₦airaland Forum

Unserious:
He is not my kid!

OluwasureGig:
Hi nairalanders, I know the world is battling coronavirus and I probably shouldn't be talking about this at the moment but I could use your advice just incase we all survive this pandemic that has so bedeviled us.

I'm a young man in my mid-twenties and by this time last year I was broke and had a very poor account balance but by the Grace of God things are different now. My business is booming and I'm balling. Now I'm the type of guy that likes to look good and smell nice always, and this might just have proven to be my Achilles heel

It happens that there's this extremely beautiful girl I've been crushing on in church and I finally made my move this Sunday. We got talking and exchanged numbers. Now this girl is like my dream girl; she's very very beautiful facially, tall, has a fat ass, perky boobs, flat stomach and very straight legs. She basically looks like them models we see on IG

The problem is I asked her out and she said she can't date me because she thinks that I'm "too clean" and would therefore cheat on her as a result. I've tried all I can to make her change her perception but she is not coming along. Please what do I do or say to this girl to make her date and marry me because I've already sworn that she'll be my last bus stop in the dating world.

Please your advice will be duely appreciated. Thanks

christm386:
Check me out, I will take u through the journey, am traveling to Onitsha, chai na alcohol i use do sanitizer.

Kuginzi:
I don't support most of Buhari's action. All I want u to Know is, there's difference between constructive criticism and sentimental criticism. I personally criticize Buhari on some pressing issues but I don't hate him. But u guys Hate him to d extent of wishing him death. I heard some wailers wishing him Corona virus infection. They said, "wish for others what u wish for yourself"

idealogical:
I didn't call you that, unless something inside you called you that.

Mizwisdom:
You've broadened my scope on this issue. Thanks

idealogical:
I guess the sky is not blue too..

Mizwisdom:
I'm not doubting you but what do you think is the reason for such a foolhardy behavior? I truely can't figure it out

Kuginzi:
You should be ashamed of yourself for hating Person just because he's not your tribe, ethnic group, religion & political party. You need Heavy Deliverance!!

joelbooks:
President Buhari Received Briefing from Health Minister and DG NCDC


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jbA9dlRPAOI

urcutecrush:
Good men cheat in Nigeria.Men that will go to any length to get the best for their family.

Sending their children to the best schools and always getting the best for their wives.
They still cheat.

Will she leave a man who does everything for his family but his only vice is cheating? He is a good father as well.

If she leave who will pay the school fees?the house rent?the foodstuff?the toys?light bills?Transportation?

Will the family let her go with the children?If she leave her children they will definitely grow up hating her.

I am not exposed to the worst but am telling you why it is not always easy to leave.

Good people change too.

LilMissFavvy:
Too bad, I laugh at women who condemn feminism. Some of them need a brain check, the wife of this man most likely could be one of those ladies who mock the feminism movement, shame, now she is having a taste of the pudding, which most of the evilllll blackkkk men have to offer in marriages.

Gradually, the tables will definitely turn, IT IS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME!

Mizwisdom:
If someone throws a blow in your face your reflex should make you dodge only an idiot will expose his face to be hit by it. It seems the woman in question has decided to deliberately make herself a victim. You don't enter a marriage without discussing these things. It's highly important for every woman to have a means of income, you don't sit and rely on a man's own 100%, that's where part of the problem is starting from. Secondly, as her husband has chosen to be a public Dog what is she doing to protect herself so that she can live long to take care of those kids? hope she has stopped all sexual relationship with him or at least ensures he uses a condom? if she's empowered she can seek solace in her family's house, it's better than being infected with a disease that might lead to her death

crackkhaus:
He who pays the piper dictates the tune...

Tripitaka:
Feminism, feminist? What does that even mean? I'm not sure I ever used that word. In fact, it doesn't form part of my vocabulary.

