Kadejo: I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old. She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.
I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.
This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.
But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?
Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.
Thank you.
there is no guarantee that she would marry you even after doing the so called sisi.. So move on & Forget that one wen never ready.... So from 19 to 25 she no do sis, so she intend to start doing sisi at 28,29 when her mate dey give birth by then... Sorry to say this bluntly, You are dating an unserious lady...
Supreme145: Good morning N'landers, I will make this post as brief and concise as possible.
Some months ago while I was home on break from school, I visited one of my in-laws that owns a school to introduce a software to him for his school. The man complained that I was too distant from him, citing how I never call him or ask him for favours whenever I'm in school. I told him I will reach out to him more often.
I told my mom about my visit and she told me without mincing words to resist collecting money from the man. My mom is the religious type and has been skeptical about the man's source of wealth.
When school resumed things were difficult at home and I couldn't resume school. I spent close to three months after resumption at home due to lack of funds. Note that since my admission from my first year to my final year, I've never asked any relative for help no received any help from anyone aside my immediate family.
I lost my resolve not to ask for help when my project supervisor called me and scolded me over the phone for my inability to resume school. I sent the man a text soliciting for help, he sent me 5k which I added to the little I had and resumed school. I didn't tell my mom because I knew she won't be happy about it.
In school things were so hard for me, during a particular period I went almost one week living on just water, that period I'm sure I would eaten food sacrificed to a deity if I had access to one. I called the man again and he reluctantly sent me 4k after many calls and text messages.
This early morning I got a phone call from my mom, she was crying over the phone. She was hurt and said I betrayed her because I went behind her back to collected money from a man she told me to avoid. She said that singular act of mine has destroyed all her efforts and prayers to break us free from bondage. I tired to explain that the money wasnt a physical cash hence it has no effect on me but to no avail. She said I've broken her for life and she would never forgive me.
I have a very close relationship with my mom and everything she told me really hurt me and I'm confused on the action to take. I am 28 but I hardly hide anything from her, I didn't tell her about the money because I know she wouldn't approve of it and I needed it. This is the first time any relative has contributed to my education ever. I don't even know how she got to know.
Please how do I pacify her and get her to forgive me? I really love my mom and can't bear to see her this heartbroken.
sorry to say this, as hard as it is to believe, YOUR MOTHER HAS PRIDE AND PRIDE GOES BEFORE A FALL. so she would have expected you to waste all your years in skul due to not being able to resume ur final year after 3months plus, because she is too proud to ask for help, your mother prefers her Ego to ur education ..... Guy u have not done anything wrong and u owe her no apology, rather she should be grateful to ur uncle.. Inasmuch as I don't know where ur mum is talking from, maybe spirituality, but if she has raised money for u even tru borrowing, not sure u will be home for 3months to have asked ur uncle for help... You mom should be more grateful to ur uncle and accept the fact that IT IS VERY MUCH OKAY TO ASK FOR HELP. ESPECIALLY WHEN WE CAN'T DO THINGS FOR OURSELVES... God no send us come life come do am alone.... We all need help one point or the other in life, except of cause your mother is keeping a secret from you....
Nedu doesn’t deserve your son? Is he dragging the boy with you before? It is your ex or whoever is the father that deserves the son.
All this show of shame would have been averted if she didn’t try to play the victim by calling him out online.
Sometimes couples separate and you see one party just silent and trying to play mature, claiming irreconcilable differences or downplaying the situation. You think they are stupid? Some things are better left unsaid to protect the image of the other party, even in the event of divorce. She just shot herself in the foot.
Give his own kids to him and hold your son that he doesn’t deserve.
my cap is off for u to have exhibited this level of intelligence free from sentiment of being a female... Yet the small small slow mind ones will soon come out to support evil just bcoz she is a fellow female.... The show of shame is EPIC
saphiere: Men don't have shame.. This is not eye service. It is the number 3 code in the "sisters' code".
3. Don't f with me if you can't f with my friend. Meaning; If you can't find my friend/sister worthy to be in your circle, then you shouldn't find me worthy.
Hamila is displaying loyalty here to Tonto and that is what the sisters' code is about.
just a little reminder your father is a man..... The fact that this particular man is shameless and too loud does not mean all men are like him...
StrongInBed: Is she married or the baby a product of camp immoral act.
smh, slow mind... U just write nonsense hiding under a faceless platform.. But deep down how do u look at urself in the mirror after talking such stupid tinx
tgmservice: Hi Nairalanders There is this girl I meet in my church very beautiful and well-behaved.
