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crackhaus:
Lol, what did older men ever do to you?

Since we are talking about 'older' people, allow me to use this opportunity to wish you a Happy Super Duper Born-day

It's about time you removed that personal text on your profile, it's been two years dammnit

iJoke iJoke...

Do have a good one, cheerios...

Thanks a lot crackhaus . Shades of purple are my favorite nail polish colours

If I add a 's', it would serve me for eight more years

Older men: they don't fit my idea of what a marriage should be.

Omoluabi16:
Happy birthday our beloved bukatyne. I'm sure you're still rocking. cheerz maam.

Thanks a lot, God bless you.

Still rocking

Zzor:
mine is Max InDhouse,fa ti,virginpr incess,is hilove,do rin,bukatyne,petty rincess,lefulebfu,zexy 2030,drfubnmisticglo,pc guru,ch i5,LA dy poco,MA riangeles,bigli ttlelois,mr ja xxy,chain ent,Acho rlerday,f ake we althy P astor joh nw47 etc

Thanks Zzor.

Monchadam:
The dish in your profile is crazy beautiful, I wont lie ma'am

Crazy beautiful, I like the word combo.

Thanks

Yungpato23:
A 49-year-old city s3x worker has decided to retire from the trade. Sarah Mutero pulled the curtain to a trade she thrived in for many years.

After calling it quits, Mutero received a parcel of land worth Sh120,000 in Makuyu, Murang’a County. Some well-wishers have also promised to pool funds to build her a house after she ditched the trade.

For 22 years Mutero had been a s3x worker, having serviced hundreds of men at her hometown of Embu, Nairobi city centre and in Majengo area.

She claimed she would service 20 or more men in a day in her younger years. But as age set in, hard economic times and stiff competition she could manage four customers daily. This means an average of 100 per month and for 22 years she took care of over 28,000 men.

“It is not an easy thing to satisfying such a big number of men, some being ruthless, yet we end up poor. We earn peanuts that we can’t even save. Everything I have earned in servicing needy men went to clothes, shelter and food for my children as well as education,” she said.
In s3x business, pricing is determined by standards and location. In villages, Majengo and places like that, a session popularly called “shot” goes for Sh100. In the city centre it costs Sh200 and higher in upmarket areas.

In Majengo, s3x workers rent the mud houses for Sh4,500 per month and have to close business at 11pm. She was among sellers who spent the night there while others with young children or those whose husbands are not aware what they do for living go home early.

In the s3x business, she said, some morals are thrown out of the window if one is to make good money.

“If a shot is Sh100 how many men do you have to sleep with to make ends meet? Many. That is why we don’t disregard customers as far as they can pay and are above 18 years. Though I am old, young men prefer me because we treat them well, and if they are beginners we show them how to put on condoms and do enjoyable s3x. My clients are aged between 18 and 35 years,”she revealed.

@Bold:

Interesting.

Was it as a form of encouragement for quitting, or retirement party for a job well done?

Hopefully, the funds and land goes into profitable ventures so she doesn't go back to her vomit.

mariahAngel:
Well, it was funny to me because you were low-key pissed and venting in that comment.

I don't like cheating of any type jare.

solonubinho:
So it's being emotionally detached that will save her and her offspring from danger. Guy better leave this rubbish you're writing and go and #EndSARS now.

crackhaus:
I just felt like including them abeg...

Since they went to settle fight involving senseless people, there's a good chance they have contracted senselessness from them.

Hahahahahahaha!

It is well.

mariahAngel:


I couldn't decide the particular line that was more hilarious

I actually find nothing funny in my post.

Considering my belief of what a wife is and her responsibilities in her husband's life, I will also push for her rights.

If that wife was a wife to the deceased, he did not do right by her at all.

And things like this is one of the reasons wives do not want to support their husbands.

Even the Bible is against reaping where you did not sow.

Except you think opening legs for 5 mins and birthing a child is more 'work' than being a man's wife for 10 years.

Wolgrace:
This is where I feel sad anytime I remember my mentress Obi Ezekwesili.. APC tricked, got, and stained her..

-Aisha Yesufu have been lured with money, appointment, contract, influential link, religious opium, etc.. yet she remained adamant to her just cause..

May God strengthen her to end without deviating because promulgating and elevating the just cause requires a total separation..

Amen.

crackhaus:
And this is really all that matters...

What is right and what is wrong following the above courses of action taken by the dead man and also by the grieving wife he left behind, is now a non-issue after the fact.

If this was a situation where the man had no will and there was this type of commotion, then we for help dem settle the matter.

But as it is now, everything that is happening as stated in the story, simply boils down to goodwill – it's no more a case of what should/must happen, or what should/must be done.
If babymama and her son don't want to send money to the man's late parents, it's well within their rights... senseless decision, but still within their rights.

