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Oxfordgrade:
Just like Samsung mobile phone with nice features but bad screen, majority of our faithful wife is said to be liken to that.
Without wasting time, the following are the common deffect found in most of our faitful wife attitude:

1.Lazy 2. Not goal oriented 3. Lack of creativity 4. Lazy in bed 5. Lack good dress sense 6. Not always too neat 7. Religious fanatist

Many stories here plus personal experience, has been my reliable source to have reach this unveriviable conclusion.

Your free to add or refute. May God bless our faithful women_ and give their husband grace and patient to correct them in love.... Amen!

As I moved down your 7 points, I kept laughing.

You must mistake a lazy housewife for a faithful woman.

New things on this NL everyday!

One wonders the families you come from or the kind of people around you.

mjuvey3:
Inviting Buhari to speak on economy is like inviting Satan to speak on salvation 🤣

Hmmmmmm, it's like they want to use Nigeria to catch cruise on global stage.

It is well.

While I agree with others that you are reaping the consequences of your adultery, it is advisable for your wife to move on from the marriage than 'revenge' or become like you.

If she is not sleeping with the best friend, she is expending a lot of emotional energy to maintain the facade and dream up things to 'pepper' you.

That energy is better channelled towards becoming something for her self and taking care of her kids.

You cannot at this stage claim you don't want 3rd party interference if you still want the marriage to work.

The respect and trust you want now has to be rigorously earned as you have broken same before.

Engage her parents, apologise to them for breaking their trust in you and let them help you engage your wife for resolution which would be best done in your absence.

Her parents, not yours: you want true resolution and not 'bullying her into shaping up'.

In addition to her parents, you can also explore marriage therapists and counsellors.

madridguy:
Calm down boy, even people with just a kid or two are struggling to even eat as of today. So having battalion at home means nothing.

If people with one kid are struggling to east, doesn't it occur to you that some with six kids would struggle harder and sink deeper in poverty?

theophorus:
If He's able to sponsor all 4 through Undergraduate school and none of dem is able to get a Job that pays NGN 100k after 5yrs of graduating nko?

See ehn, this Life get as he be ooo. If he good for you no dey think say your Guy dey lazy ooo.

Ask round and you will discover the number of Graduates Riding Okada, Tricycle and even Bolt/Uber is alarming.

Then there is something wrong somewhere.

The beginning might be rough, but a graduate who did well in school and has a working knowledge of what he/she was taught would breakthrough at the end.

A lot of questions should be asked in your scenario: what course did they read? What learning post school? If they were not opportuned to get good jobs immediately after school, what are they doing to transition to good jobs? Are they good in their job? Do they have good work ethics? Do they carry themselves well? Is their course viable? Etc. Etc.

emmy512:
Number 4 is my problem, can't count how many times they've complained about my communication especially meetings.

I have this feeling so far u get shit done, I don't owe a series of meetings and all that,

I'll be skipping a meeting for 3 today for same reason,

The communication part takes a lot of my time having to hear everyones story.

My way of communicating is to set a task, and once I'm done, Asana marks it as done an the whole team sees it.

No need to ask me to tell you what I've done
Shish

You deliberately miss meetings?

You must be the bosses' boss.

Even my CEO cannot deliberately miss a meeting. I hope you are fine being commended for your hardwork without growth aka promotion.

If you cannot work with people (lack of team spirit) while in lower cadre, nobody is going to trust you to lead a team because up there is more of people management and strategy than proving technical skills everyone knows you have.

youngfocus:
I have finally bought my first car,Honda eod I love the car movement nd stability,is there anything u want me to know about the car maintenance nd tips I will b glad for ur contribution thank you all

Congratulations!

Your joy at getting the car would not to sorrow of endless repairs, hitting someone, getting hit, getting stolen or an accident.

Amen.

theophorus:
Ask I just dey read some comment, I just dey laugh.

After Graduating, Your Papa link you up, you begin earn NGN500k/Month from there you run Business and side gig dey bring in some dough for you, you come think say your Guy wen the Papa na Transporter and the Mama and road side pepper seller na Lazy guy cos after Graduation na only Private school teaching of 12k he fit get cos He no get any connect.

The major catalyst to continued poverty is the number of children the poor have.

Let's take your example of a transporter and pepper seller. If they have just two kids, they would be able to afford at worst average education that can move their children to the next level. Imagine same transporter and pepper seller has seven kids out of whom only one went to uni, three went to poly and did OND, one went to learn a trade and the remaining two are into criminal activities.

Who do you think would climb out of poverty faster? 2 children + transporter & pepper seller or 7 children + transporter & pepper seller?

May God console his family and loved ones.

Nollywood, what is going on again?

Why too many recurring deaths this year?

Remote worker as in doing freelance work or a 8am - 5pm person working from home?

Because if it is the latter, some parts of the article doesn't work. You are not given additional tasks because you 'work' from home, you are given additional tasks because it is part of your JD/ your boss has collected more work to proof the boy/girl is 'efficient'.

