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Iamagoodgirll:
So I came across this post in a group

NL guys have you experienced this?, also share your view.

I NEED ADVAISE FROM A MALE READERS:

And no, my story is not made up. It’s for real, actually very real. I am a top executive of a very successful conglomerate my father founded. I resumed the job early this year when I returned from the U.K after completing my MBA.
As a result of my job, I usually find myself frequenting places I ordinarily wouldn’t want to- Ikoyi club, society weddings, conferences, etc. I’m a geek for the most part, and something of a recluse. I would rather stay in my house at the end of day and watch TV. When I became Deputy CEO of the company, I realized that I had to start hanging out at these places to build a social circle, mostly for business reasons. I am not a very sociable person, but with the help of my more outgoing cousins, I have been able to build a pretty decent network of Lagos ‘big boys’ between January when I returned and now.

During a conference in Lagos this year, I was approached by a young lady banker. She was working in the Marketing department at one of these banks, She’s pretty young- about 7 years my junior. I’m 28; this lady is about 21. You know how young these graduates are these days.

Anyway, she walked up to me and started persuading me to consider opening up a bank account with her bank and told me all the benefits of the account, etc. She looked so innocent and desperate, and practically begged me for an opportunity to see me again so that she could convince me. I ended up giving her my complimentary card. I usually don’t just give out my card like that, but I did.
Three days later, when I was hanging out with my new-found friends and my cousins at a bar at one of the Hotels on the Island during the early evening, this girl called me and reminded me who she was. She said she really needed me to open an account, and that she was eager to convince me on why I needed to open an account. My friends noticed I was talking to a girl on the phone. You know how guys are; they teased me and asked me to just play around with her and invite her for drinks.
I asked her to come over to the Hotel, and surprisingly, she said she would be there in 20 minutes. The branch she worked in is on the Island, so she apparently took a Bike and came to meet us. This was about 6pm. The girl came, and my friends all saw her. They smiled and talked among themselves in hush tones, and I talked briefly with her for like 5 minutes and told her I would make a decision on banking with her or not. She was desperate from what I could see, and she was eager to get my account.

When she left, my friends all laughed mischievously and told me in plain terms that I had to sleep with the girl. They went on talking about how all these bank marketers sleep with different men before getting deposits, and insisted that I must not be any different. Now, I’m not a virgin; I’ve had my own fair share of sex in the past, but I’ve never been one to take advantage of a girl. I knew she was desperate as she had a target to meet up to, or something of the sort. But when you’re a guy hanging out with guys, it’s pretty difficult to be the odd one out. All my friends made me promise that I’d sleep with the girl. I promised; I didn’t want to look like some geek. And I’m really trying to feel among these guys.

To cut a long story short, two days later, when I was in my office, this girl called me and tried persuading me to bank with her. As she was talking to me on phone, I asked her jokingly: “What are you willing to do in order for me to open an account with you?”

She hesitated and then she told me: “Anything you want sir.”

Gbam! That was my cue. I asked her to meet me at one hotel for drinks later that evening. I asked my PA to book a room for me at the Hotel. She came to meet me. We had drinks, we chatted. She told me that her bosses had ordered her to deliver N10million to the bank that month, and that so far, she hadn’t gotten anything. Her job was on the line, and she had only just started working there 3 weeks before. I asked her to follow me to the room. She did. I slept with her.

Surprisingly, it turns out she was doing it for the first time. She was actually a Virgin. The bed sheet was stained with her blood and all that stuff, and I was just amazed. I thought being a marketer and all, that she would have been sampled many times. But no, she was a virgin. When we finished, she was shy of looking at me in the eye. We didn’t talk much. I gave her money for a Taxi, and gave her the name of the Finance director of the subsidiary I am in charge of. I asked her to meet him the following day to open up a corporate account. I instructed the guy to open up an account worth a few hundreds of millions- probably enough to meet her target for the next 2 years if there is such a thing in commercial banking circles. I don’t know how these banks work.

Anyway, she called me and thanked me profusely for saving her job. My friends now know I have slept with her, and I have solidified my place among them as a ‘bad’ guy.

