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fieryy:
Ah no no no no o, I think she's already married. We're just joking ni o. Let's not overdo this, lol

Happy thinking.

isyourboy:
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@ bolded, you're wrong. A lady know within the first 10mins of contact if she's gonna sleep with you or not. Girls judge a man first with his look. As a matter of fact, she'll ask you out herself if you're considerably handsome. If a woman is not giving u attention, it's a sign you're not good looking. Improve your look, and if u can't, improve ur look, then improve some other areas of ur life- women craves intelligent men , rich men , powerful men. you can use any of these to ur advantage.

No need of wooing her before u date her. Everything falls in place if u have the look

Are you talking causal relationships or real relationships leading to marriage if successful?

ahnie:
1-Build up my spiritual life.
2-open another business (noodles business)
3-Acquire a little 50 by 50 land
4-Give my husband good sex
5-Take my family(husband and kids)to exquisite places!
6_work hand in hand with my husband for steady growth of our family!

Infact 2020 z our money year.....!
Whenever I kneel down and my husband's prays for me I see super natural turnarounds...!

Hope in addition to praying, you also sing like a good headmistress.

It makes the prayers answer faster.

Amen to your prayers.

BlackDonald:
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"My Babamai..16 years and still counting, thanks for being my friend . love you always . Happy wedding anniversary to us."

Source ; https://www.instagram.com/desmondelliot/

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The last pic in the OP is very unattractive. (not showing here)

Happy Wedding Anniversary, God continually bless their home.

TonyeBarcanista:
Too many talk my Dear sister...

God's "perfect" will is that people be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth. That is why he instituted marriage! It doesn't matter whether 1, 2 or 500 wives.

However, whether a man chooses to marry or not it doesn't make the man less a believer. In fact, Apostle Paul's personal opinion is for men to stay unmarried.

As for the parable of 10 virgins (brides), I laugh! All Jesus' parables he used objects that his audience could relate with. The 10 virgins parable shows that Christ didn't see polygamy as an aberration. Otherwise, he would have addressed it!

As for the "Church", I think you have to know that the "Church" is not a building or religuous organisation like RCCG, Dunamis, Catholic metal. The Church is congregation of ALL believers. The believers are the BRIDES and Jesus the groom. We are all brides of Christ and we must be prepared for the "marriage supper of the Lamb" because the hour no one knows. The unprepared are the "five foolish virgins" while the prepared are the "five wise virgins".

Do NOTE that Jesus audience were polygamous people so they understood his position.

My whole point is that God permits man to carry on with his traditional system as long as it doesn't negates his commandments.

She you know the church is 'one body'?

SBL28:
What are your goals for the new year? I intentionally avoided using the word 'resolution' because we don abuse am tire lol.

I will go first;

1) Build the business I'm setting up with my brother (he's the financier, I'm the manager) to the best of my abilities.

2) Set up my own personal business properly and push it like crazy. No rest! #themoneyyear

3) Go out more and make new friends (at least once a month). My life is so boring right now.

4) Get laid. I deserve it and I intend to have funnnnnn!

@bold:

Pick a worthy man preferably your husband so you have same excitement you have now especially if it is your first time.

Casual sex is not fun.

midnighter:
Well the guy already gave her this one for Christmas, so I don't want her to find out what her New Year's gift will be...moreover who even knows what he's planning to wear that day, God have mercy

Chai!

Before my family think I am crazy here.

DavidEsq:
Be like say all the crase ppl for NL gather for this thread o.

As in

midnighter:
We dont have all the details but according to what youve said, youd better escape with your children to your parents or siblings. Or his own parents, if you get on well with them.

I mean you should do it before New Year. Without any announcement.

The guy is already in another galaxy; I guess you wouldnt want him to take you with him.

Hahahahahahaha!

Why before New Year? Is there a catch?

Mrsprissy:
Thank you so much everyone for your advice . Like I said earlier nothing actually happened between us before Christmas , everything was okey , on Monday December 23rd we went out shopping for Christmas after we took the kids out to the playgrounds and we ended the day with a nice dinner at the restaurant. On Christmas morning we woke up fine no arguments, he left the house and went to get his hair cut, I picked up his clothes and left it on the bed by the time he get back so he can wear them, he came back very normal on a good mood , the only time he got angry was when I asked him to go and change , I didn’t raise my voice , I only told him the clothes doesn’t look nice for the special occasion that was when he told me to keep quiet and I did. He took 1 hour just to change the T-shirt to a shirt and I wasn’t not happy but I didn’t say anything because he wasn’t in the right mood. Yes He beat me just because I have asked him to take a family picture , I swear to God I’m telling the truth and if I’m not lying because it won’t put any money to my bank account. This is the 2nd beating after 6 years of marriage , but this is one was worse than the first one. Something did happened back in October ( his fault) but we have already settle everything and went back to normal. I know it doesn’t make sense to some of you , even myself I just don’t understand why did he beat me with so much hatred when I did nothing wrong

What happened in October?

