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hunterfit: I am a bit surprised by the comments on here. I noticed the OP attempted to explain the context in which the sermon was preached and I think it is reasonable enough. He advised the lady in question to be patient and prayerful but the lady took matters into her hand and ended up in jail, is a cheating man worth all that trouble? If you do not accept cheating as a weakness on the part of a man, if you do not pray for your cheating husband as advised, so how do you intend to deal with a cheating husband without destroying your home? Divorce him? Fight him? Go and pour acid on the alleged girlfriend? The funny thing is , this is how some women put up with stuffs in their own home in order to keep it and advise others otherwise. Cheating is wrong, but when you are married to a cheating husband, you are going to need more than fighting and staying in shape to keep the man and your home. It is better to treat the man like the sick person that he is and take him to God in prayers while you calmly and wisely protect yourself from the stings of his malady and look for a remedy. Fighting and confrontations can't do it, trust me, when a man who is fully aware of consequences of his action goes ahead to do it to his detriment, that is more than selfishness, it has got to be some kinda demonic possession, cheating destroys the man too, he loves his children and he does want to make his marriage work.

hmmm...

You know, I would not have heard a problem with these views if they went both ways.

That majority of husbands would send a cheating wife packing shows your view is extremely faulty except you are saying that the weakness/sickness is gender related.

If a husband is a cheat, he has destroyed his home and obviously has decided NOT to make his home work. I will agree with you that acid pouring, beating the girlfriend etc. makes no sense.

Divorce/ Separation is sometimes the best solution to cheating HOWEVER, it depends on case by case basis. A woman who knew her hubby is cheat before marriage has nothing to complain about; a woman who 'snatched' the husband from another woman or used jazz to get him should obviously take the cheating calmly. Imagine Annie expecting fidelity from Tu Face; she would obviously be joking.

It is a woman who did her due diligence and the husband started cheating within the marriage that has a reason to complain.

carr101: We live in the 21st century, but if we're honest we have to admit that in some ways the church is still in the Dark Ages--especially when we look at the way we treat women. It is the interpretation that is Dark Ages. The Bible had been saying the same thing all along.

LIE #1.  GOD'S ULTIMATE PLAN FOR WOMEN IS THAT THEY SERVE THEIR HUSBANDS.
How sad that so many Christian men view women from a selfish perspective.  This view is often promoted by misreading the account of Eve's creation in Genesis 2:18-25, in which Adam is provided a "helpmate."   The Hebrew word used here often is translated "companion," denoting intimacy and partnership.  But through the centuries it has been used to imply that Eve was some type of domestic appendage. 

After Eve's creation, God did not tell her: "You are Adam's helper; I command you to serve him well."   She was not created for servitude; she was fashioned to be a co-laborer with Adam so that they might rule together over creation as God commissioned them to do (see Gen. 1:28).

God's ultimate plan is that we serve him. Man (males and females) were created equally to rule and have dominion over the earth Ref. Gen 1: 26 - 28

26 And God said, Let us make man in our image, after our likeness: and let them have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth.

27[b] So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them[/b].

28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.

When the pre-fallen Adam saw eve, he called her the bone of his bone, the flesh of his flesh; his companion; enikeji; his complementer and completer. When they fell, he called her eve (the mother of all living things.) What you call your wife is a reflection of your spiritual state.

carr101: LIE #2.  WOMEN CAN'T BE FULFILLED OR SPIRITUALLY EFFECTIVE WITHOUT A HUSBAND.
From the time she was released from a German death camp in 1944 until her death in 1983, Corrie Ten Boom taught the world about a Savior who could forgive the cruelest Nazi.  Yet she never married.  Did the fact that she did not have a husband make her less "complete"?  Some Christians would say yes. 

We have spent so much energy defending the concept of the biblical family that we are guilty of idolizing it.   We've preached that a woman's primary responsibility is to find a godly husband, have lots of babies and stay home to raise them for Christ.  

