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GboyegaD:
Don't you think such helps. It is easier when you know the personality of whom you are advising of that information is available

intruder15:
She isn't.

Subsequently, try reading from the horse's mouth. Her screenshots are there to read. Not what the writer extracted and wrote.

If we learn to read the content and not the subject and surface message, Nigeria will be a better place because we will be guided accordingly.

crackhaus:
Kai, wahala for who go land inside relationship with a needy woman.

Provide emotional security, provide financial security, provide sexual satisfaction, provide orgasm, be a comedian, make her happy all the time, support her inside kitchen, massage her body and feet... Jesu

The guy's ONLY concern should be his son, there's nothing to salvage between him and that woman. All that talk I've been reading on the thread about him trying to make amends with her na just fabu.

You can't keep a person who does not want to stay, it NEVER works... and even if it does, she would have gained more power to misbehave in the future knowing that he will always come crawling and begging her not to leave.

@OP, please find a way to retain connection with your son however way you can. He's your son, you follow born am and you don't need to beg her to have access to him...you simply DON'T.
Her only grace here is the distance between both of you and the fact that she knows all you care about is your son (which is not a bad thing at all), so she will use all this to torment you – it's what they usually do, but don't let it get to you.

If you have family in Nigeria, let them hold the fort for you and keep in touch with your child on your behalf.

Anything that makes you still go ahead to marry this particular lady after all this, then it will be clear that village people are really on your case.


Ohh wonderful, your brain is still in form...

Broken2020:
Doesn’t that assures any woman ? My documents is with her, which has my name and my son’s name

GboyegaD:
In all these, I'm more concerned about your real moniker as that would help give more details to the story and guide in giving advice.

Broken2020:
I am losing access to my son, all I have worked for is about to crash before me. My baby mama’s friend has dealt a hard blow on my relationship.

Don’t mind my grammatical errors pls

I and my baby had issues last week, only for her to tell me she is not interested anymore, I was shocked because that’s not her, even if I threatened her with a breakup she will tell me I’ll die with you, but this time she said it’s over and she is serious , I have never called anyone into our issues since we have been together but this time I had to tell my younger sister who is married to help me talk to her, she sworn to my sister that she will come back to me only if her mum comes from the grave. My sister called to tell me what she said, my sister advised me to inform my dad since her mind is made up, I don’t want to do that yet.

This girl lacks nothing, am not in Nigeria but I provide everything for her and my son, my son attends one of the best schools in Amuwo Odofin, I bought her a car on her birthday in 2018.

I didn’t sleep all night, I called her around 3AM this morning we spoke till 9AM while talking to her, her friend came to her bedroom telling her to hang up. I asked who was that she said her friend, I asked to talk to her and her friend boldly told me she advised her to quit because I can’t hold her down for that long without even proposing to her, I have been away for 2 years, will I throw a ring to her? They applied for visa twice last year they were denied, I was suppose to visit them this year but I can’t leave here due to the pandemic.

She is a product of a broken marriage so am I, I don’t wish that for my son at all, I have gone to see her dad, her mom is late, she is an only child, I personally took care of her mom till she died, i single handily cover her funeral expenses, including taking care of her aunts and uncles that went for the funeral in delta state since she could not make it to Nigeria at that time.

I met this girl on Facebook in 2014, two months later she joined me abroad. We had my son in 2015 though I wasn’t ready at that time but her mom insisted her daughter won’t abort I told my mom and she insisted I allow her have the baby.

Our wedding was suppose to be in 2017 but because of the disagreement between her dad and her mom’s family my dad insisted I hold on till they are ready. She only met this friend of hers when we got back to Nigeria.

My only crime is I call her too much, I told her she is getting too big, she called it body shaming. I have cried my eyes out.

She refused to go stay in my house in Benin, I pay 750k yearly for their rent in Lagos, their monthly upkeep is 200k, i have never complained till 2 weeks ago when I sent her 120k after two days I wanted her to help me send someone 12k she said she had 10k left, I got mad and told her how much is minimum wage, families still live on it.

Please I need advice, I just look at my son and cry because I know what I went through growing up with my dad and stepmom.

