julie90: I have been working for this company for two years. In December 2021, there was a change in management, a new manager was assigned to my Department. Before the change in management, I applied for some jobs in November 2021 but I didn't get any response.
Things between my new manager and I developed really quickly (he is not married and he is 10 years older than me). Although we have been working together, when he became the new manager we started dating. it was mutual, it wasn't like he forced me. We liked each other and we started dating in March 2022. We kept things professional in the office. Nobody in the office knows about this even till now.
Those companies I applied to in November 2021 reached out to me for an interview. I got two offers at the same time. Both offers come with great pay (similar to what my boyfriend currently earns) and a significant boost to my career. I spoke to my boyfriend about it and being my boss he told me to reject both offers, he told me he would be able to cater for my needs that the only commitment he has now is paying for his house and once he is done paying for it, he would have more money to take care of me and I didn't need a job where they would pay me what he's currently earning and be in a role similar to his.
I told him it's not the money but it would be about moving up the ladder in my career. These are offers people do not have, now I have two, he is asking me to reject them. He told me even if I have to move the only offer I should take is the one close to the company where we work which has a lower pay compared to the second offer. I told him I would go with the second offer which has more opportunities for me. Both offers are in the same state although my preferred offer is a bit far from where I live but it is still a reasonable location to commute everyday. At one point he told me, I was too ambitious and I took it as a compliment.
I noticed he changed since then, he informed the company management that I was leaving and we began the handover process, I noticed he changed after we had the discussion about me accepting the second offer but I thought it was about him missing me. May 31 was my last day and I noticed few days to my last day he was acting strange so I asked him what the matter was. He said he doesn't feel anything for me and we should stop seeing each other.
This is a man that was really excited when we were dating, all of a sudden doesn't feel anything for me because I got a high paying job? Is it wrong for a woman to be ambitious? When has it become a crime for a woman to aim high in her career? My role will still be to support him. I have never been rude to him and I am not going to be rude to him because we now earn the same salary. I really like him and I feel disappointed that he could act this way.
Is it now a crime for a woman to be ambitious?
your boyfriend na man witch, and an enemy of success and progress.. It you have ever thought about marrying him, this is your sign to run off, don't marry such an insecure devil.... Even if he later agrees for you to take the job, just know it is pure pretence.. And if you ever placed him as one of your reference better remove him before he spoil your name to your new employer....
NOTE : I'm a grown man saying this, so no idiot should start telling me I'm saying this because I'm female...
lol very cheap.. Because that 1 Starlink sub can serve a university with moderate students.. You know what that means It means full street fit dey use 1 Starlink. U never understand na make u dey god Forbid there..... Starlink is a whooping 100mps it means u download 1gig in 10 seconds.. Lol u never still understand
a lot of I don't care Atitude can cause it.... Bro ur bvn can be blacklisted with simple borrow me ur account to give my brother to send me money.... He might be sending ur account to someone he is trying to defraud.... And if you are into crypto P2P buying and selling please do not accept any form of third party payment, because someone might want to fraud somebody and the person ask for his account number, he will go to crypto platform and open a buy trade of the equivalent he is trying to scam somebody, and send the Crypto seller account number to the person, the person makes payment to it and he contact the seller with receipt of payment and tell the person he used his friend account to make payment and send payment proof, the person unknowingly release the Crypto asset to them and they send out and spend as they like... When who was defrauded go to law enforcement to lodge complain that someone has scammed him and present you account number as the scammer because that was where he made payment to, HOW WOULD YOU DENY IT let's be careful really...
fisayodayo: Same here with a fine of 5M, over 20M frozen. Although, it was because of Bitcoin related issues. My friend, if you go to that bank be careful if not you will be handed over to EFCC. I speak reality, you're safe if it's not btc related. I was even threatened by the bank manager last year because I wanted to transfer 8M from my account. I wish you well, get a lawyer standby to avoid harrasment.
