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heendrix:
I and her have always been this close buddy since my first day in secondary school and along the line, one thing led to another that she had to leave the school cuz the family relocated to another state. this broke me and I felt sad cuz she was this good gentle girl that always care so much bout me.

After some years, we reconnected on FB and just like a dream how we felt for each other never change. she wasn't forming, we still chat till late night. we later loosed contact and some way life still connected us after a while and we just couldn't hide our feelings for each other that we opened up on how we've always felt Since those JSS 1 days so we got dating and tbh she's just that damsel. never giving trouble, understanding and still her gentle self and now my sis is bout ruining it for us both as her elder brother is actually my sister's fiancee who are expecting to get married next year.

tbh folks I can't cut short this relationship cuz of this. what will happen if two siblings marry from same families?? is it really a taboo?? aswear it's just doing me like a movie anytime I get to think of it. I'm just kinda sad atm what do i do??

PS; We're both final year students of a 5years course in two different uni

why dies twin marry twin... Nigga there is nothing wrong in it..... Na house when good them for dey marry repeatedly

MrrGary:
The way some people dey strongly believe in superstitions dey marvel me...



Anyway, maybe prophet Righteousness fit throw more light for us..

Make it very short plsss sir

which superstition? Go and read the contract agreement of those network mast with the owner of the houses close to the mast which they paid hugely. They are advised to use the huge money paid to them to relocate to a better location because longtime exposure to the radiation produced by the mast is injurious to health... But most people with their ojukokoro go collect money and still dey the premises..

Charmingrascal:
Tubaba will always play the victim card because he knows he is loved and respected by many.

The is the same way he cheated Blackface and played the victim.
He knows he will always get support from the people.

Y'all that will say trash and try to broke shame Brymo should know that Brymo is one of the few artists we have in Nigeria with sensible, intelligent and intellectually sound lyrical contents and he is worth more than 3 Million dollars.

All these kids that are saying his career is dead, simply because you have been listening to gbese and soapy you don't know what good music is, so I won't blame you.

Brymo is stubborn and he was fully ready for this before calling out 2face.

Tubaba should stop playing saint all the time. He is a cultist and cultists can't be trusted.

everything you were saying was making sense until you said something about good music.... Don't force your definition of good music down other people's throat... So shut up and state ur point and let everyone define good music according to their preference

Dskillful:
Please don't mind my errors but I need help because I am really confused...

To cut the story short, I dated a girl for 2 years which her family and mine are fully aware, she's an Igbo girl and I am from Rivers State.

2018 I wanted to get married to her all of a sudden her parents refused, they started talking about tribal differences, I told them even my mum is an Igbo woman but they don't want to to listen. It got worst when the Rev. Fr said no they should not allow her marry me because they are Catholic. I felt very bad, but how will I do, I moved on with my life.

That same year they gave her out in marriage to one guy who based abroad, I congratulated her without any grudges. They got married and this year the man died but they have a son, the man has been buried but I still love her and she is willing to come back to me, infact as it stands we are more than lovers.

But I am giving her space so that she will mourn her husband very well and I don't want people to feel I prayed for the man to die so that I can take her back, because she said nothing will stop her this time. My problem now is should I let her go or marry her because I love her so much 100%?

the road u dey try take leads no where.... Kill that matter and move on...... Make she find another man but not you.... When you go ahead u go regret am. End of story

TheSupleemLeada:
Long stories to justify a man who claimed to be of modest means meanwhile his teenage daughter had billions registered in her name.

it is called securing the future of the child. Every rich parents do it, so do not make his own a crime.. If you have money, you will secure the financial future of your kids with cash in bank and assets to their name....

Them no dey engineer person marry, you wanted to get married, end of story... If really you never had the intention of marrying this girl, even heaven for no fit push u to marry. So stop blaming your mom, you are a man and suppose to have the final say in whom you spend your life with. Marriage is too long to spend with a person like you described your wife to be... Even if I don't support broken marriage, but if it pose a threat to your mental health, my brother walk away legally before one woman make u slip into depression..... E Better Make people laugh you than them cry for you... Because if you die as a result of this marriage ur wife go marry again and sleep with another man again Afterall she is young.... If she too mourn you, 2years.

