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ivolt:
What is Falana turning into?
He is asking the police to arrest Kemi for airing her opinion.
He would have been shouting oppression and due process if a politician did the same.
Hypocrite.

kemi is Insensitive and do not know when to talk or air her so called opinion which is aim at chasing clout, every other person know she is quick to jump in trending matters just to chase clout... Even her talk can be said to hinder proper investigation.... So forget Falana matter.... You do not know the pain or spewing ill tinx about the dead when the person isn't there to defend him/herself.

Kriss216:
We shouldn't overlook kemi's submission.

NOA should try more to educate school boys about the dangers of Cultism.

I stay close to a secondary school, and I see how these little boys pride themselves with Cultism.

Cultism don commot high institution.. The guys there are into yahoo, nobody get time to practice confra. Na secondary school boys carry dey matter for head like this.

no Be u for talk this one honestly.... Kemi submission is useless, Baseless and overall Insensitive. she always like to chase clout with latest happenings but not when somebody died.... Even if the boy said he wanted to join court, are you aware that boy is too young to give consent? That's same reson why a man sleeps with a 12years old girl is considered abuse even if the little girl requested for it, bcoz she lacks the right by law to give consent.....

sthar:
My husband and I have not had the best relationship. The past two years has been really tough for us, we've had to struggle to make this marriage work. Although we have two kids, My husband talks down on me all the time.

He calls me an ordinary female, a useless creation and believes he owns me. He believes women should not have a freewill and are properties to their husbands. He calls himself my Alpha and omega. I sometimes wish he would hit Me rather than say all sorts to me.
Last week he started as usual. He called me names and Went on to talk about how he would teach me a lesson someday. I really don't know what came over me. I slapped him.

I s.wear it wasn't intentional, I didn't mean to hit him. I thought he would hit me back but he did not. It's been a whole week and he acts like nothing happened. He goes about playing with the kids , he greets me and makes sure we have food to eat too , but it is so unlike him.


My husband always reports to my parents. He tells them everything I do wrong and they always end up calling a meeting. But this time he's silent , he doesn't want sex too which Is so unlike him. I don't know what to do , I feel like he's planning to hurt me really big. I want to call my parents but everyone would blame me. How do I tell the world I slapped my husband?

if you were wise enough you will apologise to him, instead of trying to use sex as a tool for settlement... Na everything them must tell una

NOETHNICITY:
Bro, Nigerian women her evil in nature. If he just ignores her and let her have her way, she will make his life a living hell. He has to be ahead of her in planning.

very true, but you only empower her wen u give audience to her quarrels since its obvious she likes it... If na me wenever she wan start quarel I will just ignore her, stop answering her and walk away from her sight... Na that one pain pass...

ngoziwrites:
So, I met this great guy online. After 2 weeks, we met in person and everything was perfect.

It's almost 2 months since we have been together.

He asked me out while we were together and I gladly said yes. (I have met a lot of players�). So while we were together, a discussion popped up and he said he can't discuss anything related to marriage until after 6 months. I pretended not to hear.


I don't know his financial capacity but I know he is doing okay. He controls the family business. They sell trucks, trailers and all. He is also a landlord in one of his father's houses at Festac. We stayed at a hotel. 25k per night. He paid for 2 night and I paid for one night. But during these times, we went to his house.

He said he didn't want me to come to see his place because it's the first time. And he said the house is very hot too.


Our communication is great but he doesn't look like he wants marriage soon. He has said things like marriage is hard work. He has also said in 10 years time, people will hardly be getting married.

Then one night, we were talking and he said I "see my wife as my responsibility"
I will take care of her and of cos, I am okay but I will still be very very rich, so I can't bring in any woman to suffer now" .. That's what I am sure I heard but I was scared to ask him to explain further or repeat himself.

He is actually okay, he has two cars but importantly, he has sense and he is very hard-working. But he is very principled and we have actually had several instances where he doesn't pick my calls at night. It happens often but I am starting to trust him, because sometimes I call by 5am and he picks and says he slept off. Sometimes we would be chatting on WhatsApp and after I call him 20 minutes later, he won't respond. He is not married!

