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FreedomfromtheT:
I didn't insult you sir. I simply addressed you by what you assumed to be, Mr. faultfinding, character assassinating judge of those who are better than him.

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FreedomfromtheT:
I have seen many of them. Their dressing should be commended by any person who has a sense of godliness, morality or modesty.

You think only DL members' dress sense is the ideal one as Christians?

You are doing the very thing you DLers have been accused of in this thread.

And yes, I do not like the way DL women dress; Christianity is not mass mourning. Read the virtuous woman to get an idea of how to look.

Also attended a service once and I was bored to death.

In my Father's house, there is joy, there is life, it is bubbling. Read Ps 150 to see how joyous God wants us to be in His house.

Enter MFM and see how joyous their service and how beautiful their members look without earrings, jewellery or trousers.

You attend a service and everyone comes out smiling, glad to be in their Father's house.

I don't want the one that the service feels like a burial ceremony of a young person and after service, people carry face like they are carrying the burden of the whole world.

Anyways, Pastor Kumuyi is changing after several people have followed his wrong teachings and died in them.

Like I would always say, dear Christian, Read your Bible for yourself and understand.

Ire o!

Porksupplyib:
Being a Christian by name or affiliation is very much differnt from being a Christian. To be candid less than 10% of those who call themselves Christians are Christians.
So don't get it confused.
Even your pastor may not be a Christian. You heard right.

And don't be decieved, going to church doesn't make you a Christian. The devil goes to church. He sends his agents there.

Succinctly put.

Jossyfine:
Yeah, of course. I and hubby are trying to do the ones our finances can carry.

God continually bless your home. Amen.

EriMma1:
I've been observing this for some time now. Once a couple has lived together for ten years,
the closeness between them reduces. As in.. the man no longer sits with the wife to gist or even play. Meanwhile, you'll still see the woman trying to bond and wanting her man to always be around her.

I noticed this in one couple. In fact they are pastor and Mrs. The woman always follows the man every where and wants to sit where he's sitting but the man would clearly avoid her and go out of sight completely when the tailing becomes too much and only come back when the woman is no longer in sight. Why?

No man born of a woman will try such with me, I'll blank you like you're not there.

Women, you too should wise up and stop making yourselves too available. Make yourself a bit scarce and they'll value you.

There are a myriad of reasons why couples lose interest in themselves.

However, it is never sudden except something huge like infidelity, an extreme deception, paternity fraud or another family is discovered.

It is a gradual process where the interest loser might/ might not communicate same and the losee might/ might not notice.

Jossyfine:
All the comments above have not actually hit the nail in the right place. The major issue is that African marriages are not laced with romance and affection.
How do I mean?
* Most couple stop showing affection to each other once they start bearing kids and over see finish has crawled into their marriage.
* African couples rarely make out for themselves alone in terms of going on dates ( at least once in a while)
* Marriage is what you put in it ,that’s what you get, you should learn to do things together ie weekends both man and wife can create time to put the huz in order( not by force) but with love cuz it creates bond between couples.
*You can create low budget vacation for just you both without the kids.
*Once in a while try having sex outside the huz, look for an affordable hotel around ur area and maybe do just one night.
* Marriage shouldn’t be about the kids, cuz have noticed what most couple talk about the kids, bills and family issues.Spice it up a little and gist about ur selves, probably the sex you had the previous night😜
* Let there be stewardship ( you guys should always review ur attitude towards each other by asking if each is meeting up expectations etc)*

*Most African couple rarely send romantic messages unlike when they were dating when most times you wake up to see sweet soul piercing messages from ur lover. But in marriage all the messages are for purchases of huz hold items.

Marriage is sweet but not in Africa. Africa marriages are very boring😭

1. Am just wondering how I survived 10 freaking years 😳😳😳and it’s still counting 😔

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Have you tried infusing the above into your marriage since you know what to do?

Omoalare1985:
Please is it proper for a wife to be receiving/ calling married man in the presence of her husband?

Note: long conversation minimum of 20mins gisting mostly

The 'properness' depends on who the married man is to her and the frequency of the calls?

For instance, if she served/schooled with someone and both parties got married and moved apart, nothing wrong in long calls perhaps once a year to catch up.

If the calls are regular and you do not know where he featured/features in her life, then I understand your concern.

Ultimately, communication is key. Engage her and communicate your reservations (if any) after you check it is not from a place of 'Nigerian Husband' complex after her feedback.

tobenuel:
Demons that fell into Africa is quite distinct from those that fell into the European continent. Let there be no mention of gays or alphabet people in Africa, we already have a lot to worry about

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It seems you are the one supervising their falling.

coachchijioke:
Imagine a representative "Body of Christ" urging Christians to uphold an act that is abominable before God.