Assuming the dead man had any sense in the first place, he would have made provisions for his aged parents in his will... And assuming his aged parents had any sense, they would have had tried to have a good relationship with their grandson all through the years despite the fact their son wasn't married to his mother.

There's really no big issue here...
What we have is just a family made up of very senseless people – from the dead man to the baby mama to the aged parents, all senseless. The security men, probably senseless too.

Fuji House of Senselessness.

What did the Security men do to you na?

Like Justin Timberlake said, 'what goes around comes around.'

MhisTahrah:
The op's last sentence shows that she doesn't support how he abandoned his kid.So because he's now dead, I can't criticize his action but you definitely didn't take that into consideration when you just about said he wronged his wife.He was wrong for abandoning his kid for 24good years.

And have I stated anyway on this thread that I 'support' the man?

And yes, on face value, the wife is the wronged party as regards the sharing of properties.

We can now dig to find out if she has comparable wealth, if she built with the husband, etc etc however, we only have the OP's eavesdropping to go by. (just teasing).

Anyways, the man owns the property and can dispense as he deems fit.

We shouldn't be too worried when wives decide too compete with their husbands instead of joining hands for them to build an empire.

Who knows, the husband might have a child lurking somewhere he wills everything to in future.

RightToReject:
Your assertion that Igbos do value a child more than a wife isn't true. Assuming that the dead man in this story is an Igbo man, his action - whether good or bad - doesn't represent what the entirety of other Igbo men can do, because there isn't a centralized Igbo culture in this instance.

Another Igbo man in his stead might have willed all/lesser/bigger percentage of the wealth to the wife, regardless of the fact that she didn't bear a child, depending on his ethical leanings and what the wife means to him.

Another scenario could be that they're running individual financial races, so in this instance, the wife has all her own properties in her name and same with him.
Therefore, it would've been both illogical and inhumane if he had willed a major part of his estate to the wife, who's likely going to remarry, than to his son who'll sustain the family tree.

Most of these things aren't one size fits all instead they're usually done based on their individual merits. Where culture is just, it's has never been about how the dead did their things; rather, it's always been about how the living chooses to do their things.

@bold:

I am talking about Yorubas.

Personally, I would prefer a fair system where everyone is taken into consideration.

MhisTahrah:
Neither did I say he should have given the son he abandoned almost all his wealth.

Neither have I seen you condemn his action(abandoning his kid).

Condemn a dead man that he abandoned his child when he was a teen?

Is that the premise of this OP?

PinkPill:

Open your mouth na.

My guess is right.

Which is why is it funny when Igbos compare inheritance system with Yorubas or cite Yoruba men willing properties and lands to daughters as an example.

Yoruba does not have a 'oriaku' system of marriage. A child (irrespective of the source) is valued more than a wife. So that a prostitute with a child (proven to be the husband's and accepted) has more 'standing' in the family than a legally married wife without a child.

Notice how the man's family doesn't contest the son's right to inherit or bring him mother in: they would be content if she extends her benevolence to them.

The wife's regime has passed.

MhisTahrah:
So the wife is the only wronged party?Abandoning your child as a pregnancy till he grew to be a 24year old man is not wrong bah?

And don't even try to bring any tribal slurs into this.

I am Yoruba so no tribal slurs. I can state the fact

And somehow, giving a son he met a year ago 80% of his wealth (and by extension his baby mama) is OK with you? Or did I say he should not give his son anything?

The wife might have even given him seed money to start building his wealth sef.

Hmmmmmm

The wife who is really the wronged party has moved on.

Others should follow the man's will and do same.

Apparently, a child was the man's utmost reason for marrying that's why he valued his child he met last year over a marriage of 10 years. It is possible he would have left the child if he had kids in his marriage.

@Baby mama: sofry sofry.

P. S.: Is the man a Yoruba man?

Candycrushy:
You just said my mind, the movie came to my mind immediately I saw the post

Daddy might have adopted that plot.

Nice movie, loved the chemistry between them.

angelfallz:
why what exactly?

Questions was to Zzor

Zzor:
You are obviously enjoying your marriage from your comments,maybe you married an elderly man.

Elderly kwa?

Can't stand older men.

Zzor:
you are always on point.My regards to your husband,hes really treating you well.

Hahahahahahahaha, thanks, he will hear. Am I permitted to ask why?

@thorpido and @Angelfallz

Thanks.

angelfallz:
I have always advocated for the normal married life. That is, a marriage where the man works and the wife stays at home. No other arrangement beats it.
However, we live in a different era, that is why i also advocate that men who want to live the normal married life should go after women that are not career oriented and vice-versa.

Having a normal marriage has its advantages(the OP's story proves that), but it also has it disadvantages
Having a a career oriented wife has it advantages, but it also has it disadvantages(the OP's story proves that)

So, as you make your choice as a man, be aware of the advantage and disadvantage of that choice.

**ATTENTION!!**
i used 'normal' married life instead of 'traditional' married life because i feel using the word tradition makes it seem like an old way of life.

