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A hour of Daddy's time:

1. The man came home from work late again, tired and irritated, to find his 5 year old son waiting for him at the door.

“Daddy, may I ask you a question?

“Yeah, sure, what is it?” – replied the man.

“Daddy, how much money do you make an hour?”

“That’s none of your business! What makes you ask such a thing?” – the man said angrily.

“I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?” – pleaded the little boy.

“If you must know, I make N600 an hour.”

“Oh,” the little boy replied, head bowed. Looking up, he said, “Daddy, may I borrow N300 please?”

The father was furious. “If the only reason you wanted to know how much money I make is just so you can borrow some to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you’re being so selfish. I work long, hard hours everyday and don’t have time for such childish games.”

The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door.

The man sat down and started to get even madder about the little boy’s questioning. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money.

After an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think he may have been a little hard on his son. Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $10 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door.

“Are you asleep son?” – he asked

“No daddy, I’m awake.” – replied the boy

“I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier.” – said the man. “It’s been a long day and I took my aggravation out on you. Here’s that N300 you asked for.”

The little boy sat straight up, beaming. “Oh, thank you daddy!” – he yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow, he pulled out some more crumpled up bills. The man, seeing the boy already had money, started to get angry again.

The little boy slowly counted out his money, then looked up at the man.

“Why did you want more money if you already had some?” – the father grumbled.

“Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do.” – the little boy replied. “Daddy, I have N600 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.”

The father was crushed and he put his arms around his little son.


All stories culled from: http://academictips.org/blogs/

Happy read!

Please drop comments as you read.

bigheart2013: Ok. How then do we explain 'Love' to the teaming population of the world who are not Christians, obviously they don't read or believe in the bible? We need to start appreciating that we share this planet with a whole lot of other people and creatures, so that we don't keep justifying everything with the scripture. Unfortunately the most religious regions and country in the world have the most problems... Look at 'heavily religious' Nigeria Vs secular USA. Look at the heavily religious Middle East Vs Europe...so where is the love in this areas that preach it most? - Words!

I wanna be able to tell a teenager "hei make a left turn, you will see a red house, that's the shop"...and not "hei pray for guidance, you will get to the shop.." . I am definitely a practical Christian. That's how we got Aeroplanes, TVs and Cellphones....practicality!

Bros,

I am as practical as practical can be, Not perfect though Besides, it's the theory we have learnt we put into practice

Anyone is free to read that portion; that is the only definition I know...

Love is kind, patient, polite, not boastful, does not seek its own way, always hopeful etc. are simple enough to understand.

jidegirl12: Predictable !! I already knew that'll be the next response.

Anyhooo... As for 'knowing and application of that thing'' goes ....whatever works for anybody... I married my friendly lover sam sam. Ish



Mixup Mystification... Oh why I Love my go to Al-Qoran sometimes.

Eph 5:22

Husbands love your wives...
Wives submit to your husbands...

Truth is what is taught in most churches is more of cultural than religious. I always like to read the Bible myself and understand.


Are you a mind reader?

jidegirl12: Way of Love 1cor13:7

7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.= Test of Marriage

Not a big fan of quoting bible verses cos of diff meaning... By the way that verse is exactly what some Nlers blame mothers teaching their married daughters to emulate = Endurance.

Abi 'To endure all things' = Abuse inclusive? or are we to edit that part?

Anyways like I've stated, To each and his owns.

Funny, but this is actually the JD of a husband and not wife

Prov 31: 10 -31 would help wives....

That said, there is knowledge, understanding and wisdom

Knowledge is knowing the 'something'
Understanding is applying the 'something' practically
Wisdom is knowing which 'something' to apply in each circumstances.

It's always good for one to be grounded in the whole word. Half knowledge or lack of it is dangerous (this is serious! Ayamba girls are dangerous...)

Nosu: @all; thanks for ur view, I total agree wit those that will do that based on tangible reason but without a good reason, I wouldn't allow that.

Like I said before now, when I got to know abt her intention, we trash out the issue that very moment.

The 1st thing I realised is she just wanted to keep the name without any serious reason.

A lot of ladies tell u wat is the big deal abt the surname and I tell them, if there is no big deal y keep the name.

A lot of marriage today crashes today because attention wasn't given to small issues.and pls don't forget this, it is small cracks that becomes big holes tomorrow.

For me, if a lady can't leave her attachment to her home( without a cogent reason) then that tells me a lot abt who she is.

Hmmmm...

@ bolded, if you call her retaining her surname means she can't detach herself from her home, what does you wanting her to take up your name tell you (bear in mind that by your logic, you cannot detach yourself from your home and will make a bad husband)?

P.S.: Following the Biblical injunction, a man leaves his father and mother and cleaves to his wife

vivianc: Love is not enough for marriage, marriage is beyond romance and mushiness. Its more practical than these.........

