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merieam16:
Could this be love?

Part Three

ImaIma1:
I will sign for my husband. My siblings will not expect any different.

1. In fact if my sense is not enough for me to know that I'm to pick my husband, they will advise me to sign for him.

1. That's why my people (Yorubas) say a bad spouse is better than bad in-laws.

They figure that if a wife/husband doesn't have sense, their family would call them to order.

But if the in-laws don't have sense with a senseless spouse? It is finished!

Hopefully the parents would be able to pay.

Kudos to LASG on this.

The same reason why every married man & women cheats:

Greed!

A cheating husband/wife wants to keep the 'faulty' spouse while they get someone to 'fill the void' left by that spouse.

If your wife/husband is no longer good enough for you, leave them & move on.

Well, you have the right to dress as you wish; I have the right to 'judge' you as I wish.

Case closed.

Anyways, I wish you all the best.

BB Naija has provided the platform to 'excel' for some.

Ishilove:
Fake story.

For the sake of posting, all I will say is... "bitch pay him his money. Unfortunate human being like you."

Why do you think it's fake?

I know someone it happened to (I knew the lady involved, she married someone else. Ex was a truck driver.)

Doradorwa:
Lol.... I believe the lady should keep to her promise as the man has kept his own part of the bargain.

According to the lady their relationship was on a mutual consent. Which is I will sponsor you to school and you will pay me back by marrying me. Things like this ought not to be hard. If she know that she is not more interested then she should pay up every single Kobo the man spent on her. By paying up it means that she still have some iota of integrity in her. I don't like people going back in their words when you give your word you stand by it. It's an honourable thing.

If the man forces her to marry him, he would not enjoy the marriage and just torture himself.

I don't even know the solution to this mess. Even if the girl gives him her fees in two fold, it still cannot heal the pain in his heart.

It is well.

optimistic0001:
The song was banned for the poor, not the rich. That is, the rich can play it, but the poor should not dare play it

Don't mind them, they did not get the memo.

Page 13:

I have tried, I leave the remaining thirteen pages for all my NL peeps

N7.5m/ month ($15k): Anita must know something we don't o!

Goodluck to them all.

rosalieene:
I remember just right before their wedding.
He impregnated a 19yrs old beauty queen in 2014.

I don't know how they were able to shut the girl's mouth up till date.
That was a red Flag for Anita to call off the wedding then.
People never really change.

So he has always been a cheerful giver?

Trojan8:
See mentality! If you want to get married, make sure you get the social media handles of your partner especially Twitter and Nairaland so you know exactly how they reason.

Tzar:
Mr. P and his wife were not the problem after all! We all just demonized them for our rubbish sentiments.

@Bold:
Not all of us sir.

MufasaLion:
Follow your own advice when your wife sleeps around. Till then I ain't taking any of your words serious.

eyinjuege:
Paul wasn't only sleeping with their maids, but also different IG slay queens.
Another woman is pregnant for him
He beats Anita steadily.
Anita is from a very good home, well educated and a very easy going simple woman. She no dey like drama, she minds her business. She was there when he still had tolotolo long neck with nothing and she stuck with him then.
She has been enduring all this while, but if he seems unrepentant and even tells her to do her worst, what exactly is left to salvage in the marriage?
A marriage can only work if 2 people are on the same page.
Paul aka RUDEBOY listens to nobody, so there's even nobody to advice him to try to salvage what's left of the marriage.
What is the wife supposed to do in such a situation where she stays miserable. Should she live in misery for life?
Some marriages will make you contemplate suicide or even murder. If it reaches that stage, best to waka.

So this type of fire was burning under his roof and he still had the guts to call Lola a witch?

Perhaps Lola's witchcraft has come to play.

Fountainofyouth:
So Anita is now the strange woman not Lola? Lmao the God of Lola never sleeps indeed

I sincerely pity other tribes marrying Igbo men, honestly.

lastbornop:
Hello sis,

This Busy workaholic mum of 2 and wife needs Home advice on managing cooking.

I usually cook a lot on weekends and store in the Freezer for the week. I even tag and plan for the week but right now, it just seems too tiring and i have been lagging so much in this department.