Did you cheat on him?

What happened the first time he beat you?

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[/quote][quote author=crackhaus post=85298020]1. I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

2. I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly.

After giving you the benefit of a doubt and assuming this is exactly how it happened - then your husband has definitely gone mad to react to absolutely nothing.
Please politely ask him if there is madness running in his family, make sure you ask him from a safe distance because he will surely use the nearest furniture to kill you.

Madness does not have a cure, but it can be managed.
Arrange to have him put in chains and get him on medications till everything returns to normal.

I need to leave this thread!

I have been laughing since.

I have read the OP twice and I want to blame it on spiritual attack.

Nothing else makes sense if this is the true story.

thorpido:
That must be his own way of celebrating Christmas with you.

Why na?

nlPoster:
OP are you saying it's only the side chick preventing you from sexing your husband that you want to fight and you're ok with the other 364 side chicks he uses 364 days of the year or am I not getting your post?


You're also involving religious lingo for your unrepentant husband who jumps from woman to woman unceasingly?


What is the meaning of this:

Hahahahahahaha!

Funny

At this point, man was not declared the head na.

Biglittlelois:
I agree to all you said but @emboldened, you are joking right?

I envisioned more of an alcohol fuelled party thingy not a proper sit down eat date jare.

Besides, after a few dates, a lady should know if she is interested in a guy except they are going out as friends.

@ CHoccolaTE and fieryy:
Your lives must lack a lot of colour to assume I am crushing of crackhaus because we agree on some gender issues. Perhaps I should assume that ladies who agree with themselves here are also 'crushing' on themselves.

@doitforyou:
I am male! Brilliant of you and as I said earlier, I am happy you have gotten your life's purpose to monitor me. It also seems you lack reasoning else you would know that questioning is a great way to fish out what is really going on so you tackle the issue.

@ibkayee:
I am a troll. An active one for almost 8yrs. Obviously, no comment.

@Prettiedame:
You know how my threads are and still comment, shows you have a lot of time on your hands.

I thank you all for creating half page of senselessness on my thread.

Time up and move along!

Luckily, a lot of young ladies and even guys are reading my posts and learning one or two things to further improve their lives and be morally upright people.

I am sure if I support 'do as you please', immoral living etc., I will be your favorites. I have been there and done that. It is my duty per time to reflect my values in my posts, I am accountable for them.

I will ensure all my posts portray my values per time: virtuousness, moral uprightness, taking of responsibility for your actions, quitting of victimhood mentality and making the right choice.

If you do not stand for the above, don't bother to read my posts: it will continue to reel you up.

I am not here to butter anyone up or join any 'cabal' and no matter your plans, more and more people will come across my posts and other similar posters and pick the right choices.

We have had enough broken and wasted men & women in the society.

crackhaus:
Lmao..

Oh dear... Bukatyne the Whomping Willows are on you again, please step wisely and don't bite. Ad hominem is always the usual retort in a bid to discredit an argument that can't be met with cojones.

Some are disputing your sex, some claim you have a crush, others are simply looking for holes in your statements.

Some people forget you have been here for quite a while and have evolved/adjusted your views instead of remaining stuck, this is what some of us know as growth - unlearning, delearning, and relearning. I can personally attest to your metamorphosis over the years, so please DON'T BITE.

The most ridiculous would be the crush and gender accusations.
These termites don't seem to realize that other users might know you outside here.

You know I saw the male and said oh well! Troll? I must be a super active one with a single moniker of over 7yrs.

But a crush? Their senselessness crushed me.

To think I was even using the crush analogy to explain my points.

Sighs.

doitforyou:
Bukatyne issa male!

For someone that has been married with kids for a considerable number of time is always missing in threads that need the in-depth knowledge and experience of a woman with that profile. If he’s in such threads, he reels out questionnaires for the OP.

Ignore him, this is what he wants and lives for, back and forth with (f)s in the family section.

No pick-me has such an abhorrent view on rape.

8th wonder of the world.

If this is what I live for, you must also live for monitoring me.

Good you have found your purpose.

Prettiedame:
When I saw the creator of the thread, I didn't bother. I knew she would start off like she knows what she is saying, before she starts contradicting herself in an attempt to sound logical to her male cheerleaders

It would have been wiser you did not comment.

