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LewsTherin:
In the immortal words of my mother, "no be for my mouth you go hear say Father mess"

cococandy:
Verbal abuse is bad. There’s no debating that.

Physical abuse however is not on the same wavelength as it.

They are two separate things

theButterfly:
He should be speaking to his fellow men. It's men who have this mentality that they have the (exclusive) right to hit a woman and are the perpetrators of domestic violence most of the time, not women.

Success02:
For the first time ever in my life, my wife slapped me twice. You want to know my reaction?

Honestly I was surprised to see my wife slapped me. I thought within myself what could have warranted it.

On Saturday, we went for a party which I was reluctant to attend but I did because I wanted to please my wife. I did all I could to make her happy and to make her feel good but as much as I did, she flared up when I left to ease myself.

She complained that I went with a girl which was not so. To cut the story short I left the party without my wife and we kept distance for some days. Every instructions I gave to my wife since then she would just do it reluctantly and when I needed to get to her office after work so that we could go home together, I would just see that she was not there. when I got back home I decided to get spare key so as to return home from work without waiting for her, I asked her for the spare and she started raising voice on me. I reacted as a man and all of a sudden I got the first slap followed by the second one. Though I didn't react because I don't know what to do.

My question is what will be your reaction if you happen to be in my shoes?

NaijadrivaCars:
A man is meant to love, while the woman submits to his love.

In otherwords, Loving is a man's role while submission to the man is a woman's role.

UbiPetrus:
While it is okay for her to love you so much, you are the man and should love her crazily.
The holy book commands the man to love and the woman to be submissive.
If she loves you more than you love her, that is, if you doubt what it is that you feel for her, then I wouldn't advice you to go ahead.

Damilolacoker:
Hello everyone I'm 24 years old and I have been married for three years. last year we had our first baby . Prior to our wedding, I and my husband decided I'll be allowed to work once our baby is old enough to attend day Care. Now our daughter is almost 2 years and he has refused to let me work. We've had countless arguments about this and it always ends with him saying women who work are not always submissive. I cannot be a full house wife , I am educated and cannot sit at home all say.

He recently told my parents I was being rude to him and they're all saying I should do whatever my husband wants. I love him but on this issue, I refuse to agree with him.


The other part here is he doesn't like me correcting our daughter. She's almost 2 and it irritates him whenever I try to potty train her or scold her . He insists I go to check up on Her at school during break hours . I understand that she's quite young but as her mother, I want the best for her. Now he's changed towards me, he doesn't care or pamper me like he used to , sometimes he refuses to eat at home and when I try to speak with him, he's always very cold. Please help me, I don't know what to do anymore

Chi59:
Didn't you read how she tried helping him?

LewsTherin:
I read this a different way and I haven't stopped laughing.

Manipulation out of this!

Ladycewhy:
uwc.

seuncyrus:
Most Nigerians believe the only way out of poverty is to get married into a rich home ....very sad

LewsTherin:
Looks like the birds have come home to roost and OP has "manipulationed out of this" thread.


Bukatyne, I just had to use that somewhere else. No vex abeg. It's just hilarious to me.

MiddleDimension:
they do the bolded above too?

Martinez39:
Lol. As aspected, rather than call out the malicious and treacherous doings of the wife, you subtly tried to focus on the man and put the blame on him. Of course, women are never at fault and the problem must be from a man. Does it matter if he is impotent? Does impotence justifies paternity fraud? If children are not forthcoming in a marriage, the couple should have gone for medical check up and if one of them was declared infertile, discussions on how to get children (by adoption or a surrogate) can take place. All these are the sensible options instead of paternity fraud.

From your other posts on this thread, you said it's not alright for a man to go for paternity test if his wife hasn't given him a reason not to trust her and doing such will be to question his wife's trust. Well, that is nonsensical in all ways. If the wife doesn't give him a reason to doubt her, it doesn't mean the kids are his and he is still taking a risk. I am sure if a man follows your advice and he discovers, by pure chance, after so many years and investments that his kids aren't his, what is he to do? I am sure you and your kind will still find a way to blame him. Tell that to men who trusted their wives (that gave them no reasons to doubt) and yet discovered that they were played to raise children not theirs. You are just playing dumb when you argue as though human deceit isn't lofty and formidable.

No matter what, all men must go for DNA tests. I am not surprised by your irrational arguments, deep bias, and venom. Afterall, you are a woman and even worse, a feminist of steep and passive misandric proportion.


CAPSLOCKED, AstroG, Omar09

Martinez39:
Bullcrap!!! Your dishonesty is as high as the sky. This is how women distort facts to raise arguments that absolves them of responsibility and blame. DNA is authentic regardless of your gender or species. The same way they conduct DNA for father and children is the same way for mother and children and both test have the same efficiency.

— "The baby could have been exchanged"
— "DNA tests are not effective and are complex when it comes to maternity test"
Are these the arguments you ladies want to hide behind when you people are exposed for paternity fraud? If the husband discovers that the kids are not his, you use the first argument. If the husband then goes for maternity test to verify the first argument, you use the second. Lol. Maternity tests are effective and reliable and will be used to fish out evil women culpable of paternity fraud.


Hahahahaha. And when we discover the mother is the mother nko?



CAPSLOCKED, AstroG, Omar09

Baroba:
Like my late father in law will always say, Landlord travel and see.. Most people need to get out of there little hamlets and explore other parts of Nigeria..

IyaTola:
4 babies

Ladycewhy:
Nice info ,picture or video penetration will go along way so i decided to go and search for a video myself .




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QtqLAS5rgGQ

Apeshy101:
My friend has been down since yesterday.

He was talking over the phone with his girlfriend friend, in the course of the discussion, he chipped in marriage to the girl.

The girl stylishly told him "she was not ready to suffer a second time".

They both laughed over it then.

Both the guy and babe are from poor backgrounds but the guy is gradually hitting it steadily recently (though he has kept this from the girl)

I don't even know put this to the guy as he seams hurt by the statement.

Me: "It's nothing, just a way to "ginger" you to hustle or you want make she come your house come suffer"?

Guy is seeing things from a different angle.

crackhaus:
It is already possible na.
It's the same DNA testing that can be used to determine maternity .

cheenway:
Am I a fool to bring something as delicate as this here if it were to be me in the picture.

If you must know, it's a copied post from fb

Ode!

crackhaus:
Yes oo, like you and I.

PaulErungworo:
This is spot on!

catwalq:
Someone's been reading 'The 5 Love Languages'.

crackhaus:
Within the context of DNA testing, it's definitely a woman thing to react a certain way because I've not seen or heard where it's the woman that suggests a DNA test to her husband.

Fountainofyouth:
This just gave you away, you swear on your fathers grave but your father is alive and sick as you said above, probably your real dad is dead, cos we all know you're a guy posing as whatever, you try.

PaulErungworo:
Quality time is her most cherished thing. She just love to have me around her

crackhaus:
Lol @lack of trust.
Totally far from it, but I understand why you would think that. It's always the default reaction from ladies.

I come from a home with one parent in the medical profession, it's instinct for me to be aware of every congenital information about my child as early as possible, hence I called it a full blood work.
DNA testing is just one of the tests involved.