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aroundtheearth:
The kid should've spoken up sooner but thankfully he eventually did before the situation escalated.

When the earring has already caused such mess?

They all need to be calming down in that house sha.

Marriage and parent-children relationship has issues.

scally11:
Sure it did

Lol. What I am saying is that sometimes things are not the way it is

I swear if na my woman, some of my body parts will be missing. I dare not sleep the house in order not to dealt with like the pdp chairman son

@bold:

Not funny but....

Seriously cracked up here!

It is well with you o!

alfasexy:
Punishment sex encourages misbehaviour.

From my little research, punishment sex is well..... to punish.

Perhaps the 'corrector' would be cold to the 'correctee', deprive them of what they want or ride them roughly to express their displeasure.

My point is it is not 'intended' to be pleasurable.

The OP can shed more light.

When I saw the topic, my first reaction was only 9?

I then read it and it was a delightful read.

Kudos OP.

htdot:
You can buy and drink whatever claimed brand you like but the true remains that there is no glo, zenith bank and Dangote company in London... However, I dont support this present government but some things make Nigeria look stupid that I will never condone

Well with the way content creation & development has grown in Nigeria, I do not see why Nigerian owned businesses and foreign businesses who have some autonomy can't create advert content in Nigeria.

But again, the same government discouraging foreign adverts and content creation is going to UK for medical checkup.

This government ehn! They have guts!

htdot:
You let emotion becloud your sense of reasoning.... Who is buying Dangote cement in USA? As far as I am concerned, the major market of Guinness is Nigeria...

The major market of Guinness is Nigeria?

Shey you know that Guinness/Diageo is NOT a Nigerian brand?

slachtoffers:
There is nothing like "cousin-sister" Nigerians should stop this "yeye". She is either your sister or your cousin.

I wander my brother

MISSCONGENIALITY:
Don't tell.me you are just realizing that now.
My sister, until you are married and have sent some year with your spouse, don't count yourself lucky yet.

You see a single babe/guy looking heathy and happy then once they marry, instead of looking better as marriage they say is a good thing,they start fading away like the Sun and nightfall or the moon at daybreak.
Some people are lucky sha. May we be among the lucky ones.

God, instead of me marrying someone that I can't be happy with, Let me remain single.
Na real black market

@bold:

Wrong mentality.

Marriage is not black market.

@Delpeiro:

You saw your wife six times, slept with her six times in three years and think you know her ambition or ascertain her sex drive? (This is why I think having sex for compatibility before marriage is bull*shit).

Assume you did not know her and start to learn about her afresh.

Have candid discussions on what she wants, what you want and compromise.

For instance, if she doesn't like kids/support work and you do, learn to do it without her input. If she is not a good financial manager, stop giving her funds and give her money on a need basis etc. Stop funding her wants or excesses; you

However, under no circumstance should you lose your purpose and drive because of her. You might be slower without her support, however, learn to be self-motivated.

You would be able to teach others how to 'choose' or 'not to choose.'

Toyin, so so wrong!

The dude even carried a cross with a picture of Christ's crucifixion?

Sighs!

Position by appointment: Yes
Position by election: No

salt1:
I think what changed is expectations: love came into the equation and faithfulness is expected. The men want their mothers in this century and the women want movie characters.

@bold:

Absolutely funny

Ruthymoon:
let hear from your husband mouth,cos i nor believe you,only God knows wetin men dey suffer from career women hand, just like dat woman wey dey sell kaya mata, turn her husband to toilet roll, don't trust boss women,

How did they know she is nursing her second child and can't rescue her?

Considering a 14 year old girl thinks she is a boy and should be addressed as such, I am not shocked a 12 year old said she likes sex.

It is well.

I like how the girl is also in a remand home; they might still be able to re-configure her to her right senses.

I don't get how the child was missing and her parents waited a month to start searching for her.

They should be punished for negligence of duty.

@Oga Ade: 38 yrs to 12yrs....

The girl is legit his daughter.

When he cools off in prison, he would have sense.

LordKO:
Only women who've low self-esteem will tell you that submission is a sign of weakness, same as only men who've low self-esteem will tell you that love is a sign of weakness.

By the way, the core difference between love and submission remains their application due to biological differences in both genders. Both genders are equal, but different. Difference doesn't mean inequality.

Meanwhile, the biggest dummy ever sold to wannabe woke blacks anywhere is that the modern White families don't practice love and submission anymore - definitely not the aristocratic White families.

On point.

Especially first and different paragraphs.