So, I currently earn 450k monthly and I have been able to save something meaningful, so I can start a good business before getting married or after. I haven't stated because I don't know which one yet. I started a restaurant business when I was 23 but it failed.

If I ask him and he says 1 year, of course, I can wait. I will be 26 years next year April.

We will seeing for the 2nd time next week. I plan to ask him when he sees himself getting married but I am scared and the way he carries himself makes me reluctant to ask such.

About two weeks ago, I wanted to even surprise him with gifts. I asked for his account number and office/home address. (He picked me up the last time I traveled to see him, so I don't know the address". Well, he didn't give me these details. He said when it's time I will have them.


Two days ago, he said a friend's younger brother is getting married. He laughed and said people just dey marry. He has once asked me "You dey find husband?" jokingly-

I would like to settle before 27. Is it bad that I am thinking this way? If he says he is looking to get married in 2-3 years, i think it's a bit far. 2023 is still fine. But the problem is he doesn't really sound like marriage is on his mind. He will be 32 next year April too.

We vibe a lot. But he says I love you sparingly. Sometimes I say it and he doesn't respond, he will say tomorrow I will tell u or no, I told u yesterday.

But we are really really cool. I like him a lot and he likes me but I think I like him more. He gives me attention, I don't have to ask.

If I was 23, I won't have a problem waiting 3-4 years. But since I am ready mentally, financially, I am looking for someone who wants it within 6 months to 1 year. I can still try to do 2 years if I get someone great.

the fact that majority of you girls give yourself pressure and set time to get married is why majority of you end up with a broken home after marriage.. Until Y'all stop seeing marriage as an achievement na so una go dey run enter rh wrong home... It is better to get married at 30 and be married for life, than to get married at 25 and divorce before 30... Make una dey use una sense.. Ur relationship with this guy isn't even enuf to even want to marry him even if he propose to you. FGS you don't know his house, real name, office address, etc, as God wan save u so no to jump enter fire, ur head no wan collect...

50pseamer:
I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.

I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.

I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church.
I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming.
We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit,
She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused.
In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.

Now we are living like neighbours in the same house.
Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?

in all you have said I respected this comment from you, "even if my mother is a witch." your mother is a witch yet you are living abroad and not borrowing to eat, or pay bills, none of your family member has died neither is prosperity cut short, you wife and that her pastor wen tag ur mama witch dey craze for head... It is obvious your wife want to flex muscle bcoz maybe uve done court wedding with her without prenuptial agreement, as well as she know over there woman her favoured in judgement.... If I were u I will just ignore all her excesses and allow her do her mind as she dim it fit, if your marriage will strive or crash it is in her hand.

Jayzel:
I've been dating my beautiful damsel for over 6 years now (2015), she has been financially supportive to me when things were so rough for me untill now things are a bit balance, since when our relationship kickoff we have never fought for once, we do argue most~times and later in the day we settle it inside our bedroom at night, she's so respectful and honest to both me and my family members.

There's a pretty damsel working in a UBA bank close to my residencial area here in Oniru Lekki, when I do return every~day from my working place I do branch at the bank to save some money in my account, the lady is my favourite cashier so I do give her the money and take my leave, so later in the day she will transfer the money into my account without no delay at all. But yesterday she called me on phone that she wanted us to hang out together (today being sunday) that all bills & expenses on her. I'm seriously confused now.

I still love my current girlfriend and i don't wanna hurt her feeling's, plz help out peers.

hang out and u are already thinking AWOL, u need deliverance.. Guy her intention might just be pure and friendly and thinking she is hitting on you might be the greatest mistake of your life... There are still decent ladies out there.. By the way going on friendly date is harmless even before and after marriage, Talkless you aren't married, this goes for the female gender also

Shabaleen:
bluetooth things

lol says who? You are too young nigga to recognise infrared, lol

Mercychen:
Hi fam.

Something has been bothering me of late and leaving me emotionally and mentally stressed and drained for the past weeks and I'm cut between the devil and the deep blue sea.

