₦airaland Forum

MrBrownJay1:
the above is part of why i am against this school of thought. regardless of how successful a man is, he should be able to approach someone respectfully and try to create a conversation. you could be a bricklayer and approach women, you could be a Uber driver and approach women. so long as a man takes care of his responsibilities in life, then i see no reason why he shouldnt approach women that he is attracted to. the moment a man says:" you need to be successful in life before you can remotely think of finding someone AND let them approach you" then IMHO you have missed the plot. A) so long as your rent is paid, bills are paid, food on your table, clothes on your back and you are gainfully employed, then i suggest you look for a proper MATE to share your blessings with (make sure she get her life in order too job/responsibilities etc)... but most importantly B) why wouldnt you approach EXACTLY the type of woman you want in your life, rather
than only choosing between the ones who chased/approach you?! be in control of your life.

You are free to approach, it is woman’s as perogative to ignore or reject you you. What nonsense you spew!!! A woman does not have to respond simply because you are respectful. I would be irritated if my woman is approached by an UBER driver..what nonsense? It shows she has no standards…no boundaries! What binds them together? Bricklayer…are you out of your mind? It is only a woman who has no value that allows herself to be approached by everybody. This is why white women are approachable, they have no value. Trust me the white women who have value (country club upper class white women) will not be allow themselves to be chatted up by a non-white. If you are approaching a white woman, you are dealing with a cheap common woman who will also be approached and entertain the next man that chats her up.



the important question IS: what do you seek in a future wife?! the majority of men would reply PEACE AT HOME and RESPECT FROM YOUR WIFE. so, as much as marrying a Nigerian woman is ideal, if you are more likely to get the above from a foreigner, then i would suggest you seek a foreigner each and every time... because these are values in marriage that are better than gold!

For men and women, if you cannot get from your own it is because you don’t measure up amongst your own, stop using people like the Kardashians as your yardstick, they are commoners, just like film stars and sports stars, there are schools and social clubs, they and their children cannot get into in the US with all their money ..same thing in the UK. .



my mention of money is related to Nigerian men quick to teach women that "money makes a man" while i fully disagree, as there are many "broke" men out there with no money because they took care of their life responsibilities (aka paid the rent, paid the bills, food on the table, cloth on their back etc etc) who will make great husbands. even you, what you are indirectly saying is that, a man who drives Uber and got no money to splash trying to woo his potential future wife, shouldnt get married".... while we all know that the majority of marriages in Nigeria is from PEOPLE WHO AINT RICH!

Oga there is a difference between being broke, getting by and being rich. The man you described who handles his responsibilities but has not much left May be struggling but he is not a broke man. A broke man is a man who cannot pay his bills, a broke man has no business with a woman. A broke student yes, not a broke grown ass man. Fix yourself before you chase after women….nobody said you have to be rich! Most men are not rich!

PS: you make it difficult to respond to you with the way you keep breaking up the posts. Too much wahala!

mylikes:
I feel her pain. Just wondered why she wasn't smart enough to know this will boomerang. Wish her all the best. Make JAMB self reduce the punishment.

MrBrownJay1:
i fully disagree with the above.... when you travel the world you see way less of these very arrogant beautiful women that you easily find in Africa. you just have to approach a beautiful woman in Nigeria and say:"excuse me", and you will see her automatically frown her face before even knowing what you have to say. these 9ja women have been programmed by the environment they live in, because this almost NEVER happen in the west (not even in other poor countries outside Africa).

the problem in Africa is that, men have been using MONEY as a tool to control/approach women ; MONEY has been used to dictate how a real man should be, and if you aint got no money, you are supposedly not even "alive". these women learn this shiit from AFRICAN MEN, and therefore i can only blame African men for the state of mind of these women. why would a beautiful 9ja babe even give a broke dude a chance when she knows that her value lies with these men with MONEY?

since all people in 9ja are quick to say "make money and women will come" why do you think 9ja woman in general (let alone the beautiful one) dont value broke men?! the attitude from the beautiful ones comes with the territory.