MyOleSolksjaer:
Dear All,

I need your candid advise on these matters that touch the heart. I got married last year to the mother of my beautiful daughter sometime in August last year during the COVID lock down. The marriage was against my wishes and due to parental pressure. Prior to marrying my wife, I was doing a good job by making sure I take good care of my daughter and the mom. My daughter just turned 2 in July and has already started going to school. My wife and I met online and started dating immediately after our first sexual encounter. Along the line she got pregnant and we started having misunderstandings. We both decided we will keep the baby because I made a vow with God not to abort any child with any woman I impregnate.

However, to cut the story short we both agreed we won't get married and her parents were cool with it as long as I take care of their daughter and my child. Then came COVID and during the events of the lockdown, I entered into a relationship with a Chemical Engineer that earns a 7 figure monthly salary. The relationship lasted for months but my mom never supported the relationship and did everything to make sure I break up with this lovely lady in a bid to marry my baby mama. I was against it knowing fully well that she is very quarrelsome and dramatic. I had inner peace with my lockdown girlfriend. Till now I still miss her and want to be with her despite being married to my wife who is always looking for ways to suspect me for one thing or the other. She has even threatened that if she catch me cheating, she will cheat back.

My marriage for the past 1 year has been full of problems, drama, and even attempted violence. My wife just graduated from Uni and is about to go in for her NYSC. I am even praying she gets posted out of Lagos preferably the North. This marriage has drained me of all my resources and has taken away a lot from me. My wife doesn't appreciate the good I do for her and my daughter. She is always quick to judge me and criticize for every small mistake I make. She nags all the time and always want to pick a fight for bullshit reasons. I don't find my wife attractive anymore and I have lost every desire to have sex with her from the first day we married in August last year.

She gets upset when female colleagues at work call me. I had considered resigning because we had an issue over my boss at work who always calls me for work related stuff. I am not on good terms with my mom because she engineered this marriage against my own wishes. My wife and I don't have a good relationship. It has gotten so bad that we don't sleep in the same room anymore. I had to leave the house for some time to stay in an accommodation provided by my work place so I can have inner peace and regain my sanity.

I am so pained because of my relationship that ended abruptly. I tried getting back with my Ex whom I still love but now she doesn't want to have anything to do with me despite how much I still love her. My question is, should I still try to win my ex over or find another woman? As for my marriage, I consider it dead and over. I don't care what my parents particularly my mom will do. I don't bleeping care anymore. All I want is my love to come back to my life and end this toxic marriage.

Offpoint1:
I honestly hate making calls, I hardly call ANYONE, in fact the last I spoke with my mom was 6 months ago... Is worse with my siblings and relatives. I can go a year or more without calling them.

I don't pick any call I didn't expect, neither do I return missed calls.

I hate sending people wishes, be it on social media, text or physical.
All my social media handles are in ghost mode, except my business WhatsApp.

I hardly reply messages on my personal WhatsApp line.

Although I get really busy most times, but I don't
think it's an excuse enough. I've tried changing, but it isn't working.

It seems the only place I reply to people is on Nairaland, I've never clicked a "Like button" on the internet before... I have phobia for it.

How can I adjust? I spend 99.99% of my free time Alone in a quiet place soul traveling to universe.

you are not alone in the call aspect.. Don't like calling even if I have all the time in the world.

agbolahan1991:
Her husband has been away for almost a month, I feel pity though have been having a crush on her right from before she got married, now she has a shop beside our office and I can't get my heart off her each day I see her....

Am a married man too but my wife gives me hell, with her anger, bad mouth and ojukokoro
Am not happy as a married man and I really need someone I can talk to, open up to and someone that can relieve the pain in my heart..

and in all the single ladies around na married woman ur mind go dey lust for.... Mark it you will soon die if u keep nursing that evil in ur heart.. BOMA apprentice

Totilopussylick:

Imagine the nonsense this one is saying. Why does a clear conscience that hasn't cheated on her husband fear any accusation.

Apart from the fact that it was said that he gives preferential treatment to the student, I don't think he has done anything wrong. These ladies are adults and not kids and it was done with consent, not like it was done under treat that if they don't date him he will fail them... Was there a place in the school constitution that says tutor can't date mature students??. The truth is always bitter.

All Igbos, igbo Amaka, lol. Always want to take advantage of any business opportunities.... I like that spirit anyway.