There's this bro we're trying to see if we can work things out. though, I never really wanted anything relationship again or at least for now until I'm decided later in the future on what I really want for myself.

Before, I delve into the main discuss , let
me quickly highlight how it all started.

Some months back, My publisher came to deliver the books I ordered for. So while sorting the books, he just got teasing me like " Babes, na wa o. What's up with your romantic life now?. I've never seen you pulling with anyone. It's always work, biz Money money money I see you pursuing. Lol... I just told him, guy, free me abeg and I went on counting the books at the boot of his car.

He now walked up to me and said, on a more serious note, what is happening? So I told him it's a personal choice cos I dont have the strength for relationship brouhaha now. He agreed with me that truly its not easy and even as a married man, he too feels the heat but the good thing is, he married in the Lord. So I should choose wisely from among the brethren.

So he said, he has this family friend, an eligible bachelor, who wants a decent lady and I'm the one that comes to mind each time the guy mentions it because since he's be dealing with me, he can vouch that I'm a very honest, hard-working and decent lady. So he would want the bro to have me.
That was how I got to meet bro.

Now fastforward to the main reason of this post.
There was this particular day we tripped out to cool off and discuss about US. So we got talking and planning on how to build our home in a way that we will not be caught unawares with some setbacks and unplanned responsibilities. So the issue of children came up and I suggested we have only one, which he reluctantly accepted after much convincing. So we tried to look at ways we can maintain that decision and I suggested a vasectomy. citing the possibilities of health risks (as a result of mismatches ) and failures that might occur if the family planning is done on me but with vasectomy, no issues. He looked me in the eyes and said, "my darling" no!

I was dumbfounded.... And became a little worried because, if he has no plans of having more children, why would he kick against the idea of a vasectomy?

If we are going to be one and follow one course, why shying away from a plan that will benefit us as a couple and a family?


Could it be, he only agreed to have one with me and plans to have more else where?
Is vasectomy a life threatening condition?

I was still trying to wrap my head around his refusal, when he said, it will be done on you ( the family planning). That instant, I felt all alone, like im on my own. So I told him I needed to cool off, and he said feel free.
I left the tent and went to the waters prentending to be playing with the water. He came and dragged me out of the water. we strolled without a word and I asked him to take me home. He did.

He called when he got home. I was cold to him so, he promised to call again but since then Ive refused to pick his calls or reply his texts.

The big question is ..
WHY DID HE BLUNTLY REFUSE A VASECTOMY?

COULD HE HAVE ULTERIOR MOTIVES?

IS IT NOT BETTER TO OPT OUT NOW THAN PRETEND I DIDN'T GET THE MESSAGE AND END UP IN REGRETS?

WHAT DOES IT MEAN WHEN A MAN KICKS AGAINST VASECTOMY?

Lol if you were really fair enough why didn't you trow multiple options on the table so you both select what is more convenient for the both of you.... Or rather since you brought the idea of just a child up and pressured him to agree to it which u know he reluctantly agreed why didn't you pick Tubal Ligation, since you are the one who wants just a child. How selfish... You write up is filled with self-aware pride and selfishness..... You can't always eat ur cake and have it... E be like u never tire for single girl lifestyle. BTW it is too risky to have just a child honestly, except it is God's will to give you just one.

LhasaAsp:
@ sammyj490
How much is the OP company salary?
Which country is he travelling to?
We need to weigh better options sometimes staying here might be profitable to us. It equally depends on going overseas also, is he going there to work? Study? Or do both.
The country of relocation is equally important.

PR in Canada and u are still asking about salary in a country where stray bullet can kill u even inside ur room... Guy tell yourself reality and stop this fake advise...... It is better F for him to be a cab driver in that same Canada and have a good life better than the so called oil worker in this country, not to talk about the fact that he has the opportunity to pursue a career... Una self, una go just dey behind keyboard dey talk nonsense... If he was going with study or visiting visa would have advised him to stay, but PR? Guy u are a joke.. It is more profitable to live in a sane coi try as a millionaire than being a billionaire living in a hell hole where ur security, and life expectancy is below average.

