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crackhaus:
This is another reason altogether, but not a modification of my statement.

Even among those who married the person of their dreams, the person whom they always wanted to be with, love in its most raw expression is something that is so rare to find these days .

Question is does the person want to be with them?

@bold: very true.

I am amazed when people say love is not enough.

crackhaus:
Another one

So a man who provides more than the basic needs and is a great father suddenly doesn't love you because he does not say 'I love you back' during sex.

Aunty, just say you want to fvck this Telegram guy and you're looking for excuses. Is it not who will reply your 'I love you' during sex that you're looking for?
Look no further - it's that Telegram guy, I know him very well. I've heard he likes to shout 'I love you' during sex like a billy goat.

Mumu

It is not all about money or providing

Olannajewel:
thank you, I have cried, screamed, talked, even joked about it,but he doesn't want to understand, he used to be very sweet and passionate about us.

What do you think changed? Can you trace where the coolness began?

And how hectic is your school schedule that you can't visit more often or visit unannounced?

Unfortunately, you both have become used to been married and living single.

Forget Telegraph Bobo, he might even be your husband. Afterall, you said he contacted you.

Go home, do a heart to heart review with your husband. What can you do better? What can he do better? What does he like about you? What do you like about him?

Look at it this way: the telegraph guy is seeing the fresh babe your husband has invested love and resources in. He wants to reap where he did not sow.

Go back to the sower and tell him that he needs to keep maintaining his garden so it does not wither.

Goodluck.

Ginaz:
I did the ear piercings but it backfired. It almost rot my ear where it was pierced, I later learnt I was sold a fake earring. I went to the hospital to get it treated and the scars have faded away over the years. I[b] haven’t had the courage to try again and based on misconceptions I’ve totally given up on the ideal.[/b]

Interesting

Ginaz:
I like piercings. Nipples and nose piercings specifically. It doesn’t mean I’m a bad loose girl and I can categorically tell you I’m an introvert and I hate going out , I rather read a book.

O.p grow up would you? She’s an adult for God’s sake!! In as much you intended to marry her doesn’t give you the right to abuse her fundamental human rights.

The girl has a right to pierce all her body parts; the OP has a right not to marry a pierced girl.

And when you are getting married to someone, you align to their tastes especially for permanent fashion.

vikkimimi:
piercings does not mean a girl is loose or an OLOSHO as you call it, it's all about taste and fashion, and other times out of curiosity....same way most guys love to have tattoos, but tattoos seem costlier than having multiple piercings that's why most guys haven't gone for it.

A girl can have multiple piercings and still be more ethical than a girl without one.

Having multiple piercings on an impulse means something has shifted in her.

OP should run. run. run!

Preciousgirl:
A friend requested my picture on Facebook and I sent him.

My hubby found it out and for three weeks he is not talking to me. I have apologised, tried everything but he is not talking. I am so confused and sad. Please what should I do?


Only sensible comments

Why did your friend request for your picture and why did you send it to him?

Are you not friends on FB?

He can easily see your pictures on your page.

crackhaus:
Only very few people in this present generation actually know how to love.

This is what I believe to be the underlying cause.

I will modify to say they loved someone else and for a myraid of reasons, did not marry them.

So they are stuck with someone else for convenience and soon enough, the center no longer holds.

There w is a difference because someone who has never loved and just picked any partner with someone in love once, never resolved or got closure and marrying someone else.

They forever subconsciously pine for what only their lover can give.

Prec1ous:
I don't get it. Can't the husband defend her? This is my problem with weak men tail between their legs all the time.

People should also note... Some favors are like traps and risky. If it was me I will not step into that car.

I actually make it a point not to accept or go friendly with my boss and his family neither do I receive favors.

I feel for her but I think the husband should speak out. His foot dragging is why this girl is suffering.

PS: If the woman is defiant, then she should bounce. She must have learnt all she needs to learn already with just 4 months left.

The last time I checked, you do not need "freedom" to practice as a caterer, own your restaurant, get a catering jib/gig or get clients.

She should move on.

The husband supporting the girl would seem like he actually has an interest in her.

The apprentice can only keep sending people to plead her case.

I also agree with you.

It is not every help/favour/gift I accept.

See what free ride has cost this poor girl.