But marital status is not a qualifier for ministry.  The Bible does not even state whether certain key followers of Jesus, such as the 12 disciples, were married or not. 

The highest calling of all believers--married or unmarried--is to develop a relationship with Jesus.  Any other earthly relationship is secondary, and Christ Himself warned us never to allow people we love to become idols that distract us from Him

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There is nowhere in the Bible that God said a man/woman will be unfulfilled without marriage. Hear what Solomon says in ecc

He never said that anyone would be complete without marriage, he said they would achieve more with marriage. Apostle Paul even said that people should not marry

carr101: LIE #3.  WOMEN SHOULDN'T WORK OUTSIDE THE HOME.
Many evangelical churches have preached that women who work outside the home are breaking a scriptural commandment, but this conclusion can be reached only by distorting the biblical record.  The woman described in Proverbs 31 is often used to bolster a traditional view of the June Cleaver-style matron who spends her day baking casseroles while her husband is at the office.  But a careful reading reveals that the Proverbs 31 woman, in her ancient Middle Eastern context, functioned as a real estate agent and ran a textile business. 

Titus 2:5 instructs women to "take care of their homes" (New Living Translation).  But most scholars would agree that this passage simply exhorts married women not to forsake their children. 

It is true that, because of ambition or materialism, some Christian women neglect their children even though the Holy Spirit has urged them to put their career objectives on hold.  But rather than placing a legalistic burden on women by telling them that having a career is ungodly, we should tell both men and women to submit their career plans to the Holy Spirit's direction.

I believe Prov 31: 10 - 31 flaws this argument. In the NT, Christian wives are told to take care of the needs of widows. Lydia (dealer of purple cloth) is a woman whom Paul really respected was a wealthy business woman. It is even funny when people think that the Prov 31 woman is a woman subordinated

carr101: LIE #4.  WOMEN MUST OBEDIENTLY SUBMIT TO THEIR HUSBANDS IN ALL SITUATIONS.
If a christian woman is constantly beaten up by her husband and decides to stay, the question is; "If your husband kills you, it will be to the glory of God."
this irresponsible conclusion because of a distorted view of "male headship." We often portray marriage as a hierarchy, with husbands on the throne and wives at the footstool, and we use Scripture to justify this view: "Wives...submit to your husbands as you do to the Lord" (Eph. 5:22).

We assume this verse means women have no say in family matters or that their opinion is second-rate.  In extreme cases, women have been told to submit to abuse in order to honor male headship.  But this is not a Christian view. 

Paul also told the Ephesians, "submit to one another" (5:21, emphasis added).  I have heard teachings by male clergy on the subject of male headship, but I've never heard a pastor encourage men to submit to their wives! Yet in a loving marriage, a man and woman will defer to one another as they make decisions

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Sweetheart, you should realize most people mix Christianity with culture. The Bible teaches submission but most people seems to mix it up and associate submission with slavery and inferiority. I also thought so till God opened my eyes. Men are to love their loves as Christ loved the Church. This love is strictly defined in 1 Cor 13: 1 - 8. A husband that is boastful, loud, rude, jealous, wicked, unkind, unfaithful, unloyal etc. doesn't love his wife and should not expect submission. Jesus Christ clearly said 'He came not to be served but to serve and give his life as a ransom for many'.

For any one who holds that view, Stories of Ananias and Sapphira (Acts 5: 1 - 11), Abigail and Nabal (I Sam 22), Zipporah the wife of Moses etc. should quickly change that. The only one who requires and deserves sole obedience is God. A man will not say 'I love my wife so much and commit a sin because of her'

Funny that the Bible also told all Christians to submit to one another. I guess we are all inferior to each other then

carr101: LIE #5.  A MAN NEEDS TO "COVER" A WOMAN IN HER MINISTRY ACTIVITIES.
This idea came from a distorted interpretation of the apostle Paul's words in 1 Corinthians 11:3, "the head of woman is man" (NKJV).  People have used these words to bolster the idea that women are subservient to men or that they cannot approach God without a male authority figure in their lives. 

