₦airaland Forum

Omoluabi16:
Marriage as we all know is the coming together of two families. But down the line, especially when children start coming, there seem to be this choice by default to love and and dislike one side of the family- Mother's side or Father's side.
The paternal family is most of the times disliked distrusted or actually hated. I once came upon a poll where over 90% of respondents gave a negative view about their fathers side. Some believe the 'Village people' are definitely from that side. One way or the other, we are also a paternal family too.Feeling the same negative vibe. So what could be responsible for this?

obmini:
A South African woman baths husband with hot water for cheating on her, his younger sister took to social media to share before and after photos of the incident.

She wrote;



Source;
https://twitter.com/wego_trend/status/1198333486211457024?s=19[/quote]Human's ability to twist a tale to suit themselves is amazing.

OP says the man cheated: sister said wifey bathed him with hot water because of her insecurities. This same sister would cry foul if her husband cheated on her.

As for the wife, the court would determine if it is a crime of passion or premeditated and deal accordingly.

flyingdutchman:
I think the girl was just thrown off that his black friend tried to follow her.

Pinkie2018:
yes we are engaged now

habsydiamond:
What's the essence of distributing their numbers when we already know that most of them no ready to help anyone despite their hefty monthly allowance. Politicians only do things to show... Unlike the philanthropists we have in this country.. actions speak for them not voice.

ZIMDRILL:
if it courtship worked for you in knowing each other to 92 percentage it doesnt mean it applies to everyone

our focus here is on those, who find out change or the other side of person, when they thought they had fully known his/her person during courtship

the honest truth is during courtship most roughly 70 percentage dont show their true self mainly because of 2 reasons 1 life its has not tested both of you as couple who live with each other 24/7 and having fully responsibility to yourselves, 2 we tend to show the good side only during courtship

so you and your courtship and then marriage are the few 30 percent that showed the true self during courting

crackhaus:
You mean pre-marital sex?

I don't believe it, it's a lie

LoyalRccgMember:
Good morning guys, so there's an issue that has been bothering me for a week now.

it's about my younger sister's childhood friend. so, I came back from school last month after finishing my 2nd semester 300l exams.

And anytime, my friends sister visited our house, she'll sometimes sneak into my room to collect my phone which she claims shes uses for assignments (she's currently in S.S.2).

So last week, she came as usual to collect the phone. after giving her, she decided to stay back in the room while she makes research on her so-called assignments. while putting on earpiece ooo.

unknown to her, even though I was busy on my laptop, I could still hear some noise from the earpiece. I had to pause what I was doing to listen carefully and found out that this girl was actually watching porn in my holy phone oooo.

I got angry and collected my phone after which I sent her out of my room. even after that event, she still visits our house and still comes into my room but I've denied her my phone sha.

So, last week Sunday, after church service, I tried to my Buddy who was a pianist in our church to seek advice from him if I should report the girl to her parents or leave her alone.

I was quite shocked at his reply as he said I messed up that I should have taken advantage of the girl. I was like, the girl is 16 oooo. and i also told him that I don't engage in such stuffs (At 20, I've never hugged a girl before because of my low self esteem as my friends would call it) He also told Me that age is just a number that he have been strafing the junior pastor's daughter who was his girlfriend (17year old girl ooo and dude is 23) i didn't believe him at first not until he showed me the nude pictures of the girl.

he said I should man up that he'll get me a condom this Sunday which I will use. I told him that he should remember that he is a Christian and that as Christians, we should stay away from all forms of immorality and that our body is the temple of God which should remain Pure and Holy at the same time.
the dude's defense was that Jesus has already died for our sins and that subsequent sins we commit will be forgiven.

Right now, I'm confused as to what to do as my younger sister's friend has been trying to seduce me. sometimes, she'll just come into my room without even knocking the door wearing what seemed like mini skirt. mind you, all the while that she has been coming to our house, my parents are not always around. also, her mom and my mom are close buddies.

Please I need an advice on what to do as my friend from the just has already promised to bring the CD on Sunday. also, is it true that Jesus really died for our subsequent sins? that is, the sins we commit later on in life will be forgiven? also, I need advice from those who had engage in premarital sex before. so far, have you had any regrets? please help a brother. please I'll appreciate if I get more views concerning this issue.

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Chimam02:
Yes, it's still open

Queentee214:
You bunch of hypocrites calling me names and saying all sorts of rubbish... Most of u are worst ....I wonder why Nigerians pretend a lot.....
Should I have lied and said no, I don't have feelings for my ex anymore...
People get insulted for speaking out about their feelings .....most of you are just pretenders...

I only asked for advice about how to move on from someone have spent years with cuz its not easy starting all over again with someone else

If u can't read and understand what the thread is about then Bleep off and stop speaking trash...

Hypocrites

djoe21:
So what makes 33 the lower limit 'perfect age' and not 32? Or what makes 37 the upper limit and not 38?

Fisher007:
Hmm where do I start from?

This is a subject matter that most of us avoid because the truth of the whole matter is too bitter. It is like a big elephant no one talks about.
We all act calm and cold cause this matter brings out the rotten decay worms or spiders from our personal cupboards.

For ladies above 30:

Every wedding I attend, I observe the same thing which is the ladies are happy for the bride, knowing in most cases she as caught a slave, a big mumu to accept her despite her slutty past. But she has not been saved from her slutty behaviours. She is now off the sexual market place for the moment and have found security. Until the husband looses what he can provide in all aspects of life ( money, security, care, job, attention, sex, family etc). ( I didn't mention love cause it literally doesn't exist at this age). Then she will divorce him if he is lucky. If he is unlucky she will enter back into the sexual market place codedly with her exlovers, boyfriend, uncles etc. She might even cook meals with money collected from such men for her husband (marital curse don enter).

