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Erediauwa:
[color=#ff9999]Happy new year to;

Dominique (My sweet paddy)
Lalasticlala
Divay22 (Ayème)
Ladyhippolyta88
Racoon (My 5 star general)
DissTroy (Boss, maximum respect)
SINZ (Odogwu himself)
Efewestern (My own blood)
Sanchez01 (Area to the world)
Bishopkay (Osè Migwo)
CAPSLOCKED
Kristinnee
Atheistandproud
roon9
TonyeBarcanista (Koyide)
Willyo
GrabHisBalls
fergie001
IamJ
bukatyne
MJBOLT
davash22
Mariangeles/MariaAngeles (Sweet)
Virgoquin
WiseandTrue
Jacqueline22
MannieA
Oyindidi
Sarrki (My political friend)
naptu2
dre11
Born2Breed
dangotesmummy
Victorian

And every active members of nairaland, I wanna wish you guy's the very best of 2020.

Continue to rest peacefully HungerBad from JASON.[/color]

Biglittlelois:
That's nice,

Happy new year to you too.

Aryafucksfinaly:
Please a friend of mine who was in a dire and critical situation borrowed 600,000 Naira from a family friend on the condition of paying back with 20% monthly interest rate. The lender asked for post-dated cheques as security in return.
After 4 months, she was able to pay back the lender's capital of 600,000 Naira. But the issue is that she had issued post-dated cheques of 480,000 Naira due to the monthly interest accrual which totalled 80%. But her situation has not improved at all so that she has not been able to pay back the interest.
The lender continued threatening to file a complaint against her to EFCC and police for issuing a dud cheque. Eventually she borrowed 150,000 Naira and paid to the lender, leaving a balance of 330,000 Naira.
Now the lender is still threatening to file a complaint against her if she doesn't pay back the remainder. And as it stands, heaven and earth, she doesn't have any money to pay back at the moment.
A friend of ours who is a lawyer has suggested writing to the lender should the police be involved, since the lender is not licensed and the interest rate being charged is in contravention to the State's money lending laws. Please is it appropriate to for my friend to consider this approach?

Please house, kindly let me know what options she has. She doesn't want to disappoint our family friend who was of assistance to her in her time of need, at the same time, she doesn't have the money to pay back at the moment.

ctleurocollege:
Thanks the idea of doing all on the same day is worth Iooking into. My budget can go up a bit more but I want to make her very comfortable after the wedding, not to exhaust our finances just for wedding celebration

TheLaughter:
I and my girlfriend have been dating for about some years now, we have been good. We have encountered ups and downs but we pulled through. We plan together and execute things together.

Recently, I indicated plans for marriage but my people didn't give consent. They said she isn't my destined partner. According to them, they have prayed, saw in prophesies and visions that she isn't the one...

I happen to speak with one of the prophetess on phone and she repeated what she told them that she is not my wife, that I should pray, that my wife will come.

I am finding it hard believing all these but at the same time I am mindful too. I have been asking myself questions if what they are saying is true. They said I will encounter all kinds of hardship if I continue and many other things the prophetess said.

I see her as God's creation too, why will God allow such happen to me just because I married someone He created too.

I don't believe all these prophesies but at the same time I just want to ask if there could be any truth in this destined partner stuff. Thanks

ctleurocollege:
My plan is to wed my girl this year. I want to do church, court and pay dowry during introduction, is this possible? Ideas on how to work on this budget is needed. Thanks in advance

Thegeneralqueen:
500k is the money for wedding grown or the food Oga go hustle money before you marry

wirinet:
Are you normal? How can you compare Melania Trump with Michelle Obama? Even Donald Trump respects Michelle more than Melania.

Teerach:
Op sorry bout ur marital situation. One or two Nigeria dad has always been in ur situation. My dad was no exception. My mom doesn't smile when it comes to cash n painted n still paint my dad pretty bad. Turning us against him. But we knew better. Lol. Everyone of us love my dad way more than her. We give him things more before we give her. Because the truth always reveals itself. Your kids won't turn against you. They may not listen to u now cos of fear of her. Don't fret cos they know what's going on.
My dad paid our fees n would give us the little he had without complaining. Mom would always nag n paint him bad. They are separated though. Money issue separated them. Just exactly as ur wife is doing. Lol. Mind you I'm a Lady. I've sworn never to thread that part n I've kept to my word cos I know what it feels like coming from a broken home.
My advice, just separate from her for the main time. Be responsible to your kids. Pick yourself again.
Ur even lucky. My dad retired n while he was waiting to be paid, she started treating him badly. Wouldn't give him food bla bla bla. He zoomed off when he collected his gratuity. But he kept check for monthly feeding because she refused to relocate with him. She goes about telling anyone who cares to listen that he didn't give her a dime which is a lie. Even now, she's financially better than him cos she didn't contribute a dime to anything that concerns him or we the kids. But as God would have it, we visit her Dec n other holidays, but my dad gets the cash from us while she gets our presence more. Every one sibling work with the mindset that she has cash so she doesn't need ours. We give our dad rather.

strungup79:
I'm not a saint, I have flaws like everybody does. When I say order I mean eg The children can't watch certain movies it's not adequate for them. Ebuka is old enough to do house chores u shouldn't be doing it for him. Why is Nneka still awake and watching TV by 10 pm when she has school tomorrow. When it has to do with her i say things like honey you know that aint right and when she insists i tell her she's free to do what she wants. Sometimes I tell her you can't be listening to certain music or watch certain movies with the kids around as it's not adequate for them. How is that wrong for Christ's sake> How can wanting the right thing done in your home be a wrong thing?