this might be fraud related. but your account being frozen because maybe u bought and sell bitcoin with the account, is not possible.. I have had 5 of my account closed and money in it given to me as opening balance on a new account, them no dey blacklist bvn for crypto issue, his bvn has been blacklisted
It is your bvn that has been flagged which affected your account and it will affect every single thing bvn is used for even nin, as it is now you can't even open account with that your bvn etc... You have to sort out the issue very fast before bvn blacklisting is the worse thing that can happen to anybody in Nigeria, Trust me I'm speaking from experience
then you might have received a third party payment from someone who might want to purchase something from you and pays you with an account not in their name.. He might be defrauding the person and uses your account to receive funds while you send him the product he bought from you....... This is the main reason I do not accept third party payment of any sort in my business
As your income increases, your taste increases. Those that know, know.
not necessarily, just speak for yourself.... For me as my income increases my lifestyle doesn't change greatly with it... When I was working for someone my salary moved up 4times consecutively before I change my living space, not because I wanted to, but because it became a necessity... Na this mind set of when your income increase your taste increase with it make una dey stagnated in same job that someone else who might even be earning lesser than you and doing better than you... I'm talking from experience aiit even if RN I don't work for nobody my lifestyle remains the same and RN I save 85% of my earnings and spend 15% as against spending 80% and saving 20% then I was working for someone with almost similar take home..
InsideLife2022: I have been an active member on this forum for the past eight years. I just created this account to bring this issue to limelight. Good evening gentlemen and ladies. I got married in late 2020. God being merciful, we are blessed with a baby of 5 months. My wife has been giving me attitudes of recent. I have tried to find out what the problem has been, she is not saying anything tangible. I am being confused and depressed. I have been begging her to come back to join me after delivery. She keeps traumazing me emotionally. She just told me our marriage is over. She couldn't say what the problem is.
She has not been taking care of the baby. She was medically advised to stop breastfeeding our baby permanently. Is not that she breastfeeds our baby. My mother in-law and sisters in-law have been complaining about her lack of motherly treats.
They told me she doesn't even know how to take care of the baby. They cannot allow my child to be in her custody because she can't take care of the baby as a mother. She has fought her mother for asking her to leave her house to join her husband. Every member of her family has been asking her what the problem is. She keeps telling them to come and marry me that it's over between us.
I haven't told any of my family members or my friends of what is going on in my marriage. I am a kind of person that do not like involving a third party in my new marriage of lest than two years.
Her family has never supported her actions. Her mom and her siblings have been asking me to come take my wife and baby. But, my wife is not ready to join me. It has been a serious issues in her family house each time they push her to go meet her husband.
Her family has ask me to come with some soldiers or the police to come carry my baby and leave her since she claims she is no longer interested in any marriage. I have been trying my best to make sure my wife never lacked anything during her pregnancy and even after delivery.
My in-laws have been very supportive and good to me. I know they have never and will not support her for her wrong actions and behaviors. My challenge is, my baby is just 5 months and I don't want to take the baby to my parents because of the questions people around will be asking. I don't want to be seen as someone who is separated from his wife. I hate divorce with passion. My wife does not have any concrete reason why she decides to stay off our marriage.
Her family is fully in support of my next actions of going to take my baby. Now, the question is this; is it advisable to keep the baby with me while I employ a nanny to raise the baby with me?
Please and please I need mature and sensible advise.
Cc: RoyalRoy
I want this thread to be moved to the right and appropriate section. Thank you!
might just be that she feels the baby was never meant to happen in the first place or thinks the baby would put her life to a pause for the next 2 to 3 years,, which is a wrong thinking. Don't blame your self for her no being responsible, just take the baby to your mother of she isn't that old or needs support from a nanny herself.. No give ur 5months to nanny abeg.. Bro it can't get worse than this, it will only get better... God Forbid (assuming she died during child birth) won't you take care and raise your baby Me I started staying with my grandma from 3 months not that my mother abandoned me anyway because the stress on her then was too much going to work and coming morning and evening to get me my grandma(paternal) asked her to leave me with her, Na so I dey with her till 11years. So bro you and the baby go survive, her eyes go soon clear, just patient small and ignore her completely.. ALL I WANT YOU TO KNOW IS THAT YOUR BABY IS NOT SAFE WITH HER..