MrBrownJay1:
FIXED
these bad character that these women possess are just bad habits that grew along to get rid of the men they dont want... easily fixable!

remember: in poor countries, beauty is indeed wealth. these women understand that A) their beauty is gonna take them out of poverty so of course they will be quick to dismiss broke men who cant give them what they need. B) beauty put these women in a different league, a league where they can choose the type of men they associate with (and therefore also dismiss the type of men that aint up to their "imaginary" level) because these beautiful women understand that C) all the ogas at the top, big boys and billionaires etc are gonna fight TOOTH AND NAILS for these beautiful women's attention. rich men will spend billions to woo them and marry them... and if that babe is a virgin, the likes of Ned will make her his 3rd or 4th wife sharp sharp.

so yes, these women mostly come with an attitude that can only be tamed with the right bank account. sadly, only Nigerians can be blamed for that because, even when the girl looks like king kong, yeye men are quick to want to flaunt money to get such woman's attention, let alone the top ones! you cant teach a dog to bark when he is hungry and then be upset when it barks too loud because he hasnt eaten for 3 days.

sadly, these highly beautiful women (that you attract with money) have one MAJOR FLAW: what you attract with money, you will lose when a man with more money than you comes into the picture!

MrBrownJay1:
it should never be character over beauty.... but instead beauty WITH the right character. choosing an ugly wife that has the right character is as useless as having a beautiful dumb wife

FreedomArmy:
I hope they enjoying the renewed hope.

Burgerlomo:
He knows exactly what's going to happen if he try it

Amah70:
The ongoing case before the PEPT is on Tinubu did not win presidential election, Obi and Atiku say they won respectively.
And here you say Tinubu won presidential election because he is more intelligent than Obi.
Are your brain cells working at all?
Why are supporters of Tinubu for president of Nigeria normally out of sync with the reality?

Acekidc4:
You know one thing is sure about this Peter Obi, he is a good Opposition, he is playing the opposition role well but in reality he should forget about becoming President here in Nigeria. Surely he will be a good President of Biafra Republic but not Nigeria.






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Amah70:
Bola Tinubu suffering from dementia and shuffling gait is now more intelligent than saner Peter Obi, is that?

Some of you Tinubu urchinss and senseless propaganda are like six and half a dozen.
Peter Obi proved that he won the presidential election.

Tinubu had nothing to prove that he won except the words of Mahmood Yakubu who was appointed to office by Tinubu's APC. Yakubu Mahmood is expected to be neutral but he is chasing after his mentor, Buhari's Islamization agenda for Nigeria.

taylor89:
Shebi they said no Obidients in the north


These must be IPOB from Anambra

Ezeama400:
People can defend rubbish

Hyperchi:
U are a citizen of a country, so na by passport for travel them go use they renew am. This ppl think 9ja na zombies

paramakina202:
Joe Igbokwe should stop this nonsense and continue building more bridges.

Mayeldah:
Park one side jare! N70b to repair leaking roof and purchase office equipment? They should give me the contract and I will do that for less than a $2m.

except you are a NASS member, I don't see why you are trying so hard to defend what the whole nation is condemning at the moment.

Mayeldah:
I guess you are the dimwit here. How much does it cost to build a new NASS even if your argument is valid?

Mayeldah:
Pele, see as you are trying so hard to defend those who shit on you on a daily basis. Shey na everyday dem dey renovate National assembly?

That dilapidated primary school in your LGA, has the government renovated it? Get sense for once!

No wonder they said you can't defend APC and not look stupid

Hisbah:
State of emergency is not the solution. Just release Kanu and everything will be fine.

Ikaeniyan0:
Is this not the prophet who claim tinubu will lose?

APCNig:
Igbos are destroying Igbo land. Why should the Nigerian government be concerned?

Raskimonojendor:
Ibos living in Lagos should please obey Simon Ekpa. Infact they should bring UGM too.



ibos are generally obsessed with the SW region. To them, Lagos is London, while Ibadan is Manchester

God1000:
That guy is causing serious havoc and mayhem in Southeast.

He shouldn't be allowed to continue issuing the nonsense sit at home orders

I don't know why anybody will even listen to such person

Advocates of "Nnamdi Kanu is a good man but Simon Ekpa is a terrorist listen to this"

Hear how Nnamdi Kanu said in a RADIO BROADCAST that IPOB must listen and obey the Finland based fraudster. This particular broadcast was after he sidelined his former deputy Uche Mefor.… pic.twitter.com/ezrgmm5NkA

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