If the sole reason you wanna marry someone is because you are insanely in love with the person and you over look some vital issues, those issues will come back and frustrates your love.

Who is a friend? I think a friend is someone you often agree with because he/she is a lot more like you. Practically, I have realised that for you to be friends with someone, there must be a part of you that's in that person. And yes, often times we fall in love with people that's entirely opposite us which brings about untold friction in that relationship. While our heads are screening "get out now before its too late!" Our hearts are saying "love conquers all, love would make everything alright, there is no perfect person out there."

Well, I have got some news for you; love doesn't make somethings alright! Rather it gets frustrated!

No matter how much you melt in his/her arms, if you guys are opposite of each in a not so good way, it might not work.

My opinion.

Lol!

Love is not mushy mushy feelings... It's more of the sex.ual part of it. I am sure mothers don't feel mushy towards their kids

Love is all a couple need to surmount everything in life

I Cor 13: 1 - 8

Woged2005: But the word 'Lover' is from 'Love'. Are we finally admitting somehow that it's not a practical word?

Love is not a word, it is an action.

How do you know your parents love you? Their actions right?

However, the word 'love' itself has been abused. You hear of love-child (children born out of adultery like adultery is a good thing), love-sick, love-struck etc. The word 'lover' actually connotes the negative: According to google,

A person having a sexual or romantic relationship with someone, esp. outside marriage (and we know that all sex outside marriage are sins)

If you are a Christian, read I Cor 13: 1 - 8 to know what God means by love. All other definitions na wash!

It's well

CNN80: Okay. Agreed. Why would I want to be equal to a man? I am me and he is he. I have no right to define who he should be and he has no right to define who I should be. So what was all the long story on top for?

U get time! Lol!

I would not waste my time analyzing a poster who thinks it's ok for a man to talk to his wife rudely or a man is defined by sitting arrangements or hair do. I am 100% sure deeper life members are men since they do not fix or other stuffs.

A man is not superior to a woman yet he has the license to talk to her anyhow or demand his food from her while he watches TV.

@Pukkah, there is nothing wrong in admitting you believe men are more superior or whatever...

The opinion is yours and you are fully entitled to it.

passionate88: I think it's unfair to stereotype all men as bad till they prove it just as it is unfair to stereotype all women as empty-headed not untill they also prove it.

Edited

So sweet a thread

Neither I nor my guy have clubbed before so I do not look forward to it.

However, if the couple consents, why not?

I look forward to us going out on dates, Gospel concerts and my favorite: making love in the balcony. I really don't know why I have this dream. When I pass a secluded house with a balcony, that's all I think of

Ujujoan: You are right, love is EVERYTHING . . .

The problem is that most people mistake lust for love these days, that's why they are advised not to marry out of 'love'!

Without love, a marriage cannot succeed . . . . but only REAL love stands the test of time.

On my wedding day, I read from the scripture where men were advised to love their wives the way Christ loves the church. So much more that he was willing to give up his life for our sake.

That kind of love does not come overnight. you can only build that kind of love with someone you trust and respect. Someone you value like a friend . . .

Uju, you hit the nail on the head

A lot of us do not know what true/genuine love really means.

I cor 13: 1 - 8 outlines it.

@OP,

Lover has always meant bedmate or se.x partner.

Your proverb can translate to 'marry your friend and not your se.x partner'

There are friends take stick closer than family members, that really love their friends and die for them. David and Jonathan in the Bible exhibited such friendship

biolabee: what if the man wanted tobe turned?

Then the 'innocent' daughters of Jezebel should not be blamed

Ibhamen: I read all the comments and many made valid points. Let me add a few line of mine from experience because, i have lived in Nigeria, Uk and US.

My advice is that, the wife should stay put in UK for the sake of the children's education and good health benefits to build a better future for them, while the man relocates back to Nigeria and be visiting. With the political unrest in Nigeria presently, nobody safety can be guaranteed. Security is still much better in these developed countries than Nigeria. In this way, they would have 2 homes, and can escape to any of them incase of any brouhaha.

Yes, infidelity should not be ruled out, since people can cheat regardless where they are, but with what i see in Nigeria,it would take a disciplined and God-fearing married man living alone not to fall into temptation! It's a cross the wife would have to carry on her shoulder,while on her knees praying that the daughters of Jezebel would not turn his eyes away from his family and responsibilities.

I wish your friend the best, in whatever decision she takes.

Expect by Jazz, no daughter of Jezebel can turn a man's eyes away from his family and responsibilities.

biolabee: Just a feeling....

Your discussion on the evils of naija people abroad was interesting earlier today

What interested you?

biolabee: madam buka


This ur post funny....


Do people plan to poke their daughter or actually cheat?