The issue is this: I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her. It’s been like six weeks now. I haven’t called her since then, even though she keeps sending me text messages asking after my wellbeing and thanking me for banking with her. She deals directly with my Finance guy so we don’t talk money ever. But I think about her every day. I think I actually have feelings for her, and the idea that I was her first makes me feel like she should belong to me. I’ve never been a Lady’s first. I’m actually going crazy with thoughts about this girl.

Am I crazy? Should I call her up and ask her out? How would that feel? How would she react? Also, considering that my friends all see her as the bank ‘LovePeddler’ would it be a good idea to still ask her out? How will my friends see me? I’m not looking for sex from her; I’m looking for something real, something intimate. I want something that’d last- probably forever.

I’ve never felt this way about any other lady in a really really long time. What should I do?

if this story is real as you have said, I have just two things to tell u man to man...
1) F*CK YOUR FRIENDS.
2) GO FOR HER IF YOUR HEART IS THERE.(don't judge her desperation, these banks can really be pushy)

Side note: if you like her that much please tell her to stop working at the bank, and recommend her to any of your contacts company so she can earn a living without fear of her job being on the line.... NEVER, I REPEAT NEVER BRING HER TO YOUR COMPANY UNDER YOU.. IF SHE MUST WORK IN YOUR COMPANY MAKE SURE YOU BOTH AREN'T IN SAME BRANCH....

You are homeless and your prick still dey rise, guy u get mind oooooo... Hpv or similar knocking

The money has cleared....

Stanweezy:
My sister sent the attached picture below for me, according to her she said the chemist she went said its bkus of the water she bath with.

Please I need answers on what could be the cause of this boils.

Thank you

na water oooo, I'm certain she just newly changed location /water source... It will take few time for her body to adapt to that water... It isn't pimples.. Her best bet right now is to use very strong antiseptic in the water used for bathing, and also get Tetmosol (Citronella) and use to rub her face after bathing. Do not worry it does not crack the skin, and it is immediately absorbs into the skin pores in less than 30 seconds and won't even show she used anything on her face.. USE THIS AND THANK ME LATER. this is coming from a person who had first time experience with water reaction... NOTE : Tell her to avoid drinking from that water sources oooo, because na typhoid she dey build up for her body like that.

JimmyDarmody:
Is this with heavy usage? What kind of phone has the ability to do that ?

none, she didn't understand the level you meant by heavy usage.... Girls can leave their phone idle for a whole 1hour at intervals.. When they choose to use it social media, movie, music that's all

Una Wan do YouTube as a business yet una no fit buy better microphone enhance una voice... Whenever I hear that voice on any video on NL it always irritates my ears.

Ayanwukoma:
So I should let them go and abort my child tomorrow?
Sorry sir I can't do that, even though am young I will fight for my right.

That child is my offspring, I won't let her mom terminate it because of her assumptions about me.

We are both same age groups, I am older than her with 3 months

She called me crying, I can't tell from her voice she doesn't want to do it.

keep quite first bro and listen to wise counsels from the commenter of your post First. no go do wahala bcoz na who get belle know who give am the belle.. Before u know the girl go tell u say no Be u get the pregnancy, wetin u go do?? So calm down.

MrCuteking:
If you give advice, they will take it for granted but if you keep it to yourself, they will say you withheld your financial advice from the masses so as to remain at the top.

I am very sure that even after you simplified it, he will still argue with you.

I have left him with his financial ignorance... Someone tell me if he has 100 million why won't he buy the phone.. I wanted to tell him the money is available doesn't mean you should buy what you know Outrightly won't add value to you, because you already use the highest model of the previous version which is not different from the so called latest 13.. But I let him be, because poor people are hard to advise........ Like me I stopped at iPhone 7+ then max which was totally a new thing, then 12 Pro max which was entirely different and so far so good they haven't made any significant difference to make me splash money on it, mind you I sell previous and add money to get the new... Can't be using two phones when I have just 1 main sim... No Be food

Tissaia:
Lies he just don't want to displease his Masters.

Sign the damn thing

lol, you think it is easy to have ur decision between a person and his/her death? Asin having the power of death over a person..