Modernizer:
well, i really need to settle down, and im really not the type that eadily gets into relationships. so im wondering how long it would take me to reach this extent again with a new person

you really need to settle down and you are willing to just do it with anybody regardless the already red flag u are seeing... Maybe u think marriage has recess, or maybe u do not mind a broken or a home filled with abuse..... Save your future kids mental health and get married to who can manage your anger not same person like you....

HITdemUP:
Bello is a dictator. He should forget about his 2023 dream.

shut up ur mouth.... I'm not surprised u had two likes for saying this rubbish.. WHAT IS BAD IS BAD, IF HOLDING THESE CONSTRUCTION COMPANIES ACCOUNTABLE FOR WORK DONE IN KOGI STATE CAN BE DONE IN OTHER STATES I'M NOT SURE ANYBODY WILL HAVE THE KIND TO DO USELESS ROADS OR INFRASTRUCTURE IN GENERAL....

Iamagoodgirll:
So I came across this post in a group

NL guys have you experienced this?, also share your view.

I NEED ADVAISE FROM A MALE READERS:

And no, my story is not made up. It’s for real, actually very real. I am a top executive of a very successful conglomerate my father founded. I resumed the job early this year when I returned from the U.K after completing my MBA.
As a result of my job, I usually find myself frequenting places I ordinarily wouldn’t want to- Ikoyi club, society weddings, conferences, etc. I’m a geek for the most part, and something of a recluse. I would rather stay in my house at the end of day and watch TV. When I became Deputy CEO of the company, I realized that I had to start hanging out at these places to build a social circle, mostly for business reasons. I am not a very sociable person, but with the help of my more outgoing cousins, I have been able to build a pretty decent network of Lagos ‘big boys’ between January when I returned and now.

During a conference in Lagos this year, I was approached by a young lady banker. She was working in the Marketing department at one of these banks, She’s pretty young- about 7 years my junior. I’m 28; this lady is about 21. You know how young these graduates are these days.

Anyway, she walked up to me and started persuading me to consider opening up a bank account with her bank and told me all the benefits of the account, etc. She looked so innocent and desperate, and practically begged me for an opportunity to see me again so that she could convince me. I ended up giving her my complimentary card. I usually don’t just give out my card like that, but I did.
Three days later, when I was hanging out with my new-found friends and my cousins at a bar at one of the Hotels on the Island during the early evening, this girl called me and reminded me who she was. She said she really needed me to open an account, and that she was eager to convince me on why I needed to open an account. My friends noticed I was talking to a girl on the phone. You know how guys are; they teased me and asked me to just play around with her and invite her for drinks.
I asked her to come over to the Hotel, and surprisingly, she said she would be there in 20 minutes. The branch she worked in is on the Island, so she apparently took a Bike and came to meet us. This was about 6pm. The girl came, and my friends all saw her. They smiled and talked among themselves in hush tones, and I talked briefly with her for like 5 minutes and told her I would make a decision on banking with her or not. She was desperate from what I could see, and she was eager to get my account.

When she left, my friends all laughed mischievously and told me in plain terms that I had to sleep with the girl. They went on talking about how all these bank marketers sleep with different men before getting deposits, and insisted that I must not be any different. Now, I’m not a virgin; I’ve had my own fair share of sex in the past, but I’ve never been one to take advantage of a girl. I knew she was desperate as she had a target to meet up to, or something of the sort. But when you’re a guy hanging out with guys, it’s pretty difficult to be the odd one out. All my friends made me promise that I’d sleep with the girl. I promised; I didn’t want to look like some geek. And I’m really trying to feel among these guys.

To cut a long story short, two days later, when I was in my office, this girl called me and tried persuading me to bank with her. As she was talking to me on phone, I asked her jokingly: “What are you willing to do in order for me to open an account with you?”

She hesitated and then she told me: “Anything you want sir.”

Gbam! That was my cue. I asked her to meet me at one hotel for drinks later that evening. I asked my PA to book a room for me at the Hotel. She came to meet me. We had drinks, we chatted. She told me that her bosses had ordered her to deliver N10million to the bank that month, and that so far, she hadn’t gotten anything. Her job was on the line, and she had only just started working there 3 weeks before. I asked her to follow me to the room. She did. I slept with her.