You also don't take 'official' regular breaks. Work hours is 8am - 5pm with an hour break. Outside your break, you are expected to be available at all times. In practice, you might be able to take a break when the workload is reduced or in between meetings but it is 'not your right' hence cannot be scheduled.

They give you more work and you say no? Pack your load home. Or who else would do the work? You can only negotiate the delivery timeline if possible I.e. the task is not urgently required by management because of a policy that just came up.

I agree with you on creating a separate workspace so there is a mental shift between work and play else your home feels like work and no longer a place of relaxation.

Also communicating with your team mates how to reach you urgently during/ after work hours is key. Also try to have your mails and official tools of communication on your smart phone so if an emergency pops up and you have taken a stroll down the street, you can run back and attend to it.

If you have strong head and stepping out of your workstation for a while, respect yourself and carry your laptop and mobile Internet with you.

Quintopia:
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They suppressed our powerful, ancient traditional religion that sanctioned criminality, and gave us a white man 'saviour' religion that said ''Oh. it's not good to steal o. But if you do, and come and pray for forgiveness, or even explain to me why it was necessary for you to steal 2 billion dollars while your countrymen are hungry, no wahala. All is forgiven. Shebi you have already accepted me as your saviour and lord? So no problem. Go and sin no more. But if you do sin again by mistake, just come back and beg for more forgiveness, not forgetting to drop some pay for the church, you hear? So you can gain some more blessings from the lord to steal some more, you hear?''

Tufia kwa.

This is the religion you practice today and you wonder why corruption and criminality have run amok.

Let's take your understanding of the religion at face value.

It is the same 'religion' the colonial masters practice and their leaders are more accountable to the masses; corruption and its tentacles are swiftly and effectively punished.

So the 'religion' is not the problem. Except you infer that Africans are goats and only such stringent measures would set them on the right path.

Is it that guys of these days are not trained on being assertive and future leaders or what?

A scantily dressed lady comes to your room by 9pm and tries to seduce you.

You claim you are not interested and instead of sending her away immediately, you begin to entertain her shenanigans.

Do you lack the skills to find a girlfriend for yourself that a girl pushes you to 'state' she is your girlfriend and immediately starts billing you?

Are you daft?

I feel like putting my hand through my phone and giving you two dirty slaps.

A gentleman knows how to remove himself from such positions in a way it sends a message to the girl that he would not tolerate such.

It is not even in this age of 'me too' that false rape accusations can ruin your destiny.

Others have told you what to do. If you like, sleep on it if your story is true.

Ha! What a tragedy caused by negligence.

The couple would blame themselves for a loooooooong time!

I hope this doesn't affect the marriage negatively.

May God console the whole community, amen.

isabi2lof:
She should go and wash her head in a river , book you no no , business ideas nothing , even skill mbanu

Out of the 3 things , at least you should be able to come up with one even though you're not too brainy , be good in other areas.

Person wey get head no get cap , the one wey get cap , no head to wear am , this life no balance.

When men says they want a woman who's submissive, are they saying that they want a woman who will encourage their womanizing habit Cos I don't really understand the true meaning of submission according to Nigeria standard.

The one I'm familiar with is that of the Bible.

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N3TRAL:
It depends.

Ronaldo and Messi are salary earners 😂

Pep Guardiola and Mourinho are salary earners 😂

The CEO, directors and heads of department in MTN, Airtel, Nestle, Multichoice, Dangote Cement, Shell, ExxonMobil, etc are salary earners

NLNG, CBN and NNPC directors are salary earners 😂

That it's not black doesn't mean that it will be white.

Whether you rely on salaried employment only or "handwork" only or both should be a function of your perculiar reality.

You mean a husband pays all the bills at home and yet gives his wife 50% of his salary for monthly feeding and upkeep yet she is complaining?

Interesting story.

1Sharon:
So he had the means but didn't pay the school?

He told all the students under his scholarship scheme outside the continent to contact their 'matrons' so they can transfer to any university in Nigeria or Benin Republic and continue there.

It seems the boys refused to come back home hence on their own and now responsible for their living expenses.

dealslip:
So many things were wrong from the onset.

The first time I heard that some security guards were sacked because they danced on duty, as an employer I felt the action was justified. How do you dance on a duty that required alertness and focus? But due to sentiments and victim mentality, many people castigated Chicken Republic and called them all sort of unprintable names. The OPM guy also jumped on the clout, justifying the silly attitude of the boys, as a MOG, he ought to have chastised them but he made it look like they were victimized and rewarded their irresponsible actions. He is now the newest victim of the boys, they have brought negative attention to him, to the point of him so provoked, he is laying curses on them. He didn't tell them the truth about their bad work ethics, those boys became privileged and thought their actions were right. They feel they have attained star status and would not want to return home even when the man said he could not afford their upkeep in Cyprus anymore. Since they have become stars, let their fans donate money for their upkeep. The lesson here is, never justify bad behavior, it's a monster that comes back to bite the enabler.

Hmmmmm.