Paul's teaching in 1 Corinthians 11 about head coverings is a difficult passage, and Bible scholars don't agree on its meaning.  However, most teach that Paul is addressing specific cultural concerns in first-century Corinth and that he is calling for propriety and order in a society where immorality and paganism had blurred gender distinctions. 

Paul was not placing men in a position of generic rulership over women.  Because there is "no male or female in Christ" (see Gal. 3:28), women can pray, worship, study the Bible or minister without a man present.  How silly to think that a man, because of his gender, could add credibility to prayer or Spirit-empowered ministry! To believe this would be to trust in the flesh

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I don't know where they got this one from. Gal 3:28 states Men and women are equal. 1 Pet 3: 7 states husbands and wives are equal in God's inheritance. In Eph 5, Paul emphasized that a woman is to submit to her own husband. No man has no default right or left over any woman. Anna the NT prophetess that prophesied over baby Jesus was a widow (without husband/cover)

carr101: LIE #6. A WOMAN SHOULD VIEW HER HUSBAND AS THE "PRIEST OF THE HOME."
Search your concordance.  Scripture never describes men as "priests of the home."   This man-made concept was popularized in evangelical churches in the last century.  We have one priest, Jesus Christ, whose blood atoned for our sins.  It is a mockery of the gospel to suggest that any human being needs an additional priest apart from the Son of God.

The Bible says all believers are priests (see 1 Pet. 2:9, Rev. 1:6); there is no gender restriction.  Husbands function as priests when they pray for their families or when they minister the Word of God to them, and wives also function in this role.  Christian men need to stop being defensive and recognize that God has called us to function in unity with our wives.  We need to listen to their counsel, consider their opinions, and pray together for the mind of the Lord rather than putting our foot down and shouting, "I am the leader of this family, and what I say goes!"

Ok

carr101: LIE #7.  WOMEN ARE NOT EQUIPPED TO ASSUME LEADERSHIP ROLES.
The most common mistake we make in biblical interpretation occurs when we take one isolated verse and build a doctrine around it--even if the verse seems to contradict other passages.  This is often what we do with 1 Tim. 2:12, "I do not allow a woman to teach or exercise authority over a man" (NASB).

Most theologians believe that this passage was addressing an isolated situation in Ephesus.  They came to this conclusion after studying the myriad of references in the Bible to women in spiritual authority.  The Old Testament records that Deborah was a judge over Israel--and God blessed her leadership in battle (see Judg. 4-5).  Other women who held authority over men include Miriam, Huldah and Noadiah. 

Jesus issued His first gospel commission to women (see Matt. 28:1-10), and both men and women were empowered to preach on the day of Pentecost (Acts 2:1-4).  Priscilla, Chloe and Phoebe were leaders in the early church, and one woman, Junia, is called an apostle by Paul (Rom. 16:7).

The promise of the prophet Joel was that "sons and daughters" would prophesy after the Holy Spirit was given to the church (Joel 2:28, emphasis added).  Yet we have taken one misunderstood verse from Paul's writings and used it to negate hundreds of other passages that support the full release of women into ministry

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Deborah, Queen of Sheba, Priscilla wife of Acquila, Mary the mother of John mark etc. have proved this wrong

carr101: LIE #8: WOMEN MUST NOT TEACH OR PREACH TO MEN IN A CHURCH SETTING.
Since 1 Timothy 2:12 obviously contradicts the overall biblical endorsement of women in authority, how are we to understand it? What is Paul actually saying in this passage?
What Paul was most likely saying to the Ephesians was this: "I do not allow a woman to teach these cultic heresies, nor do I allow them to usurp authority from men by performing pagan rituals."   He was not saying, as some Christians have assumed, "I do not allow godly Christian women to teach the Bible."   In his day, Paul would have been thrilled to have had more skilled women who could teach the truth!