The person loaded a particular Kuda account using your card details... They must have snapped it once of these days without your knowledge.. The fact that they removed money from it that day does not mean that was the day your card details was compromised....... Copy the transaction reference and talk to kuda via phone number or if u are in lagos go to their customer care office in lagos and complain.. They will put the money on Lien and wait for you to bring court order to remove it..

So this is suppose to be a news that would make front page Most you Y'all mods that put irrelevant content like this on front page need to start doing better.... Mtweeeeee..

JackDaAlienz:
It started on Wednesday when I woke up around 3 am to make video call with my babe in Houston Texas after we had some argument on me cheating.
While I was waiting for her to pick up the call,I could hear my neighbor
kaboshing and speaking in tongues praying around that 3 am.
No issue, so I still call my babe again. She no pick.
I just lay back to bed, while my neighbor was still singing worship songs and praying fire fire.

I then woke up around 3:50 am my neighbor still kaboshing and i check my phone and saw my babe whatsap missed calls.
I call her she pick up first thing she cone dey para for me say which girl i dey sleep with we I no wan pick her calls. I wan talk she still dey yarn rubbish till the point u come vex. Out of anger I come shout
"What is wrong with you!!!
Why are you disturbing my life this early morning.
She replied that she know I'm with someone there. And I shout again
You be Witchhhh, You dey Monitor me
Thunder fire you there!!

I cut the call and didn't know my neighbor she heard me shouting and thought I was responding to her fire fire prayers.
Next thing I hear is this my neighbor singing in praises saying God has identified my enemies.
God has exposed them, holy ghost fire is tormenting him right now. Father expose all of them.
I feel like she is referring to me shouting at my girl thinking I was shouting because of her prayers.
Now my landlord on thursday evening told me that the woman is accusing me of being a ritualist that her prayers are affecting me at night. I explained everything to him but he still look at me one kind

My broda, how do I clear my name and save image from this kind of mess before she start spreading rumors around the street that I'm a Yahoo plus ritualist

trying to clear ur name would create more doubt.... Let them wallow in their oblivion.... None of them dey feed u, cloth you, why do you care

Virgo01:
Can anyone here fund my UBA dollar prepaid card?
Its urgent and i don't want to go out and get dollar to go deposit at the bank. Just quote if you can or send a PM.

you can only fund it over the counter with raw dollar u bought from bdc or u exchange ur naira at the bank to fund the card(I doubt if they will sell u forex, even if they do I doubt if it will exceed 100) or u can buy PayPal Funds from an exchanger, the PayPal is sent to your PayPal and u withdraw to ur uba dollar card

Bbqekpa:
Those are very simple questions na
He must be a 2.2 fresh GA with mad connections.

without being told u suppose know say na cruise the lecturer dey catch.... Why go tru the stress of setting what u can't solve? Lecturer wan use student catch cruise.. Lol

just2endowed:
both available

how much sir

lexy2014:
That doesn't answer d question:

How can a newly opened account be dormant?

the account wasn't dormant, outflow was restricted... An account can only go dormant if not in use for a long time

NovesaTillie:
I moved to this city because of my new job and my neighbors have been very homely and helpful to me especially the ones next flat,a young man and his wife with a kid . They have been very kind to me, sometimes when I get home late from work his wife calls me to join them for dinner and hangouts. M
My issue now is I am beginning to grow fond of the man because of how gentlemanly he treats his wife and how dotting he is of their son. He ticks all the qualities that I dream of and sometimes I just feel like inviting him over to my place when his wife is out to tempt him a little
What can I do to stop this feeling?
I don't want someone else man or to destroy a cute family

Please don't insult me. I am in a relationship though very young relationship. I'm just human admiring someone else.

lol, from food wen them dey give u eat. U wan eat her husband Preeq join... Lol, Na the woman Bleep up in the first place to allow single lady close to her family.. Remember say anything when u do person, them go do u back ooooo.

lexy2014:
According to the report:

Davido revealed earlier today that he newly opened a bank account

How can a newly opened account be dormant?

the account was still active even at 90 million, the account got debit Restricted status after it crossed 110 Mill... Although beneath the account has always says restricted...

aminusodiq:
lol guess im not the only one who saw that cleaning service in Nigeria in the post

you are still sane and not hallucinating, lol even me see am too...

