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uruba23:
okay I hear you ,your royal highness.

Hahahahahahaha

uruba23:
See there is a reason they say Konji is a bastard ,my dear 2month is Konji reloaded ...please don't expect her to be rational in her thought process.

I have not discounted konji, in my first post, I said she should get intimacy gadgets since the porn only is not working

And if intimacy gadgets are not working, I am a staunch fan of spiking his drink, mounting him and riding him till she is satiated.

She should confirm he does not have a disease sha.

I have only said she should not solve her problem with another problem.

crackhaus:
I am a firm believer in genetic testing for all children within the first year of birth, full blood work...no compromises whatsoever.

You intended is aware sha.

Because it is lack of trust especially when she hasn't given you a reason not to.

crackhaus:
Does it matter?

I have no pity for men who cry when they find out they are not the biological fathers of their kid(s).
Those tears are like living springs of water.

I am surprised that not one of them is his out of the four.

Also they all belong to one man which suggests an affair spanning more than 10 years.

@bold: Why?

uruba23:
I agree with you ,but I am talking from the few experiences I have seen,especially when the guy mumu button isn't working again and nothing they do can change him.The next available guy becomes their prince charming.Moreover she is too emotionally stress to see she is been manipulate, she might think she is trying to find a way out....At least going through are previous thread I can understand.

Please manipulation out of this.

uruba23:
I agree with you ,but I am talking from the few experiences I have seen,especially when the guy mumu button isn't working again and nothing they do can change him.The next available guy becomes their prince charming.

Well, picking a guy as the next available prince charming doesn't work except the wife needs a man's affections.

If she needs her husband's affections, then she has to seek it and if not working, let him be or separate (if there are acceptable grounds to do so).

Bed hopping doesn't solve the problem: revenge cheating just sounds as stupid.

Like they say, don't use a problem to solve a problem.

uruba23:
Biko don't judge her,it takes a discipline man not to take advantage of a vulnerable woman,I don't know,but since they have been chatting I am sure the dude would have been making her feel special and all what not,i think the man is just disrespectful he should have help her through her crisis not take advantage of her and quite honestly sometimes the woman hormones get me wondering how it shift their thought process.I believe she must have resisted and latter gave up.

This is a joke right?

Except you are implying that a woman cannot think critically and should rely on a man to do that for her which is an insult of you ask me.

You mean a grown woman should rely on a man to help her through her 'vulnerable' moments?

Is the man's body made of stone? What gives you the impression that his wife is not starving him of sex as well and he is in the same bucket with the OP?

Even the OP wisely did not blame the dude, she blamed herself.

Mindfulness:
I find it sad that women are not represented in politics accordingly but I wouldn't vote for a woman for the simple reason that she is a woman. She must convince me that she has a political agenda that represents my interest better than the agenda of other candidates, have the same political leaning, world-view and a vision for the direction of the country.

I agree with you.

Hence I do not get the constant complaints of under representation of women.

Is the man impotent?

I find it strange, the four kids for one man.

uruba23:
Next time buy a Love Machine and do the needful, as for your husband,may be he is just tired of you for the mean time just let him have his space,it happens to most men,especially when they are reevaluating their life and thinking about their children future as well as there,or when going through a personal challenge and don't want their wife to know ,I really don't know why that married friend of yours took advantage of you,the guy has no respect for you or your family.
..meanwhile you need to go do a HIV test,I really doubt he used a condom.

Took advantage bawo?

Is he responsible for her morality or sanctity of her marriage?

I am sure dude wanted to sleep her since and she came to him willingly.

cheenway:
Please don't judge me. I know I am wrong. I feel guilty already.
My story goes like this. For sometime now and I mean in months, my hubby has changed. He comes home late around 11pm to midnight, passworded his phone,chats, picks calls and talks secretly, loves to stay alone all by himself, he doesn't talk to me anymore, we haven't spoken to each other in like two months and all. He sends the children to me if he wants to say anything to me. I've never had any reason to say he's cheating until this new development. I've tried all I can to find out if I offended him, I've cried, begged, talked, even reported to his brothers and mom to help me talk to him but he will laugh and say there's nothing. He even started sleeping in another room at home. We have two kids, 6 and 8 years old and we live in a 3 bedroom flat. So he now sleeps in the third room.

Now to the issue, I've been sex starved for months and I have been watching videos online to help myself, and I try to keep myself happy.
But this past week, an old 'friend' (we were dating casually then but we never had sex) contacted me through fb and we met after loosing contact for over 10 years. Me, him and other friends of ours at a friend's wedding.
During the after party, we got all drinking, eating, and later cuddly and it happened, we had sex in his car. Truly, I tried to resist but I couldn't help it. He didn't force or pressure me but I lost hold of myself. Now I feel dirty. I don't know if I can move past this. I know my husband's new attitude doesn't justify my actions.
But I'm deeply sorry. I don't know what to do.
Please help me out

Just a few months, you guys find a ready mate to do your shenanigans with? This story line is getting to be a common theme here.

