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Sweet. The boy might be motivated to make a fine footballer.

My Nigerian people.

They perfect the hypo in hypocrisy.

I will bet that all those yeye people cheering him will take their brothers for 10 days dry fast if he adopts his wife's surname.

Even wives who decide not to pick their husbands' surnames or hyphenate are getting the heat.

@Guy: he has his reasons. Conventionally, women are to take the surnames of their husbands as they are building a new home.

I would be very worried if my son or brother did same.

cococandy:
Who’s Glory Ossie? I feel like I live in a cave.

Anyway I always tell folks no two homes are alike. Do what works for you as long as everyone is happy. No rigid rules as far as I’m concerned.

But folks want to be told what do and how to lives their lives.

I did not know her either till my friend told me the story and I read her up.

So she was 'independent' successful single woman who told ladies that they could do without a man bla bla bla.

She told them not to take trash, or compromise bla bla bla

Mwanwhile, madam was secretly married to her business partner.

She seemed to have built an image as one of these popular women speakers like Invictus kind of thingy.

cococandy:
It’s obvious the poster is just looking for reactions.

Hence I said. Childish.

True, that's another angle.

All these audio children sef.

Just that some airheads really take these people seriously and run their lives with it.

When Glory Ossei's story broke, someone in my friend's colleague's office was weeping that she broke up with her BF because of Glory Ossei.

seye4nii:
JuJu action will now follow i hope Reg mother KNOW PASTOR for prayer and fasting

Prayer and fasting for what?

Did other wives pray and fast? Regina is the 5th/6th wife.

It is turn by turn.

danigbo:
Could this Professor be right? Please be your own judge.

A man can cheat on his woman and still love her but a woman cannot cheat on her man and still love him. I say this because while men do not have sex with emotions, women can't have sex without attaching emotions to it. This is the reason men simply need a place to have sex while women need a reason to have sex.
Most women who take their husbands to court for divorce are those that cheat on their men. A non cheating woman would most likely never take her husband to court for divorce, unless the man exceedingly abuses her physically and emotionally to the point of killing her.

Men don't equate sex with love. A man can have sex with another woman but still doesn't love her. That's why women who fell in love with married men find it difficult to find happiness in those relationships as they are just being used by those married men. But once a married woman starts sleeping with you, she can even narrate some hidden secrets concerning her husband and she will even tell you why she hates him (her husband). She can even accept poison from you to eliminate her husband.

For men, sex and love are two different things. But for women, sex and love are one and the same things. For men, sex comes first before love (infatuation), but for women love comes first before sex (true love). Therefore, once your woman starts having sex with another man/men, her love shifts from you to that man and she can even start giving that man the best food and love than she gives you.

The fact that your man is cheating on you doesn't mean he has stopped loving you. But I can't say the same for women. Once a woman starts cheating on you, she has fallen for someone else and you people will never live the same again. And she can even kill her husband once she starts cheating on him.
If your wife starts cheating, you should be a lucky man not to die in less than 10 years. It has been found that 95% of women who cheat wish their husbands dead. That is the main reason why it is dangerous for a man to continue staying with a wife who cheats on him. That is why it is now encouraged everywhere in the world including in the Bible, for a man to divorce his wife only once she starts cheating on him. Cheating women are more deadly to husbands than ordinary criminals or weapons. There are many cheating women in the world who invite criminals to break into her house at night only to come and eliminate her man and police officers plus relatives can't detect this as the same woman tend to moan more than any person at the funeral so as to attract sympathy and hide her evil acts.

That's why psychologists discourage women,more than men, from cheating.

Women can't handle the emotional conflict that comes with cheating.

That's the reason an observant and intelligent man will notice that his wife has started cheating on him once he starts doing it because most women tend to lose respect for their husbands and try to avoid sex with them in most times.

Cheating Women will even be giving excuses for not wanting to have sex with their husbands. Study has revealed that nearly 90% of women who cheat find it hard to have enjoyable sex with their husbands, again an intelligent man will detect this once his wife's behavior with regard to sex start changing. But a dull man can never detect this and always tolerates fake excuses from his cheating wife until he is completely eliminated.