We got to know each other better and developed a likeness for each other and along the line.
As our feeling where growing, she told me an ugly truth about her self how she used to date a Yahoo boy back in school.
She said the yahoo boy gave her all the luxury she needed in life, including the latest gadgets and fashion wears.
She was one of the big girls on campus but deep down the yahoo guy did not have any regard for her as he only used her as a sex tool. She said sometimes before he sleeps with he robs some strange ointment on his penis and she felt it was fetish.
She also told me that her boyfriend and his yahoo friends usually have group sex with her, it began to impact on her life and physical health negatively that she finally had to take the bold step and leave the relationship and even dropped out from school.
Though now she is doing well and self-employed as she is into hair business.
She said she told me this not to hide anything from me and she really likes me, I really like the girl and thinking of marrying her. But after revealing her life story is it advisable I still go ahead with the relation?
she felt it was fetish, because of feeling u just jumped into useless conclusion.... What is that ointment is an ointment to delay ejaculation Una go just sit down fry reason and talk nonsense
DankemzI: Omo royalty is sexy. If only royalty could be bought I'd have gotten His Royal Highness Obong of Calabar that's the highest Royal tool in Southern Nigeria followed by Obi of Onitsha before Oba of Benin! Chai power sweet!
Mayng01: Suleiman’s ass licker & paid agent is vomiting with an empty numbskull . What a rant.
u just hate looking stupid, even if u are in reality, be true to urself..... If really u know me face to face u will know I don't care about anything religion, cause I think it has done so much harm than good... But that does not stop me from using common sense to think, coz u obviously don't have it
Mayng01: This sule man is a fraud, is he the only man of God in Nigeria? My instinct tells me the guy isn’t clean after all. In every rumor, there are elements of truth
I'm not a Christian neither a Muslim or neither do I have any right to judge by hearing from one side but how do I know u are just bitter towards rich men Of God in general?? If not that ur bias nature has Blinded you to even reason with common sense, Same lady is confessing bcoz she doesn't want to go to hell how suddenly we didn't see all the name of men she has slept with for hookup since her prayer for Forgiveness includes names of her clients but only the name of a prominent man of God popped up.. So u actually believe in your mind of minds that this said man of God is so stupid to give his number out to a hooker U actually believe that.. At times your hate for a set of individuals or hate for a religion or hate for set of people shouldn't cloud your judgement of common and logical reasoning... I guess if she has mentioned the name of a common man, u won't give it attention... Just Start using ur head... Peace
abercrombie: Like the topic says, this lady and I have been dating for a year now, and we are both in our final year due to my expertise in withdrawal method i always stay focused when about to cum, we had our last sex on 18 of july. Just a months back after we went for semester break,she called that's she feeling uneasy and that her breast is getting bigger.
To cut the story..... that' she's pregnant and she won't abort anything, me as a street wise already know where she's driving at "Marriage Talks"
But she later called and apologize yesterday that she is testing and trying to see if I would deny or start avoiding her,in my mind have already broke up with her.
So guys what do you think she's up to,I need some mature advice and contribution
Mod please move it to front page
listen to yourself, my expertise in withdrawal method blah blah blah.... Dey there dey talk like illiterate instead of you to take responsibility.. Like u don't know that withdrawal method is the least effective method of avoiding pregnancy. Pregnancy is not a ticket to automatic marriage, make her understand this fact so that she can re-evaluate what she really wants... Make her understand say even smallest introduction u no dey do if e never reach time u want take marry.. And if e reach the time and God say she no Be ur wife, can she accept the baby mama tag?? Once u ask am that one, henceforth you go know what to do and where she stands... Make una abstain u una no go hear
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Greatzeus: Is that the holy spirit speaking through him too? Your men of God are men, whether real or fake, anointed or not,not everything they say or do on the pulpit is right or a good example. I love you Jesus for sacrificing your self for me,that's why I will follow you not men of God or men of men or men of their bank accounts
does he need the holy spirit or holy ghost to correct a wrong impression Una go just open mouth dey talk.... What is bad is bad, even if na native doctor or herbalist dey correct the bad impression, he should be listened to
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Dubaiguy: I am sorry I haven’t created new videos for some time. I have been busy with work and daddy duties lol.
However, the deteriorating relations between Nigeria and UAE prompted me to make this video. It has never been this worse and it keeps getting critical every day. If we don’t address this issue faster, soon, average Nigerians won’t be able to visit UAE, not to mention getting jobs and staying there.