Surprisingly, it turns out she was doing it for the first time. She was actually a Virgin. The bed sheet was stained with her blood and all that stuff, and I was just amazed. I thought being a marketer and all, that she would have been sampled many times. But no, she was a virgin. When we finished, she was shy of looking at me in the eye. We didn’t talk much. I gave her money for a Taxi, and gave her the name of the Finance director of the subsidiary I am in charge of. I asked her to meet him the following day to open up a corporate account. I instructed the guy to open up an account worth a few hundreds of millions- probably enough to meet her target for the next 2 years if there is such a thing in commercial banking circles. I don’t know how these banks work.

Anyway, she called me and thanked me profusely for saving her job. My friends now know I have slept with her, and I have solidified my place among them as a ‘bad’ guy.

The issue is this: I haven’t been able to stop thinking about her. It’s been like six weeks now. I haven’t called her since then, even though she keeps sending me text messages asking after my wellbeing and thanking me for banking with her. She deals directly with my Finance guy so we don’t talk money ever. But I think about her every day. I think I actually have feelings for her, and the idea that I was her first makes me feel like she should belong to me. I’ve never been a Lady’s first. I’m actually going crazy with thoughts about this girl.

Am I crazy? Should I call her up and ask her out? How would that feel? How would she react? Also, considering that my friends all see her as the bank ‘LovePeddler’ would it be a good idea to still ask her out? How will my friends see me? I’m not looking for sex from her; I’m looking for something real, something intimate. I want something that’d last- probably forever.

I’ve never felt this way about any other lady in a really really long time. What should I do?

if this story is real as you have said, I have just two things to tell u man to man...
1) F*CK YOUR FRIENDS.
2) GO FOR HER IF YOUR HEART IS THERE.(don't judge her desperation, these banks can really be pushy)

Side note: if you like her that much please tell her to stop working at the bank, and recommend her to any of your contacts company so she can earn a living without fear of her job being on the line.... NEVER, I REPEAT NEVER BRING HER TO YOUR COMPANY UNDER YOU.. IF SHE MUST WORK IN YOUR COMPANY MAKE SURE YOU BOTH AREN'T IN SAME BRANCH....

You are homeless and your prick still dey rise, guy u get mind oooooo... Hpv or similar knocking

The money has cleared....

Stanweezy:
My sister sent the attached picture below for me, according to her she said the chemist she went said its bkus of the water she bath with.

Please I need answers on what could be the cause of this boils.

Thank you

na water oooo, I'm certain she just newly changed location /water source... It will take few time for her body to adapt to that water... It isn't pimples.. Her best bet right now is to use very strong antiseptic in the water used for bathing, and also get Tetmosol (Citronella) and use to rub her face after bathing. Do not worry it does not crack the skin, and it is immediately absorbs into the skin pores in less than 30 seconds and won't even show she used anything on her face.. USE THIS AND THANK ME LATER. this is coming from a person who had first time experience with water reaction... NOTE : Tell her to avoid drinking from that water sources oooo, because na typhoid she dey build up for her body like that.

JimmyDarmody:
Is this with heavy usage? What kind of phone has the ability to do that ?

none, she didn't understand the level you meant by heavy usage.... Girls can leave their phone idle for a whole 1hour at intervals.. When they choose to use it social media, movie, music that's all

Una Wan do YouTube as a business yet una no fit buy better microphone enhance una voice... Whenever I hear that voice on any video on NL it always irritates my ears.

Ayanwukoma:
So I should let them go and abort my child tomorrow?
Sorry sir I can't do that, even though am young I will fight for my right.

That child is my offspring, I won't let her mom terminate it because of her assumptions about me.

We are both same age groups, I am older than her with 3 months

She called me crying, I can't tell from her voice she doesn't want to do it.

keep quite first bro and listen to wise counsels from the commenter of your post First. no go do wahala bcoz na who get belle know who give am the belle.. Before u know the girl go tell u say no Be u get the pregnancy, wetin u go do?? So calm down.

MrCuteking:
If you give advice, they will take it for granted but if you keep it to yourself, they will say you withheld your financial advice from the masses so as to remain at the top.

I am very sure that even after you simplified it, he will still argue with you.