To think Kimoni said this years ago.

As I have grown and gotten closer to women at the top, I have realized they do not give a damn about 'feminism' nor do they see themselves as victims 'men'/ 'patriachy' or 'society' is stopping from achieving something.

They also do not 'notice' or thrilled about being the 'first' woman to achieve their height; they are more concerned about making an impact.

They learn what they need to get to where they are going to and do it.

But again, victimhood and thinking men/patriarchy are out to get you are not characteristics you need to succeed.

MrCuteAndLoaded:
Na lie!...I live in diaspora and I sample 1 new lonely African woman everyweek! God bless the inventor of Instagram mehn! One even shed tears saying she was lonely when I ended it with her. Men are lone wolves by default. This is why you see cockerell mount chicken con dey go im own way...

If we take your account as true,

The girls are providing you with cheap emotional support.

You will be taken seriously if you actually STAY on your own.

DEMZEE:
Men and women are fundamentally not equal

Having an emotional connection is a feminine imperative, that's why women celebrate weddings and getting married more than men

Men can b alone and still function

Women cant

You need to upgrade redpill to 203

Men can't function alone either.

banmee:
Make sure you add "In Nigeria", when you write things like this.

Mbok, he should add 'in his family/culture/tribe/state's etc.

blueAgent:
You can see the hypocrisy.

In US prostitution is illegal in virtual all 50states but pornography is legal and a big industry.

That will show you the level of deception.

Let's keep watching and see.

Parents should guard and guide their kids well.

Jman06:
He has no choice than to cater for him.

Really?

Jman06:
Remember also that the child has become a separate human of his own. Just like the father has no right to terminate his existence, so does he have no right to dictate her gender -- going by the law in effect.

Is this father still expected to cater for the child?

Or is the father free of that also?

Jman06:
They're not infringing on his personal right because there's a state's law backing up their action.

Interesting.

So it is a State's law that would tell a man who ejaculated X chromosomes into the womb of a woman what to call the result of his labour?

Even Saudi Arabia that attempts to control their citizens have not dreamt of wielding such power.

BRATISLAVA:
He thought she's desperate and old, so he was dictating his terms. She agreed, but it seems he's unproductive and you know it's difficult to date a jobless woman, let alone a man.

The guy is an ingrate. What more does he want her to do for him?

As much as I like relationships to work out, I want this to end.

Luckily, they are not married.

The OP has no iota of love for this lady.

If he did, he would have suggested bringing his car to Abuja one month after the job search was not successful.

The babe has incurred additional living expenses and what a lover would do is it reduce the burden.

She is not home all day, he would ensure a clean home and warm meal within his capacity.

I am sure if he welcomed her warmly with a plate of ordinary noodles and egg, she would feel happy, loved and refreshed.

The men moaning about how women are; work outside the home and come back to chores while your wife is at home.

When you do that happily for two weeks, then we will discuss.

BarristerAlarig:
You are a very nasty person who feels entitled to other people's money. So you have a car, which could have been used for ehailing services to generate income pending when you get a job but you choose to leave it idle in Lagos while expecting a woman to shoulder your responsibilities in this harsh economy because you want to "test" her??


You deserve everything you are getting. I pray she throws you out.

Very nasty.

Richy4:
What you are battling with is nothing but superiority Complex.... In your mind/ heart you have lined up how a man should be... A man should not wash his own cloth, a man should not do chores etc... That is just nonsense...Someone that altered her simple life style of living in an apartment and foots majority of the bills just to meet your demand half way, you were not even grateful... For your information, A lot of married men do chores.... If anyone on social media tells you otherwise, he is lying to u...

Besides, You know very well that covid-19 disrupted a lot of things around the world including Nigeria.. and you should know the average time frame that one would look for job around the world has doubled because of the pandemic... Take it easy with yourself... Be a little humble and focus on your goal... Though I simply wish that Lady saw a better man who will love her in return instead of u... because your Ego is higher than Kilimanjaro...

Very annoying and ungrateful OP.

See his mouth like 'I cannot live in a small space' yet one kobo he did not have.

I blame the woman.

Switchman:
Please I Need Your Candid And Long Term Advise, I Am Presently Depressed And Out

This will be a lengthy one but I promise to summarize it as much as I can.

I met a lady in her late 30s 18months ago through an online friend. I was working in Lagos while she was based and working in Abuja.

We chatted for a while before she volunteered to come to Lagos for a visit over the weekend which doesn't seem a bad idea to me cos I believed seeing in person is better than 1 million pictures.