Priscilla wife of Acquila

carr101: LIE #9.  WOMEN ARE MORE EASILY DECEIVED THAN MEN.
who was deceived, but the woman being quite deceived, fell into transgression" (NLT).  Some have suggested that because Eve was tricked by the devil, women have a stronger propensity toward deception.  Others have gone so far as to insist that women are to blame for all the evil in the world and are therefore under a greater curse than men.  The Bible clearly states that Adam and Eve were both held guilty by God for their disobedience, and they were both punished.  Paul was not teaching that women are more prone to deception.  He was explaining that what Eve did was not right, and that the Christian view of the creation was that Adam and Eve sinned when they listened to the serpent. 

Women are certainly capable of spreading deception because they have a fallen nature as men do, but there is no evidence that they have greater gullibility.  That view is rooted in demeaning stereotypes and prejudice

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Cute; Samson was a woman.

carr101: LIE #10: WOMEN WHO EXHIBIT STRONG LEADERSHIP QUALITIES HAVE A "SPIRIT OF JEZEBEL."
How absurd! Was Barak "deceived" when he took orders from Deborah? (See Judg. 4:14.) Did baby Jesus come under a harmful influence when Anna prophesied over Him? (See Luke 2:36-38.) Was Apollos spiritually emasculated when he submitted to the teaching of Priscilla? (See Acts 18:26.) Of course not!

To associate godly women with Jezebel, a wicked Old Testament despot, is unfair and offensive, yet men in the church today often pin Jezebel's label on strong, anointed women because they feel threatened by them. 

Let's stop the insults.  If a woman is using manipulation to usurp authority or if she is spreading heresies, then she certainly deserves the Jezebel label--as do men who do such things.  But women who walk in spiritual integrity and preach the Word of God with power deserve our respect.

Advice the men to pray for spirit of discernment. I am sure women like Anne Steeple, Kate Kulman, Deborah, Miriam, Anna, Huldah, daughters of Phillip, Mary mother of John, Priscilla, etc. were all demonic.

I find it funny when virtues like patience and humility are attributed as feminine virtues. I wonder how the fruits of the Holy spirit became feminine. The truth is that it takes a broken man to love(esteem above himself) (I mean biblically and not the buying jewelry types)his wife and it takes a broken woman to submit (esteem above herself) to her hubby's love.

The biblical submission is a complement to the biblical love. A Christian hubby protects his wife's interests and she protects his interests. Together they rule their world and achieve that which God has purposed them to achieve. Priscilla and Acquila achieved that in the Bible.

The term weaker vessels has also been used to degrade women. If women are weaker, who are the weak vessels?

Note that in that context, vessels means physical body. Therefore truly, a 25yr old man will be stronger than a 25yr old woman but does that mean she is inferior?

It is even worthy to note that not all 25yr old men have the same strength.

@OP:

My dear, I really applaud your roots in the word. This your right up is very rich and educating. Continue in it, draw closer to God and He will use you to do exploits.

Do not let anyone try to ridicule or demean you because of your points or views.

dealslip: bible said submit one to another. The extent to which a man submits to Christ is the extent to which his wife should submit as well. Stop hyping the submission thing. Men ought to Remeber the reason for submission. Just like Christ loved the church and gave his life for her in return the man submits. Not that the wife will wash is clothe, cook his food, worship him, he eats the best part of the meal and then in return she is cheated unloved and unhappy. If you must quote the bible to butress your point, quote it to the end

If I saw this, I would not have bothered replying her post.

I don't like when people stop mixing Christianity and Nigerian culture, they are not compatible

purpose14: Why do people even bother replying the op, she's in her late teens, i do not expect much from her. I bet by the time she clocks 25, she'll be wise enough to know that even outside the bible, the nigerian culture demands that you submit urself wholly to the husband who is the head of the house. I ​am a christian and I believe in total submission to the husband who is not just the head but the owner of ur own head, *he paid for it* except ​U were given as gift to him.
@op, go ask ur mama if she didn't submit to ur papa, m sure its a 2way thing, submit to ur husband nd live happily ever after, or don't submit to ur husband and struggle to have peace in d home. Uhnmmmm, its nt as easy as ​you think...... and for the record, I ​am a feminist...... So don't think all this is gibberish, ​you'll get there soon.