Folks, we are in endtimes

Na real end times.

That's why every professing Christian ought to know what God says for themselves.

Not this jamboree Christianity practiced up and down. The Christianity that lacks the power to convict people of their sins.

Pepperoniq:
Love is what the world needs.
but not for an African man.

Educate me: how does the world needing love translate to the Church supporting Homosexuality when it is clear in the Christian Bible that it is an abomination.?

ManWater:
These people should leave Church out of this gay matter. You can be your gay in peace.
The teachings of Christianity I know, are against gay.

As in, leave the Church out of it.

Eriokanmi:
Nonsense. I wonder which version of the Bible he's reading

I wonder also.

Perhaps the modern revised end time edition.

Because God's stance on Homosexuality is as clear as His stance on other sins.

This demonic agenda to drag the world into the Church will not stand.

Like Christ said, He will build His Church on the rock and the gates of hell will not prevail against it.

John 1 also tells us that He is the light and darkness can't comprehend that light. And they never will.

At last, a decisive, action packed story.

MrBrownJay1:
this dude is the one to be blamed as he should have said:"HELL NO!", the minute she came over with ONE extra guest (let alone 23)... but this fool smiled and let these greedy idiots believe that he was gonna pay for all their foods, and allowed them to order and even take cigarettes and alcohol bottles?! thats foul!

how beautiful was the babe that he allowed himself to be catfished like that?!

This is it.

I don't know why some people don't remove themselves from crazy situations immediately.

Sometimes, they want to revenge or pay back which then turns back to bite them.

If he stood up immediately, he wouldn't be having this embarrassing discussion.

Congratulations to him.

More of this is needed all around the country to decongest Lagos.

Thread yi dun

Since trading is not helping, a grandchild/ grandchildren would lift her spirits because she would be looking towards her future.

Also engage her to understand the source of depression: loneliness? Afraid of death? Tired of life? Afraid that others would eventually leave her? Etc. When you understand, then you can consider seeking a therapist.

It is well.

GloriousGbola:
I am not in support of this. It looks like a naked attempt to steal Hilda's thunder. Not sure where the exercise will ultimately go sha. The whole thing setting has a deeper life vibe to it. No swag or packaging. And no smiles for the camera.

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The thunder never reach her hand sef. GWR is yet to give Hilda the certificate.

I don't know why we Nigerians like this dirty attitude.

SaLongs1:
He wasn't even derailed but rather amplified by Delilah reason being that he killed more enemies at the point of his death than when he was alive.

Amplified by Delilah bawo?

Na same Bible we dey read so?

Tallesty1:
Interestingly, in the account of Saul's death, the man who reported Saul's demise to David foolishly claimed to have been responsible for Saul's death and received an unexpected "free death" as his reward. . I find that story amusing

Bobo should have read their own version of '48 laws of Power'.

Tallesty1:

"I was in church sometime ago for the youth all-night program. It was a program where youth could discuss literally anything with pastors. You could ask any question, and the pastor or anyone else who knew the answer would answer you.

So, someone asked if people who committed suicide would make it to heaven, and almost everyone said NO.

Then I asked if Samson is in or going to hell, and the answer was NO. Seeing the confusion on my face, someone asked me if Samson committed suicide, and I said yes, which became a problem.

I told them that Samson knew he was going to die. In fact, he said, 'Let me perish with my enemies' before pulling down the building that killed him. They said I was wrong because his intention wasn't suicidal. I got even more confused and asked if taking one's life isn't suicide if the intention was noble. More confusion arose, but many people shared it.

To cause more confusion, I switched to Pidgin English. The pastor objected, saying that some things are simpler when explained in Pidgin English, and I reminded him how he had used the King James Version many times because the English adds more power to the prayer point.

He won though.

I asked the first apostle, 'What is suicide?. I want straight answers with no buts, if you have something to add you can do it later '

He replied, 'It's when a person kills himself.'

I said, 'Good, did Samson kill himself by pulling down the building or not?'

'He killed himself,' he replied.

'If an electrician doesn't wear gloves while working with electricity, isn't he trying to get himself electrocuted?' I asked.

'Yes, he is.' he responded.

'If the electric shock kills him, isn't it him killing himself?'

'Yes, he killed himself.'

'Then why do we call it an accident instead of suicide?'

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'Exactly.'

I told them that if suicide victims are going to hell, then a lot of Nigerians will be there because many who died from accident or the other were actually suicide victims. An electrician working without safety gear is suicidal, a driver speeding on a bad road is suicidal, a bike rider using one hand at high speed is suicidal, using a faulty car instead of fixing it is like wanting to kill yourself. If you have diabetes but eat anything that comes your way, it's the same thing. If your spouse consistently abuses you physically, knowing it could kill you, and you stay, it's the same thing, etc.


