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This reminds me of PDP vs APC in 2015.

Let's hope Americas get the change they voted for.

These politicians know the right things to say & do before they get power.

Daddy wa, please let's face Nigerian matters and pray about them in our bedroom.

Amen.

crackhaus:
Like less privileged

It irks me all the time.

Because it rubbishes the effort of other women who have achieved great things.

And because I grew seeing women achieve great things without feeling 'victimized' or 'stopped' because they were women.

My headmistress, principal, registrar, women in church I grew up in. (Lecturers, professors, head of institutes), my CEO etc. etc.

On the non-professional scene, women build businesses from scratch to great heights etc.

When I read these whinny women and men who think women must be 'helped' or given space, I feel blest to grow amongst women who are confident enough in themselves to achieve whatever they set their minds to do.

Well, like we would say, it is only God that helps without pinching you about it.

Those that want handouts should keep waiting for it.

angelfallz:
Women have been infantilized since in the west by men, it is gradually happening here in Nigeria. Funny enough It is the same men that infantilize women that still complain that women are entitled

Of course.

When someone hands you something or a platter or thinks 'he helped you, gave you, supported you or assisted you' to achieve something, they can make rubbish of your efforts.

It is tragic that most of the women clamoring for all these 'help, support, inclusion etc.' do not understand the effect and psychology of it.

How wouldn't people open their mouths to say 'female leaders in Nigeria' are bad or immoral when they are expected 'to give way for women'?

They mention Dizeani, Pat Attah, Stella Oduah etc as why 'we should not include women' like the men are not worse.

Why won't they?

Why wouldn't an armed robber condemn a liar because he is expected to 'help' him?

Are VPs voted for now?

Is there an electoral law stopping women from competing in Nigeria?

I remember Presidental candidates such as Sarah Jubril who had about 4 votes, Madam Fresh etc.

Did anyone stop them?

They keep infantilizing women like we can determine to do something and do it.

They need to 'support us', 'let us', 'help us' etc.

Sheesh!

EgunMogaji2:
I’ve never worked a weekend shift that I didn’t either volunteer for or took the job specifically.

You really can’t compare the value of money for eating like that.

Let’s break it down.

Any Nigerian can open a bukateria. No health inspection, no insurance, no employee welfare, employment development program, safety programs like OSHA. So yeah you can just pop in to Dugbe market in the morning and sell shawarma in the evening. Overhead is cheap.

In the USA you’ll be in bed with the authorities to satisfy all health, safety and insurance requirements.

Insurance is based on age, credit rating, location and risk factors. A married career accountant will pay less than a single bungee jumping hobbyist.

Anyways it’s the personal point of view of one person.

All that being said, “I” am living my best life in Nigeria. As I’ve stated before, the real MVP are those that have never traveled out but are still making serious legit coin in Nigeria.

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Please note that I did not encourage anyone not to travel out. We have open borders and embassies litter Nigeria.

@bold

Indeed, they are the real MVPs.

Including those who send their kids to the US/UK/Canada and fund them from Nigeria.

mariahAngel:
I like Ruth Kadiri very much.

There's something about her that makes me feel she's a good and confident woman.
She's not too conscious of her looks. I feel she's very comfortable in her skin.

There is something about her that makes her seem different in a good way.

Stephenomozzy:
Are you a virgin?

Btw, virginity does not always validate sexual self-control. To some, it's just a lack of identity.

While I'm not trying to speak against virginity.. I'm coming from the angle of the op fixating on the "how I lost my virginity" story from the prospects he's made

Whether I am a virgin or not is outside the scope of this thread.

Virginity would always be a sign of sexual self-control to me which is a hallmark of character. I am not saying sexual self-control is all there is to a wife or husband. Same person might lack financial self-control or self-control in food etc.

If you don't see anything wrong in lying how one got disflowered especially when not solicited, I, the OP and some others do.

The OP has not even said he wants to marry a virgin (also not bad); he wants ladies to be truthful (IF they decide to divulge).