The Nigerians living in Dubai, Abu Dhabi and also other regions of the country would be targeted by the police and Arab citizens.
I have been in living in UAE for several years and I can authoritatively tell you that Nigeria has always been a good ally of UAE right from time. Nigerians come here to invest, buy goods, houses, for vacations etc. It was good business for everybody (We still do though).
We were also highly popular and respected for our football prowess. Ask any average Arab citizen on the road about Nigeria and he/she will mention our legendary footballers like Okocha, Kanu, Amokachi, Rashidi Yekini etc.
How did the problem start by the way? No it’s not the Nigerian government, the issue is largely due to the activities of unscrupulous Nigerians and other Africans in the UAE which has battered our reputation over time. Let’s look at some factors and instances.
2014 Nigerian Armed Robbery This armed robbery carried out by Five Nigerians at an exchange bank in UAE signified the beginning of the end of Nigerians’ good standing with Dubai.
From my personal experience and research, the 2014 robbery incidence would be the first major armed robbery experience in UAE. The Nigerians carted away millions of dirhams but were caught and prosecuted.
The robbery incidence gained domestic and international exposure, and with it comes damaging problems for the Nigerian image. It was the first time the name Nigeria would start being known for crime in the UAE. It was so grave that around that time, UAE stopped issuing Visas to Nigerians.
Prostitution Another prevailing issue destroying Nigeria’s image is the high rate of Nigerian ladies into prostitution in the state. We can’t blame these ladies entirely because some of them were trafficked and tricked by conmen who promised them jobs upon arrival.
However, they were met with the harsh realities of selling their bodies before they can even eat. Many also come unprepared and because they couldn’t get jobs and don’t want to face “embarrassment” at home, they go into prostitution.
The most disappointing thing is that they sell their bodies cheaply. When I came here, it was general knowledge that with at least 20 dirhams, you can sleep with African especially Nigerian prostitutes.
It would interest you to know that the first advice I was given by a Nigerian, a popular Nairalander when I landed in Dubai is to go into the prostitution business as a love-vendor. Lol, rent a house, bring girls from Nigeria, ensure they sleep in the house and pay me commission as returns on my investment. Very bad.. More about this in the video.
Public Fighting: Cultists taking their madness overseas, fight in clubs, on the streets etc., you know the drill.
Bad Work Ethics: Nigerians stealing money at work, committing other offences and giving their UAE employees a bad experience. This spoils the chances of other honest and hardworking Nigerians looking for jobs in the country. Now it is not uncommon to find UAE companies publicly stating that Nigerians are not allowed in their companies.
Hushpuppi: Won’t go into much details about this. Everybody heard the news. As it was popular over there in Nigeria, the story of Hushpuppi’s infamous lifestyle and grand arrest is also widely known here. More bad for Nigeria’s image. Tell a UAE citizen that you are from Nigeria and he/she will be like “oh Hushpuppi country.”
Foreigner’s Activities: Because Nigeria is now almost synonymous to crime in UAE, we have had experiences of other African nationals disguising as Nigerian citizens when they commit crimes. Recently there was a robbery incident, it was widely reported to be carried out by Nigerians.
It was later when the police carried out their investigations and caught the thieves that they realized that they were Cameroonians and not Nigerians. There are more cases like this, some of which I have personally experienced.
I don’t want this article to be too long to make it easier and faster to read, so I won’t be able to cover more than this here. However if you want to know more or planning to come to UAE soon, please watch the video. Liking and subscribing on my channel will go a long way too. Thanks.
What can we do to get out of this? Now many Nigerians are in UAE on a three month visa. Because of this prevailing issue, they would never get jobs, they will overstay their visa and most will become illegal.
I made some recommendations for the UAE Government at the end of the video. It will affect lots of people, but those are what I could think of.
The cycle continues and more headache for Nigeria and Nigerians living in Diaspora. What are your solutions?
You can check the source for more information and please don't send me a pm. Rather a comment on the video will be seen and addressed.
yes Nigerians just like any country citizen are spoiling their country's name... But the fact remains. UAE ALWAYS AMPLIFIES THE CRIME COMMITTED BY A NIGERIAN COMPARED TO OTHER PEOPLE FROM OTHER COUNTRIES.... Nigerians aren't the worse in crime like they are trying to make the whole world believe.. People are still staying in Mexico, Cambodia, etc...