No perseverance? No endurance?

Was your sex life so fantastic prior to the sudden change?

Again, when you are vulnerable, common sense dictates that you run away from whatever situation makes you tempted to fall.

Since you watch porn, why don't you buy intimacy gadgets while you find out what is wrong with your husband?

I find his distance and sudden change strange especially since he has not told what is wrong. Stop begging and when he sends the kids to you, ignore him till he comes himself.

You have cheated so the guilt is natural. First ask God for forgiveness and steer clear situations that would make you fall again.

Also check yourself for STDs et AL.

Should you tell your husband? I can't advise on that.

Mindfulness:
Maybe because they had nothing sensible to run on?

I doubt it.

You find very few sensible people in Nigerian politics.

The Sarah Jubril woman had one vote or four if I remember correctly.

Her family members did not even vote her yet I am sure some of them would be online crying how women are grossly under-represented in Nigerian politics.

Yummymummy07:
Yes I never had any relationships with other people apart from my sisters husbands.

OH well, good that you are keeping it in the family.

You better disappear and go to the nearest living church for healing.

If you like, enter the church that the pastor will continue knacking you from where the husbands stopped.

PaulErungworo:
Hello guys, my wife's birthday is tomorrow and I have budgeted N10,000 to celebrate her. She has been such a humble, submissive, understanding and caring wife to me. I just wish I can make her day very special. However I'm outta ideas on what really I can afford with N10k as a gift for her. Ladies please be nice to me ���

What is/are her love language (s)?
1. Acts of service
2. Quality time
3. Physical touch
4. Words of affirmation
5. Gifts

What does she need urgently?

Oya waiting for your answers.

Yummymummy07:
Am a single mum of 1 daughter she is 4 years old. I came from a family of 4 children 3 girls and a boy and me the last born 24 years. Our parents separated when I was 9 so we stayed with our dad who later got sick paralysed from one side due to illnesss he didn’t have any strength controlling us and our eldest sister was like our moda but she were busy too with school and working because we were very poor. When I was 13 she introduced her boyfriend to us , he was so nice to us and he became like our first brother he will buy me and my immediate sister clothes and take us out and me I had a great bond with him just like brother and sister and his place was just 5 mins walk to my school and that day I finish school and went to greeted him and he was watching telly inside when he served me drink and food I ate and told him I had to go home he said to me not to worry that he will drop me that was how he slept with me and it was my first time since I had friends who had already had sex and when they were telling me how sweet it is and they felt like big girls it used to makes me jealous and I wanted to try too so I didn’t felt bad that I slept with him and to me it wasn’t rape , I went home all excited even next day at school I told my friends that I had sex but didn’t tells them it was with my sister boyfriend so we continued having sex behind my sister back and he will buy me gifts he even bought me a phone my first phone ever , they got married when I was 17 and I did abortion for him a month before the wedding then another one at 19 years and the third one was my daughter I refuse abortion and I had her at 20 years and we still sleeping together and I had 2 more abortions for him , now I’m pregnant again almost 5 months and he want me to do abortion I said no because the fourth one nearly killed me he said i should keep the baby and give her to my sister since she haven’t conceived since they got married 7 years now and I have told him it’s okay but I want to stop the relationship and moved on with my life and I’m not sure if the baby belongs to him because when my immediate sister who got married 3 years ago had her first child early this year and I went helping her and I have slept with her husband 4 times so am not sure if the baby belongs to elder sister husband or immediate sister . I’m in a big dilemma but the biggest problem is elder sister husband doesn’t want to end the relationship with me he beats me twice just because I stopped picking his calls and he is threatening killing me , our daughter and himself. I don’t want him anymore , I want to give my life to Christ and relocate far away from both my sisters and I won’t tell any of them the secrets. Please I need your sincere advice and no insult I beg you in the name of God.

Only you sleeping with the husbands of two sisters....

Is it like a fetish for you or a family tradition?

How come all the girls in your family are married to he-goats?

There is a tendency you would marry one if you were stupid enough to sleep with the 2nd husband.

If you want to relocate, relocate with your baby + pregnancy and stop whinning in our ears.

P. S. : Are you claiming that the sexual relationships you have had thus far are your sisters' husbands?

Happy Wedding Anniversary.

Three years so fast!

frozen70:
Pls house advice me on what type of washing machine top loader to buy and what the kg size for a normal family

What product should I go for and considering that I will be using a normal 3kv generator Elemax

If you have pictures pls post for better understanding

LG Turbo Machine 6.5kg

It is fully Automatic.