Women can't cheat on their partners with people they are not emotionally involved with. They attach emotions to everything. That's why you can't always trust their judgment. When a joke is cracked,most women who laugh are not laughing because the joke is funny but because they like the person who cracked the joke. If they don't like you, no matter how funny your joke may be, they won't laugh, but when a man laughs at a joke, it's because the joke is funny, not because he likes the comedian. Men are not always sentimental and emotionally involved.

Study has shown that every relationship begins to flounder once a woman starts cheating. There are many men who cheat on their partners but still show them true love. But it is very hard to find a relationship in which a woman is cheating and things still remain the same.

I repeat, nearly 100% of cheating women wish their husbands quick death or divorce to have unlimited sex freedom while nearly 100% of cheating men can't wish their wives quick death or divorce. That is why most men can't allow their wives to be physically or verbally abused by their girlfriends. Men will always stand for their wives.

A man would cheat but still love and respect his wife, but the opposite is true with cheating women.

Once your wife starts sleeping with other men/man, just know that your death is near.

R.M - Professor of Psychology
Ohio State University - USA

A man cheats and still loves his wife?

I am sure this is the 'Nigerian' definition of love.

Cheating wives also wish their husbands dead?

I am sure history has more stories of cheating husbands eloping with their lovers or marrying them as second wives than vice versa.

Keep deceiving women to stay with cheats in the name of husbands.

Anyways, if a wife feels loved despite her husband's cheating, kudos to them.

crackhaus:
So this is who Regina Daniels is competing with
She won't be able to meet up.

Make she just dey enjoy the money and forget about being the favorite.

Competing with ke.

He has additional 4 wives.

All yellow pawpaw.

It was just her turn then. I don't think she is deillusional enough to think she or any woman can keep Ned to herself.

He seems a man easily bored with women.

Something tells he lost the woman he really loved back in the day to a richer man so he is on sort of a 'revenge' spree.

I heard he has also slept with some actresses despite the exotic women he has at home.

@BdorianGray:

I pride myself as interested in such topics however this one pass me.

I have not even passed the first post.

Then you say we should join you on another thread that has twice the topic as this.

Na die be that.

I am following the thread sha and would comment one day

pocohantas:
3yrs and counting...

How old are you?
How old is she?
How old is the agent of dickstraction?

We dump one, we marry another.

No one wants to become evening newspaper.

Few yrs from now, you will dickstract another young guy's babe and he will be here to wail too

Cold world.

Very funny.

I was gisting with a guy who said he told his wife that her ex (BF is not ready yo marry). He was and the rest is history.

I guess that's why a lot of naija marriages are filled with rancor and u friendliness.

Madam is still pinning for school BF, Oga has not forgotten that GF he could die for till Big Bros 'snatched' her.

Then they are getting married without their hearts.

MsDoris:
Relationship blogger, Joro Olomofin has once again shared another shocking message mail from one of his female followers who sees it as a necessity for her mother-in-law to do the dishes and clean whenever she comes visiting.

The unidentified lady stated that her mother-in-law cannot come on a visit to her house and stay for days without washing plates and doing other house chores.

She further stressed that, the mother of her husband should and must give atleast a week notice before making an attempt to come over to house.

See more:
https://www.mimidoris.com/2019/11/my-mother-in-law-must-wash-plates-and.html

1 week notice for relatives so that you can adjust your life to accommodate them.

Ok.

Your MIL MUST do chores

Does this also apply to your mom and relatives?

For me, insisting your elderly ones do chores because they are in your house reeks of improper home training or not receiving the training given.

Reasonable elderly ones would help when they see you need it.

For instance, you both work with no help, the elderly one at home (if not sick) can cook up something for the couple to eat when they return.

They could also babysit the kids (most of them come to see their grandkids anyways and love to take care of them.)

They look good

Maybe she knows that the marriage would kill her and wants to spare her family the additional expense.

Nigerians indeed deserve what they get.

Oyindidi:
Be serious I dey find money.

Thanks brother

Happy birthday, long life and prosperity.

luminouz:


I see Nlanders comments and shake my head. Are these guys not seeing what I'm seeing?


Red fuqin flags everywhere.