I am sure so many others did same.

ibkayee:
Your initial question mentioned forcing though, second post makes it seem like you’re just talking about two drunk people having sex, which isn’t the same, c’mon now

The initial post was about 'unconsented' drunk sex.

crackhaus:
This is exactly what 'woke' women are being taught to see as normal these days - complete lack of responsibility to themselves and their bad decisions. Some man, some religion, some tradition, some society, is always to be held responsible.
It's the reason they are becoming more angry, more unhappy, more depressed, more lonely even while having men in their lives, and in extreme cases, more suicidal.

Victimhood is a mask and it has a choking effect because a victim who has not accepted responsibility for their part in the circumstances, remains a prisoner to themselves and that 4X4ft prison will only continue getting smaller as they get older.

No one can heal under a mask (victimhood), wounds need air (responsibility) .

@bold:

Very true.

crackhaus:
While some may be of the opinion that your lifestyle then was not exciting enough, I personally feel that for a lady, this is always the better alternative. Yes, for a lady - and as much as it seems like I'm creating different standards for the sexes, I make no apology for it because it is what it is.

I lived the life as you would say - the youthful exuberance, the fun, the 'grooving'...knew all the 'lit' places, the koros, the jungles, etc
But I can attest for a fact that males are simply better equipped for all of this. Females on the other hand and in the same situations, will be subject to so many vices which they have little control over.

This is why I have always been weary of women who have made it their unofficial job to tackle inequality in social vices. On the one hand, they want it and yet on the other hand, will not take responsibility for the consequences that can come as a result of indulging in those vices.
So what gives, I wonder.

Hahahaha @ different social rules for the sexes.

This your grooving did not involve the ladies?

I actually hold guys and ladies to the same standards morally.

Maybe that's one of the reasons I am very very very pro-young love.

I didn't want a guy who has been there and done that.

I nor want ajeku.

crackhaus:
Just a saying meant to imply he is not being a good friend by not informing her husband.

Not necessarily.

We have been in the OP's shoes.

Hubby's friend lost his job and had to move his family back to his father's house.

Wife was primary school teacher and started asking for money.

After a while, we had to stop and tell her to go through her husband.

She obviously never did so we had to ignore more requests.

Not like the funds were readily available to begin with.

crackhaus:
About the gender-protective laws, believe me, every intuitive person already knows what it implies.
It implies that the gender being protected in cases where both genders are culpable, is by consequence of the law, the weaker gender with little or no responsibility to think and make good decisions.

Many clear-thinking people already know this but just prefer keeping mute to remain politically correct.

I read some of them and I cringe:

How did women get here?

Some universities in the US even have 'safe spacies' where ladies run to when they feel overwhelmed or 'victimized' by their fellow male classmates?

What happened to the ladies who would gang up and shame guys who jumped from one friend to another or messed up and they gave themselves high five later?

University and Sec Schl were drama filled with plots and counterplots from male and females before perpetual victim hood.

Now they run into 'safe spaces' and cry.

No wonder depression is on the high side.

If a lady can't handle her male classmates in college, how would she face life's challenges?

fieryy:
Those are just silly women because women should not be trying to impress their crush at all. That's you showing green lights, which means you are giving him the permission to rape you. In fact, you should not even smile at your crush. That could also be you sending green light signals.

Let those who have ears hear o

Your attempt at lightening the suitation is funny.

If a lady is crushing on a guy and the guy is not interested in her (sex, real relationship, marriage) etc, that guy will avoid the lady till eternity.

He will not go to her house, not entertain her calls, not give her green light, not collect anything from her.

Depending on his finesse, he will tell the babe he is not interested.

Maybe ladies should actually learn that from men.

In retrospect, thank you for the example.

Cc: CHoccolaTE

crackhaus:
In your cousins' eyes, you were probably a dull boring girl who didn't know how to have fun.

It's their type that will go to campus parties or clubs, get drunk, then come back to start complaining about one guy who kept touching them inappropriately on the dance floor.
Zero responsibility.

I got my ears full on how I was not enjoying my youth from different people.

I am following one boy, I am tying myself down, I should groove before I get married bla bla bla.

Let's just say we were trained from a very early age to live an intentional life.

No 'just have fun'; everything you do or don't do go into building your life.

I discovered myself and realized I neither have the strength or patience to go from pillar to post. I rather get it right once and build on it.