BigSarah:
Too much nollywood...

leave those short sighted people alone to wallow where their Mindset can go... They are so comfortable with poverty that they see all source of income as unclean... Sinners Judging another sinner because he/She sin differently...

Candidlady:
This guy wont just lay low!!

rubbish after using that poor girl to renew the fire under your "pot"

Mentality matters alot... No Go face your life, dey find who him money clean or not, assistant jesus christ.

just2endowed:
Romoss pea57 57000mah powerbank successful delivered to a nairalander in makurdi...

how much for the 57k and 40k Mah And waybill go Benin cost how much

Znation:
Hello nairalanders

Some people may say i'm lucky and would want to be in my position, but i really need ur advice..

My girlfriend mum have a very big provission shop, and u all know how it feels (that joy) to have such person daughther as your girlfriend.

She loves me so much that she can give me money, food stuff, all for free from their shop. infact, i don't even spend a kobo to buy anything again. All i do is just go to their shop, & collect whatever i want.

If i meet her mum when i want to buy something, i'll pay her. But if i give her N500, she will give me change of even N2000 and ask me to go. And i don't argue with her so that her mum won't notice. I will just collect the money and go.

If i call her on phone that i'm hungry, only God can tell the things she will bring for me withing just 20 minutes of calling her..

She's spending so much on me, and i think i need advice.

I thought i was a lucky man b4, but the thing is too much 4 me.

nairalanders, What should i do?

you are a thief and nothing more... Naive girl bringing down her mothers shop for you gradually and you do not reject, knowing very well that this act would eat Into the business profit and eventually the capital, when she finally pack enter house as a result of no capital to continue the business I hope your devilish conscience allow you sleep at night.... You are just using the girl for your selfish benefit and e no go better for you like this...

Christistruth00:
Read page 304 where it claims only one fatality at Lekki , the report was unsigned and made no mention of the other 221 Petitions

you don't sign a soft copy report.. The report was not scanned it is a soft copy before printing.. Ozubuuuu

mach7:
The downloaded report wasn't signed by any of the panel members, hence it's validity is open to question.

Although I would want to safely assume that the submitted copy was signed by all panel members.

Long read.

how do you sign a soft copy?? Did you sign your school project or thesis soft copy?? You only sign the printed one.... The only way a signature can enter a soft copy is after signing the whole hard copy, You scan each page to make a soft copy which is scan of all pages... But not an editable world document like this.... If that's the only reason you gave, sorry us is not valid...

Yet the blind zombies we have living among us here on NL said nobody died.. Let me not even start to mention name. But the fate of those who died whose death was mocked and undermined by you people would be far more better than the fate that would befall you and your household..... Useless set of zombies.

FalseProphet1:
The same government that instructed CBN to ban crypto currency are trading it, the same government that arrested obi cubana for money laundering are also guilty of the same offence.

Kuda bank aren't wise, I see Nigerians deleting their app, I see them unable to pay their staffs, I see them folding up in the coming months.

This I have seen.

you did not see anything my brother, you username said it all.. If Kuda is bad like you all are trying to make everyone believe, are the rest bank better? HELL NO!!! so make all of una relax.

tolakush92:
Good evening nlders I’ll be very brief and precise .This thing has been bothering my mind and I felt I should seek for reasonable and experienced opinions from senior men them on this forum .

The issue is .. is it a bad thing to cook in my Brothers house (although he has a wife and kids ) .His wife felt bad yesterday cus I cooked small okra and Eba cus I was hungry . The only food she likes me to cook in her kitchen is indomie . I feel if there Is love what’s there if I cook anything I want to eat in the kitchen .must I always take permission to cook

Pls I want to know if it’s right or wrong

Front page pls

Aunty you have not done anything wrong... It is obvious she feel threatened by your cooking in her own house, when you said she has no issue if you cook indomie... Lol