1. Proud, provoking stance
2. Initiates sex first stance

Verdict:

She loves conflict, she thrives on it...it stimulates her and when it gets to a crescendo, she must have sex to have a mind blowing release. Women like that have deep psyche issues. They desire being rough handled, roughhoused, even beaten so as to have some measure of self-worth and to respect you as a man. She likely grew up in a home where her dad beat her mum or was broken in by a violent, slugfest loving guy who dominated her for years. This led to a Stockholm syndrome type of disorder that made her love those who torment her and derive sexual pleasure from such violent acts.

Solution:
1. Divorce her....you will need to be violent at intervals to win her respect and even her love. She is wired that way. No amount of useless counselling or prayers will change shiit. If you deny her sex for awhile and she meets a violent mudafvcker outside, the marriage is as good as over.

2. Be Violent: You are likely a nice guy for you to come online to seek opinions but if you want to have her respect. Be rough with her....when she ails you, beat her or dominate her roughly. That's how she respects you. It is wrong for me but it is what it is. Nothing else would work. Once you discipline her roughly, have sex with her and be rough at it. Then watch her do your biddings with a silly smile on her face. When next she fuqs up, repeat the dosage. That's her cure.

N.B: Your kids are all boys and trust me mudafvcker, they are watching. If you choose option 2, their future wives are in trouble because they will think all women love being beaten. And the Violent Circle Continues....

#Luminouznuggets#

Hmmmmm

byna:
The malice is coded o. Am not sure the kids know sef. They might just notice daddy doesn't come to watch TV at the sitting room but stays to watch in his room. My wife is just stubborn!
She wants to be treated as a queen. Don't dare scold her

@bold:

Do you have any issues treating her like a queen if she reciprocates?

AwkaetitiBabe:
Some people get turned on by disagreements sha . You guys can actually iron out the differences while having d sex actually. Be creative.

Very true.

Since that is the only time the wife wants to communicate.

From there, he can insist they trash their issues with sexual mind games.

Why do I think Falz is mourning the dearth of his relationship with Simi?

freelansa:
Big Brother Africa contestant, Dillish Mathews has prayed to God to provide her a man because she’s tired of sleeping alone.

The reality TV star stated this in a video which shows her flaunting her big bed.

Dillish Mathew said:



https://wotzup.ng/i-need-a-man-i-cant-sleep-alone-dillish-mathews-says-after-split-with-adebayor/

Cc lalasticlala

Well, while your 'flyness' can bring numerous men to your bed, it wouldn't keep men there.

I think you should start looking for men who are willing to share your life including your bed.

And 'flyness' is just the first step to getting him.

Fountainofyouth:
Yes I am, a man I almost married lied that he was AS while being SS, it was a LDR so I didn't suspect anything, he started going off for like days or a week, I felt it was job things so didn't bother, when it became very frequent, I felt it was cheating and all, imagine my shock when I went to his place to know what's going on, only for me to see him in the hospital looking lifeless, was told he was SS......i knew we cant go on but I stayed with him out of pity and support till we drifted apart........

There are some things that people should not lie about, I am AA, I would have stayed with him, but he was ready to lie his way to marry me knowing full well I would have no choice but to accept whatever happens, so unfair.

I agree with you, very unfair.

Two years down the line, when the deceived partner starts to seek solace in the kids, drinks, other women/men, drugs etc or torturing the liar, we look at them as evil.

Then they open threads with 'my husband hates me', 'my wife is evil', 'my spouse does not make love to me', 'all my in-laws are against me', 'my hudband/wife does not respect me' etc.

They never say what they did wrong or corrolate their spouses actions as a reaction to their deceit.

Alexgeneration:
I hope you'll keep this same energy and opinion if your husband withhold information like he is HIV positive and suffers from weak erection?

Hahahaha!

Breaststroke:
Maria between you and I, you're the only one seeing something wrong with what Abelswife wrote.

I saw absolutely nothing wrong with her narrative, it was matter of fact and simple. No ill will there.

@ Bukatyne, did you just encourage the OP to carry on with her deceit? I can't go to page 1 to quote the particular comment that has me wondering.

@ OP, I don't know you personally but I feel resentment towards you for wanting to start a life long relationship with deceit. What happened to basic honesty in your relationship?

You see what happens when people want to marry at all costs? Singleness is not a disease you need to be cured from ooo!

Wonder not my dear.

I only told her not to fess up after marriage cornering him.

If she is serious, sorry and truly loves him, she will fess up today and leave the guy to make his choice BEFORE Saturday.