I also have a very sensitive conscience and I don't want anything to tamper with my peace of mind. I also don't want to be a victim of anything out of my stupidity

wendypenny:
Good morning house. Please advice me. OK so, this Christmas my husband didn't give me a dime, not one naira, he went shopping for groceries by himself and kept at home, on the 14th I told him I needed to make my hair, he said he will give me the money the next day, I waited and finally made my hair myself. I can't remember the year I got a gift from him, we have four kids, the annoying part of it is he didn't buy a piece of cloth for the kids, I begged him to at least take them out but he refused. He sent money to people to look good, thing is I know where he keeps his money but I can't dare touch it, I lost it yesterday and told him if he didn't have I will understand but he is just showing me wickedness. I told him I was tired of the marriage I am stressing too much, everything I own I got them myself. Its like I am just a baby making machine and house help / cook. All my clothes are bad, old yet he is not bothered.

Who pays the school fees, rent, food, cloths the kids, utilities, repairs etc.

Do you earn?

CHoccolaTE:
What you asked me before



So even though the drunk man has enough clarity of mind to force the woman we should still blame the woman for raping him? Even when she was forced?

Na real wa ooo

You yourself mentioned on this thread that a drunk person who commits murder can't be absolved of murder became they were drunk so I dont understand how a man who forced a drunk woman, the man in this situation being the initiator and perpetrator of forced unconsented sex,

how is he the one being raped?

I asked you if a drunk person would be absolved of murder, I did not state they would.

Two different things.

What if the man was as drunk as the woman and made a move on her? Is it still rape?

The fact you keep hammering on the man while drunk having the presence of mind to seek the drunk ladies' consent is not in tune with your signature.

It means you expect higher or better from the man. Why?

Because to whom much is given, more is expected.

It means you acknowledge that men have more 'insert whatever' than women.

This perceptual stage of victim hood for women doesn't bode well for us.

crackhaus:

You know, all these 'laws' recently created to 'protect' women seems great until you discover that they all imply women cannot be trusted to think and take responsibility for their actions.

People now sound more whinny, more it's not my fault, more bla bla bla.

How can a normal thinking girl claim not know when a heterosexual guy is interested in sleeping with her?

Why would you go to his house, request for stuffs (you know he will be malleable to give because he wants you), go on a date with him when you do not want to sleep with him?

I fear for the next generation because they women who can't take responsibility train responsible and accountable children.

It is not like the guys are any better.

crackhaus:
I don't discard it as lies, but I perfectly understand those who do.

It can't be proven to be true, it can't be proven to be a lie...hence, I remain indifferent. Of course for a romantic partner or family member, it's deeper...but it still won't be more than empathy and assistance to bring healing.

The line between rape and consensual sex is just too thin and I have known this for a very long time. During my wild days, I would never have sex with any girl who was struggling or resisting, same thing now. I subconsciously have always been averse to giving a woman sexual power over me which is how I interpreted the act of cajoling her to have sex with me - if she no want, brother man will jejely go to sleep, stretch well, and snore very loudly.

And I was not even doing that to avoid crossing the rape line because this was way before the debate of consent/no-consent became widespread. I guess I have just always been woke and very protective of my self-pride, before one daughter of belial will wake up the next morning to tell me how I made her have sex when she never wanted to.

Thank God for your life, brother Crackhaus.

I was brought up to avoid stories that touch and send clear signals.

I remember when I was still friends with hubby and he went home. As per fresher, different guys wanted to try their luck.

This brother asked he out and after saying no, he insisted. I said 'OK, pay for my pictures' to put him off. I later had to develop better rejection mechanisms.

He did and came to my off campus house (we lived on adjacent streets). He said I should follow him home to 'drink tea' and I ran back to my house. My cousins though I was crazy (I am sure they still do ).

I might be 17+ but I instinctively knew that it did not make sense following someone to his house to drink tea. I knew it was wrong even though my cousins urged me on.

Ladies should engage their intuition more.

CHoccolaTE:
It's still rape naaa

If the woman was too drunk to give consent and the man had enough self awareness to force a woman who can't consent then it's rape. The man is the one performing the sex acts in this situation so he is the rapist.

I wanted to draw this statement out of you.

I know you don't care about the man's consent; all you care about is the woman's consent.

Except the modern definition of rape has changed, rape is sex without consent.

If they are both drunk irrespective of the degree of drunkenness, they 'raped' themselves or sensibly had drunken sex.

Whether they have buyer's remorse the next morning is a different thing.

If a lady wants to avoid the situation above, the solution is to avoid getting drunk outside the comfort of safety.

Why do people think such things are enjoyment and fun anyways?

The bold is me thinking aloud.

All these snearios are taking away a woman's capacity to think and make the right decisions for herself.

Which is back to where we are all trying to run from:

That women are beneath men.

Only children or mentally impaired people are expected not to think their decisions through and take responsibility for their actions.

crackhaus:
Drunk sex?

I am wondering because the drunk man was unable to give his consent and can claim to be raped too.