Carchoice:
I have been deceiving myself all along. I used to think having a baby mama is better than marriage. They are both the same with different but same problem.

ignis:
Can they shoot?

tobechi74:
Your oga is a psychologist

crackhaus:
LOL...

You even have the patience to explain something so glaring.

lexy2014:
My brother, ur wisdom is overflowing like a fountain. D so called mother thinks she is modern. She thinks it's d job of d teacher to teach d child everything that he/she should no about life

MhisTahrah:
Why are you shifting goalpost?The issue here is that mothers are portrayed as dependants in a kiddies book.

Plead:
You don't seem to understand the point she's trying to make. She didn't say washing/cleaning and cooking is bad or discourage anyone from practicing patriarchy.
The teacher said fathers provide while mothers assist by cooking and cleaning, what the fvck? In 2020 or 1970? She's trying to say women do other things other than those shits that she mentioned, infact some women are even breadwinners in their homes.
You get now?
By the way, what the fvck does she intend to achieve by saying mothers assist by washing and cooking? Teachings like that will make the young man grow up to have the mentality of "women belong to the kitchen or cooking is meant for women".

Plead:
This is where patriarchy begins from. Most of the men that see their wives as second class beings began this way.
While I agree with you that children learn more from what they see their parents doing at home it's not good to be teaching this kinda stuff in this modern age. We have evolved.

Plead:
Yeah

Cantonese:
Your judgement is completely one sided.

You did not hear from the man's family. You did not hear from her how she related with her inlaws. You did not hear from her if she encouraged the man to cut off his family? You do not even know whether she charmed the man into marriage with her. Don't forget that some women get juju to make men marry them?

The woman said in her statement that she travelled to be with her mum when her husband was in crisis. That's very sad to hear. Who did she abandon the man for? The siblings obviously covered up for her when she travelled as her children were too young to play the role. I take it that there was no good relationship between her and her inlaws for 13 years and they cut her off in their pain.

The woman then turned sentimental and has tried to blackmail the Igbos. If she married a fellow Yoruba would that not have happened to her? The Yorubas are known to battle it to the last over properties of their deceased sons.

It is very important for women to have good relationships with their inlaws. Do not wish your husband's mother to die. Do not wish to marry a man without a mother. Do not stop a man from relating with his family, especially if the man comes from a united and peaceful home. Do not carry the war in your own father's house to your husband's home. Try to make good friendships with two or more of your husband's people. In the sad case of a loss or battle for properties, your friend's within your husband's siblings will fight for you.

Yorubas prefer to marry Igbo men because they feel better taken care of. You may verify that. Please erase your sentiments and let's all live in peace.

Freelane33:
The title of your situationship is called ... WEDIEHERE..

Adakintroy:
Lol rich people are rather funny. I will write a book about it. Rich people are rather funny.

They though it was a trend bug. Some who supported it never quite articulate the meaning.

There are many points of intersection With this. religiouse, economical, social/ cultural political.

If you had pick polictical you could have miss economical. And if you had pick social reforms you may have miss the religiouse.apart from economical, we are at craddle with all institutions.

It could be the economic disparity guys that got her. While she was thinking of police social reforms. Blind sided#

The rich don't understand that part of the issues are hunger. Honestly they don't.

But then again..many are recently " woke"

Lambarry1:
Abeg go and rebuild ...you have the money...when a tsunami occurs it wipes away everything on it's way. Count your losses and bless God you were not consumed in the attack. So drink water and swallow your siliva. The boys are deprived hungry and angry. For once your elites should feel the deprivation and pains the masses have been feeling for years. Maybe and only maybe the rich will start feeling sensitive to the plight of the poor. For me I support the destruction and vandalization 100 %

GreaterFuture:
What do mere Mortals know, smh
Ilé aiyé ilé asán!

caprini1:
Exodus 22:18.... Thou shall not suffer a witch to live.

Most politicians are witches n wizards.

crackhaus:


The entire story doesn't seem real if you observe carefully, too contrived...

Vyolet:
There is nothing we wouldn't read here.
Anyways, thank your star he stole it for his mother, what if he had stolen it for his side chick, yes some men are more than capable.