Phew! I really struggled to read your post

I appropriate when people hold their views and culture without mixing the Bible into it. If you are really a Christian, then you know that there is nothing like 'owner of the head'.

I don't think the Op has said people should not submit to their hubby anyways...

You agreeing with Okija's post speak volumes.

biolabee: Excellent response....hope more feminists share your view

They don't have to.

They are all entitled to their opinions.

I try to view all my opinions through the eyes of the Bible

nbright: Wow!... My hands are up... It looks like I made u angry.. I'm sorry.. All I was trying to say is that, I'd have loved to see what a "feminist" will say concerning this news...

It's alright

blessed indeed: In as much as i dont support cheating at all no matter the excuse cos to me is a sign of lack of respect to ur wife, selfish, immature, inconsiderate to the health of the entire family, breach of trust and being irresponsible.

however, the cheated wife should not forget that u dont fight fire with fire. Yes, you will definitely loose your cool when u find out at the initial time but never throw away the bath with the baby cos theres poo in the water. He has betray ur trust, set aside sentiment and look into his eyes and tell him how bitter u feel about it, dont grovel on the ground with tears but rather stand tall and let him know his wrong.

Still, find it necessary to take it up in PRAYER cos without God you can achieve nothing. pray ur husband out of cheating unless u dont want your home anymore. Remember a wise woman gathers her home but the foolish tears it apart with her own hand. Apologise to ur hubby if he feels bad abt how u speak to him while within u, u know the message has been passed already, be patient with him while u keep praying him out of that cheating life hopefully u will bring him back to ur life am sure of that.

Be wise.

You are blessed indeed!

I hope you also have this soothing advice when the wife cheats?

2ndChance: Okay na, you people have won. I will not deal with him again but still will not take any nonsense from any wife or inlaw under any guise

We NL family also give you a second chance....

Go and sin no more

[quote author=$ugardaddy]This where you guy are missing up things. What you just alluded to and the issue at hand are not related. if you focus on the former in looking at the latter, you will not be objective in your analysis & responses.[/quote]Dear sugardaddy,

I am not analyzing, I am laughing.

Good to know that you have decided to resolve things.

Sir, your belief that your blatant destruction of the fabric of the intimacy of your matrimonial bed has nothing directly or indirectly to do with the issues on a ground is a grand delusion.

It will be well

debrief08: Still you are here most of the times boasting of how much and how well you cheat on your wife.

Lol!

I have been reading this thread and laughing because the OP is a joke!

A man whom in several threads said he maintains steady girlfriends because his wife has low libido and is church chruchy. He advised girls how to succeed as sugar daughters!

Now he wants to deal with his BIL by boycotting him and his family? Seriously?

Please bring on more suggestions I really need to laugh!

It is well

Dear OP:

I really admire people who read the Bible for themselves to understand and not just parrot popular opinions...

Most of us mix culture and christianity which are like oil and water in some cases. I am sure 90% of people have never read Eph 5: 21 or assimilated it.

I will post a more comprehensive post tomorrow.

Once again, welldone OP

divinelove: A woman is a man's helper. Thats the whole essence of creating a woman. GO and read it in Genesis that is asumming you are a christian. A man and a woman were never meant to be equals, a woman is the weaker sex. let us not compete bc we are both wonderful the way the creator made us to co exist. A man needs a woman and vice versa

Please answer my questions

State one bible verse that says that women and men are not equal p.s. Don't pull anything out of context

if women are the weaker vessels, then who is the weak vessel? P.S. Women are weaker vessels and not weaker sex

nbright: Ok, let me just list two.. Kulyie and Shollypopz

And what group is that?

I find it your saying I have a 'group' distasteful.

I air my views per thread and that is it.

I cannot remember ever forming a group with Kulyie and Shollypopz. I do not even know what we have in common.

nbright: Wanted to read[b] your views and those of your group[/b]... Have a splendid day too.