IsaacNewton869: Hello everyone, hello geoscientist and engineers in the house, I'm a 300l of geology department from one of prestigious state university around the south South.
So I will be doing my Undergraduate Internship program Immediately strike is call off, actually I wish to do it in ExxonMobil or Total, but to me I know everything isn't about connection
So I want any experience staff here to explain on how I can make it to ExxonMobil or total even after my graduation
2, I also have a question that has been bothering me for a while now, is it possible to be a contract staff in many oil companies, to me I think is good, they will only call when they need you and pay you well, even if one Bleep up, u still know that u have a place in other companies too and u won't be bothered
3, do oil company employ geologist and geophysicist as an explorer or a drilling engineer
4, who did they need most between geoscientist (petroleum geologist, geochemist, geophysicist as an explorer, geological engineer, reservoir geologist) and
Engineers ( chemical engineer, mechanical engineer, civil engineer and electrical engineer) Who do they employ most
Pls my wound have refused to heal despite applying various medications on it (chloramphenicol, ampicillin, penicillin ointment, injection powder).
It's getting to two months now. I'm really tired nairalanders. Pls help me out, I have spent all the money on me trying to get it healed but all to no avail.
Doctors, Pharmacists, Nurses and experienced health personels in the house pls I really need your sincere advice.
Pls help me get to the front page. I believe there are a lot of experienced folks in this forum. Pls help me out guys.
it is not healing because you have high sugar in your system..... You might even be diabetic self..... High sugar in the blood stream does not make injury heal faster, some does not heal at all...
chrisxxx: I think the body language of Yaradua's mother when four different presidential candidates of different parties visited her tells where her heart lies.
forget your conspiracy theory and take this from me... A typical fulani/hausa would prefer their own ram or goat to be president before ever considering another Ethnicity... They are built like that.
questioner: I'd like to summarize my issue, Confused on the way forward.
1. I met this beautiful babe at a restaurant - pretty face, fresh baby skin, nice catwalk. She was damn proportionate, average boobs, average butt, avg hips, average height, angelic look, you can take her anywhere kinda girl. She leaves the restaurant some minutes before I do.
2. While driving out, I notice she's still at the bus stop waiting for a bus/cab, so I beckon her and gave her a lift home. We exchanged numbers.
3. Called her two days later asking to hang out, she was hesitant but I persisted and she later agreed
4. We chill out at a bar in the evening but she wasn't acting too friendly, not answering my questions and just behaving hesitant. Infact, a friend I met at the bar wondered if i offended her, I explained we just met and don't know her too well. Luckily, it was one of those Real Madrid Champion's league match days where Benzema was rescuing Madrid from the brink, which made up for her boredom.
5. We were about leaving when she got a call from her younger sister who said she was nearby with a mutual friend of theirs, so younger sis (YS) agreed to join us and then I'll drop them at home together.
6. YS came into the bar and behold she was a stunner! As beautiful as the older sis (OS) but she (YS) had huge boobs and was tall - not kidding but video vixen stuff. Almost every man around turned as she made her way to us. I mean Those boobs was bouncing as she came in She also turned out to be the life of the party extrovert, came in with a big smile, greeting everybody on sight and immediately initiating conversations. infact about 3 guys came to the table adjacent us, just to take her number while we were there.
7. So I ordered another round of drinks and meat and peppersoup and since YS was easier to talk to, I was more comfortable asking her about what they wanted to take etc, which annoyed the OS who asked why I was talking to her YS while she was with me.
8. It came to a head, when YS wanted to request for an extra bottle of water , I couldn't hear cos of loud music, so I placed me hand across her shoulder to pull her mouth nearer my ears (innocent action, believe me) so I can hear her. I suddenly got a slap in the back from OS who warned me not to try what I did again and totally stopped talking to me - I wrote her off after that incident.
9. Shortly after that, we decided to go home, I managed to slip my biz card secretly into YS hands and whispered call me, she looked annoyed and said 'why?'
10. Dropped the girls home and practically forgot about them, I felt OS was no go area and didn't think YS was going to call back...
