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Seahawk:
I wonder why these prayer warrior don't prescribe same to husbands when their wives cheat on them. That's when they all remember adultery is grounds for divorce.

Or maybe the case is that y'all people worship a useless chauvinist God who hates women. Either way your systemic deep rooted hypocrisy is disgusting beyond words. And your portrayal of your God is one that no sane woman should want to worship.

Gloriagee:
I mean the guy had never cheated on her or laid hands on her. As for the woman, her major grouse was that she wanted to have much more access to the guy's finances. Yeah, not issue-ish enuf

byvan03:
So this man magically changed completely after marriage? He must have been showing symptoms that you chose to ignore. I don't get what you mean by being a house wife made you penniless, even house wives have savings. Gather that saving of yours and go learn whatever skill you want to learn .
You should be happy that he isn't sleeping with you with a possibly STD infested stuff. Empower yourself first and think of your next move. You can also try the praying down heaven method, just know that we don't fool God. Wrong decisions have consequences, don't blame God for giving you the man, you chose him yourself.
No one deserves to live in misery, think and rescue yourself.

shaybebaby:

It was fun, who knows.. The man might come back to post more pictures.

Treasuredlove:
abeg, stop saying what you don't know. Let me set some facts straight for you
"Modern wives" work
Most "modern wives" do everything in the house for her hubby and kids...is already overworked,especially if the kids are still small. Now add a lazy relative to the equation and how do you think the "modern wife" will feel towards an added liability.
"Modern wives" don't mind their relatives staying with them because they often pick up after themselves and are sensitive to the stress level they are giving the"modern wife" but hubby's relatives expect everything on a platter of gold, whether "modern wife" works herself from home to office/shop - office/shop to home and hardly gets enough sleep. They don't care. All they care is that"our wife" must deliver.

byvan03:
Put the money in an envelope and give them. Just cut the long story short. Usually women buy those stuffs but your wife seems to be the stingy and paranoid type. So present the money in an envelope before she buys embarrassing gifts. Don't buy baby milk, buy non consumables.

mrrights:
15 Reasons Why Real Men Avoid Single Mothers

An American author named Shawn James this week wrote a controversial essay titled ‘Why Real Men Avoid Single Mothers’ – detailing 15 reasons why men should not date single mothers. It’s got people talking. Though I personally do not and will never support any write-up with broad generalization, I think Shawn had some valid reasons in the article but its would be plain dumb to generalize this on all single mothers, read and share your own comments below:
http://mrrights.com.ng/?p=596

Fuqman:
You should have reasons to back up your opinion. I wonder, what's your take on those who verified polygamy?

Mindfulness:


Next time we will advise people to cheat on their spouses and you know what TV's reaction will be. He will jump on it and not cherry-pick what he agrees with in our comment like he did with Tim's.


Didn't he say something about credibility some weeks ago?



We are fine, thank you. I hope yours too?

Mindfulness:
You are a Christian and you present yourself as an advocate of Christian values regarding marriage and yet you advise a husband to cheat on his wife when according to your religion adultery is the only acceptable reason for divorce. And when I say that logic is alien to you, you think it's an insult.



He didn't but he chose to ignore your solution to the problem (CHEATING / ADULTERY = a cardinal sin in your and his world view - THEORETICALLY ) because you like to support each other - when you feel that you are not strong enough on your own .

If someone else said what you said, he would be following the person for weeks to present himself as the ultimate advocate and righteous person of God and his design for gender roles and marriage.

Hypocrites!

innovestor:
Part of my argument is this....i should not be the one almost always making the first move in sex, like she no dey like the thing. I consider that married ladies should be interested in making moves to seduce and out rightly cajole a man to make love to her. No be man birthright na!!

dollext:
Aw long can I continue to wait just to av a wonderful wedding. I am in my early 30s gainfully employed currently running my Msc. In 1 of d naija UNI. My gf is also a graduate and earn a little. My salary can put food on d table comfortably.... The issue is I dont av d luxury for wedding and the engagement list I got from her family is killing. Waitg I go do?

pcguru1:
You might wanna go to reddit and read the amount t of men being hit by alimony, yes they are sophisticated and armed especially with the backing of the law, you all praise foreign ladies nothing wrong there but its not exactly rosy over there,maybe you should read more on the red pill, men are fed up over there and most don't want to marry,because they know if the women live, alimony will screw their lives. There are hardworking women equally in Nigeria who transcend beyond the kitchen, sadly not sure why you chose not to see this I guess , William Lynch I guess

crackhaus:
See what Bukatyne is asking me....
You, a self-proclaimed Christian and happily married woman, asking me how a woman places her husband's authority above hers.

crackhaus:
Yea the basis of the comparison made by the pastor was to show how these women seem to be more interested in what they want in/gain from a marriage ( by projecting the 'HE'), than what they intend bringing into it themselves (internalizing the 'I').

placeofallure:
My friends are just like the normal girl next door. Nothing spectacular or extraordinary other than what goes on in relationships that don't work and both parties move on. Absolutely nothing!

postmann:
Here you are at last!!!