And can you list my 'group members' ?

nbright: Surprised I didn't see some "expected" female posts... Maybe I will check back @ noon... Bukatyne is viewing the thread... She just might comment

I did not know I have become most sought after

I commented on page 10 or 11.

Have a splendid day

odua boy: And what type of irrelevant and foolish question is this?
Can't even believe this is a topic to discuss like are some guys this stupid,no one in his right sense will even be deliberating wether to give his hungry and leechy babe aso ebi money or use the money for his master's project.;>;>;>

I know that FP will attract all sorts....

Last time I checked, you re not the OP and can't decide which question is foolish or not. I had my reasons for asking them.

Thanks

Matthew briggs: You mean this link. https://www.nairaland.com/1265198/dwindling-pool-male-lovers-nigeria

Your earlier post did justice to this thread.

I believe there are very few marriageable men and women out there. Morals have dwindled seriously and everyone is looking out for what they can get.

I also know lots of guys who claim that there are no wives anymore and I wonder those who get married every Saturday.

People should learn to be more realistic in their search and know the qualities that matter and don't.

Tall, rich handsome are easier to achieve than caring, kind and faithful. Don't swap caring, kind and faithful for TDHR because it would not matter anymore when the man starts tormenting you.

I also believe that very few people have never met their spouses as at when they are matured for marriage. Many have probably used them for girl/boy friends. Most people are rough diamonds who need little polishing to make them shine. Discern if he/she is worth it while rough and try to polish him/her to glitter.

There are really perfect people anywhere. All that glitters is not gold. Most people who are perfect at the time of meeting do not love us as love has a way of relaxing people.

For those who are still searching, get off the net and meet real people around you.

It's well

biolabee: you sound very professional and confident
keep it up!

Lol!

Thanks *blushing*

bukatyne: Weldone RR

Bukatyne is a combination of my first and middle name.

I am a yoruba girl and based in Nigeria

I am not married but engaged to the bestest fiancée

I am known as a feminist, woman right activist, spiri koko, simple, principled, good cook, mathematician etc etc take your pick. Lol!

My best food depends on my mood and stomach (very sensitive).

I like glancing through materials... (reading would make it too serious) and watching films. I am very indoor person. I relate well with people professionally but not too confident personally (working on it)

I write far stronger than I talk. I'm also very reserved and rehearse my words over especially when with people not close to moi.

I love God and always try to obey Him. (sometimes not easy)

I believe in family life on the right terms.

My greatest asset is my mind and I believe I can be whatever I desire to be with God on my side

Deols, I have reset it o

deols: re set it jorhhh

red and black is a good combo. black lady in red bugatti...yayyy una too mush

LOL!

Will reset it in my next post

Amelian: Your vomit, IS YOUR VOMIT......yuck!....wharever

My boo is the best to happen to me in a long while
Shikena




Whose headache is yours, if I appear desperate to u.....baby, lemme handle d desperation......Ain't u familiar about the phrase.....it's My Choice.....

So buck off

Madam,

There is no need to be defensive. No matter what we say, the buck stops at your table so chill. I collaborated a poster who said a lot of women are desperate in marriage. If you are not, then it doesn't refer to you.

I wish you goodluck in your upcoming marriage.

Like you rightly said, the choice is yours. We can only raise red flags from where we are sitting. You are in it and seeing another dimension to it.

Don't think NLers are busting trying to be critical; some pastors have actually preached on old acquaintances. People change for good or bad.

yellowpawpaw: Hahahaha!!!
Too much teens on nairaland!
ASUU and fed govt, una never resolve?

Lol! ASUU cannot even solve his problem!

He can still think of lust when he is yet to have his O'levels

Xyge: .

That's the point, gurlie.! He intends to get married so as to control his burning desire...! Now the probability that he definately will put the wife away after a year or two along the line, stands at 1! It's certain. Considering the fact that (1). He ventured into it with the wrong motive in mind- to curtail lust and fornication, not taking the fact that he still immature in mind and unprepared, into deep consideration. (2). Besides, he still lives wif his parents. Though out of sen. sec. sch, he's still struggling to attain his 0'level results.!