11. Some days later, very early in the morning, my phoen went boooom....YS was calling and asking why I told her to call me. I suggested we meet later in the day.
12. Picked her up (at junction some distance away from their house) and brought her to my place. While I was still thinking of how to break the ice, she was already stylishly bombarding me with questions. Do you stay alone in this big house - Yes What job do you do - Banker Are you married - No Do you have kids - No You must be old O ? - Just 31+ What about my sister - Nothing between us, I have not spoken to her since that day and that was also the first time we met
She seemed satisfied with all my answers cos she relaxed and became very chatty
13. She came back to my place the next evening and this time around we got smashing, it was mind blowing, she was amazing, energetic and that her long legs were put to good use. I would have called her a 10/10 overall and one for the long haul aside the fact that she said she dropped out of Uni while her older sis is a graduate
14. She later warned we should keep things on the low for now cos her sister might not be happy.
15. Everything seemed to be going well until bang...bout a week later, I got a call from OS, she was obviously trying to win me back asking why I didn't call her back and sh*t I just responded politely but she wasn't deterred, she kept calling like every other day, while I only called back once a while in fact, I had to lie that I had gone for a training and would be away for the next 3 weeks.
16. Problem is, the 3 weeks will expire this weekend and this girl (OS) has promised to give me what she failed to do weeks earlier. Talking smack about how she wanted to spend the night at my place but she was so angry back then bla bla and how she's looking forward to me being back.
Herein, lies my dilemma Younger sister is hooked and we have a little secret going Older sister is also getting hooked and she wanna be starting something Me, the beneficiary (or is it victim), I don confuse - both girls are top tier babes
What do I do?
a) Do the right thing and continue with YS
b) Do the right thing and stop the low key games with YS, and go for OS
c) Do the right thing and enjoy life with both sisters, shebi I no force them
Frankly, I would have gone with option C, na the stuff of dreams, but the things I am hearing these days about babes, I dey cautious about safety, these girls are sisters and if they find out, nobody knows wetin dem fit do.
But NL people, what do you think ?
thank God you never smash OS, Allow her be, make una be friends and nothing more, she has her chance and she blew it... Don't Go and be the reason why two sisters are at war..... But it is important to also note that your relationship with YS won't last because it is obvious she is moving fats because of what she saw, your house etc... So my advise forget OS And dey take the low key route with YS and where e crash leave am at that. Please Don smash two sisters e get why
I feel like seeking your advise about how I can accelerate the process of returning the money that I guess was wrongly transferred to my personal bank account.
About two months ago, I received credit alert of about ₦200k in one of my savings accounts. Based on the narration of the credit alert, it shows that It was done through ATM and I did not do any transaction to have been expecting such money. I have been expecting to get alert for reversal of the transaction but the money is still sitting in my bank account.
I have also been expecting my banker to have contacted me for approval to reverse the transaction but I have not been contacted by my banker.
I was considering the option of complaining to my banker to trace the owner from their ends but some people discouraged me from doing so; stating that those bankers may conspire with someone and falsely claim the money.
I have been thinking of possibilities of tracing the owner by myself but credit alert did not state the details of the account from which the money was transferred to my bank account.
I am feeling concerned for the person who did the transfer because his fund has been tied down.
A banker told me that the owner must have complained to his/her bank but banks ways of attending to the customers complain is slow but definitely they will contact me for reversal.
Do I keep my fingers crossed and be expecting my banker to contact me for reversal approval? or Complain to my banker to help me locate the owner of the transaction?
Or any other suggestions will be welcome from you but my objective is to hasten process of returning the money to the true owner.
Thank you.
also at times God bless people in mysterious ways, some time last two year I was so down on cash and needed a break through badly... Suddenly I got 12,000 from a name Joe **** and I felt it was a mistake complained to bank and they said nobody has laid claim to the money yet that if he does I will be called... The next month I got same amount from same person, now this was making me feel uncomfortable as I wasn't exacting any of such, the 3rd month same amount, that was when I said to myself might just be God and confirmed that was not an error transfer.. I kept getting that money for 19months around same time, but I never touched it, I finally spent the money last month after waiting that long and nobody paid claim to it....