HigherEd:
1) 10 Billion Naira Annual Wage Bill Is A Huge Financial Responsibility.

The Living Faith church established 16,000 churches in rural communities across the country in addition to the already established 10,000 churches it has across the globe. A quick calculation shows that N53,000 gross multiplied by 16,000 new Pastors amounts to an addition of N848, 000, 000 per month. In a year that amounts to N10, 178, 000, 000.

This is huge money for a non profit to shell out of her pocket. Especially considering the fact that Living Faith still has to subsidize all her [s]non profit universities and secondary schools to the tune of billions every new year[/s]

2) Pastorate Work Is Different.

Anyone taking up a pastorate job needs to realize it is different from taking a bank job.
For one, your mandatory attention is only on Sunday and some late night or early morning services, plus your scheduled outreaches.
You have other time you can still use to do farming or any other freelance job. Therefore, you shouldn't be surprised that the perks available for a 9 - 5, five days a week aren't available.

non profit bawo, go sleep

CELEBRITIZ:
I’m not gonna lie . But I’d still get the iPhone 13pro max . What Reno said make sense but I find it offensive because I Have investments and I can afford it . I don’t think he should generalize it

at the end, Na Reno Own opinion be that anyway...

Kingcalls:
So if I hv a hundred million in my account , I should not buy it cos reno said so??

I dont know how u guys reason...poverty have really fried alot of people's brains

read what I said again, it is not because reno said so, it is because it is not a smart financial move.... It is solely my opinion and you sure have yours... If this iPhone 12 Pro max I dey use never get technical issue or any fault. Nigga forget it I no know if iPhone 13 come out... The only thing that will aid me changing it to iPhone 13 is if the screen or the battery needs replacement, then I just go for a new one...

nairavsdollars:
God punish poverty mentality..

if a poor man was giving this advise what you said would have made a little sense. But na who get money dey give this advise so ur point is Baseless...... Whosoever using iPhone 12 Pro max still going for this so called 13 series is really a slave to the brand. Because there is obviously no significant improvement.

ThinkBrave:
I want to start a cryptocurrency/blockchain project. I have been into crypto since to 2018 and l want to start one in Nigeria.
I need to raise a team.
I'm looking for people that share same passion.

Thanks

have been into crypto since bitcoin early days of 2012... Please if the project is legit with utility and not a supposed crypto that would rug pool others, and make people cry I'm interested.. But if the aim is to loot others, not interested. Are your intentions pure??

federal9:
Polluted mind. I weep when I remember I share the same country with ridiculous people like you. Everything must not be taken for a laugh.

what has he said to deserve this uncalled bitter talk from you...?? He has said literally nothing wrong at all..

wman:
This thread was moved to the front page without any comment.

I feel that the mods should have allowed a few knowledgeable people to comment before moving the thread to the front page for others to comment.

answer his question if u can and leave this one u are saying... How many people who are expert do u think go more than front page Pushing to front page is for wider audience and more expert advise.... If na ur post shey u got talk like this?

Softboy001:
....life has been difficult to say the least, ever since I moved to lagos after finishing my nysc in March, I thought hoped things will be better but it only became...
Well let's leave that. I just want advice, that's why I am here.am currently squatting with my elder brother and his fiance in a room and palor self con. They are getting married by December. I have alot of burden to them, they don't need to tell me I know. But what will a man do. I forgot to add am 27 years old. I studied mechanical engineering (HND). My hands are really tied right now. I left a crazy job(30k/months) that I was using to sustain my self. Don't judge me, am not lazy. I left because of security reasons. Plus It was a slave kind of work. Presently am hooked. I don't know where and what to do. I currently don't have up to 5k in my account self. As I no gree do yahoo aka jazz. Na wetin my eyes dey see be this.

...any way my gist is getting to long. There is an man that has always been a father to me. He helped me through school. I really thank him. As in he has done alot. The man just like me for no reason.and has been helping me since I was young. Anyway he called me and then after explaining to him how things has been for him.

He called again after a month. He said he has a deal for me.