That is not to say some ladies were not raped (I even have a thread on that): but to claim cock and bull stories like our Government feed us is playing on the person's intelligence.

ebuka77:
because it is the right thing to do

Hope you have fasted, prayed and groaned for Buhari, your state Governor, senators, LG Chairman, Councilors, traditional rulers, parents, spouses, kids, siblings, bosses, subordinates, neighbors, friends, enemies, frenemies, etc etc. before thinking of Trump IF you are not in the US.

Or are you the Angel from Africa they are expecting

Mummiesgirls4:
Having 4 kids doesn’t mean I should die single , if other people that have 4 or more babies than me are finding love why can’t I? I am still young and I deserved better things too , having 4 kids will not stop me . Yes if we get married I will have three more kids like we have planned

Madam,

Permit me to laugh

virtual7:
Is it possible to go somewhere with a group of people and then get raped, and still go ahead and date the rapist knowing fully well he did it?
Tales some girls tell for losing virginity, I'm tired.
Getting a good wife is giving me tough time

I wonder why they have to keep cooking up STORIES?

If you can do the crime, do the time.

I had other relationships before I met you should be a good intro.

The amusing ones are those who claim to be virgins when they are not and intend to sleep with/marry the man.

Is it not foolishness?

Stephenomozzy:
Are you looking for a wife or are you looking a for a woman with a plausible "lose your virginity story"?

There's more to getting a good wife than meeting her a virgin. Does she have self-identity/worth? Patience? Understanding? Forgiving spirit, loyalty, amongst others.

A good wife is in character, not the hymen, Mr. Man

Sexual self-control is part of good character for men and women.

faoogoke:
By a brother in
diaspora.
If you don't know how you are blessed, you will think your father's farm is worse than your friend father's farm. Do not be deceived, Nigeria is not the best country but it is a good one.

$1 is #500 and so what?
Let me elucidate from my little experience. Can anyone in USA use $1 for breakfast? No. But in Nigeria #500 will feed you for breakfast and lunch. Majority of people's monthly house rent (self contained apartment) in the USA is $1,000 and above, and that is your own 2 year's rent.

Have you ever paid for insurance before, insurance in US is $280 and that is almost #100,000 monthly.

When last did you pay monthly phone bills? I pay almost #40,000 monthly and if I don't, they are going to block my SIM. Your own MTN can be there for months without recharge.

When last did you work on Saturday and Sunday? This I do compulsorily and on regular basis.

Don't get me wrong, the USA is better than Nigeria, depending on which angle you are viewing it. Do you want to hear the truth? Many people in Nigeria live a more fulfilling life compared to their counterparts abroad. Forget about all the packaging on social media and give credit to the good life you are living.

Do you know why they always come to Nigeria and rush back quickly? Because bills are counting and elongated freedom will put their lives into jeopardy. If you, as a black, attempt to emulate the whites, they will kneel on your neck. Apart from Congo, no citizens in the entire universe enjoy life to the fullest than Nigerians.

You are abundantly blessed but you don't know until you get visa and relocate to abroad, that is when you will know that your 8hrs job in Nigeria with free weekend is awoof. With 8hrs job abroad, you can only pay bills, you will need another 6 to 8 hours to save for the future and plan your life.

The truth is that the grass is green everywhere, it's lack of vision by our politicians and the skewed religious practices (which placed emphasis on miracles) that ascended Nigeria onto a myopic tentacle of complete inertia.

It is misleading to translate $1 = N500 Yada Yada.

How easy is it to make $1? What are the opportunities of making the $1? What is the cost/standard of living in relation to ease of making money?

For instance, things were very cheap in Abacha's time. However, to make the money was hell.

It is relatively easy to make money in Lagos; however cost of living is high.

If I earn N500k monthly in Lagos and N250k monthly in Ibadan, I would live a better life at Ibadan.

You are committing the same error as people who say a cleaner earns $12/hr (N6k/hr) as a cleaner therefore, US is paradise.

