling outside Nigeria.

If you can get a steady and tangible source of income, what do you want abroad? With all that their tasteless and stale food.
May God revive our country.

No place I Ike home abeg.

Nigeria would work for some; some others need to go abroad to break through (not just money).

Well, a classic summary of 'Nigerian' marriages.

The wife is fine with the husband cheating, she is/was not fine with him concentrating more on the side chic(s) and the threat to her life.

Considering the fact his sister went through same (I am assuming because she said she left her husband), I would imagine that the brother (husband in the OP) would be more thoughtful and intentional.

@Juju: I believe they exist however, they need a contact to work. The husband must have slept with the girl or eaten her food for it to start working.

The husband also did not disappoint me: quoting the Bible haphazardly to suit his agenda and the poor wife does not even know it is in it to hold her husband accountable.

That's why I say: if you want to marry in the Church, study your Bible very well so that nobody can bamboozle you with cut & join.

No, you wouldn't read or understand and start complaining that the Bible or Christianity is yada yada.

In the case of the prodigal son, he realized he had sinned and went back to his father in repentance confessing his sin. Then the father DECIDED to celebrate his lost son.

The husband was not remorseful, did not acknowledge his wrongs, did not ask for forgiveness and is asking for a party? The uncle that said adultery is not a sin, it is only when you bring it home might be an elder in his church. And so many other disgusting references to the Bible in the OP.

Also, an informant told the wife that someone wants to kill her (with proof) and all they are concerned about is 'saving the marriage'! Nobody in this story so far is concerned about the safety of the woman's life & her kids. The woman is already ticking off her bucket list Incase she died tomorrow.

I did not read about her birth family in this madness; is she without a source? Or would her family hear that someone wants to kill her & do nothing?




*When I encounter the 'Nigerian' styled marriages, I wonder how things can be the way they ought to be. We are very keen on marriage in Nigeria; can't we try to get it right inline with our culture and religious beliefs (which ever we believe in)?

Can't we learn what our beliefs teach and actually practice it? Aren't we tired of the sham that marriages have become?

When we hear the concept of 'a virtuous wife' in the Bible, it has nothing to do with the type of wife above. She is the Nigerian version of 'the virtuous wife'.

socialmediaman:
His choice, their business. Some people forgive, some don't. He's free to do whatever he likes. He has a lot to consider before making such a life changing decision

What was the husband supposed to forgive?

His wife dating someone else before he married her?

Iyaebe:
I don't think so,he felt betrayed and took a hasty decision. His first son even supported him

He divorced his wife of thirty years because she dated in best friend in the past?

While they (BF & wife) was wrong not to disclose their previous relationship, I strongly believe that the husband was looking for an excuse to divorce his wife & re-marry which is extremely shameful.

I won't be shocked if the man is a respectable elder in his church and/or community.

@son supporting him: I have seen a brother join his BIL to hunt for girls (cheat on his sister).

horlahsunbo225:
Iyawo ti a ba fi ijo fe, iran ni yo wo lo..


Thanks ma'am your head is there

@angelfallz

That's the Yoruba version

Until a man shows up and takes her to Dubai and she leaves you

Then you start crying how all men are scum.

A woman gotten on the dance floor/with dancing would be taken away {by another man} with dancing - Yoruba Elders 1210.

Romanoff:
For those saying family will never leave you, come and see how this one left his sister.

NoToPile:
E.O.D

I remember the uproar that year and how some nairalanders were saying Annie is patient virtuous has been able to tame tu-face etc etc.

It was even a topic of discussion on TVCs 'Your View' the matter was dragged.

Nobody should be surprised this is happening, she's taken in a lot willingly and can bear it no more hence the public complaint.

I honestly don't know what she was expecting, then when it comes to in-laws matter when a child is involved they will always support the child(ren) and the baby mama, those children are their blood.

Personally I will day she should take it she has co-wife that way she will have some peace.

