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Malakh: And what place does the "achievement" have in her marriage, is it about what she has achieved or about she and her husband, you sound like my ex, always putting herself before others, not willing to compromise, who cares how many degrees you had before marriage, did our mothers think about achievements before marriage, you are just clueless about the institution of marriage, I guess you are still a teenager

Dude,

I hate posters who cannot reason quoting me

I believe my post is in plain English and except we are going to co-own a child, I don't see how it is your business when I decide to marry my daughter out

Godvilla: [color=olive]Its not a face cos am a living witness....
Btw: Some of my Snr High Sch mates are married, when i say married, i mean bonafied couples.
Others got married while they were still in the University, others skiped University 2 be their own boss'.
I can testify, they are living a good life and enjoying the goodies of marriage with 1 or 2 kids.
Guess what? None of the guys are above 27 neither the ladies above 25!!![/color]

We are saying A, you are saying Z

Who would frown at 25yr old lady and 27 year old man getting married?

Who would even frown at 24yr and 26yr getting married and similar combinations?

Can you compare 19yrs getting married to 23 - 25yrs getting married?

Godvilla: [color=olive]U are yet 2 taste marriage, so i can only keep mute in regards 2 ur post.[/color]

So because 1 will not marry my daughter at 19 or will not get married at 19 myself, I am yet to taste marriage?

I hope you are still shaking your head!

Godvilla: [color=olive]:smh:[/color]

Shake your head till it falls off your neck!

Keep on living in story land

Orikinla: There are no jobs.
Marriage is the next means of survival besides prostitu-tion.

LOL!

byvan: The women with crippled dreams probably married uneducated aged men who probably need a young pet for keeps .

I believe some milestones should be achieved before marriage not necessarily age.

If my daughter is done with service by 19, I will be overjoyed to see her marry at 20 or 21 especially if it's a young bobo of like 25yrs

If my 22yr old daughter in year one comes to talk to me about marriage, I will probably slap her.

It is not the age for me, it is what she has achieved.

This Omo T is always shinning sha

nekede11: So u can't develop urself n ur husband house,wat of u clock 30 n d process of developing urself.my point here s ,if husband come early ,embrace d opportunity,unless otherwise.u can b n marriage and stil pursue ur goals,

Not everybody is fortunate enough to be an Omotola

Most women's dreams have been crippled due to early marriages

bukatyne: Are the girls through with school?
How old are their husbands?

Still waiting for answers to the quoted post.

Expect my daughter(s) is a working graduate or pregnant(God forbid) at 19, NOTHING will make her get married.

Even as a working graduate, her hubby must not be more than 25yrs

A 22/23yr old girl is still manageable.

[quote author=Still_stan]What's all this? girls of 19 years are getting married.. I wonder if y'all think marriage is a child's play, what's the rush all about??[/quote]Are the girls through with school?
How old are their husbands?

@OP:

I do not think that the Judge is against marriage but against idle minds.

However, marriage when put in proper perspective is a beautiful thing

ROSSIKE: Kindly take your trashy CNN garbage report and stick it where the sun don't shine. CNN is the LAST PLACE to go for any meaningful information, or discussion, of Africa or African economies etc. If you want to know about Darfur, Somalia, the conflict in Congo, yes. CNN is your place. Anything else to do with African economies, development or progress, leave CNN out of it.

Mr.,

Learn to talk to people in a civil manner

I didn't write the article and you have any different opinion or feel they are on a defaming mission in Africa, face them

ROSSIKE: Luanda has a high cost of living because of the high level of demand for goods and services by people who can afford them. Meaning that there is a shortfall between high demand and inadequate supply of things like housing etc. The answer therefore is MORE investment in the country to drive down living costs. That is where people like you can help instead of criticising. As for how much Angola is investing in health via a vis Romania, Greece etc, I thought you already knew the figures before making your loud, condemnatory statements. Next time do the research before posting.

I beg to disagree

According to CNN, it is because everything is imported by a rich few

Excerpts below:

Luanda is the capital of Africa's second largest oil producer, Angola (Nigeria beats it), a rising political and economic powerhouse.

Yet the country also suffered a destructive and violent 27-year civil war, ending only in 2002, which crippled its infrastructure and decimated its ability to produce its own food.

As a consequence, almost everything in Luanda has to be imported.

Heavy import duties, along with high taxes and monopolized supply chains linked to the powerful political elite further drive up the price of goods and services to astronomical levels.

Then there's institutional corruption, which creates high prices through price fixing and price collusion

Source:

http://edition.cnn.com/2013/08/01/travel/day-and-a-night-luanda/

dayokanu: My wifes name does not start with J.

So Mr Asewo what are we saying?

Congrats

HML

She looks so simple and beautiful

This is the definition of make up

jdzarrus99: Question:-On my own I'm 24th,
Two of us and I'm 20,
Three of us and I'm 18.
What am I?

Letter X is the 24th alphabet
XX is 20th number of the Roman numeral
Bleep is 18th child in .... jdzarrus99's house

jdzarrus99: Question3:-Which is correct to say, “The yolk of the
egg is white” or “The yolk of the egg are
white?”

I will go with the bolded because yolk is uncountable

jdzarrus99: Yes,its a position.

Ok, thanks

jdzarrus99: Question4:-What word in the English language is always
spelled incorrectly?

Incorrectly

jdzarrus99: Question:-On my own I'm 24th,
Two of us and I'm 20,
Three of us and I'm 18.
What am I?

Does the number refer to positions? i.e. 1st position, numbers or dates i.e. 20th of November?