Or if there is a body she can appeal to plead her case before her madam.

shadeyinka:
Sex and sexual activities outside the confines of marriage in any form including between bf and gf is fornication.

The bible recommend a solution to sexual pressures: Go Marry not get a gf or bf!

1 Cor 7:9: "But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn."

Which is why I will continue to speak out against spouses withholding sex in marriage because they are not in the 'mood' or lack of consent nonsense.

Having multiple sex partners is a sign of sickness to me.

Some people sleep with persons they can not even share cutlery with

Cherrybae:
See the old man she married. After she misused her youthful age doing olosho work.

Very ugly, shapeless, broke and frustrated illitrate.

Olosho no be work.

Nonsense

You get sense so?

If her husband married at the unique age of 20, he would be 70 now.

Promismike:
Now the guy who took his position which resulted to Altacation and the killing of the young boy has gone home happy.

Most times we just need to be sensitive and horn our ability to control our temper and let go when we meet some people who are devils in disguise. The are everywhere.

True

Especially as they actually saw him leave the queue.

TechCapon:
The boy is a stupid boy. That's how he slaps his elders otherwise why would he see a policeman old enough to be his father, in uniform and carrying AK 47 and he still went ahead to slap him. He's a foool.

By the way, why are there so many sowore thread and no Anthony Joshua thread today. Give us Anthony Joshua gist abeg.

How do an unarmed young man slap an armed police officer?

God comfort his family.

I knew there was more to this story.

@OP, whatever you are looking for, may you find it.

symbianDON:
this government is clearly the most useless in the universe. very wicked and vindictive president whose favorite pastime is seeing others in pains. even if creatures from other planets condemn his acts, he still wouldn't listen...such is the state of his heart.

The Govt might be useless however their current supporters are viruses that should be eradicated.

Eteka1:
Stupid Senator, your Sowore is being held for treason by the Nigerian government.

Sowore was planning a revolution that he hoped will bring down the government.

It is believed that he will still try to destabilize the country if allowed on the streets going by his utterances.

The US is in no position to lecture Nigeria on how to handle people considered as threats to National security after the US shamelessly clamped down on whistle blowers that exposed their evil actions and war crimes. These people include Wiki leaks founder Julian Assange, Edward Snowden, Bradley Manning etc.

How you guys do it amaze me.

Let's assume that Sowore committed treason (I am sure in the part of your mind that is still sane, you don't believe that), the court has ordered his release.

Are you saying that Buhari and DSS are above the law?

Considering that APC and even same Sowore said worse about PDP, isn't it rich charging him for treason?

Habby121:
I'm pregnant now but it's still very young..i'm 9 weeks gone, he Hurt me anytime I try to apologize to him, he hits and pushes me but I now try to avoid him because I don't want another miscarriage ..he even hit me yesterday because I tried waking him up, he said I shouted at him, and I'm disrespectful, he even went to bed without talking to me.

Your husband hurts you anytime you try to apologize to him.

Apologize for what exactly?

Habby121:
I have tried talking to him but he always Say's I'm talking rubbish and if i don't have anything to say I should look for ways to make my marriage work and stop nagging

This is interesting especially the bolded

Habby121:
This started two months ago he wasn't like this

So your husband of 6yrs suddenly thinks you are not making your marriage work anymore.

Madam, tell us the full story if you genuinely want an holistic advice.

crackhaus:
This one you're awake, are you watching TheExperience14 or what?

I wish.

Binging on Okada Books.

What about singles who deliberately decide to stay off sex and/or romantic partners?

Watch depression and suicide increase with this nonsense.

liberalchick:
Lol you just described my father’s people to a T. Although, the women can drink all the men under the table. How come you’re so accurate, did you serve in the SS?

Hahahaahahaha

I did o!

It was there I saw women plant, men harvest, sell the proceeds and keep the money.

I fear those women o! they were so stout and muscular. And yes, they drank

I hope if Tunde leaves his wife and Shola takes over, he would have another poster for him.

[quote author=ScottDM1 post=84677433][/quote]Not surprised at the picture.

They all look like sick and broken people in their late 30s.

Goodluck to them.

MrBrownJay1:
i blame African society and mentality for that... how can a man have a decent r/ship with his kids when he has to slave away 24/7 while wifey is at home watching Telemundo and having a fantastic r/ship with the kids?!?!?!

as soon as kids are old enough (3yrs old), you BOTH need to work so that daddy can work less and spend MORE time with kids.