Relax and do not spend the money, the person will come forward for refund, and the process might be freezing your account first and getting a call for a refund ... You report to your bank and they keep it for themselves...
YoudeyVexme: Someone who Just did youth service already got a high paying job in nppc, while me that have graduated Since 2010 still struggling to feed from hand to mouth, no properties no thing to call my own. Meanwhile a cousin of mine already own 2 houses this boy I used to dash him 20naira for busicuit early 2008 when I visit my aunty, now he's 22.
Once you asked them for help and they give you once, they won't want to give you again. My heart's boil so hot whenever I see them on wheels driving expensive cars, A boy who doesn't know anything about life is already married with kid on the way. It wasn't like This when I was in my 20s, back then, we had to labour hard...farming, fishing and the rest to make ends meet..
Imagine, I had to go for house hunting last week and we had to wait for the owner of the compound, he arrived a young man expecting me to greet him first. I just called the agent I wasn't interested.. somebody that can't drag age with my youngest brother.
this is why God has not yet blessed you because you have a wicked jealousy spirit. You can never make it if you continue like this.... Clap for others before it is the time for people to clap for you.
Iamdbull: Finally nairaland family have a chance of being well represented at the big brother Naija, as your favorite boy Dbull on this one has registered please pray for me that I get chosen. I promise to come and do giveaway here and represent nairaland Wella. The name of my fanbase is #BULLIONAIRES.
Here is an exclusive interview about myself that I did while applying
time you go use do another thing... Lol, the candidates that will go to the house won't even go to the audition, someone somewhere has bought the slot to give to their person. Now the question is WHO DO YOU KNOW?
Poswahala: Guys I genuinely need some advice Because of the state of my mental health I have decided never to get married or have kids.
I suffer from intense depression and anxiety and other mental health problems. I'm unsure of my own future talk more of a child.
I do love being in relationships but I do that only for companionship and sex.
I don't know if I will regret my decision. The guys I have dated have been cool with my no marriage proposal but I don't think any Nigerian man will not want kids.
I'm thinking of moving to another country, buy a house, take care of my community and neighbors then when I'm old, I will move to a retirement home.
If I change my mind I can adopt a child, am not against adoption as I am with marriage, it depends on if my mental health improves.
The problem I have is that will I be lonely without a child, like I said I'm not into marriage despite being a woman trained in traditional home, it's not that I hate it or anything, it's not just for me. I will be unhappy being married.
But the child thing is bothering me, I always wanted a child, but i don't want my mental health to prevent me from loving and caring for the child.
Please advise.
the decision will cause nothing but regrets. It is okay if you choose not to get married, nobody can be forced to, but having kids of your own should be considered either through surrogacy or simply adoption at a very young age..
Acidosis: Every time a woman ovulates, she releases at least 1 egg. So, biologically, selling of eggs has no negative impact on a woman. It's only eggs she sold, not her ovaries. Her ovaries' got more than enough to meet her reproductive needs. It's even better to sell it than waste it (as menstruation).
The bigger issues are that she failed to inform you about the procedure and whatever it was you guys were going through didn't matter to her. It was all about her. These are the main threats to your marriage.
You haven't seen anything yet.
Reading tru ur comment made me know I have nothing else to say, you've said it all.. Women has enough egg to populate a whole community if they start early and choose to.. No side effect whatsover, the only Downside was not telling you about it.. Why suddenly are people castigating this woman?? Men sell sperm everyday and nobody talks about it... Abeg make una rest
NasCarter: I am a 28yo medical student still in 400L and i am feeling like i am too old..
medicine 28 years and u are too old... You sound so ungrateful honestly... Just rest before I swear for u.... People wen reach to born u dey one private university for Bush fry do marketing as a course..
I just moved into this new apartment and within a month to the expiration of my rent, I got a call from the caretaker to see him and he told me they would be is increasing the rent unless I renew before it expires but I didn't have it at that moment and pleaded but he said that's the decision of the owners of the house.