Don't tell me I was wrong; I know I wasn't completely correct, but my points presented a strong argument, and I enjoyed it. You should have seen their faces when I said that suicide was a brave act nah that one force them to collect their mike.

You like trouble

I think what you are missing out is intention or reason.

For instance, the accidents mentioned is from negligence which is suicidal. However, the 'victims' did not intend to kill themselves. It could be the typical 'this thing never spoil well well'; 'I never gain the money I use buy am'; 'I would repair it after this trip'; 'let me just quickly climb the pole and fix it sharp sharp' etc.

For Samson, the intention was to kill the enemy; he decided to be collateral damage. Imagine a suicide bomber walking to Boko Haram's camp to blow himself up because that is the only way he can get there. Samson's assignment was to destroy the Philistines which he was successfully doing until he got derailed by Delilah. From the summary of his death, it was said that he killed more enemies at his death than while alive. If he went to heaven, I can't say.

I really pity his mother.

After all her kirakita and lalakoko to train him, he decided to kill himself laying all her investments on him for the past 26yrs to waste.

Omase o!

dondodo:
My name is Solomon from Kogi State. A graduate of Accounting from a government University in Kogi state. Since I graduated from the university 10 years ago,I've been facing different challenges ranging from family,finance,health and so on.Luckily for me i got a good job this year and I've been thinking of settling down. Do you think it is proper for me to marry a woman at 35 or just have a baby mama? This question have been pondering my mind. Please your opinion is really needed

Oga Solo, my people say 'Oruko eni lon ro eni'. Sugbon, tie o ro e.

At 35, you don't know what you want; imagine deciding between a baby mama and a wife. And no, you have not gotten a lady pregnant unplanned for.

Please continue working for now, you are not ready to marry.

mariahAngel:
Like salt?
I'll try and observe that when next I use it.
I just know that I like the aroma it gives when fried with onions on a low heat.

Come with your testimony and seed after you try it

Don't add salt to your oil after adding it.

For stirfry noddles:

Boil with a little salt and drain.

Then sauté chicken breast, shrimps and sausages (not often) with garlic flavoured olive oil.

Thereafter, add my veggies (mix of carrots, Bell peppers (as many colours available), green peas, runner beans and spring onions to the pot. Then add dark soy sauce, light soy sauce and oyster sauce. Sometimes add paprika.

Then add the parboiled indomie, mix and serve.

P.S.: I do not add the indomie spices or maggi. I also like to cut my veggies in strips.

P.S.S: I make other types of noddles as the Spirit leads. Peppersoup style, normal noddles with eggs etc. Hubby loves the indomie in black wrap (forgotten the name) and is an expert at making them. Never made them before

Pisture nor gree upload.

mariahAngel:
It might work if used sparingly with onions (sauteed).
Garlic is likely the most used ingredient in Asian cuisine.

Garlic works like salt when added to oil (olive/white oils aka ororo).

Just add blended garlic to hot oil, and continue cooking.

It is so yummy!

CuriousStudent:
Off course na.

I Sabi Dem, in abuja they target the daughters of rich men in that case jobs from their father-in-law is guaranteed.


But on this forum, the hub of fictitious tales, many are fake stories( including males that use female monikers to talk about contemplating leaving their husbands who lost their jobs- with the aim of reinforcing the beliefs that women flee the moment husbands lose their jobs),but as you rightly said,people can learn from them still

😄 🤣 😂 😆 😄 🤣 😂 😆 @ hub of fictitious tales.

Those Abuja men or always N3.5m for non-existent businesses.

Thought she divorced him due to adultery?

Or was that a cover up? Or adultery is no longer a deal breaker for her?

I think everyone should deeply know themselves and understands what matters to them.

Gospel Ministers vs Gospel Artistes.

Pastors vs Motivational Speakers.

CuriousStudent:
Most are fictitious with the aim of shaming men that don't provide.

I hope it goes beyond 'shaming' men that don't provide and instead help women to see the signs and choose well.

This issue is prevalent in our society under different guises:
> Lagos husbands
> Abuja husbands
> Men who lack financial intelligence
> Lazy men not willing to work/ not willing to get their hands dirty after an unfortunate job loss
> Rich men unwilling to take care of their families financially

Etc.

Klass99:
Buka I think you meant while the man does nothing, not woman. I got the message loud and clear, please amend so irrational public nuisances will get it too.

No, it is while the woman does nothing.

See the preceeding cause says a woman providing financially alone is like a husband who is the major provider and does all the chores while the woman does nothing.

Ishilove:
He knows but chooses to be irrational. That's his MO on this forum. I never pay attention to his crap most of the time

Really?

Just thought to address that yeye thought pattern again.