We all know women who have had more than 2-3 sexual partners can never bond with their husbands. In most cases the wife sexual partners and escapades are always more than the husband. She might just lie to rub on the man's ego. The bride body is a container for various sperms, which has been proven scientifically that the DNA of such men stay in her body till death. This is the reason why most women are emotionally unstable.

We know that most ladies have been sexually active and have had multiple sexual partners from age 16yr to 30yr and can never be satisfied with one. No matter how you lie to yourself. She has gone through the hoe phase and her bodycounts will digust you as a man if she really tells you the truth at age 30. She was used and enjoyed at her sexual peak. Her body starts given up from 30 above and that is why most mothers rush them to marry. Because they know the truth, they will say because of children but the truth is they know she will soon become an expired milk.


For men above 30:

The men are quite looking at the groom like only if we could tell you that you just caged yourself and turn yourself into a full time slave. In most cases some men at the venue have slept with your so called bride. Some uncles that sponsored too have used her inside out. Some former boyfriends imagining the amount of sex and abortions, they both committed and are saying you just saved a hoe.

The man's ex girlfriend too are present. All they see is the useless sex manaic, demented weak guy, abortion specialist is fooling himself and his getting married. Some see him as a prize they never had but are ready planning how they will cheat with him even next week or months to come. And that the wedding is just a show.

Most husbands hit their sexual peak just after wedding. That is why in most cases they can never stay committed. From age 35yrs to 60yrs is when most men are stable. They have attained wealth in some cases meaning younger ladies will flock them like bees. The wife will see this and know because she was once like those young ladies before chasing men with Money, looks and status.

So at the end all I always see is two damaged goods getting married. The bride who feels she needs to retire into her husband house. And the groom who is just about to fully start is sexual escapade and slavery because the wife will definitely never give him her best years.

Greatdre:
Lol..Nice tread..Many people think marriage is tantamount to free romance, free sex and enjoyment..Don't be deceived. Marriage is more of emotional and psychological challenges than the freebies stated above. Marriage is work. Too much responsibilities can even weaken your erection. Let me burst your brain, it easier to get free sex when single than when married. Reasons: You are bound by marriage vows, you can't seek for sex outside your wife. If your wife is not in the mood, no sex. If your wife is not happy with you, no sex. Responsibilities also make women not to be in the mood for sex. Lets talk about romance: Romance die off max of 1year after wedding. Once children starts coming in, just say bye to romance because the woman will transfer the feelings and romance to the children. Kissing would be seasonal, breast would be flabby making smooching uninteresting. The only romance women know in marriage is to ask for money or saddle responsibility on you. Let me stop here abeg..If you have contrary experience, kindly share, I want to learn. I am talking from experience as a married man. Peace

emmaodet:
Oohhh sorry.
Never mind

emmaodet:
Sorry for the question - Are you yoruba or ibo? I have my reason

GeneralShepherd:
Questions like this pisses me off. Every goddamn man is different and we want differe t things.

You should be asking your MAN what he wants! Not us

truthsayer009:
Okay, so what you said is very true buy you have forgotten one vital part. Making your own money is different from spending your own money. I know some good women who do but honestly they are few.

The problem is not really the money but the mentality that a Man owes you A B C. Even when women have their own money, they still want to date/marry up. The cycle continues again.

Even when they have, they believe its your duty to spend for them, not theirs.

Usually Nigerian women tend to wave a lot of things & bad attitudes noticed, once you have money & living comfortably. The same cannot be said for a man who is still struggling. You will hear things like "it's better to be crying in a Range Rover" than a "keke napep" .

AstroG:
How do men offer money ?

nlPoster:
Translate plz

I dont speak whatever language that is.

crackhaus:
Do you want the short version, or the long version?

sholay2011:
Well said.

@OP...Change your mentality. Life is a collection of experiences and memories, not money and things.

Baldwretch:
That's right but e joor oo!! 712 for just air and road trip ke? Abeg, for the love of God, stay where you dey abeg, just send me 200k and we are all good. Poverty also has a bearing and poor man gat to follow its directions. No choice. No need to do agidi.

Olorunnim:
Why didn't I read it like? I get it.

nuelyoyo:
If you have seen the video (the full one which is about 1:36 in length) you would have known that the guy fucking the girl made the recording and not his friend. The recording device was kept still (most likely on a table) while they bleeped away thier destinies. The fucker (guy) was the one that stopped the recorder after the fuckee (girl) swallowed his semen.

Authoreety:
Are u trying to say that dangote got no sons?

ZIMDRILL:
courtship never brings out the true you, because you only see each other for fee hours and all needs and wants of your boy/girlfriend are not your full and sole responsibility


whereas the moment you get married, there is too much expectations from each other then extend families, finally life its throws in stones and boulders, trying to navigate through all that thats when you might realise that your thinking of how marriage is run is based on how you grow up

and how you grow up and now are different times and challenges. what worked for your parents doesnt mean it works for you and wife


with my little experience we fail, to ask and let your partner explain according to them how they think over an issue at hand, instead one enforce his/her way of thinking and solving an issue instead to hear the view of your other half and understand were there are coming from

usually it works in realising that your thinking are different and you can quickly find were you clash and find a solution to the clash and then proceed to find a solution to the problem

oghale23:
Lol! Prior to that statement, I said no one to help him, like to cook, wash his clothes, etc.. and definitely his sexual needs as a married man.