The landlady leaves in the building as well but the caretaker receives rent payment and all for reasons best known to them.
I went to see the landlady and she stood her ground that if I can't pay I should leave. Well, I could deduce her actions for doing this as she had a quarrel with my fiancee and it has been settled but she still had it in her mind.
I don't why people have dumb mentality. A landlady and a tenant cannot quarrel and settle in peace anymore.
I choose to pay the rent increase last year in order to let peace reign. On a norms, I would never pay for such an increase( I mean from 200k to 250k) Now, I just got a letter delivered to me this morning which is a notice to quit as my rent just expired last month.
Normally, when my rent expires or about to, the caretaker will call me and ask when will I be renewing it but this time I didn't get anyone at all which means they actually planned it before now.
They didn't even call me for a meeting to discuss, who does that?
And on the letter, there was no reason stated on the quit notice and it's a 6 months eviction notice. I spoke to my lawyer and she said that's how they do these days issuing quit notice without prior notification even when you're paying constantly.
When I went to see the caretaker, he told me it was because I was absent in the last meeting that was held in the compound. What trash! I rained curses on him to the extent that he couldn't voice out a word again. Apparently, he was shocked as I'm always very gentle.
Are they sharing money in the meeting or what? Or I would leave my business and be in a meeting on a weekday when I can always get what was discussed in the meeting from people that were there.
The reason didn't even go down well with me as it got me really annoyed. I have decided to park out but I want to make sure they see pepper.
Can I stay up to a year or more before moving out?
Please I need your advice, thoughts, and ideas. Thanks in advance and pardon my typos as I'm typing from my phone.
this means you have six months to look for an apartment without disturbance from caretaker or landlady, without paying Rent.. Just dey find house small small and dey stay free house, when it is left with 1 month to go(to the six months notice you were given) you pack out...
Lol ��� Joker, I wonder who dey advise this fool.. If he just resign to go and contest primaries, he will loose the primaries and also loose his position he resigned from as CBN governor... Werey doesn't know a bird at hand is worth more than 10 thousand birds in the Bush
AuthoritySpeaks: So, my phone got stolen last week and inside it is my major sim card that I have been using for over 6years.
The line in question is linked to my NIN but the initial Sim registration was done by someone else. I no longer have the sim pack as well. Ps: I bought the sim as already registered.
So, i went for a welcome-back last week Saturday in MTN Head-Office at UWANI, ENUGU and the guy at the desk told me that since the initial sim registration was done by someone else, that they will have to contact their Lagos office for approval to welcome-back the sim and the whole process will cost me #10,000. In that same office, my friend did his welcome back two weeks ago for #1k. A part of me felt that the guy wants to just make extra cash from be because it was just him and another customer service that is sitted far from him that were working that very day. But I want to be sure if his claims are true.
Pls if you have had any experience like this, enlighten me. What I want to know is if it will cost that much to welcome back your sim if it wasn't registered to your name even if it is linked to your NIN. Have you done any welcome back like that?
by law you can't retrieve sim card not registered by you, except it does it for you using backdoor, which would backfire Las las
You can see MATHEMATICS shows cancel maybe probably because of high level of malpractice that day and you are asking what course you can study.. Oga that your result is a waste without Mathematics
I sincerely needs urgent help/assistance for my Fiancee.
Met her in 2012, started dating in 2014, had our first sex in 2019, but since that 2019, anytime I make moves to have sex with Her, it's always through fight, to cut the story short, she find sex extremely painful that even anything that pass cuddling, she'll start crying, this might sound funny, but seriously it is not. I talked to Her about it, booked an appointment with a gynecologist, my babe didn't show up, I tried to get her sexual supplements, she said they have side effects, and she disposed them.
Now, the problem is, we're planning our introduction, and we're yet to get any solution to the problem at hand, please, who have any idea of what we can do about it.
e be like to cheat outside marriage Don dey hungry u, that's why u are planning introduction with who does not want help...
Romance › Re: My Boyfriend Broke Up With Me Because I Got A High Paying Job by cedricksly: 10:26am On Jun 03, 2022
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