LINTUNE:
the name can help ,but it will always be her responsibility,that man will not remain in that position for once ,cos he is making effort ..

midnighter:
They have answered o, and as usual they are vomiting nonsense!

A prosperous year to you and your family!

sassysure:


It all boils down to our family system. It sets dangerous precedent and the society is reaping it in bountiful.

I just said yesterday that a man did òmùgwò 3 times for his wife and some found it strange. Which woman will become a witch overnight if u have been treating her like mate?
U don't know what happens in your kitchen except when u go there to eat.
Your wife is practically your maid and slave.
And they think women are happy with that?
It's just that women knows how to bottle it in and pretend afterall society will be cruel to her if she dare raise her voice.
U don't bath your kids. U think that bonding with them.is buying gifts and whatever.

Oh dear.

strungup79:
Everything you said is what I do. Her family only comes around when I'm out. I cook my meals myself. Whenever I can I contribute to my children's upkeep. We don't have sex again. Her control is only when it concerns her. Whenever she takes decisions concerning the children and Ifeel it is wrong, i just reverse it witout fanfare. Basically we are just co tenants with shared responsibilities.

pansophist:
I've always uphold the doctrine that men are of only practical value to women. From lifting heavy weight, fighting for her, sponsoring her, ego boost, to name a few. Men are human doing to women, while women are human beings to men. Men are nothing more than success object to most women. From an evolutionary, historically and culturall perspective, realistically, men are just a means to an end for women, and he will be discarded when he outlive his usefulness.

The kind of love women have for men is exactly the kind of love men have for their career. Men usually begin to be irritated with their career when it doesn't yield fruit as before, and will think of changing it, or irritated by it if changes are not possible. Since the poster can not fulfil his financial responsibility, he has came to experience this timeless truism, a sad realisation that is a hard pill to swallow, in this trying times.

You can either love women or understand them, you cant do both.

pocohantas:
-He doesn't have money.
-He doesn't want to do demeaning chores.
-He wants the wife to hustle for ALL the money and do demeaning chores when she gets back home tired.
-He wants to continue knacking the already tired wife with his God given big prick.

What is he?

A HUMAN DILDÔ

Only cougars want such.

Alexandre7:
Lol...

You & Nigerian Men.

But most Nigerian Women don’t appreciate gifts like flowers & chocolates.

They rather have Cash, Cold Stone, Pizza & Chicken.

So entirely unfair to place the blame squarely on Nigerian Men.

Meanwhile Happy New Year,

May this year bring you and your family good tidings.

LINTUNE:
oh christ,i see feminist everywhere..

pocohantas:
This is why broke horsebands are useless. A jobless wife would try run the home. Nigerian JOBLESS horseband? No way. He will just sit there and be expecting maximum respect for having a prick. What exactly is OP currently contributing? Nothing. Any small thing, they will say emasculating. Oya, go out and make money na



Happy new year to you too.

midnighter:
This is the crux of the entire matter.

LINTUNE:
u mean he should do domestic chores like washing plates and washing his wife pants ...anyways at least u are more human than ur friend.. ..

kr0ne:
Op, ur wrong! The Songs of Solomon is never exempted from bible teaching - maybe ur church does that. In fact, those scriptures true Christians must always read if they must abstain from things of the flesh and all other worldly attractions.
Why? It shows a dialogue of king Solomon and a "Shulammite maiden" (no name). Solomon tries all he can to seduce her, using flattering comments of her body features, offering her riches and comfort all the same. But this maid insists that she's engaged to a "fair young shepherd" (no name) and nothing on earth will make her to stop loving him.
Now the morale: Solomon was a very wealthy king with 300 wives and 700 concubines, most of his wives were of daughters of rich men. But an ordinary maid rejected him and his offers. Today, Solomon represents all sorts of enticing, yet ungodly, things of the earth. True Christians strive to resist their pressures and put their faith only in God, like the Shulammite girl to his shepherd lover

Okpa042:
My advice.


Find that babe before you blow unless e go hard find true love again

PrettyEneawan:
15 October

Biglittlelois:
October 24

daddio:
October 15th

Jodha:
This is really sad....Have yhu met her parents one on one...? If No ..I think yhu should meet them and show them yhur "ability" that yhu can take care of their daughter...and that yhu love each other so much...

If they're still adamant ..then I'm afraid there's nothing much yhu can do ..other than pray....if she's truly yhur wife...God should preserve her for yhu...

On the other hand yhur gf is a grown ass woman and the ball is totally in her court....She has to decide if she's ready to take a bold step like an adult and stick with it...
Her parents are not the one to marry her...neither are they going to stay in the marriage with her..

She's the one wearing the shoe and she should know where it's itching her from...

Just talk to her...Asin heart to heart...pray about it...and leave everything in God's hands...

If she's not yhur wife let her go...yhull find someone better...

anonymous1759:
Once believed in vision 2020 in 2000. Can't believe I'm few hours away to 2020. And things are getting worse for the country not for me though.