₦airaland Forum

Skii: Abraham was 10years older than Sarah

dasparrow: I have never in my life come across a group of people who make commitment and marraige so complicated and dare I say unadmirable like Nigerians. This is why you have so many miserable Nigerian marraiages and so much domestic violence happening in marraiges amongst Nigerians. When God created the institution called marraige, did He emphasize or make any rule pertaining to age?

This is why some of you end up with a person God never even intended for you to marry because you place all this fake theories and crazy cultural beliefs as stumbling blocks in your way that hinder you from meeting and marrying your God-assigned spouse(if it is His will that you get married). As long as you don't go marrying a minor/underage or your grand pa or grand ma's age mate, then what does it matter? People mature at a different pace or level. There are people who are 22 years old yet act and reason more maturely than someone who is 35 years old. What you should focus on is the maturity level of the individual you intend to get married to. I have met a few 50 year old individuals who still acts like people in their late teens or early twenties. This is why you hear the saying "grow up!"

What I advise is that when you meet someone you like, check out their personality, their moral value system, their belief system, what kind of upbringing they had and their maturity level. If it matches or is compatible with yours, then go ahead with the union. Nigerians should learn not to make life so difficult and complicated when there is really no need for that. Life in itself is complicated enough. Life on earth is just a temporary journey so love freely and stop living in self imposed bondage. Peace!

emmatok: The weed u are smoking is really of superior quality.

Onliie: Teju BabyFace Show wrote: Ladies, if you come across a man who is smart, hot, humble, educated, financially secure, passionate and patient, great at fixing things around the house and is not materialistic, loves you like you are the only girl in the world and watches you whilst you are applying your make up while listening to every word you say.......then, please be assured that the WEED you have just smoked is of superior quality.

goodchick: Whether u confront him or not,dat won't stop him from cheating on u with d same girl or another. Men are men they can't do without cheating even u have sex with him everyday. Like someone once told me its like eating rice@home evryday they wld like to eat beans outside.just pray for him and be patient in your marriage.
Pls accept it he cheated on you,forgive him and move on.

PStylish: Wow.You are so wonderful.Now I feel relaxed.
I am taking your advice intoto.Its really going to be fun.
In the multitude of counsellors, there is safety - Proverbs.
I love NL.
Thank you once again.

PStylish: Very funny.Thanks all the same.




hahahahahahaha
No woman did or could do that to my great grandfather, grandfather or father.
And its not going to start from me. Never!!!
We are as hard as nails. Its just that we may not look it.

PStylish: Very funny.Thanks all the same.




hahahahahahaha
No woman did or could do that to my great grandfather, grandfather or father.
And its not going to start from me. Never!!!
We are as hard as nails. Its just that we may not look it.

PStylish: Very funny.Thanks all the same.




hahahahahahaha
No woman did or could do that to my great grandfather, grandfather or father.
And its not going to start from me. Never!!!
We are as hard as nails. Its just that we may not look it.

Bontee: Why don't you state what is not right with my post instead of thinking everyone has to go with your own interpretation of the matter. We are all different way of thinking and engaging with other people with their ideas helps to expand your understanding of life. You are free to discuss as it is a discussion thread or keep on lamenting that it is well from the side.

OPUS DEI: Even my friend who got married to his hearthrob last year still shows some regret amongst many men I know.Nothwithstanding there are also happily married couples.
So long as you are on earth, there will ALWAYS be a reason not to be happy.Its only in the after life that opportunity for continuous happiness exists.Marriage will not increase your reading on the HAPPIMETER beyond the level you work to maintain your happiness.I believe the best we can do is to:

1- Decide on the kind of marriage we want to have (this applies a little more to us guys)
2- Start planning and preparing on how to achieve it (this YOU MUST SEAT AND DISCUSS with your spouse-to-be)- cos any union undefined is subject to abuse.
3- Pray and Continually strive to make the right choice guided by the Holy Spirit
4- Live with the fact that Life in all its facet is actually a journey of faith, fraught with uncertainties.Therefore do not make your expectations very high.
5- For us men, see how much you can try to live out this passage "husbands, love your wife....." The day i understood this scripture, I almost thought that God was unfair.

I am ripe and look forward to a very happy married life since I did not go the option of priesthood. Cheers

Lagusta: hey, gud mornin 2 u 2, m fine, hop u r too....

What i posted is real life, happening to my nextdoor neighbour. [/b]D hussie dey wash pant, wash cooking pot, grind pepper[/b], nd wife dey call am baby...