Lizzy651: It springs up in discussions (especially when it comes to cheating). He's all about "all men cheat" and all that BS. But he says he's different, that he can never cheat on me bla bla bla (things I want to hear).
Though I haven't caught him cheating.

How is he in general? He's well behaved. Shy.

To People asking me what do I really want.

I came here to table the matter because I know people on here would know a thing or two about alter egos, and would know if it really does define them.

If all men cheat, then what motivated him to be different?

Is there any male role model around him like his dad or uncle who doesn't cheat?

Since he has never cheated on you/you have not caught him yet, he might just be talking 'normal' talk

However, when next you discuss, tell him that you do not like the generalization bit as it doesn't make you comfortable and a person of integrity walks the talk/ talks the walk

Keep watch but you don't have to worry yourself.

It's well

maishot: Aunty Efe, read ur previous extensive insight on our daughter, ♍¥ wife and myself.

Most point are within ♍¥ reach. Thanks.




Only..,



A lot of pple seem to think I reside i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ Lagos.
Ondo state is where I stay and Zenith bank i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ Akure here is not funny i̶̲̥̅̊n̶̲̥̅̊ relations to their female workers .

@OP:

Sorry for the inconvenience you both are experiencing.

I am surprised that you do not reside in Lagos.

Where do you live as your wife works at Akure?

@OP,

Does this 'alter ego' only surface on NL or does it spring up in discussions with his friends and siblings?

How does he behave to all other people especially ladies apart from you?

[quote author=Okija_juju]So its okay for a guy to date a broke chick, but not vice versa...






Here is my take;

Life is full of hypocrisy, that’s why my motto in life is live life as best as you know how to.

Many people have come out with the saying 'Love has nothing to do with age or class', I guess they have never heard seen this post.
Like someone here asked, how does one judge their size in matters of the heart? I will take it further; can one comfortably predict their future sizes?! So let’s say that a guy later becomes filthy rich and the fortunes of his wife or partner goes down, can he dump her and go find a partner that fits into his current size?!

I grew up with the mentality that Money and material things were never part of the fundamentals of a relationship. I always thought that the pillar of every relationship was mutual love, respect and understanding. Sizes change. The street kid of today can become the president of tomorrow, ask Jonathan the shoeless son of a Bayelsa fisherman. My father is another classic example. Grew with nothing, struggled through school, met a woman whose class was out of his league. Infact, I learnt that my maternal grandfather refered to him as a ‘Pauper’ and was against the marriage. Infact, at their traditional wedding, My grandfather repaid my father all the money he spent saying ‘He would need it to feed his stupid daughter’. I learnt a few wealthy Igbo Business men were lining up for my mum then. After their traditional wedding, they both retired to the village. My mum told me of the first time my Grandfather came to see her at my Paternal grandfathers house, that he stopped his car at the entrance to the compound and wouldn’t enter because they were too poor for his taste. Infact he brought a bus load of foodstuff for my parents after he saw the state they were living in (with me just being born then). Today!! My mums younger brother who use to call my father my his first name now calls him ‘Uncle’. This same Grandfather called my father and apologised to him blaming it on his foolish pride.

In issues of the heart, I do not believe in ‘cutting coats to size’.

I know of a case where an Onitsha trader married this very beautiful Girl that he met as an under graduate. Her parents also resisted calling her husband a common trader. Her friends still tease her about her husbands ‘localness’, but the one undeniable fact that none of them can dispute is that the man adores and cherishes his wife more than anything in the world. The chick is living la vida loca.


To each his own... Note that the coat wey size you today, fit no be your size tomorrow..

_{Please guys, keep hustling hard.. If you are to take anything away from this thread, it would be to keep improving on yourself. Keep trying to 'upgrade your coat size & fabric quality"... Not for women, but for yourself.}[/quote]Is, I will say is the post of this thread!

I had to look for it so that I could quote it

@bolded, that is a great quote I want DailyNews and others to take home

tintingz: I rather marry another woman, discussed it with my wife than sleeping around with girls(STD risk).

we are all sinners but NOT originated from Adam.

Before marrying another woman, wouldn't have dreamt and imagine s.ex and other initimate stuff with her? (I am assuming you abstain before marriage)

That act in itself is adultery

tintingz: Coogar Nice one there

Like someone said about David

Even king David was so wealthy with many wives and yet he slept with another man's wife in the bible.

Coogar was right on this, a man can be so rich and ok with a happy home and still cheat.

David never had a happy home infact, he is a classic example of a man who had a failed home

[quote author=2s£xy]I gave you one 'like' and I wish there was a 'thumb up' sign as well.

That aside, I will also like to add that it's only insecurity that would make a man call often to enquire about his girl's whereabout or a case of one of those love-strucked teens.

I don't call my 'oyoyo' often. it does not mean I don't care but I have grown to understand that respective parties have their seperate lives and ambitions which needs to be attended to; therefore that space should be accorded to them. I could stay a week without a call or call once a week. It just depends on my state of mind or due to busy schedules.

The only thing that would make me call often is IF her phone has been switched off for too long. I would then try to find out why or what went wrong. Once that's clear, I don't ask where have you been, what have you been doing... Blah blah.. Aside that, I revert to my usual frequency.

Na when I just dey start na hin I dey do all those ye ye calling like 3 times a day. LMAO @my foolishness at that time.

So, I wonder why Bluuu's man would call so often only to enquire about less than trivial issues.[/quote]2Sexy,

The fact that you do not see the need to call your girl 247 doesn't mean that the man is insecure or they do not live separate lives.

However, I understand that most abusers that use calls to monitor/intimidate their victims

Let us separate individual differences from abuse