Again, different values matter to different people. Fulfillment means different things to different people.

Anyways, your thread would hopefully get people who want to travel out or return back to Nigeria thinking.

ademijuwonlo:
My interpretation of the cover picture is "a prostitute and her P.I.M.P".
They do not look like lovers at all...

Make that 'Prostitute and ex - P.I.M.P'

Acidosis:
The mods sef. Laycon has moved on from BBN sh!TS and fights.

Promote his career and leave banters for disqualified housemates. His EP hit over 10 million streams yesterday and no mod helped in pushing the thread to the front-page. Few days back, he signed a multimillion naira deal with Oppo and we didn't see any of these on the front-page

How does meeting Hell-rica or Mercy help anyone??

You are a serious fan o!

emeijeh:
Come and see American wonder,
Come and see American wonder



Since you no want husband from Bamako, say na Baltimore already made you need, enjoy your hubby

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Baltimore already made?

Liposure:
SHOCKED AT FIRST SIGHT

Funny comedy

Even a movie would not be so 'nonsensical'

yaksdavirus:
Hustle ooo, make u for no dey attend small pikin birthday

If Wizkid invites David for the birthday party of his last child, he would not attend because 'he has hustled'?

Happy birthday Ifeanyi, God bless you.

Now, this is very hilarious!

Watched:

She said 'angelic forces from Africa'

Who is the guy walking behind her?

Still hilarious though.

sinaj:
He should close his eyes to what she is doing while his own career goes down the drain?

I think your signature is the best answer here:

FEAR GOD!

Is Trump a Christian or he has some conservative values?

TATALoAlaMu:
Fundamental Human Right. In saner climes this guy could win a lawsuit.

So in 'saner climes', you walk up to a pastor without receipt and request for donations made over an 18 year period?

Odiegwu!

gare2510:
Must one have a joint account with spouse; is it a proof of trust in marriage?

Is trust automatic or is it built with time?

Must one have a joint account? No
Is it a proof of trust? Yes
Is the trust automatic or built with time? Built with time.

You would not start a relationship today and operate JA today.

Over time, you have confirmed the person is
1. Trustworthy
2. Transparent
3. Has same financial goals/Outlook
4. Is content
5. Has integrity

There are also types of JA
1. An actual JA is opened with the two as signatories (either A/B or A & B)
2. All income is sent to one account and disbursed from there. Both parties have access to the ATM of the account.

2 works better if the monies is sent to the wife's account because she runs the home.

The person holding the money is automatically the finance minister. Draws the budget, knows what the family can afford, do the financial engineering and planning to ensure the family is financially sound. The finance minister also shares the monthly budget with the other party and they review together.

There would be personal allowances and recurring expenditures factored in.

ahnie:
I met one some days ago... she's a mother of two from two different dicks.
She's currently co-habiting with her new catch who's a single father from two women.

She's even planning to birth another kid for her new catch who recently lost his job.
She isn't even up to 20 yrs yet.

It's a funny world.

Is this Africa Magic or Life Magic?

Or has Child Support started paying in Nigeria?

thorpido:
Why are you taking money from the man and you don't love him?
Na the man dey mumu himself sha.You should be able to tell when a girl is wasting your time.

@Bold:

This is gold.

If a man cannot discern when a woman is gold digging, it is his loss.

angelfallz:
RE.... means it has been deleted?

Can you tell what the topic was?

Zzor:
The insults have started coming in,i don't want to fight anyone again

Young woman,

You have to learn to stand for what you believe in

Not everyone would agree with you.

And like an E-Aunty told me, you don't have to E-fight anyone that comes to your thread to say nonsense.

Ignore them and engage those you feel like.

If you were offline and people tried to bully you for your beliefs, would you backtrack to please them?

angelfallz:
i can still see the topic.

It is RE....

Now I need a Igbo traditional wedding to attend

Happy married life to your cousin.

@Zzor, why did you delete the topic?