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merahki:
And as usual, driven by hypocrisy
Many people would not want to be the type of partner they want for their relatives and loved ones
Personally I would love a man to provide for me like silly, but for my brothers I would want their partners to be helpers, sharers, bringers to the table

Gender wars are silly to me
I don’t do it at all, I just live life, my own way. If I am in any union where I feel trapped or dehumanised? I bounce, no stories.
(Well I may be slightly too wild and free? Who knows? I might be lying my head off, so that what now? Who knows?)

Owutuotuo:
Na this one dem dey call, “As God would have it “

Mindfulness:
Too obvious a fake, as if he is really eating an apple and as if she is really reading. The photographer is from the last century.

Thoniameek:
Had a total reorientation of mind (a massive one)

Broke away from toxic and unhealthy relationships

Started school (even though I feel I don't like school)

Learnt a vocation

Was healed of all my hurt and brokenness

Forgave everyone

Are walking in purpose

My relationship with God is progressing

And many more...

I'm starting afresh in 2020

Glory to God Almighty, Glory to Jesus Christ and Glory to the Holy Spirit my ever present help. Amen

taylor89:
Sure I'm getting a wife material by January I must marry next year but I'm just scared na only Oloshos I dey see for Lagos

Toks2008:
This is why I no dey sleep around even when i dey single.

I face one girl and take the risk. I hate using condom.

akpunda86:
Every Christmas my wife wants to go home to their village.im not against but go ontime and come back so we all do new year togeda.

Its beggining to piss me off cos if im gone that means my kids leg fit no touch their papa village.

On that note i have warned her let this christmas be the last i hear you say you want to go home.

On my own ill say the disavantages of marrying from another state outweighs the advantage.
Every christmas u look foward spending with your family nd wife not knowing she z married talking of going to her maternal villa.

I gave her 22nd to 28th.wch is enuff.overstays hmmmmmm

TheRedpillguy:
Yeah right. This is the only guy she bleeped in her life. Like she being doing this guy since then till date... Truth is she is hitting the wall and the poor cock is just available. He is probably plan Z. Don't start all that way back thing to put dirt in our eyes. The guy lost

LewsTherin:
I was just smiling at the responses here. The males calling the man a sissy for wondering what to do to a cheating wife and the females approving of the woman's cheating because she was deprived of sex for 6 months.

Hillarious.

safarigirl:
Was she supposed to birth an unhealthy baby? What concerns her one arm with her baby?

jaszplus12:
Was he driving when he threw her out?
Please let the lady explain how he did it clearly. I'm trying to imagine I'm driving at say 90kmh then with one hand I lean backwards, open the car door and throw a lady out! Still driving....

vicoloni:
I was raped by an armed robber that's how I lost my virginity. Anytime I remember this I laugh. She must think I'm stupid lol

adanny01:
I have this ex girlfriend.

She still believes I deflowered her, even though I just agreed to keep the topic off the table, I know she is a big liar.

Before we did it for the 1st time, she told me she never did and also told me she has had an abortion! You are confused right? I am correct.

What she still claims is that the guy who was before me, whose bady she deleted, never fully penetrated but on the trial process, ejaculated on (not in) privates. Effectively, she got pregnant without actual intercourse.

I then came later, the rope is still on my neck that I did it first.

ussv:
Like during my youth days when i was single and was very much in love with my then girlfriend. We used proceeds from her sugar daddy to survive when we were on campus in our days as undergraduate in Unilag. Even though she spent nights with the sugar daddy in question and come back to campus with huge sums of money, i still believed what she always told me that "the man did not touch her" . I believed her because i was in love and it went on for years until she broke up with me to go and become the 2nd wife of the sugar daddy. It really devastated me. I knew there was no way it was true because on each visit to the sugar daddy she was coming home with nothing less than 5k , i`m talking about 5k in the late 80s., but i chose to believe her and be in denial because i wanted to be alright and not feel distraught or bad.

Emmany13:
Almost every girl av met always tell dz lie lol �

hemartins:
Why do people have friends with benefits relationship?

technuel:
And let me ask you, how long does it take to know someone. That guy won't go that level if she have not known the Lady for a very long time. All I see here is a rejection based on Class nothing more nothing less. If not ehile making emphasis on his profession, while not tell us a certain guy send her this message. One thing women fail to understand is that sometime the rejected stones are sometimes the corner stones in their life. That is why most of them end up in abusive relationship because they want to end up with a rich dude.

mercyefe200:
A working class woman identified as Jennifer Oseh has taken to her Instagram account to share the screenshot of the chat she had with a security man who confessed that he has fallen in love with her.