Any idea on how to manage this aspect of my life. I come home tired every day, i manage to put 1 or 2 together but i know i should do better.

Help a sis.

Share ur experience. I and others could learn from you.

Thank you

@bold:

Can you elaborate?

@OP generally:

If you have evaluated your schedule & seen you cannot cope, you need to get a help (enlist your husband to do more chores/cooking or get a help).

Burn out is real and if you continue juggling so much alone, you won't be useful to yourself, your husband, your kids, your employer and your society.

Another thing I see some families do recently is that they stop @ eateries on their way home & pick up food for the family. Some others 'rough' the week and eat warm meals @ weekend aka Sunday jollof

The truth is that you cannot work long hours daily and be very effective at home. You need to make peace with that especially referencing the bold (it is not easy especially when you take whatever role {housekeeping as a wife} you have seriously) . That's part of 21st century problems especially in Nigeria where we do not have part time jobs. You can engage your husband on what his expectations are so you understand where how you are falling short & explain that you are currently stretched thin and cannot go anymore without snapping or losing your mind.

Just re-evaluate your family situation and discuss with your husband to find a solution that works for you guys.

Good luck & take care of yourself

A Christian Traditional Ruler....

Hmmmmmm.

It always sounds like mix & match to me.

Anyways, time would tell.

Humility is indeed a virtue.

Baba Iyabo genuflecting does not diminish him or his achievements.

Acidosis:
I found this creepy thread online There's a lot science don't understand

@bold:

The physical world is controlled by the spiritual.

@Re-incarnation:
I don't believe in it because it is not supported in Christianity:

It is appointed for man to die once and after that, judgement.

It is possible that people have similar path or assignments in life sha. E.g. Elijah & John the Baptist.

manchinKY:
I dont see anyone saying she is a role model to young people and shouldn't dress like that exposing her body, but if na tiwa wear same dress, you hypocrites, nitwits and sheeples, usless maggots and broken condom products will pounce on her....

greenie77:
Post the pictures of your female relatives who are 50 years and above.....let us start the comparison from there as they are Jennifer Lopez's age group.

gammarays:
They're usually enemies on paper
Na for occasions you go see their true colours

Very true.

miqos02:
I have no ring and been married for 10 years

DenreleDave:
Why are so called Christian marriages always ending in parting ways?
The church always talk ń preach about divorce than Muslim does, yet most divorces comes from Christian homes......

Dating now last more than marriage itself....

Who is getting it wrong? Where did it go wrong?

Why are Christians marriage always the most affected?

Look at Christian nations in North America ń Europe, divorce rate is far too much...


Guys I need your contributions..




Cc: lalasticlala seun mynd44

What is your definition of a Christian marriage?

preciousele:
Kuku enjoying comment nitemi...

As in...

Se e fe popcorn?

djon78:
Stop spreading lies

Paul's wife was never an igbo woman

She is from Rivers
A kalabari woman

Igbo women behave better

Any igbo guy that wants to marry long
Must avoid any woman raised in Lagos

If you want to marry
Marry a woman raised in the East
They have better understanding of what marriage is according to Igbo culture

So it is an Igbo woman bred in the East that has the magic now?

Bar1941:
Igbo kwenu!!! So all of a sudden you people imported Tonye between Anita and Okoye to make her a Rivers state origin? I fear who no fear unna.

Honestly this NL na cruise!

LilMissFavvy:
The man seems to be a cool easygoing man so why is she divorcing him? She is making a mistake.

Cool easygoing man doesn't translate to a good husband.

He can be a good man/friend/neighbor/father/son and be a terrible husband.

Aidejay:
10 years of dating, 7 years of marriage and 3 children, but una divorce over "irrecoverable differences"

(I dey beg make u try reason with me)

If the news is true, the bold is truly disturbing.

You have known someone for 17 years (from early 20s) and you both can't work a compromise on your issues?

Very sad.

California is spared from immediate cuts because it has more senior water rights than Arizona and Nevada.

Wahala be like junior water rights

God help them solve their water problems.

I would rather you say what's on your mind/how you feel very often.

Happy wedding anniversary, God bless your home.