Tell your friend that he is very unserious and visionless.

If I hear him talk of marriage again, I will e-slap him

vivianc: Ermm, no, muah bu Vivian can't propose to a man o! I would tell a man how much I love him but I won't propose.

I do believe in equality, but not in the way other people believe in it. I believe male and female were all created by God. God created our spirit-man which has no s...ex, so that makes us equal. I have been operating with this believe since I was born, I didn't need the ERA bill to tell me that. I also believe this spirit-man was housed in different structures; male and female for a purpose. So I believe male and female are equal but different. We are equal but our nature and roles are different because of our purpose; that's why we are created.

I'm a woman, I assume the position and roles of a woman. I won't assume the position of a man, neither would I play the roles of a man. And I assume this position not because I'm inferior or less important, but because of my purpose and function.

This is late but can you please define what you mean by the

i. position/role of a woman

ii. position/role of a man

Thanks in advance

sihom: You women are so quick to say congratulations without cautioning your own, Amelian I think you are moving too fast so you dated this fellow before that's not enough reason to jump into marriage after one month of reconnecting with him.

You women are too desperate for this thing called marriage.

At bolded, very true...

In the words of deols my friend,

deols: what do I want to say that has not been said?


I wish you the best.

sokoanugwa: @Debrief,CC,Jidegirl. Your contributions have been outstanding and i celebrate your hubby's.

The Bible says in Proverbs 6vs22, train up a child in the way he should go...... check how the scriptures put it"..the way he should go" meaning the child does not know the way he ought to go until we take up our responsibility and train him/her. My generation of parents are too busy with work, fame and career that we leave all to the teacher and cartoon network. We are supposed to be role models to our children and look at how CC,Debrief and Jidegirl turn out cos of the training from the parents. We ought to pass same to our children if we are concern about their future.

I am always angry when it results to either violence or divorce because we cannot tolerate one another. In as much as i believe that we are to treat each other with respect, we have to work hard at making our marriage to work. Relationship is something we supposed to take time out to pray before engaging into it.

I am optimistic that our children will turn out very well.

I always said the bolded till I started working.

Most parents want to spend time with their kids than their jobs.

I am sure that a lot of people will decide to sit at home if they will be paid their salary very month. Consider the traffic and some other factors before blaming the parents.

However, I will agree with you that parents should maximize the little time they spend with their kids

No age is too young/old to get married once a person is matured (above 18? 20?)

If he has a woman he loves, source of income and is educated, why not?

My only problem will be if he decides to marry the next available girl because he wants to 'control' his lust.

The couple who celebrated 80yr wedding anniversary married at 17 and 21

It's well

4reigningqueen: Presently living as if am married. Too many restrictions, too disciplined and too principled.
Oh Lord! I hope am not missing out.

Can you please give examples?

vivianc: I'm Vivian, almost 26, from Imo State, single and still mingling. Was born in Anambra State, lived in Aba for a short period of time but grew up in PHC, and now I live in Bayelsa State.

I'm a part time student of University of Portharcourt, reading Accounting and in my final year. Looking forward to being an Auditor soon, then go back to school and study law.

Aside almost having a B.sc in Accounting, i'm also a very creative person just for fun. I bake cakes, do venue decor, braid hair, make beads and would love to go for fashion designing when i have the resources. All these i do is just to make myself a better woman.

Does believing in God makes one a christian? Ok, I believe in God but i don't do religion. Dont believe in church; hardly go to one, not holy and spiricoco, neither do i fear eternal damnation. My morals come from listening and believing my conscience.

