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If this girl started to call herself a goat, would her mother build a pen for her?

Well, nothing strange.

When you combine the human characteristics of constant dissatisfaction with a state and 'unlimited freedom of choice', the OP is the result.

If they insist the girl is a boy and change her sex, the father should wash his hands off.

He impregnated his ex with a girl and not a boy.

When they bring his daughter, he can continue fathering her.

How/why did he marry a psycho in the first place?

Jman06:
Live the life you love provided you're not infringing on another person's rights. If you know you're homosexual, be open about it but NEVER force it on anyone.

Someone like myself, prefers an open "sinner" to a hidden but probably more dangerous one.

Are they not infringing on this father's right to call his child whom he donated X chromosomes for and born a girl 'his daughter'?

StreetFight:
Obey the Bible. Mind your business, you lazy youth.

This is funny

Not in the mood to debate if it is misapplied.

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deltateam:
In this 21st century, why would a husband collect his wife's number and possibly phone on her birthday?

I found it hard to stomach. I tried calling my cousin to wish her, "Happy Birthday", only for her husband to pick her call giving one lousy reason I couldn't wrap my hands on.

E vex me. I had to drop the call after delivering my message because I didn't wish to shake the boat but it looks dumb and stupid to me nonetheless.

What's your view?

@21st century man,

Is that the first time calling your cousin after marriage?

Have you spoken with her since then?

While she 'might' be in danger, please do your due diligence before concluding what is going on.

If you can, just drop by one day with a plan to sleep in an hotel if you can't sleep in their house.

You can also engage her siblings or parents so you can glean if anything funny is going on.

StreetFight:
Depending in who is paying the house rent.

If the man is the one paying the house rent, then he only needs to inform his wife and NOT a matter of taking permission. Even if you are squatting your friend, if 3rd party is coming in, you need to inform your squatter.

The old wat that the OP mentioned is still better than your so called new ways where husbands and wives are seen as equal. You get married in the morning and start having problems from wedding night and eventually separate and divorce in the social media.

The Bible says "wives respect your husbands, and husbands love your wives" and not the other way round.

@bold:

Money, money, money!

@OP:

Normal or ideal couple should discuss and reach a conclusion on such matters.

dogmart:
She said 3 are dead

Thanks.

Where is the fifth person?

Just glanced through the story; found it sordid.

Asour:
That's not really true.

While it is always good to be grateful to God for one's situation, Nothing satisfies long-term. Most Humans would soon become restless and seek the next challenge/Thing.

When you start earning the said amount you'll understand.

By the way, if you're safe/comfortable in your job without any desire to improve and explore the next thing, You're in for a rude shock soon.

By remaining comfortable you're choosing to be vulnerable.

@bold:

The earlier humans learn this, the better.

That's why contentment in life is KEY.

'Plenty' salary while providing some comfort, does not guarantee satisfaction at work or 'happiness' in life.

It would be a shame to his legacy.

Our Nigerian Politicians are quite shameless though.

merits:

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@OP:

The lady should seek healing so she doesn't let the rapists keep robbing her of her future.

I don't see the wisdom in publishing this; she should have consulted her elders/friends she decides if she wants to hand over the guy to the law after accepting his friend's request or letting it go.

Now the guy and remaining four culprits know what is going on and she loses the element of surprise. The remaining four can decide to silence the dude seeking 'forgiveness' to cover their tracks such that she can't get justice even if she wants to.

Apart from sordid entertainment, I don't know the purpose of this on SM; not everything is for SM clout.

How does his advice on marriage (however controversial) negate his part of saying 'his daughter is his greatest legacy' in Lion Heart?

Updated:

I finished watched the video and I wonder what the hullabaloo is all about. Like the baba cares sef.

A 74 year old man married for 52 years is riling people up.

Was the world same 52 or even 30 years back?

What is the fuse in even buying the car in the son's name?

Don't women today (rightly or wrongly) still buy gifts and all sorts in the name of their husbands?

Don't husbands buy cars in their wives' names?

The parents can even gift the couple the car without registration and they do as they like.

LordKO:
His posit might appear senseless or oppressive, especially to anyone who's naive or cynical and or conceited, but it isn't entirely so, although there are other equally good ways to go about it. Of course, only a foolish man cursed with the vices of opportunism and or oppression will betray such confidence placed on him by his in-laws, because in doing so or even without doing so, the in-laws expect nothing less than treating their daughter queenly, provided that she remains a conscientious wife.

If you oppose his posit but will gladly accept an equally or proportionally gift from your husband in your name, then you're a hypocrite. Love - love base marriage - is all about altruism in particular and conscientiousness in general.

Most of the position is from preparation of 'what if the marriage ends tomorrow'?

'What if the man 'changes'?

@bold: That is ok, women are all angels

Rhodaogunpeju:
Why are our Nigerian Men so insensitive.

I'm naturally a chubby lady with curves and I remember vividy how my husband used to praise my physique and say I'm his spec. According to him skinny girls are not his type.

We got married and I have given birth to two kids and I added weight a little, plus we were living comfortably so the good life was evident in my life and body.