Jennifer revealed that she has always been kind to the security man by always giving him tips whenever they met.

However, the man misinterpreted her kind gesture.

In the screenshot the lady posted on IG, the man had texted her to reveal that he has feelings for her.

He went ahead to reveal to her that he would have confessed his love a while ago if he had money.

On a different day after she refused to reply to the confession, the man sent a text, asking if he could come and stay with her.

She replied and told him never to send such messages to her.

He, however, sent another message apologizing and even claimed that he was feeling lonely.

She asked if she should be worried about the message sent by the man.

See the screenshot below:

https://www.instagram.com/theladyvhodka/

https://www.ogbeta.ng/2019/11/security-man-falls-in-love-with-working.html

anonimi:
That is why LEGALLY it is impossible to rape men, although they can be sexually abused.
For rape to happen legally, there must be PENETRATION.

Maepanindim:
I have been dating my boyfriend for four years the first year I broke his trust with my past since then I have tried to build his trust I love him so much more than anything I can never hurt him but he still thinks that I cheat on him.This morning we had an issue I told him to apologize because he was wrong he apologized after much talk we were about making out he was touching my pussy he saw whitish discharge I have toilet infection and he is aware I can never cheat on him he's very handsome and he takes care of me he's everything I want he thinks I cheat on him and I am living with him what do I do for four years have been trying to build my trust I don't know what to do anymore please push to front page I'm going through so much emotional pain I want to move on I tried but I couldn't.

Simplestone:
Please I need advice on the right step to take,I've been married for some years now and I am yet to have a child.I got pregnant on different occasions and it either ends in premature birth or miscarriage.
My husband and I have decided to adopt a child.We are still in our reproductive years but hubby said we should adopt a newborn or a few months old baby legally without anyone knowing while waiting for God to bless us with our own.
I don't know if I should be patient or go ahead with an adoption.I am 29years old.My hubby is a good man and he loves me so much.
It breaks my heart when I see him cry after each miscarriage.Kindly advice me on what to do and please anyone who has idea on adoption should direct me.Thanks

doitforyou:
OP, I can’t imagine how difficult it is for you right now, especially in a Nigerian marriage without kids. However, I fear for your motivation for adopting a baby. An adopted child does not deserve to be a place holder while your bio child arrives.

Adoption is a rigorous and time consuming (as it should be) process, the easiest and best option for you is if you guys have explored all fertility treatments. Egg donor/egg IVF or progesterone shots to strengthen the lining of your uterus, will be easier and more straightforward than an adoption.

tranxo:
Best advice here. Why would you be ashamed of getting something YOU love?

WHEN and HOW to break the news to the child IMHO is the only knot (which I believe is doable). You may seek out those that have gone through this route for guidance. Also do not leave it for so long; other people WILL break that news in a way the child may become confused, irritated, and lacking in trust for you.

A couple I once knew had to relocate from one part of the town to another, moved to a different church, immediately the child started talking. This helped not put them under the pressure of breaking the news prematurely.

One other VERY important thing to weigh is this (cos many people have gone ahead to birth their own babies after adoption), if it is a boy, will he be regarded as the legal first son (diokpala in Igbo), and if a girl, will she be regarded as the legal first daughter (ada in Igbo) when you birth other children.

If yes, how do you bring your biological ada and diokpala unto the same page.

Not to scare you but if you do not consider all these consequences, when they come (they will), you will be at a loss.

Pray and seek God's guidance on this issue. I'm happy Oga is with you in this. His support, is the most important.

God will multiply your family. Just do it for LOVE.

cococandy:
First you’re right that providing money isn’t the only parental responsibility of a father.

However the men who behave in such manners don’t specifically single out their daughters to treat in such ways. It’s just the influence of their cultural beliefs on them which they do exhibit to all their kids, male and female alike.

If anything, they might even be more emotionally available for their daughters than their sons. Truly.

I feel like your post is skewed in the wrong direction.
All children do indeed need physical displays of love and affection from their fathers but no gender needs it more than the sons do.
They need everything you’ve typed in your post including constant hugs and kisses.

The world is hurting for it to become a norm.

blackpanthar:
THEY NEED TO GO FOR SPIRITUAL HELP... I prescribe MFM church.

bt wait.. what is the title of this movie?

pocohantas:
Lol. I read the topic and read your post.
Read the topic again...

Is all well, sis?