Your savoury altruism in the last miss NL contest lingers. (I can't believe I just sounded like lezz!)

I'm still humbled and grateful.

Back to topic;

The scriptural citation above shouldn't be taken out of contest. It was given in the understanding that a woman leaves her father and mother by the act of marriage and goes into a new family unlike a man. So GOD was emphasising on the man detaching from his mother and father so he can become one with his wife.

It's like the scripture that said, man love your wife and woman respect your husband. Taken out of context, many interpret it to mean it's not obligatory for women to love their husbands and not also obligatory for men to respect their wives. When in essence, scripture was putting more emphasis on whom who is more prone to default.

Does a man cleave to his wife in her father's house? Or are his children given by her traced through his wife's descent? Of course not! So, there are no basis for a woman paying the bride price.

Yes, the bride's family play Its role in the ceremony too. That's not strange.

We understand the word "price" chiefly from a monetary point because, well, English is an adopted language to us. But like I told byvan03, in the bribe price context, see it (price) as a requirement.

A good example was King Saul requiring a 100 foreskin of the Philistians from David as the bride price requirement for his daughter, Michal.

byvan03:
Sorry dear, they always believe they know everything . They have no idea but they think they do.

byvan03:
Thank you!

sapiosexual1:
I agree with you on this.
Lemme not take it too personal like I'm the father.
When I get my pikin, i would personally supervise all the breastfeeding sessions to ensure full compliance. lol lol lolz

thelish:
Abeg money dey Bring happiness.

Tolexander:
We can then logically come to the conclusion that the beauty of a woman and the wealth of a man do not guarantee a happy home!

placeofallure:
This is a serious issue that calls for concern. I have 2 of my friends in this category and they're both advanced in age. They are my colleagues at work, they're nice in attitude and beautiful in their own rights, active in church yet no husband. In my church too the story is not different, brothers are marrying from outside. I think some sisters just want ready made goods, nobody wants to start from the scratch with any man anymore, God help us.

crackhaus:
Well, people are still getting married regardless...but I must say that you left out one very important thing - character/attitude.


So I was in church this morning and sat next to one gorgeously-dressed unmarried lady (I only assumed she was unmarried going by the vibe she was giving off...didn't bother checking her fingers), then the pastor made a comment about how a lot of single ladies these days always seem to have a long list of things they desire in a man:

- he must be this ......
- he must be that .....
- he must have this .....
- he must have that ..... and so on and so forth,

Now according to him (which is actually the truth and I agree), not one of these ladies usually adds things like these to their lists:

- I will always honour the man God sends my way
- I will totally respect and be a blessing to the family of the man God sends me no matter what
- I will place my future husband's authority above mine in the home as the Lord designs... etc etc.


Back to the lady I sat next to..
While the pastor was talking about how ladies always have long lists and going on to give examples, she kept interjecting with the usual 'yes oo', 'ride on Sir, 'that's it'...
But for some reason, immediately the man went into the second half listing things which they usually fail to include in these lists, you wouldn't believe how mute this young lady became - she didn't make a single sound, it was almost as if she had been caught unaware and off-guard on realizing she was indeed one of those people.

She had obviously become more relaxed now and was probably thinking deep, because that wasn't the narrative she was expecting at the end.



I hope this was practical enough?

Processor01:
Another challenge is most working class folks spend Monday - Friday at work, then stay indoors resting on Saturday and another few hours in church on Sunday. There is hardly any opportunity for F2F meet ups.

Another common thing I've seen among some Christian sisters is the "I am all that or too good" attitude (masked pride).

postmann:
Until one comes to the reality of what marriage is, the significance and importance of bride price might not be truly appreciated.


The bride's father and family are appeased because a daughter they have nurtured all her life would be leaving them. If you're conversant with the bible, you'd understand this principle. The process of being married out, deserves some fanfare.

Now, GOD is the originator of marriage and HE left nothing to chance concerning it's rules and requirements. Bride prices are fixed. Man has corrupted the process no doubt by his greed but still, bride price is necessary and symbolic.

masterpiecer:
i am 29yrs old, i hope to get married soon, since i was 23, i ve always wish to be the best husband to the woman that would be my wife, but i ve noticed that a lot of married folks(mostly women), complains about their husbands, so i want to know what are d most necessary things that a woman would want from her husband to make her happy?

would appreciate tips from married ladies most.
thanks all.