Interesting.

So how do you handle a woman's ambitions and aspirations?

What do you think about a girl going to the university? Do you think some courses such be restricted for them?

pcguru1:
It's hard to care for a fictional character, i meant i don't care if he wants to cheat but let it not be a filmsy reason, what ever happened to cheating for cheating sake

FTBoi:
...and it was a blissful night full of e.rotic fantasies for kunle and Julia, as they had a carefree series of sexual bouts.......switching styles from missionary to spoon, doggy, cow.girl, reverse cow.girl and leg-over. Julia's moans could be heard from 3 miles away as she couldn't suppress the ecstasy following her multiple orgasms. her pvssy was so wet it made a loud, slurping sound each time tunde thrusted his 9-inch black mamba in her.

"fvck me in the ass!" julia suddenly interjected.

kunle grimaced a little. 'so dis babe don spoil like dis?' he thought.

"what are you waiting for?" julia yelled impatiently.

"a little lubrication would be fine. you got vaseline?"

"you don't need that!" she retorted. then she spat a messy lump of saliva in her palm and robbed it on her asshole. "There you go!"

gently, kunle slid his hot-throbbing black kondo in julia's ass. he was shocked it went all in smoothly, against his former belief that anal sex was a tough job. he let out a devilish smile. 'it's going to be a long night', he
thought.

meanwhile, Jane just woke up from a short sleep after work. she checked the time.....it was 9:25pm. her husband was not back yet. she sat on the sofa, thinking what could have gone wrong...
a soft knock on the door promptly brought her back.

"at last!" she sighed. "hold on...i'm coming". then she turned the knob.

"gud eveninu, madamu." it was mazi ndukwe, the neighbour living at the opposite flat. he stood there, smiling sheepishly. jane's wary eyes quickly scanned him. he was tying just a white towel, half-n.aked. she flinched a little when she saw the bulging outline of his erected dick. the sight resurrected an old, strange feeling of wild passions in her.

'kunle is not this big!' she thought..
"c-c-can you c-come in? " she stammered. "i can offer you some cold beer."

"ofu corsu madamu. i willi come in ozugbo ozugbo," said mazi ndukwe, grinning even more sheepishly as he made his way into the living room.

"please take your seat and make yourself comfortable."
then she muttered "it's going to be a long night.."

....to be continued..

Kii re?

JOBgame:
planning to get married at 22 rigth or wrong

Early marriage is admirable.

However, you don't wake up 21 and decide to marry at 22, you should have carefully developed yourself financially, emotionally and spiritually over the years to be able to lead a home.

Unfortunately, in Nigeria of today, that would be a rare sight to see. The guys who would have gathered such knowledge at a very young age (by saddling financial responsibilities) are usually tinted with hardness and bitterness from hardship.

I would say 25 - 26 for men who want to marry early.

Finish schooling, get a job and navigate office politics a bit before venturing into marriage.

StarScream95:
Every single one of you bloody humans are hypocrites, you'll always defend what's favourable to you, hear wtf guys are saying and don't get me started about what girls will say if it was the other way round.
I hate human beings

Eleyi le gidigan

angelfallz:
its not because of bride price. in countries like the USA where men don't pay bride price, don't the men still cheat?

When I see 'it's because of bride price', I wonder.

Indians pay dowry yet their men are not much different from 'Nigerian' men.

angelfallz:
Nice side stepping.

This thread is strangely providing comic relief despite its subject.

Theslumflower:
I will forever advice women to make their own money and be independent. Let your husband know you can do three times what he does when it comes to money.

From the above comments and ones from the thread, it's all about finances. Kill that financial gap and see how everything changes. They won't try it if they respect you because they know you will 100% thrive on your own and this is 21st century, there are hundreds of learned men who will marry a good, hardworking, pretty divorcee lady. Don't let Nairaland fool you.

As of the one up talking about bride price. Nobody forced you to pay. That one concern you and her kinsmen. Funny enough, how much wey you pay sef

Women have so much power. Some just haven't realized it yet, which is sad.

I've seen women that their hubby cheat on their faces and they won't say or do nothing SMH, thereby aiding the act. Definition of giving yourself no singlee value as a lady

Be a financially free woman from your husband and see how things turn around. Like they say, money stops nonsense.

How many 'financially independent' women would leave cheating husbands?

raphretle:
Ladies And Gentlemen

Often I take a screenshot of some Comments here on Nairaland..
My New Girl Saw this Particular Pic in my Phone Since then She has been Very strict when it comes to Accessing the Other Room..
I told her It was just a Comment but she wouldn't take that.. Told me its because I share in those ideologies that's why I saved it...
Please Is there Any Way to Explain to Her that those aren't My Views??

My wonder is why she is still with you if she doesn't agree with the screenshot, you are not making efforts to delete it nor is she convinced with your explanation.

You both keep playing games.