The deal is that, he wants to sponsor me to go to canada. I forgot to add, he stays in Austria. Him and his family. So the deal is about 2.5 million naira, so he said he going to work everything for me that includes international passport,visa, airplane ticket, accommodation and also the package includes work also. but the deal is that. He will pay about. 850k. To get me there first. Then when am there and have started working I'll pay 1.8 million to the agency $4k.

So that's the deal. The 850k he is just using that to help me.actually he himself he paying 650k to the agency and giving me 200k as pocket money. Then when I get there I can work and give the agency the remaining 1.85 million.

So please guys, what to do you think. My fears is going to a country I don't know anyone at all, there is so much risk involved canada far o and will I be able to pay up the money. I don't want to owe gbese that I can't pay back.

What do you guys think?
Should I go ahead? Or remain in naija?

I have so much fears, that's why am scared of going, what if I go broke?

I have from now till Monday to decide, the processing is starting on Monday

you have a very lazy and negative mind with the last part rubbish u said... Even me no go help u knowing this ur kind of Mindset even if I'm ur brother.... Suffer never tire u at all. My only advise to u if ur Foolishness allow u take this golden once in a lifetime opportunity is this... Never u accept to deliver load fir anybody, nor even the man wen wan help u without the load spending a day with u, don't accept shirt. Shoe cap or underwear from anybody especially the man, because some might want to use u push hard drugs... Be smart and be Street wise u won't fail or suffer. Because ur major fear is failing even when u get there

shegxy9:
I will make it short guys... I met this damsel February this year and it has been great times since then...

Around may she got admission to University outside the state we are but the main issue is that wen she came back I was telling her about her attitudes when she was in school like most times we hardly talk but she said that I know this is her first semester in school and she apologised that it would not happen again...

But the main issue is this, she said I need to forgive her because she has offended me, she said a guy slept in her room though she swore to me that nothing happened that night...

Pls guys have been having these mixed feelings since yesterday like can she be trusted?? And hope am not in love with upcoming olosho

Pls no insults, only matured responses

guy focus and forget Negativity.. What if she no tell you, you go know? Focus nigga. Every lady get one flaw or the other, nobody be Saint... If relationship tire u, move on & go find Saint date.. Last advice.. If her Atitude remain same if she returns to skul after saying it won't happen again. There is a 90% chance someone else in her skul is getting her attention she is suppose to be giving u. Maybe dem Don dey Chop her self.. ��

Kadejo:
I meet this lady during COVID-19 pandemic period which was last year May 2020. She is still a student in a reputable University here in Nigeria, 300Level to be precise. She is 25years old.
She has insisted that until she finishes her school, gone for service and do what ladies call "Sisi" for at least another one year, she won't get married. That will be about 4years to this time.

I am in my mid 30s already, working class, earn below #70k per month, also into IT business, willing to get married now because I feel lonely, also need to build a family of my own before I turn 40yrs.

This lady in question appears to show me love, that's to her own way, my orientation is a bit different, I love her too anyways.

But would you advice I wait for her till she is done with all she has said or should I leave her and look for someone else to get married to?

Please, no insult, advice needed from experienced person.

Thank you.

there is no guarantee that she would marry you even after doing the so called sisi.. So move on & Forget that one wen never ready.... So from 19 to 25 she no do sis, so she intend to start doing sisi at 28,29 when her mate dey give birth by then... Sorry to say this bluntly, You are dating an unserious lady...

Supreme145:
Good morning N'landers, I will make this post as brief and concise as possible.

Some months ago while I was home on break from school, I visited one of my in-laws that owns a school to introduce a software to him for his school. The man complained that I was too distant from him, citing how I never call him or ask him for favours whenever I'm in school. I told him I will reach out to him more often.

I told my mom about my visit and she told me without mincing words to resist collecting money from the man. My mom is the religious type and has been skeptical about the man's source of wealth.

When school resumed things were difficult at home and I couldn't resume school. I spent close to three months after resumption at home due to lack of funds.
Note that since my admission from my first year to my final year, I've never asked any relative for help no received any help from anyone aside my immediate family.