Only the wife should be called baby. At least he dowry was paid, she didnt pay groom price, abi?

CHEERS!!!

Bontee: If she wasn't expecting it in return then it means she gave out of freewill and she should not be concerned about the ownership of the property. It is either you give loan, give out money and state you want a share of the property or give freely without expecting anything in return.

The man took her 300,000 which he added to what he already had to complete just the roofing of the property and not about the whole property. Hope the woman knows the man spent money to buy that land, buy building materials, pay for logistics, make the foundation, build the whole house until it got to the roofing stage. So you mean contributing that 300,000 naira entitles her to own a fifty percent stake in that property?.

Please tell her that she is greedy, selfish and inconsiderate with her reaction to what the man did and she is at fault here. She agreed with the man earlier not to own her private investments or properties then why go to his back to do that because of this. If she is pissed off and wants to own her personal stuffs, then have a discussion with your man about it. You can have your way there in owning your personal stuff or quit the union if he still insists that the status quo must hold. She agreed to that rule when she kept silent during the time the man made that pronunciation.

They both have communication issues, so they better sit down right now and discuss these family issues before they get to the point of no return. Now for the man seizing her document or property, he has to cough that out eventually if she is my sister and she actually used her money to do that.

Bontee: If she wasn't expecting it in return then it means she gave out of freewill and she should not be concerned about the ownership of the property. It is either you give loan, give out money and state you want a share of the property or give freely without expecting anything in return.

The man took her 300,000 which he added to what he already had to complete just the roofing of the property and not about the whole property. Hope the woman knows the man spent money to buy that land, buy building materials, pay for logistics, make the foundation, build the whole house until it got to the roofing stage. So you mean contributing that 300,000 naira entitles her to own a fifty percent stake in that property?.

Please tell her that she is greedy, selfish and inconsiderate with her reaction to what the man did and she is at fault here. She agreed with the man earlier not to own her private investments or properties then why go to his back to do that because of this. If she is pissed off and wants to own her personal stuffs, then have a discussion with your man about it. You can have your way there in owning your personal stuff or quit the union if he still insists that the status quo must hold. She agreed to that rule when she kept silent during the time the man made that pronunciation.

They both have communication issues, so they better sit down right now and discuss these family issues before they get to the point of no return. Now for the man seizing her document or property, he has to cough that out eventually if she is my sister and she actually used her money to do that.

Yornandrew: Churches that pray their enemies should die instead of praying and wishing your enemies well. They are working in unforgiveness

Yornandrew: Churches that pray their enemies should die instead of praying and wishing your enemies well. They are working in unforgiveness

Lagusta: Any lady dat calls a guy baby, dat guy is in for it...... Very soon, its gonna be: "hey baby, can u please wash my menses-stained panties, co-stay bra, nd junior's nappies? Oh thank u baby for cooking the egusi soup! Baby please wash my car for me" RUUUUBBBIISSSHHHHH!!!!!!

991: i understand you my dear, In life 'different things happen to different people differently' we are involved in this only because the poster seems indecisive and asked the house to advise her, I don't expect everyone's response to be the same though, but the reality of life can never be dismissed by logical reasoning. we are all products of the same union you talked about....marriage.
NB: from the story, the man involved has shown a degree of concern/commitment to the marriage by asking the lady to quit the job, who knows what plan he has.
cheers my dear, i leave you with the below quote...
"The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes".
-- Amy Grant

freshmoney: And there she goes! Why are women always feel insecure? Whatever happens to total submission to your husband?
Doesn't it feel great when you make your man feel he's in control?

About the property thingy, we Nigerian men nor dey include name on property anyhow oo, unless that person be dangote

freshmoney: That your aunt deserves serious beating, infact an immediate separation. Now marriage in Nigeria is slowly getting to 50-50 shey? What about the formulaic way of Nigerian marriage- the marriage that was filled of love, understanding and oneness.

ezicat: Regarding gay marriage - give it another generation or two. Last time I checked, there was resistance by Christians and the like on every civil rights progress. BTW, I grew up in a Christian household, so I have read the Bible myself more than a few times. The difference between me and you is that I don't read the Bible assuming its the divine word of God since that suspends any logical reasoning.

Logic Mind: One again, you disagree with your bible. Is your holy book too confusing for you or is so badly written that you need divine intervention to interprete it?

About the women having money, my point was that the bible had to justify their inclusion as if they had nothing to do there if not for their money.

Anyway, have you ever heard the term "sugar mummy"?