I describe myself as a smart, principled, strong and compassionate woman. I'm homely, a good cook, caring, honest to an extent, a hard worker and a perseverer. I'm neither quiet nor loud. I love having fun; it doesn,t matter what i do, it just has to be fun. I,m sociable, hospitable, go to clud once in months, don't drink anything alcoholic. I,m crazy in a decent way, i'm spontaneous. Most times i play it safe while sometimes i just close my eyes and leap, fall, hit my head on the ground, get up, dust myself off, deal with the mess and move on. I'm romantic, very emotional, and sensitive. I cry alot, i cry when i listen to emotional music or watch emotional movies.

I'm a firm believer of love even tho it hasn't been fair to me. I'm not giving up on it.

My fav food is garri with ofe olugbu/oha or Afang. Hardly do ice cream, sharwama etc cos i like being in shape. I also work out alot cos i tend towards being plus sized.

I'm not really a sports person, not that into soccer either. I do more outdoor activities than indoors'; swimming, Badminton.

I love watching movies; strictly American. I could be a fire dancer or a terrible one; it depends. I love music, I also sing sometimes or used to sing.

I look good in black and fab in red. Fashion doesn't trip me, i wear what i like. I'm addicted to bum shorts, not so good.

Vivian has been through hell in life but in all it has made me a stronger person. Hardwork, determination and perseverance are my mantra, so for me there is no shortcut to life, and there is not get rich quick syndrome.

I'm the first child of the family, my mum is the most important person in my life. My dad is the reason i struggle everyday, i love seeing that proud look on his face when he would say to someone "that's my daughter." My kid bro is my partner in crime, my 2 kid sisters dont like me that much, yes, i'm always the 'bad cop.' My other 2 brothers are my pests, it doesn't matter if i eat or not "sister must buy me this......" This is my family, the only people that love me unconditionally.

I have few real friends. A gf whom I love so much, and 2 other amazing ladies that i met here, on NL and i love them too.

I believe in marriage and family. Would wanna get married someday and maybe have 3 kids.

Weaknesses: Don't ever get me angry. Impatience, intolerance, stubborness and a perfectionist.

I'm not wild or wayward, but i'm neither a good nor a bad girl.

My best quote? "who are you when no one is watching?"

That's all.

Very interesting.

God will be with you always. Try to fellowship in a local church, it uplifts.

You will meet your own man who will love and cherish you soonest

trendystuf: Readers Mail: I was married to my Ex Husband for 6 years but because he was not meeting up and was constantly in financial problems, my family encouraged me to divorce him. I ended up marrying someone else but now I am not happy anymore. All I think about now is my ex-husband. He is now the only thing I think about all day.

At the moment, I am breaking up with my current husband because I am no longer happy with him and he seems to agree that we go our separate ways. I have been thinking of contacting my Ex husband but I don’t know how he would react since i left him when he was really in a financial mess. It’s been 2 years since we divorced. I was told that he is rich now and has a wife and kid.

Please Help me, I love my Ex husband and I want him back in my arms.

Source: http://trendysturvs..com/2013/03/please-help-i-want-my-ex-husband-back.html

Interesting story:

You divorced your hubby bços he was poor
Within two years, you married another hubby
Now you miss your hubby who has also remarried with a kid

Na wa for both hubby and wifey!

Was it immediately they divorced that the ex-hubby remarried or did he have the wife by the side in the event of a divorce?

Well, since he has remarried, you either stick to hubby 2 or forget it.

What gives you the impression that when you marry the 3rd hubby, you won't yearn for the 2nd one?

Biko you need to find happiness and joy in yourself first.

Leave your ex and move forward. This is teach you that no condition is permanent and you should use your God-given brain to think. If your family tells you to put your hand inside fire, will you? Please do not use your family to cover your evil.

If everyone did what their 'family' asked them to do esp. in marriage, everywhere will be filled with chaos. It will surprise you that a lot of your 'family members' telling to you divorce him are actually doing poorly than him and will be laughing at you behind your back.

You are not even ashamed to say you divorced him bços he is poor. What is your duty as a wife if you can not lift up your man when he id down?

The way I see it, God really saved the man from your claws.

deols is really enjoying herself on this thread.

This thread is really fun

Royal Roy: Interesting, don't mind me!

#oldage things

No prob