Feb 2020 would make it 5yrs.
https://www.lg.com/africa/washing-machines/lg-T6511TDFV

ResidentSlut:
Could be anywhere from 50 % to any number that ensures the women are adequately represented especially in areas that affect women the more.

I’m not caught up in the specific number that it is. But a population that is mostly made of 50/50 men and women is doing poorly if only 11% of it’s female is represented.

We wouldn’t be having this conversation if there were 89% of women in government with only 11% being men.
Everyone would know without being told that it’s not balanced.

But since it’s women, let’s have a discussion about it and critically analyze every aspect of it.

I am not a fan of Quota system, it shows that women are not fit enough to compete on a level playing field with men and need help to be propped up to standard.

If a government consist of 90% women because they are more competent, then so be it.

My only concern would be gender specific cabinets like ministry of women affairs, ministry of men affairs (if any) etc.

Nigeria is however a different ball game and I am sure that a number of the elected people (men & women) are put there to compensate the godfathers.

Besides, women are always whinning about how imbalanced women in politics are yet when Ms. Sarah Jubril contested for presidency, she wasn't voted; Madam Fresh then campaigned in Lagos, no, they did not vote.

Yet we want the men to hand on a platter what we have refused to do for ourselves.

ResidentSlut:
I’m sure there were more than enough qualified women to fill the appropriate number of slots.

Statistically doesn’t even need to be asked.

What is the appropriate number of slots?

Emmmm, do they have examples where better qualified women were passed up for men?

Or did the Governor promise them a percentage of his cabinet during his campaign?

ednut1:
only fools see these ladies as role models. from Beyonce to linda ikeji. they are all hypocrites.

Smart of you to see the hypocrisy of Beyoncé

Prognose:
What have these questions got to do with the @bolded though?

To further understand his thought process on his stance.

chukskafor:
I yaf laff taya

Keep laughing,

I am coming with a sex change genie to meet you.

RisenPhoenix:
Of course. My daughter is in school. She can choose to be a professor or she can choose to be a housewife. It's her choice and that of her future husband.



She is currently doing her pg studies while working as a professional. We got married when she was still in 300L and I was doing my pg so obviously I support her academically. But if it will inconvenience the home, she will have to find alternatives or stop totally. Our home and kids are a red line. This was discussed before our marriage and she agreed that the home comes first for her if I was ready to take on the full financial burden.




She is a self-employed professional so her job is somewhat demanding, but never at the expense of the home. She has pretty much the whole day to work at her job while the kids are at school. I also help her out by employing a day housekeeper to clean the house. Personally, I am an undemanding person. If there is no food for me, I will just find bread and suya or buy whatever I can get at some food outlet, but the kids must be fully taken care of and given complete attention while at home; no compromises there.

I believe in traditional gender roles, yes. I take care of all the family expenses; for which she gives me a monthly budget in advance and the funds of which I transfer to her personal account at the beginning of every month. Her own money is hers; and I have no idea how much her income could possibly be; nor am I interested. She bought a car for herself, pays her pg fees and is building herself a house in her name; which I help out with logistically; so I guess she must be somewhat comfortable financially on her own. We currently live in my own home. The only expense we share is vacations; when we go together (especially when it is at her suggestion).

I believe that traditional gender roles work best when they are applied equitably. The problems start when the husband expects the wife to fulfil her role by taking good care of the home; but neglects his own role of full financial responsibility. The dual work that the wife is forced into in such a situation will obviously stress her out and understandably make her rebellious and dissatisfied with the marriage. It is only fair that if a man wants his wife to share the financial burden, he must also be ready to share the home care burden. Many men however, do not agree with this idea, unfortunately .

Interesting.

So you are fine with your wife pursuing what interests her as along as the home front is fine. And you got home so she is not overwhelmed.

So what do you think of your wife pursuing a career like late Dora Akunyili?

@bold: I agree with you.

raptex:
How come I'm just hearing this for the first time? Makes hella sense.

I am happy you learnt something new from my post.

crackhaus:
Your pre-marital sexcapade.
The extra bits about your guilt, eventual acceptance, and overall involvement of people helping sort it out, made it so much more fulfilling to read.

Sexcapade ke?

Makes it seem I was bed hopping.

Biko o!

crackhaus:
My assumption is if she had kept up the question & answer session with me, she will begin revealing what she has actually been saying/doing to make the husband start seeing her as the enemy within

Hahahaha.

Lay all cards on the table and we know where to chook mouth.

Never heard of her.

2019 is a year of lessons for people to do their own thing.

I cannot loose my essence for love.

Funny thread

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

What is your definition of love?

The question is do you love yourself?