I'm also not for the emasculation of the man nor for the whittling down of the authority of the patriarchy, but I'm certainly against poisonous patriachy. Nature has put the man in a position of authority, but this must be dispensed within the bounds of wisdom, common sense and great sense of responsibility. After all, to whom much is given, much is expected.

There has been so much focus on female marginalization, inequality, rights, societal rejection, sexual harassment and discrimination, with all pointing to the larger society, while everyone conveniently ignores the "carnage" going on in Nigerian homes and families where the wife is practically a second class citizen.


Today, an event took place that opened my eyes to how rotten the mind of an average Nigerian man has become. A female relative called a family meeting on her husband. At the meeting she revealed that the man is a serial cheat and grossly irresponsible. She tabled how He refuses to spend time with the kids but can stay out with friends till 11pm, how He won't let her keep friends nor join associations but he has membership of 4 different clubs, how he wants unfettered access to her phone while his own phone is on face recognition. This same man didn't let her pursue an M.Sc, because he believed she would become recalcitrant and refuse to do his bidding. In his defense, the man said he adequately provides for the family and the woman should focus on raising "her" kids and not his whereabouts. According to him, as long as he provides for the family, nothing else matters. But he forgets that the cardinal role of a patriarch is "provide and protect". Protection not just against physical harm and aggression, but also against ridicule, reproach and shame from your actions and inactions. One even accused the woman of embarrassing the husband by calling for that meeting.

Then I wondered what would happen if the woman did a fraction of what she had accused the man of doing. Would people's opinion remain constant? Mind you, at this meeting of 5 men, only 1 condemned the man's infidelity, albeit in passing. One man even loudly wondered whether the wife thought the man will be sleeping with just her simply because he is married.

A man once told me "If I cheat and my wife finds out, she can go. If my wife cheats and I find out, she will go". This powerful but disgraceful statement, puts in perspective, the unenviable position of an average Nigerian wife. Helpless and ridiculed.

One would easily say "walk away", only if it was that easy in a society where the odds are stacked against her by default, where marital rape is not recognised because the man owns the woman, where a woman's honour is hugely dependent on her silence and complicity, a society where marital abuse is rationalised because the man has the right to "discipline" the wife.

In my next life, if I must be an African, I hope i don't return as a woman.

dominique:
You mean Nigerian government is the cause of this much casualty in the US?

Sexytincoll:
Not a man's thing but this womans story has given reasons for the men to buttress their point on the sex before marriage thingy

crackkhaus:
Just like sexual abstinence until marriage is good and true, polygamy in marriage is also good and true.

Sexytincoll:
the ideas of sex after marriage

Sexytincoll:
Only men will like this,so in other words premarital sex is good as against what God said concerning it

crackkhaus:
At the end of the day and no matter how much we try to rationalize our morally decadent psyche using what-ifs and what-nots, what is good & true remains good & true for all eternity.

TheAmbasador:
be mindful how you respond to men of God, you were not there when God called them into ministry and it's not what any Government can accertain as it's a spiritual assignment....but don't bring God's wrath upon yourself by talking down or ridicule men of God, weather fake or real, you're not God's lawyer or judge....leave them to God and do your part to be a responsible citizen and also be right with God so you don't miss the rapture...

PrettyCiarahFB:
USA has over 200,000 ventilators and they said they are not well prepared for covid19.

Nigeria has less than 500 ventilators and they claim they can handle the covid19.

UK govt just ordered extra 10,000 ventilators.
Nigerian senators are busy buying cars.

gowonmaharajah:
no matter how nairalanders support this imam guy,just know one thing for sure.
he's indirectly heaping insults on us all,NIGERIANS!!!

AmTruth:
As far as some people have decided to make President Buhari their WORRIES in life.
God will continue to increase President Buhari days of life, in order to increase the worries of his haters.

God bless the President.

God bless Nigeria!!!

Headlaw:
And your President was exposed to ill health and you didn’t address that

Headlaw:
And your President was exposed to ill health and you didn’t address that