@ Bold:

Since you say African, I can't dispute for other African countries.

However for Nigeria,
1. Yoruba culture frowns against housewifery. They are called alabodos (women you feed to sleep with)
2. In SS, their women are more hardworking than men. Infact, you see a number of househusbands (and don't get it twisted, they are not keeping the house.) They wander about, drink while their wives go to the farm or business and wait for food.
3. A visit to markets, street hawkers, salons, canteens, restaurants etc. will tell you that majority of women don't sit their behinds in Nigeria.

Now if you are saying that the wives expect the husbands to be financially responsible for most stuffs in the house, that is a different ball game which is also a pipe dream considering that only few homes can claim that one income is enough to run it.

liberalchick:
Et tu? You were one of the few good ones left.

Do you really think the bolded is the reality of the family DNA in Nigeria? Since pre-colonial era with most ethnic groups and eventual Nigeria, it was never a norm in our culture for a wife to be a real housewife. It’s actually a stigma to be a real housewife.

OP, I absolutely agree with you. However, it’s changing, the current generation of Nigerian men are actually more hands on than their fathers were. In my circle, the dads are very hands on, they bond with their kids.

Thank God.

I always say this yet peeps are like the current generation of fathers and husbands are worse.

I think Nigerian fathers and husbands have greatly improved. The fathers around me try to be emotionally available for their kids and I am sure they will reap the benefits.

lalasticlala:
Juliet Oluchi Ehiemere, the lady who claims she had a baby for Flavour has opened up on how Flavour allegedly slept with her without protection by promising her heaven and earth.

Read what she wrote below:



https://www.instagram.com/p/B5sbM64HX_O/

@Bold:

Such shame!

A lady this grown

Funny thread.

Like men also do not get labels.

If been called bitchy for instance gets to you, review your behaviour and change.

If you don't care, dust it off and move on.

I wonder why you want to legislate people's opinions of you.

otokx:
What is going on?

How have you been?

Longest time.

27Pushing30:
See how “ordinary” she looks... the beauty of packaging

I was going to say that when I saw her on IG.

This should just teach us to appreciate our own.

Your man or woman or even child/family you think is not fine or presentable might just need better packaging.

Even you admiring that person as beautiful might have better raw materials to work with.

victorian:
Because u think and feel so?

Mr man, go and seat down.

You think getting married to a Nigerian man is the ultimate in life?

Nigerian men and their families, that will not give the wife breathing space.
The man himself nko? Carrying babes here and there as if he's still single. Infecting with the wife with gonorrhea and stds times without number
Bills he's not even willing to pay, expecting the wife to shoulder most of the family bills.
Go to churches and see how married women full there remain! They out numbers the singles.
My next door colleague in the office, came in last week with a black eye. She lied she knocked her face on the wall while trying to carry her baby. We all knew it was a lie. She must have gotten a beaten from her husband. We kept quiet and said Welsh sorry. Hope ur applied balm or something? She said yes and walked away with a smile. We all exchanged glances .

And you feel marriage is what 95percent of women want?

Lol.. You make laugh!

Oh jeez!

The fact that a number of 'Nigerian' husbands are horrible doesn't negate the fact that women or men don't want marriage and companionship.

victorian:
I remembered when I gave testimony in church last month, that I'm so comfortable, I couldn't keep it to myself anymore. I can buy most things I want and everything is going well . I was so happy at pulpit. Pastor was jumping with joy on the altar, saying shebi he told us, if we stay rooted with our goals, work consistently towards it and hand it over to God with faith and consistent prayers
There is no way, we won't succeed in life.

My heart was bursting with joy as we all danced to the glory of God.



Sighs there is nothing as wonderful as being financially grounded and covered . Its so exhilarating and fulfilling.
Not all women wish to marry.
Not all women even want to marry Early
Not all women are destined to marry early or marry at all,
But being able to afford what a woman wants, without begging people for it and receiving insults inreturn is the best feeling in whole wide world.

Choose what makes you happy and go for it.

I can imagine how happy and confident she will be feeling every day.

Money is life. That's the truth

Not true.

doggedfighter:
You're a real man and full of wisdom

Hahahahahaha

What is the definition of a real man?