Oops! Today is Thursday.

Brightgem:
Everything that's been said and would be said. This covers it neatly, logically and sensically. Aluf all you have said.

Thank you.

bigpicture001:
J

Jeeeez!.....been ages av seen, heard a lady speak so candid nd straight without emotions....

Honestly am moved...I want to know u plz

That you for the compliments.

I am bukatyne, a 31yr old female Nairalander.

Have a great day.

queenitee:
I didn’t want to comment before but it’s annoying to see people talking about love here. I mean how in the world do you keep something that could make or destroy your future from someone you claim to love?

Who said if she had told he truth, the man wouldn’t have stayed with her. I wouldn’t blame the man if after knowing he decides to call off the marriage or maybe divorce her if it happens after their marriage. I mean, more than love, trust is very essential in a relationship. I’m very sure if the man gets to know, the trust he has for her would go down just like that and I don’t know what can restore it.

If she had told him, she has a very fat chance of the man staying with her, especially since he’s AA but right now even if the man didn’t leave, I’m not sure he won’t doubt any word that comes out of her mouth.

Very true.

Last I remembered, love is not selfish.

Mariangeles:

This your comment is very insensitive.
What is the guarantee that you'll live longer than her, or your brother's wife ?
Nonsense!

Insensitive?

Have you ever seen SS crisis?

The resources wasted (time, money, emotions, strength etc) because they are just maintaining the person not curing?

It is witchcraft for an SS person to scheme to marry AS not even AA.

She knew she was SS, didn't work with the hospital so she can get AS babies.

Her comment is not insensitive. You do not know what the wife's lies has cost that family.

The MIL is probably the one staying with them when they have the crisis for her to have access to do tests for them.

What if she has her business? It would probably suffer.

AwkaetitiBabe:
She didn't lie but withholding information. Yes, people in love Lie to keep that love.

She did lie and said she was As instead of SS.

If you genuinely love someone (operative word = genuinely), you would lay all your cards on the table and let them take you for who you are.

If on the other hand you saw the person as a suitable suitor (looks, cash, sex, body, position, fame, family etc.), you would scheme (lie, kill, jazz etc.) to make them yours.

Is AJ a prospecting in-law?

Or why is his sister representing him at DJ Cuppy's event?

AwkaetitiBabe:
If he's truly yours, it won't be a problem . None of your kids will be ss so I see no big deal.

@bold:

What of thing is this?

This love we are parroting, does it go one way?

As in if she loved him, would she have lied to him?

Fountainofyouth:
Mister man, be guided, Abraham lied to the King and everyone around but not to his wife, this evil woman want to keep something vital and important from her would be husband, so where is the correlation here? Why would you tell her not to tell him? How would you feel if this happens to you or your relatives and siblings?

Fountainofyouth:
Evil woman, tell him the truth before you marry him, why will you want to keep something so huge from him? I always advice people to ask and do tests for genotype and other things before becoming romantically involved, tell him the fvcking truth...

Interesting

You are quite passionate about this topic.

Speaking from experience?

abelswife:
See them. That was how my brother's wife lied. My brother is AS. Because she wanted to marry by force she said she's AA. They went for tests it showed SS and AS for her and my brother. She said their machine is bad and went to another hospital where they have an insider. There they gave them AA for her and AS for my brother. My parents said he shouldn't go ahead with the marriage but they insisted. Now they've have finally gotten married abi? What now happened?

They gave birth to SS
Everyday her and the child are both in and out of the hospital. No savings, no happiness, no Joy. Everyday siki siki. She's siking the baby is siking. My brother is longing mouth and squeezing face

One time both of them had crises at the same time, my mum now used the opportunity to confirm their genotype because she didn't understand why everyday they are always sick. Lo and behold, mother SS. Child SS. We confronted her she was still denying and we showed her the results she started crying.

We are looking.


See ehn. God will not forgive you if your bring another SS child into this world. God will not forgive you if your end up dying on the road and making your husband a widower halfway because you lied.

In fact for even thinking about lying you're a terrible person.

Bye

So sorry about your experience.

Kai! This tread is funny especially people's reactions.

@OP: Can you get your wife here let's all discuss.

It is still a form of counseling that she wants.

Myang500