IF EVERYBODY GET MY KIND OF MIND, NOT SURE NOBODY WILL CHOOSE UAE AS A TRAVEL DESTINATION.... wetin I dey find go there
Hangmnk: COVID-19 in Africa is fake and the communist disguised "democrats" exaggerating it forr total global control and mind control
Imagine your useless narrative of covid being fake.... You should live in the 17th century, bcoz if u are a youth less than 40 and you say this, you are really unintelligent.. COVID IS REAL, TALKING FROM EXPERIENCE, UNTIL SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOU IS AFFECTED KEEP SELLING U USELESS NARRATIVE..
TarOrfeeek: My current GF is from a single mother home.
Immediately I finished reading this topic. I will break up with her mentally.
lol, ogbeni be calming down abeg... Lol.. He said avoid most girls raised by a single mother, he never said All... There are pretty single parent raised ladies who are extremely respectful and submisive bcoz their mother thought them that...
sharpwriter: Blord means Bitcoin lord... Na crypto guy. Search him out on instagram
guy we know what it means, the guy is a fraudster nobody wen no know.. I wonder say una just dey join the party so.... If I tell u how many people money this thief kill tru btc and Giftcard wen I know.. Who efcc Don first parade, lol which country una dey self
Lol, some of you here selling pc are really funny honestly.. So a person go carry 115k go out for chromebook, lol... How u get mind write that price is still a mystery to me...
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u truly be thief.... U have mere 50k and u get choice of core i5, ur money no fit carry core i3 self.. Better up your game or get lost
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FutureIsFemale: Dear women, invest in yourselves. Forget these chameleons who keep changing every second. They don't worth it.
Please permit me to say this. Men are very wicked. They are ready to waste your life. Imagine marrying a lady just for clout. You care not about her emotions and her biological clock. Very selfish lots. A man would date a lady for years.. Pinning her down with fake marriage promises. Deep down he knows he won't marry her yet he will chose to tie her down. My God will continue to punish every male child that has ever promised a lady marriage and dump her for another woman.
Time is the only resource that can't be recovered. Men know this. And they are fully aware of a woman's clock. Yet they chose to waste women's time. My God will judge them. If not for Biblical purpose, I see no reason I should get married. These men don't deserve it.
It's different if you are planning on marrying a girl and something serious like health challenge happens and you later cancel your plans. Why keep a woman in your custody for years when you know you won't marry her? What's the sense in it? God will punish you all marriage-promise-breakers. It will not be well with you all.
I am not even reacting to the thread base on the subject matter. I am reacting to the thread base on how men waste women's time all in the name of marriage. God will punish them. And point of correction. I am not on NL for likes. If I wanted likes I would say sweet words about men. To hell with NL likes. I am here as a voice for women.
It seem you don't know who men are. The worst pretenders I have ever seen. Some would go as far as introducing you to their family members and coming to see your family for introduction. Deep down they know they won't marry you. They will leave you to public disgrace. Forget it. If I tell you my story you will weep. I don't wish any woman what I've gone through in the hands of men.
They key word here is "MARRIAGE FOR CLOUT". Meaning that no matter how good this girl is, he will still dump her after his clout chasing days are over.
Marriage is not a choice. It is a command. Genesis 2:24 Genesis 9:7 Deuteronomy 23:2
this your last part of marriage being a command made everything you've said rubbish.... Marriage has always been a choice and would remain so.. Thats why apostle Paul choose not to be married. Just don't go on quoting bible verse anyhow.. Read the story that led to the verse.. With ur profile it shows you are bias and a die hard feminist, not just by words but the kind that do not see any evil in what a fellow female would do, provided it is against the opposite gender... But the true act of feminism is to first understand that feminism is not a fight between male and female.... But u can't know this, bcoz u do not want to know.
bigpicture001: But y are our brilliant youths rushing to govt jobs...@Op, hope you know both jobs won't make you get rich unless you indulge in corrupt practices.....
Y don't you want to roll your sleeves and dig out success.....big people don't go sit behind a table for 85k monthly....
Indeed naija educated youth are lazy at mind
the fact that your kind haven't realised by now that not everybody would or want to be an entrepreneur, makes me sick... Not everybody want to be Dangote, some people just want to live comfortably and that's all. But you can't understand this because you see everybody trying to be gainfully employed as being lazy.. Better remove that slow puke Mentality off your head....... Life is far more than the one angle you are seeing it from.. Widen your Horizon and be open minded, you will know better.
Romance › Re: Should I Wait For My Girlfriend Who's In 300L To Finish While Am Already 34yrs ? by cedricksly: 9:18pm On Sep 11, 2021
Una go just sit down fry reason and talk nonsense