The church we normally attend, the pastor's wife has 5 kids already and she's much older than me but she still looks moderate enough with little or zero stomach fat.

My husband seeing this woman has constantly been telling me to try and work on myself, this man literally wants me to be skinny, when we married I wasn't skinny, the blow was when he compared me to my Pastor's wife, saying I have just 2 kids and I added weight while our Pastor's wife has 5 and she's looking like she never gave birth.. I cried and I have been crying since..


It hurts so much .. It makes me wonder if this man still loves me?

1. Your husband is employing out parents' method of comparison to our 'role models'. Your Pastor's wife is 'ideally' a role model for women in the church.

2. As a wife, you are to please your husband; part of which is to aspire to be appealing to him.

3. Your husband complaining about your body does not negate his love for you (if you were sure of it prior to now)

Now we have cleared the above;

Work on your weight, skin and dress sense.

You testified that there is money so employ these fitfam people to prepare meals for you (if you can't do it yourself) and incorporate exercises. If you have tried to lose weight without success in the past, you can employ a dietitian (who is different from a fitfam p,rofessional)

While you work on being the best version of yourself, tell him you do not appreciate been compared to your Pastor's wife.

You are not going to be another Mrs. Pastor, you will be the best, sexiest version of yourself.

One4me:
Could the below be why he was promoted above his head, by the British mercenary called Major (Lord) Lugard?

Please read:





A Mercenary, Major Lugard (Later Lord Lugard), formed a "Mercenary Army of Northerners" and called it Nigerian Army!
he then used that Mercenary Army to loot, plunder and Colonise Southerners, to form a Slave Country called Nigeria.
I hail o.

What a read!

You steal from someone and beat him that he is crying?

That's evil.

Baba is 78 yrs na.

Two years to 80 yrs old.

Even the electioneering process is too stressful for him.

On a side note, we would hear word.

People are same everywhere; even in almighty America, Baba 80 are jostling for power instead of playing with their great grand kids.

Peeps are still pushing Trump 2024.... At what age biko?

wentroublecomes:
Good afternoon nairalanders. Please overlook my grammatical errors as I'm not very good in English
I'm here to seek for advice because I'm in a very confused state.
I'm 30 yrs while my girlfriend is 23 yrs.
I'm a civil engineering graduate and I finished my service year 4 years ago.
I've been working under an engineer and also have a side little business (though I've not been making huge profit from it due to lack of enough capital)
My girlfriend as been loving me the way I am. When I met her, I let her know I'm earning 20k as a graduate but she said it doesn't matter that things will get better soon.
Recently about 8 months ago, it has been increase to 30k which it's not enough for me.
We av been dating for almost 3 years now and I was recognized well by her family members as someone intending to marry their daughter.
My girl stays most time with me and we sometimes I've intimacy.
Just few days ago, she complained abt her period been missing but I really don't take it serious because sometimes she have late period which she'll still menstruate after some days.
But just about 3 days ago when I noticed it's getting more late, we did PT and it came positive.

I'm thinking of getting rid of it because I'm not very read for the responsibilities even though I love kids and wish I have mine too.
I don't want her to suffer if we eventually leave the pregnancy because she is not earning much as well and she'll even loss her job if she's pregnant.
I know it's a crime to abort but what can I do?

Somebody should please help me, even if it's to get a better job that will be enough to take care of her and the baby. Or maybe I should just abort it and wait for more time till when things get better.

Abortion is murder so you both discuss and work on how to keep the baby.

Nerro042:
Over 90 percent of Western countries have never had a female head of state. So it's not an African thing please

Kharol1234:
Not in my country them go even hide the death of the president

As in.

Happy birthday beautiful queen.

She is more beautiful as a mother of three 11 years later.

The judges really saw the future.

Funny question, funnier answers.

A whole human being is now something you want to 'steal'.

Inside rice sack or where biko?

A handbag or suitcase cannot contain him.

Wahala for husband wey nor get wife who dey check im DM.

witworth:
is the wife the head of the family?
You say your head no wan correct, now deal with that logical question.

The benefit of Head of family in Africa is cheating?

Mariangeles:
Today, the world over is celebrating mothers.

Being a mother is such a blessing, but it also comes with so much pressure, and it takes grace to be able to keep up with the never ending demands of children.

This thread is to appreciate nairalanders who are good mothers (hopefully) to their children. Mamas, even if nobody tells you, you're doing well. It is not easy, but you were made for this.

So, in no particular order, I'm wishing these nairalanders a happy mothers' day. (Pardon me if I don't remember to mention you)

Imalma1 (My conversation with you the other day about pregnancy inspired this thread)
Cutiereborn
Loveymom
Cococandy
Bukatyne
Ujujoan
Breadplanet
Armyofone ( Are you a mum? Because I no sure whether you be man or woman again o )
Descarado (Your monicker always always cracks me up )
Bjprodint ( You're one strong woman)

If I no remember you, no vex o...

I go modify when I remember.

Thanks a lot Maria, God bless you.

abdsamad:
Dunno why people have refused to agree with this post.