Due to her age and desperation, we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.

I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate.

Covid 19 lock down came and all plans were halted due to restrictions on vehicular movements. Fast forward to November last year I made final plans and I agreed to finally relocate but on the conditions that we will need to get a new apartment cos I don't want to move in with her to her former apartment which was a one room self contain, we got a 1 bedroom apartment and I moved in with her. She owns 90% stake on the expenses incurred but in the spirit of hope for a better job, I will upgrade the apartment to have an equal stake in the home.

It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.

It's really a bad experience for a man not to have a steady source of income cos in a twinkle of an eye the love will vanish.

I love the lifestyle of Abuja cos it is less stressful than Lagos and I will really like to get a good source of income so I can get my own apartment and be free from the shackles I put myself in the name of love.

I really need help now cos I know my days are numbered and it's a matter of time before she sends me packing cos I really don't have the right to the apartment. Please house, I need your candid advise on what to do and as always constructive criticism is allowed.

Thanks
Switchman

How can you (the supposed man in the relationship) relocate without a job for a woman you are not married to? You are even dictating the type of apartment to rent without having the funds?

You say she is desperate yet you are the one who left your job to join her. How would you even call your proposed wife 'desperate'?


If you are a traditional man who sees doing chores in the space he lives as slavery, then you behave like one.

A traditional man provides all/most of the resources in the home. He also plans his future and by extension the future of the family.

You have not handled any of these responsibilities; why should you reap the benefits?

So you expect her to come back home from work and start cleaning or cooking? Then what is your usefulness in her life?

What value are you adding?

Instead of thinking about her finances which would have increased, you are crying about your ego.

I advise you come back to Lagos or move out of her apartment at Abuja.

You don't live nor respect her; you are not willing to add value; you don't have the right attitude etc.

Una doe!

I take a bow at page five.

Sheunma:
Interesting conversation going on here. From all that's been said, something jumps at me:

Former atheists, like Buda and Kobo, who are now "christians" seem to have a different, somewhat philosophical interpretation of the scriptures from "mainstream" christians, like Shade.

The majority of christians, including members of JW like Max, would find the position of Shade and Max agreeable- No "true christian"( whatever that means) would marry an atheist. I might be wrong but it takes a christian who has passed through the eye of athiesm or at least agnosicm to even entertain the thought.

So my quandary remains why is former athiests idea of christianity different from other christians?

Anyone?

How/why did the former atheists become Christians?

OnlyDeCapPlease:
In those type of situations, especially considering the power balance, you don't chase her. She chases you. You have to borrow a leaf from women. Just make yourself as sexy and attractive as you can - tight clothes to show off your assests (muscles, thick rod, big chest etc). Stay well groomed and smell nice. Always have a smile on your face when talking to her. Use innuendo where possible. Hold her gaze and look deep into her eyes when talking to her. If the opportunity comes up, pay her respectful comments and go out of your way (without grovelling) to be of assistance to her. Try and observe the sort of things that she likes, you need to study her. Get yourself in her head, and if you notice that she is softening towards you (green light), then start making some small calculated bold moves. However, of you notice rejection, disdain or indifference, then pull back because you have a job to think about. This is where some Nigerian guys get it wrong because they think the female is playing hard to get. Even if she is playing hard to get, sudden withdrawal of all your attention and just acting extremely formal around her will definitely spark a reaction from her. On the other hand if she really didn't want you, then you have backed down respectfully and maturely without actually showing your hand because surely you were not chasing her. You were only being nice to her because she's your boss.

See subtle moves.

jelel6:
Remember this is a society that it's illegal to provide or sell alcohol to minors (rightly so). In fact, some places frown at recieving minors anywhere alcohol is served.

Remember, this is also the same society that says it's illegal for an adult to solicit anything sexual from a minor (again, rightly so).


Hence, it's almost impossible for such a society to justify "brainwashing" seventh graders (minors age 12-13) with "sexual and gender identity education materials. Also, they can have a professional, and understandably far experienced gender ideologue psychologists talk to their minors about social transitioning into whatever the hell they want!

And all that can be done in schools WITHOUT the consent of their parents!


Somehow, it's NOT okay for adults to influence a minor into drinking alcohol or having sex but it's PERFECTLY OKAY for professional gender ideologue psychologists to influence a minor's decision to identify with their TRUE gender.


It's them and their laws, obviously.

Hahahahahaha @ the last paragraph.

Someone who is not old enough to consent to sex or drink alcohol is 'old' enough to insist on the gender he/she is.