Well cheating is not so good a defense but from my observation people grow apart and get bored hence cheating
Only few people set out to cheat

Married life cannot be planned to a T


You seem to think the worst of naija men
So a man does not do chores again n so the solution is divorce

WAS that justifiable?

Think the worst of Nigeria men ke?

Reread my post again.

@Slimyem,

I still agree with your post.

However, there is a flip side: most people trick their spouses into marriage. Some men will not tell you they will cheat or abuse; neither will they disclose they will sleep with their kids. Some women will not tell you they will dump you when in need or will sleep with their bosses to get promotions.

I listened to a program on radio once discussing a recently divorced couple. The guy did everything foe the lady while courting. He would cook when she came visiting. He had no problems with cleaning for her and washing her clothes.

Fast forward to after marriage, the guy suddenly felt the chores were beneath him. They came home from work together and the guy would still expect only her to cook and take care of the home while he watched TV. She complained and he said he did all those things to assist her to marrying him. Now she has entered, it is no longer his duty any more. See deceit of the highest order!

While I don't support the divorce as the husband was not accused of cheating, the husband ruined his marriage himself. He should have told the wife to be at all those stuffs was just still they get married.

Such storied abound hence the saying that marriage is different from courtship. All the sweety sweety seems to disappear after saying I do and I wonder why. I guess the lovers were never true to themselves

Wahala90: Did Chika say she was suffering endlessly in her marriage? You are simply making excuses because you are already preparing an escape route for yourselves because you know you can or will do the same.

Don't get too excited!

You asked a question and I countered you with another question. Your post I quoted seem to suggest you supported endless suffering and I asked to get your response.

You should learn how to be civil, it would help in your marriage

slimyem: I don't know about many of our parents but I know of MANY ladies of today who believe the boldened and who enter into marriages eyes wide open with men they know are serial cheats.
My problem is that these same ladies would sooner have problems with these same attitudes they deliberately waved aside, scream how they can't take it anymore, opt for divorce after a while, and then glorify it like its the best choice they ever made.

A lot of unmarried people are getting the message wrongly. Entering into marriages with the mindset that,if it doesn't work, divorce is the way out.

I quite agree with you.

As for your last paragraph, I only believe in divorce on the grounds of infidelity and abuse esp physical(not fighting I.e. Wife abuses hubby and hubby slaps her or wife slap one hubby slap two). All other grounds na wash.

That's why I said ladies need to be counseled and inspired to make something useful out of their lives. A lot of women end up achieving nothing or not being useful to themselves or their societies.

Nashville: You are asking how would she drop a potential husband because of what she saw her parents do but you are encouraging her to get a divorce after marriage? I think it should be the other way round, a failed relationship is better than a failed marriage. Soceity does not force us to marry who we do not want to marry. The decision to marry my wife was mine and I will also take responsibility for the success or failure of our marriage. I will not blame my father or mother. If a girl brings someone home a boyfriend and the guy starts beating her before marriage - any parent will advice her not to marry and even if they dont she has a choice not to marry. Sometimes on these threads, people just talk about their spouses as if they are some stranger they met on the street one day and married the next.

Marriages can be good. Anybody in a bad marriage is at best partly at fault too. Most times, we see the handwriting on the wall but we still jump into it. Most of these can be avoided. Choose wisely.

Sweetheart [s]how can I call someone else's husband sweetheart? [/s]

Read in between the lines...

I do not encourage divorce after marriage nor am I blaming society.

You are lucky you have good examples in your parents worthy of emulation. What of the girl I talked about?

We really need a lot of pre-martial counseling in our society and not counseling on marriage but purpose. It would shock you how many female graduates have no life ambition or vision. it would also shock you how many of our parents believe cheating is ok as far as he doesn't bring the woman home or he still takes care of her.

The women who do not believe in all these is tagged 'unwifely' as she is not patient and humble as if they are exclusively wifely characteristics.

I over believe in happy marriages sef

Wahala90: How can you waste so much space and yet make no sense. Are you in support of this kind of lifestyle of our celebs? Mumu Advocate!

Are you in support of endless suffering in marriage?

Nashville: When I read posts like this, it just sends a very wrong signal about marriage. Next month, my parents will celebrate 40 years of marriage. My grandparents were married for 62 years before my grandfather passed on and I am almost 8 years in marriage and I do not regret getting married. My wife as well has no regrets. My brother and sister are also very happily married. There are lots of people out there enjoying their marriages and may be you need to learn one or two things from them if this is truly your view.

No marriage is perfect just like no one is perfect but I dare say the scenarios you paint are far from the norm. I am a Christian and I know I can only have something I believe in. I can only have a happy marriage if I believe it is possible and if I can see it. This is not about men vs women. I have a friend whose wife is dating an ED in her bank, and she is threagthening him with divorce etc. There are bad men and women out there and there are good men too. Your responsibility is to marry a good man. This is just a cheap way of absolving oneself from blame.