If you're traditional then you believe men work and pay for stuff and women stay home and work without expected input from the man. In that case, don't complain: just pay and enjoy your laundry being done for you. As long as she delivers on that, anything else she makes is hers.

Being modern involves sharing financial and other responsibilities. In my own world view, this is the correct thing. Responsibilities should be shared based on what's reasonable and each situation should be judged on a case to case basis.

The woman may be better at cooking and it'll be reasonable for her to then cook but is she also better at washing the dishes when both of you have just eaten dinner? If she slaves for hours to cook, you can at least wash up after.

The man may also be better suited to washing her car. Help out where you can just as she helps out where she can.

Nobody is a slave of anyone else, man or woman. You can't carry a pregnancy for her but you can maintain balance by paying for everything related to the pregnancy and some of her personal stuff which you may not have been doing. Afterall, if she wasn't slowed down by that responsibility she'd probably be able to work more and earn more. That's balance in my own opinion

'Nigerian' husbands and wives like to eat their cake and have it.

They both want to be traditional and modern/flexible at same time.

Today, it is the men/boys wailing.

One said why should a woman want a man who does chores when she is at home watching zeeworld all day?

How would a woman supposedly watching zeeworld all day have money to contribute to the family purse in the first place?

Oh, she is an housewife watching zeeworld all day yet working hard to bring in money.

Tomorrow, the women would equate respect/submission to finance yet they would complain when a husband earning more/ sole earner treats them like trash.

My brother, just siddon look.

'Nigerian' husbands and wives are a perfect FIT.

Good one Zaha

It makes me happy when I see people who think things through and not just regurgitate words/actions.

How does kneeling before a football match stop racism?

Are footballers the only victims/perpetrators of racism?

Refusing to go through the motions....rare in the world today.

Three things the human brain can't ignore:
1. Good food
2. Attractive people/sex
3. Danger

pozehnani:
You're just waking up after 10 children? All these chicken brain women sef.

pozehnani:
How can you say it's not a command? Then what does the statement "go into the world and multiply" mean? Is it not a command? Also, it was God who instituted marriage. So??

Your last paragraph was according to apostle Paul and the same Paul made us to understand the commands that are his and the ones made by God at every point.

Multiplication is not only for children.

Marriage is not 'compulsory' that singlehood is an outright sin.

However, only very very very few people can be single without sinning or without needing the support that marriage brings

thorpido:
1. She has no maternal desires but 'nurses' a puppy?

2. It's not compulsory to get married and have children though.It's all about choice.

1.

2. True, as far as the person steers clear from fornication.

RisenPhoenix1:
That would be wonderful. Men would sit all day watching football and chatting with their ex girlfriends; barking an occasional command at the houseboy. Maybe by midday, we can spend ten minutes boiling rice and about ten more minutes warming last week's stew. We can then branch off at ShopRite mall for a beer with our buddies before we go and pick up the kids from school, serve them the rice and stew, help them to do their assignments, watch more soccer until late evening when our wives come back from work, then demand for money for haircut, complain that our car needs to be serviced and the tyre changed, ask them to change the burnt light bulbs, and check the kitchen plumbing. They can then go and put oil into the generator and switch it on before we go to sleep. If our wives ask for sex, we will claim we have been working all day and are tired.

That you see it like this shows why you can't be an efficient 'house husband'.

descarado:
It's too much Hollywood movies.

I have been blessed to work with female bosses all through my career and I have enjoyed them.

Beautiful, calm, no-no sense ladies and on point female subordinate is a bad ass combo.

Are they perfect? No.

I also like working with female bosses; it is a free mentorship program for me. What to do and not to do when I get there; how they manage to effectively run their homes while very effective at work with a semblance of social life. How to still embrace your feminity and be womanly while being in charge. How to dress hot, turn heads and still turn the brain when you talk.

All the women I have come across know their onions and after admiring their looks, you admire their minds.

Also, in addition to the personality of the boss, your personality as a subordinate matters.

culf:
and you're happy about it? sometimes you set aside your right if it will make people happy and more comfortable around you. Its far better to be love than to be feared.

#Not judging you though

In the office?

Even Jesus that was a Lamb threw the merchants out of the temple.

pocohantas:
I think what OP is trying to talk about is the PPP (Purchasing Power Parity).

In a lay man’s term, comparing currencies isn’t just as easy as the exchange rate. For example, you see people say they are better off in “Dubai” because they are warning 400k there. They are always quick to convert it to Naira and at that point it looks big to you that is earning 30k in Nigeria.

The big/important question is, what would 400k do for you in Dubai and what would it do for you in Nigeria?

How much is a bottle of coke there?
How much is a plate of rice?
How much is transport fare?
Etc...

If these things are not at equilibrium, then it is advisable you look WELL before you leap.

Don’t allow any agent to tell you, you would earn 400k in Azerbaijani. An educated mind should ask some questions, else you would soon realize 400k isn’t always 400k. If you know what I mean.

On point.

It also applies here;

N250k/month in Ibadan vs N400k/month in Lagos.