Cc:Bukatyne

She doesn't want a co-wife

To think she was the last baby mama in both rounds.

And is the youngest wife

Iyaebe:
I get your point clearer now,it was all Annie's fault for sticking with a randy man,I'm just sad that people don't understand what Annie is passing through.

How can we understand what she is passing through when she chose this life herself?

NoToPile:
Ohooo kuku you dug the thread out.

I don't understand how the bolded is possible

I dug it out sharp sharp!

The way people were celebrating them then, I was shocked!

Same thing with Chioma

Wiseandtrue:
But if they don't put it on social media, wetin you won dey sub for

Told someone this a while back while she complained too many people put too much stuff online.

I said 'they are the content creators; you are the content consumer.'

If there is no consumer, the creators would fizzle out

Iyaebe:
Ha! why should she? Is tuface and Annie not legally married? After tuface and Annie's marriage Pero should have borrowed sense and move on but she chose to stay single so that tuface can have access to her anytime, Pero is a snake and a home breaker,is she the only baby mama tuface has? Sumbo got married and kept her distance does that stop tuface from playing the father figure to Sumbo's kids? but Pero has been sleeping with tuface since time immemorial and have no respect for the marriage vows between Annie and tuface. Are you in any way supporting tuface or pero because I don't understand your point.

@Bold:

You expect Pero to marry to help Tuface keep the marriage vows he made voluntarily on his wedding day? Isn't that putting too much responsibility on Pero? Is Tuface a simpleton that he cannot decide what is good for him or not?

Do you think Sumbo's marriage is a deterrent to Tuface? She was married before she became his babymama the first time. It is Sumbo deciding not to walk down that wrong anymore.

'Support' must be one of the frequently missued words in NL: That I am anti-Annie in this case does not make me pro-Tuface or pro-Sumbo?

And frankly, what is there to support? A promiscuous man; a promiscuous woman or a low self-esteemed deluded woman?

My point is that Annie knew what she signed up for when she married a promiscuous man who was continually unfaithful to her. If she can no longer stand the heat, she should leave the kitchen without noise or put fan inside it.

I never blame side chics/bobos for their lovers' inability to stick to their vows of fidelity.

Yampotatocarrot:
I love your balanced approach to make/female issues. You don't care which gender is to blame, you lay the blame accordingly, and still try to proffer solutions to it.

Kudos, dear

Thank you.

I like all the foods your moniker is made up of.

pocohantas:

I remember this thread in 2013 when some of us talked;

We were bad belle and don't know what love is.

https://www.nairaland.com/1233867/annie-2faces-love-story-how/6#14906640

Chef Chi aka Chioma Assurance came, we are jealous!

On and on.

How anyone can string love, Tuface and Annie in one sentence amuses me.

I don't understand the 'Nigerian' definition of love in marriage.

Abeg Annie should rest.

If she is tired of Tuface, let her 'let go and let Pero'

Iyaebe:
Yes,maybe you don't know their story.Annie was there before all these women, they came after tuface's fame and pero has refused to let go

Ok,

Your issue is not that Tuface maintained three babymamas while claiming to love Annie;

It is that one of the babymamas (Pero) refused to 'end' the relationship.

My question: Why should she?

The common factor is Tuface and he has not complained that he is no longer capable to rotate them.

Meninmen:
You have a point, but sometimes, things aren't always black and white. Only God knows the kind of love she had for him to have accepted to marry him. And maybe she thought being married would change him.

A man should be sexually disciplined. I don't think 2face's father had the number of women 2face currently have.

2face proposed to her, made her his wife. Nobody forced him. What's there in respecting her and the Marriage? If you are married to someone, you can't go sleep in the same house with your baby mama. It would have been better he didn't marry Annie so we will know he is public property.

So, we are expected to blame her for agreeing to marry 2face Inspite of his irresponsibility while we leave the one who has been irresponsible? Naah. Don't think so.