If you sincerely ask people in bad marriage how they got themselves into the mess they are in, they themselves would tell you where they made mistakes. Most mistakes were made before marriage and what I am preaching is that divorce should not be seen as an easy escape route. Someone commented earlier that people that are no longer connecting should get a divorce. I actually laughed, like seriously, is that what marriage has turned into? Most people marry for the wrong reasons. Some women will marry guys who abused and beat them up even before marriage, some will still marry guys that cheated on them 10 times before marriage. Some will marry a guy over the internet? Some will marry guys they dont even know what he does for a living.

Marriage can be lovely but you must first believe it can be!

Sweet

I would say that our parents and grandparents are wrong role models when it comes to marriage This generation is a living proof that 'staying because of the kids make no sense!'

I would always pick quality over quantity which our parents lacked.

Imagine one poster in Chika Ike's divorce thread bold to say that his mother has suffered worse and is still 'married'.

While I agree with the bolded, it's not always their fault. Imagine a lady who saw her father beat her mother or have numerous extra-martial affairs... how would she drop a potential husband because of this? If she even tell her mother, what advise will she give her? I know someone whose father calls her daily to tell her to endure cheating as all men cheat. This is no story, I know her and have seen her receive such calls.

It's well

debrief08: Yes oh Divorcees are total failures, they are better off writing "letters from the grave" then we can celebrate them
A dead spouse is far more better than a living divorcee.
I will print the fliers

LOl!

[quote author=A-HA]THE WESTERN CIVILISATION IS DESTROYING AFRICAN PRIDE AND CULTURE.[/quote]What really is the African culture and pride?

What is western civilization? Keep in mind that some years back, whites did not divorce too

Ifede chidex: take it easy boo, i only asked a sincere question, n dat does not mean I'm d person with d issue

This is NOT take it easy matter!

It's better to shout now so that there is no divorce in future

sameolg616: just another excuse to prostitute more...what kinda of problems could she possibly have that my mother has never had-even worse..yet,she remains in the marriage for over 30yrs now...most of the modern day woman work harder and love money more now than men!so what do they need the marriage for?
as i tell them:you need a man or u want to be the man?if u want to be the man then u dont need a man

The fact your mum is content with enduring her marriage does not mean others should be...

We really don't know the facts so can't say if she should be happy or not.

TV01: I liked this post.

It would be great if the Christian context of divorce not pre-supposing re-marriage was also in view. This would focus people on the serious nature of the commitment and the soberness required to venture into marriage.

Contrary to popular opinion, most divorce is about selfish desire overcoming responsibility and commitment.

Our children and societies will reap this whirlwind.

TV

They have started reaping right from our grandparents...

Afterall, they trained the current set of parents right?

Ifede chidex: Pls, what of a situation where someone introduced u to d person who is not currently in d country, u guys talk only on phone, n d plan here is for d person 2 come back n do d necessary things on ur head, hw are u supposed 2 knw d person better since action speaks louder dan words

You are kidding right?

Somebody you have never seen is coming to do the 'necessary things on your head'?

Has men finished around your neighbourhood?

Tomorrow you will start crying over NL when you find out there is something wrong with him abi?

AmberDelRio: Hi. My name is Amber. I recently got married to a Igbo man. I love my husband very much but I feel like he is hiding some things from me. I have been honest with him about the good bad and ugly with myself but I just can't shake this feeling of hidden things. I am now starting to question weather he loves me for me or if he would just like a green card. Should I go searching for information or just let it be?

Where is the trouble

omoikhefue: Finally im been understood... (Divorcees have failed. What more to do than to try to console themselves that they haven't?) it should be celebrated at all!

Falling (failure) is not the issue... it is rising up that matters.

It is mindset like this that makes people who should divorce still cling to dead marriages so as not to be labeled 'failures'

I sincerely refuse to believe all blacks are 'saints' till they come in contact with whites

The truth is that worse happens in Nigeria but our Police being very 'efficient' do not track most crimes.

How many white leaders would syphon the money meant for pensioners and go free if it goes public? Bill Clinton almost lost his marriage and position because he had an extra-martial affair. Do you think Jonathan sexcapedes will affect his position? Who cares about such anyways? What of people killed daily for rituals? Or raped? Or daily perverted justice?

Let's stop painting blacks as mindless fools who absorb anything from whites.

The white society is only more sincere while we are very pretentious and hypocrites.

If we are NOT satisfied with their morals, abeg let's move back home emasse! It is a sign of ingratitude to criticize your host.

coogar: so bukatino, you are saying you are the righteous feminist and someone like say, ileoba, is a radical feminist? lololol