Thegamingorca:
I wonder what it will take for Africa to achieve this

My brother, I wish I knew.

sukkot:
you gotta be kidding me , lekki phase 1 venues are booked all year round. They don't need your publicity. They don't have any products they are selling to the public. It's a specialised market and they don't need your publicity. You will pay the full amount everyday for those 4 days. Also it's like a hotel lounge type setup so for those 4 days they can't make money because they have converted the garden space for hildas crowd. You will pay the full amount. Trust me

Coca-Cola despite being one of the most profitable company and market leaders in the beverage
industry still have one of the hugest budget for marketing.

Lekki venues need constant marketing because new venues come up everyday and people flock towards them ditching the older venues.

Prior to Hilda, most people would not think of getting that venue if they had such an event; they would be looking at an outdoor venue. Hilda showed us an alternative way to use their venue. She is not going to pay the daily rates. If she did, she should fire her manager.

P.S. I struggle to imagine any venue is N10m per day. Even Monarch that is high class was N4.5m the last time I checked. Harbour Point is around same range.

talented321:
If you grow up with your parents, then you will understand my point

For a moment, I thought you were reasonable enough to have a convo with.

Sorry for overestimating you.

talented321:
I swear, i love this fact, message to all women, the man is the head no matter who u are

What does 'the man is the head' mean to you?

P.S.: I haven't disputed otherwise.

saysoo:
I want to ask a simple question How do I determine the amount of your money to pay for services or goods in my own countries currency.

Every currency have exchange rates.

How much is your goods in your currency? Then I convert it to mine to know how much to pay you.

Africa can also have a unifying currency like the European Euros so all intercontinental trade is done in that unifying currency.

JasonScoolari:
These are the people we're supposed to be electing as leaders, people who challenge the white supremacy, tight grip on our economy and policy making..... Not those one's championing tribal bigotry amongst their followers.

Williams Ruto of Kenya, Paul Kagame of Rwanda and the Uganda president are doing the right thing.

@bold:

They seem to have their game on. Not the guru and epa politricks we are still doing in Nigeria.

sukkot:
thats the part we dont know about is was she sponsored or was it her money but trust me that event cost every bit of the 80 million she quoted. in fact i was looking at the venue used again and its 10 million to rent per day. she used 4 days. thats 40 million

They are not going to charge her per day.

She is bringing a lot of publicity to them, that comes at a cost to them and would be factored in the bill.

Same with the drinks (free advert) and other front end stuff.

She would most likely pay for the raw ingredients, (even packaged ingredients would benefit from publicity), her staff, and some other backend stuff that we can't see.

But the things we could see, she is doing them a favour putting them on the global map. Not to say she wouldn't pay a dime, but most would have been free.

It is just four days of publicly recorded event.

sukkot:
wwho made her famous ? sanwo olu and osinbajo and tinubu and, sanwo and osinbajo went there to see her cook and support her ? how many igbo politicians went to see her ? none. you igbo guys should stop pretending that you like south south people. you like their oil and sea ports

The victimhood some of these people bring onboard is scary.

Nobody saw Hilda's tribe when they came out emasse to support. It was all she is putting Nigeria on the map, let's support her.

I can count how many people I have seen supporting this Chef Dammy lady. Almost everyone including peeps from her state are not supporting her. Yet, they have turned it to Igbo/Yoruba thing.

Na wa o!

GloriousGbola:
80m? Hmmm. The maths is not mathing oo
Hilda should not set her self up with firs

When they decide to audit her books now and slam her for tax invasion and/or fraudulent activities, she would begin to wail.

Simple, thank you GWR for the award. My appreciation goes to God, my mother, the brands XYZ that supported in ABC area, the politicians OPQ would supported through calls, chats, visits and texts etc etc. Thank you. God bless Nigeria.

E don finish! No jam talking don start.

proeast:
Every informed person in Nigeria is now watching them with suspicion. They promoted Igbophobia while using it to subjugate both SE and SS yet shamelessly asslick North.

I don't know if it's the Peter Obi effect or the fact that educated and enlightened youths have taken over the narrative, as against the traditional media, but yoruba propaganda is being dismantled. Go to Twitter, you will see that most of the influencers are now confronting yoruba bigots and they're gradually becoming villains.

Could you imagine that these people called Hilda Baci Igbo, and told yorubas to promote Dami, a Yoruba girl, so she can beat omo Igbo record.

Everything to them is tribalism and bigotry. They hate SS as much as they hate SE. Two yorubas are currently struggling to destroy Hilda's hardwork and you begin to wonder, why can't these people break thousands of other guinness world records? Why must it be cooking? Then you begin to see it's all about envy, jealousy, wickedness and pure evil against others.

@bold:

At where?

The Dami girl has never gotten massive support from anywhere that her handler came out to yarn dust about Hilda's ass yada yada.

Like a poster here said, the thought process of some of you leaves little to be desired.

This level of victim mentality na wa!

delpee:
Some thought processes are so weird that one begins to wonder about the sanity of the thinkers.

Honestly!

Nemesis0147:
This one too has turned to motivational speaker

What else do you want Hilda to do?

Acidosis:
Nothing

Information overload is bad. I haven't even done much with the volume of information I have presently.