I lost my resolve not to ask for help when my project supervisor called me and scolded me over the phone for my inability to resume school. I sent the man a text soliciting for help, he sent me 5k which I added to the little I had and resumed school. I didn't tell my mom because I knew she won't be happy about it.

In school things were so hard for me, during a particular period I went almost one week living on just water, that period I'm sure I would eaten food sacrificed to a deity if I had access to one. I called the man again and he reluctantly sent me 4k after many calls and text messages.

This early morning I got a phone call from my mom, she was crying over the phone. She was hurt and said I betrayed her because I went behind her back to collected money from a man she told me to avoid. She said that singular act of mine has destroyed all her efforts and prayers to break us free from bondage. I tired to explain that the money wasnt a physical cash hence it has no effect on me but to no avail. She said I've broken her for life and she would never forgive me.

I have a very close relationship with my mom and everything she told me really hurt me and I'm confused on the action to take. I am 28 but I hardly hide anything from her, I didn't tell her about the money because I know she wouldn't approve of it and I needed it. This is the first time any relative has contributed to my education ever. I don't even know how she got to know.

Please how do I pacify her and get her to forgive me? I really love my mom and can't bear to see her this heartbroken.

sorry to say this, as hard as it is to believe, YOUR MOTHER HAS PRIDE AND PRIDE GOES BEFORE A FALL. so she would have expected you to waste all your years in skul due to not being able to resume ur final year after 3months plus, because she is too proud to ask for help, your mother prefers her Ego to ur education ..... Guy u have not done anything wrong and u owe her no apology, rather she should be grateful to ur uncle.. Inasmuch as I don't know where ur mum is talking from, maybe spirituality, but if she has raised money for u even tru borrowing, not sure u will be home for 3months to have asked ur uncle for help... You mom should be more grateful to ur uncle and accept the fact that IT IS VERY MUCH OKAY TO ASK FOR HELP. ESPECIALLY WHEN WE CAN'T DO THINGS FOR OURSELVES... God no send us come life come do am alone.... We all need help one point or the other in life, except of cause your mother is keeping a secret from you....

pocohantas:
This lady should stop already.

Nedu doesn’t deserve your son? Is he dragging the boy with you before? It is your ex or whoever is the father that deserves the son.

All this show of shame would have been averted if she didn’t try to play the victim by calling him out online.

Sometimes couples separate and you see one party just silent and trying to play mature, claiming irreconcilable differences or downplaying the situation. You think they are stupid? Some things are better left unsaid to protect the image of the other party, even in the event of divorce. She just shot herself in the foot.

Give his own kids to him and hold your son that he doesn’t deserve.

my cap is off for u to have exhibited this level of intelligence free from sentiment of being a female... Yet the small small slow mind ones will soon come out to support evil just bcoz she is a fellow female.... The show of shame is EPIC

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saphiere:
Men don't have shame..
This is not eye service. It is the number 3 code in the "sisters' code".

3. Don't f with me if you can't f with my friend.
Meaning; If you can't find my friend/sister worthy to be in your circle, then you shouldn't find me worthy.

Hamila is displaying loyalty here to Tonto and that is what the sisters' code is about.

just a little reminder your father is a man..... The fact that this particular man is shameless and too loud does not mean all men are like him...


Peace

StrongInBed:
Is she married or the baby a product of camp immoral act.

smh, slow mind... U just write nonsense hiding under a faceless platform.. But deep down how do u look at urself in the mirror after talking such stupid tinx

tgmservice:
Hi Nairalanders
There is this girl I meet in my church very beautiful and well-behaved.

We got to know each other better and developed a likeness for each other and along the line.

As our feeling where growing, she told me an ugly truth about her self how she used to date a Yahoo boy back in school.

She said the yahoo boy gave her all the luxury she needed in life, including the latest gadgets and fashion wears.

She was one of the big girls on campus but deep down the yahoo guy did not have any regard for her as he only used her as a sex tool.
She said sometimes before he sleeps with he robs some strange ointment on his penis and she felt it was fetish.

She also told me that her boyfriend and his yahoo friends usually have group sex with her, it began to impact on her life and physical health negatively that she finally had to take the bold step and leave the relationship and even dropped out from school.