@bold:

There is a reason we study someone before we marry or we study a situation/case to observe trends so we can make decisions and forecast.

Also, I do not blame people for who they are (not really true ); I blame people who see how those peeps are damaged and still stick with them while claiming they have issues with their attitude.

Tuface has/had shown that he is a sexually indisciplined man; Annie marrying him shows she is ok with it. That's why the Priest/Pastor/Iman/ Magistrate asks..... Do you X take Y as your lawfully wedded .....

And you answer 'I do'.

That 'I do' means you take them with everything

Coming out years to scream otherwise is foolishness.

If Tuface went to North Korea and pretended to be a pastor and married a chic, then we can talk of blaming Tuface because he presented an false version of himself.

But Annie that they were doing baby mama competitions together?

Haba!

Some say Annie was the first woman, doesn't it make it worse? That means she was the 'main' girlfriend when he got Sumbo & Pero pregnant.

Then Annie got pregnant also and he started the rooster again.

He is on the third lap now, luckily for Annie, Sumbo is out of the ring.

Pero will soon carry belle, then Annie would go for the third child.

DonroxyII:
Nah, the heat has always been there but she just find the confidence to take it all out and pour her mind .....

But she always knew the temperature of the kitchen.

They will be alright.

Iyaebe:
Stop all this abeg,Annie has been with tuface before all these women but the snake woman pero has refused to marry because of tuface and has vowed to ruin their marriage since tuface settled for Annie his first true love.Pero is a deadly and dangerous woman, a viper and bitter woman who has refused to move on because of her obsessed love for tuface. In all of this Annie should be happy and treat tuface nice abi? women are really suffering, a man will cheat on you and people will still blame you one way or the other.Annie should have known that a community penis will always be one and even marriage won't change anything. As for tuface family they should keep urging and cheering him on na tuface go be at the receiving end.

Annie is Tuface's first true love?

Pero is the viper who has decided not to move on?

Sanchez01:
She can't. 2Face is dying. She will stay around and fight as the legally married wife. Else, Pero, Sumbo and their kids will take everything.

I am sure she has seen this playing out.

Dying ke?

What's wrong with him?

Meninmen:
You seem not to know their story. Annie has been there for a long time o. I think they were already dating before he met all these baby mamas. They had started dating before 2face made the African queen video (and she was in that video). Don't think Annie just came in yesterday.

2face has and will always be my number 1 Nigerian artiste. I love that dude. But let's tell ourselves the truth, he has been so irresponsible sexually. He has already married Annie, respect her. Who even impregnates a baby mama once, twice, third time? Maybe the 4th child is on the way.

Is this not the reason Annie SHOULDN'T have married him?

A man who claims to love you went on to get two women pregnant four times & you still married him?

Wo, people should be responsible for their choices.

wany:
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I laugh when guys applaud mercy Johnson and her husband,this is a guy that left a wife and two kids his last baby was just 9months old,just to marry mercy and secure the bag.her day of reckoning is around the corner,I always laugh when never guys call women fish brain because in truth men have frog brain

That's what piss me off when these women start whining.

This is not a case of 'he deceived me or he changed'.

You saw ALL the signs and still walked in.

Then you come out years later to wail & seek a divorce.

Later, peeps will say people don't marry with divorce in mind.

Some people do so they just marry anything after all, if it doesn't work out, they will divorce.

@Mercy Johnson: people allege the husband is cheating seriously. Hopefully, she has a working system and no complaints.

She has cleaned up nice after the marriage.

It seems like baby girl has fixed bum and hips

Baba sun re oooooo, eyin baba a daa, ojo a jinaa si ra won.

Amin.

This matter tie wrapper.

From the rant, it seems it is Pero's issue again

Tuface has always been two-faced in this matter; in fact, Anita is lucky in that Tuface never changed.

Is the heat in the kitchen suddenly now too much?

Ndidi2:
ua very intelligent.
I like you.
God bless you..

Thank you.

God bless you also.