Though now she is doing well and self-employed as she is into hair business.

She said she told me this not to hide anything from me and she really likes me, I really like the girl and thinking of marrying her.
But after revealing her life story is it advisable I still go ahead with the relation?

she felt it was fetish, because of feeling u just jumped into useless conclusion.... What is that ointment is an ointment to delay ejaculation Una go just sit down fry reason and talk nonsense

Space booked

DankemzI:
Omo royalty is sexy.
If only royalty could be bought I'd have gotten His Royal Highness Obong of Calabar that's the highest Royal tool in Southern Nigeria followed by Obi of Onitsha before Oba of Benin!
Chai power sweet!

don't go around saying tinx u don't know or can't defend... Help urself, https://nigerianinfopedia.com.ng/first-class-kings-in-nigeria/ in the south south no kind comes before the oba of Benin. Don't be deceived

Loveknitting:
I envy those of you having sexualintercouse without feelings, I really do,
Just nack and moveon.

the plan is not to loose focus and get attached.... Attachment brings pain

Mayng01:
Suleiman’s ass licker & paid agent is vomiting with an empty numbskull . What a rant.

u just hate looking stupid, even if u are in reality, be true to urself..... If really u know me face to face u will know I don't care about anything religion, cause I think it has done so much harm than good... But that does not stop me from using common sense to think, coz u obviously don't have it

Mayng01:
This sule man is a fraud, is he the only man of God in Nigeria? My instinct tells me the guy isn’t clean after all. In every rumor, there are elements of truth

I'm not a Christian neither a Muslim or neither do I have any right to judge by hearing from one side but how do I know u are just bitter towards rich men Of God in general?? If not that ur bias nature has Blinded you to even reason with common sense, Same lady is confessing bcoz she doesn't want to go to hell how suddenly we didn't see all the name of men she has slept with for hookup since her prayer for Forgiveness includes names of her clients but only the name of a prominent man of God popped up.. So u actually believe in your mind of minds that this said man of God is so stupid to give his number out to a hooker U actually believe that.. At times your hate for a set of individuals or hate for a religion or hate for set of people shouldn't cloud your judgement of common and logical reasoning... I guess if she has mentioned the name of a common man, u won't give it attention... Just Start using ur head... Peace

abercrombie:
Like the topic says, this lady and I have been dating for a year now, and we are both in our final year due to my expertise in withdrawal method i always stay focused when about to cum, we had our last sex on 18 of july. Just a months back after we went for semester break,she called that's she feeling uneasy and that her breast is getting bigger.

To cut the story..... that' she's pregnant and she won't abort anything, me as a street wise already know where she's driving at "Marriage Talks"

But she later called and apologize yesterday that she is testing and trying to see if I would deny or start avoiding her,in my mind have already broke up with her.

So guys what do you think she's up to,I need some mature advice and contribution

Mod please move it to front page

listen to yourself, my expertise in withdrawal method blah blah blah.... Dey there dey talk like illiterate instead of you to take responsibility.. Like u don't know that withdrawal method is the least effective method of avoiding pregnancy. Pregnancy is not a ticket to automatic marriage, make her understand this fact so that she can re-evaluate what she really wants... Make her understand say even smallest introduction u no dey do if e never reach time u want take marry.. And if e reach the time and God say she no Be ur wife, can she accept the baby mama tag?? Once u ask am that one, henceforth you go know what to do and where she stands... Make una abstain u una no go hear

Xandred:
Don't know why my browsers keep crashing if I try to upload images, you can check them out on my Facebook page @ Xandred Graphics
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it's actually easier with Canva

Greatzeus:
Is that the holy spirit speaking through him too?
Your men of God are men, whether real or fake, anointed or not,not everything they say or do on the pulpit is right or a good example.
I love you Jesus for sacrificing your self for me,that's why I will follow you not men of God or men of men or men of their bank accounts

does he need the holy spirit or holy ghost to correct a wrong impression Una go just open mouth dey talk.... What is bad is bad, even if na native doctor or herbalist dey correct the bad impression, he should be listened to