I have left him with his financial ignorance... Someone tell me if he has 100 million why won't he buy the phone.. I wanted to tell him the money is available doesn't mean you should buy what you know Outrightly won't add value to you, because you already use the highest model of the previous version which is not different from the so called latest 13.. But I let him be, because poor people are hard to advise........ Like me I stopped at iPhone 7+ then max which was totally a new thing, then 12 Pro max which was entirely different and so far so good they haven't made any significant difference to make me splash money on it, mind you I sell previous and add money to get the new... Can't be using two phones when I have just 1 main sim... No Be food

Tissaia:
Lies he just don't want to displease his Masters.

Sign the damn thing

lol, you think it is easy to have ur decision between a person and his/her death? Asin having the power of death over a person..

HigherEd:
1) 10 Billion Naira Annual Wage Bill Is A Huge Financial Responsibility.

The Living Faith church established 16,000 churches in rural communities across the country in addition to the already established 10,000 churches it has across the globe. A quick calculation shows that N53,000 gross multiplied by 16,000 new Pastors amounts to an addition of N848, 000, 000 per month. In a year that amounts to N10, 178, 000, 000.

This is huge money for a non profit to shell out of her pocket. Especially considering the fact that Living Faith still has to subsidize all her [s]non profit universities and secondary schools to the tune of billions every new year[/s]

2) Pastorate Work Is Different.

Anyone taking up a pastorate job needs to realize it is different from taking a bank job.
For one, your mandatory attention is only on Sunday and some late night or early morning services, plus your scheduled outreaches.
You have other time you can still use to do farming or any other freelance job. Therefore, you shouldn't be surprised that the perks available for a 9 - 5, five days a week aren't available.

non profit bawo, go sleep

CELEBRITIZ:
I’m not gonna lie . But I’d still get the iPhone 13pro max . What Reno said make sense but I find it offensive because I Have investments and I can afford it . I don’t think he should generalize it

at the end, Na Reno Own opinion be that anyway...

Kingcalls:
So if I hv a hundred million in my account , I should not buy it cos reno said so??

I dont know how u guys reason...poverty have really fried alot of people's brains

read what I said again, it is not because reno said so, it is because it is not a smart financial move.... It is solely my opinion and you sure have yours... If this iPhone 12 Pro max I dey use never get technical issue or any fault. Nigga forget it I no know if iPhone 13 come out... The only thing that will aid me changing it to iPhone 13 is if the screen or the battery needs replacement, then I just go for a new one...

nairavsdollars:
God punish poverty mentality..

if a poor man was giving this advise what you said would have made a little sense. But na who get money dey give this advise so ur point is Baseless...... Whosoever using iPhone 12 Pro max still going for this so called 13 series is really a slave to the brand. Because there is obviously no significant improvement.

ThinkBrave:
I want to start a cryptocurrency/blockchain project. I have been into crypto since to 2018 and l want to start one in Nigeria.
I need to raise a team.
I'm looking for people that share same passion.

Thanks

have been into crypto since bitcoin early days of 2012... Please if the project is legit with utility and not a supposed crypto that would rug pool others, and make people cry I'm interested.. But if the aim is to loot others, not interested. Are your intentions pure??

federal9:
Polluted mind. I weep when I remember I share the same country with ridiculous people like you. Everything must not be taken for a laugh.

what has he said to deserve this uncalled bitter talk from you...?? He has said literally nothing wrong at all..

wman:
This thread was moved to the front page without any comment.

I feel that the mods should have allowed a few knowledgeable people to comment before moving the thread to the front page for others to comment.

answer his question if u can and leave this one u are saying... How many people who are expert do u think go more than front page Pushing to front page is for wider audience and more expert advise.... If na ur post shey u got talk like this?

Softboy001:
....life has been difficult to say the least, ever since I moved to lagos after finishing my nysc in March, I thought hoped things will be better but it only became...
Well let's leave that. I just want advice, that's why I am here.am currently squatting with my elder brother and his fiance in a room and palor self con. They are getting married by December. I have alot of burden to them, they don't need to tell me I know. But what will a man do. I forgot to add am 27 years old. I studied mechanical engineering (HND). My hands are really tied right now. I left a crazy job(30k/months) that I was using to sustain my self. Don't judge me, am not lazy. I left because of security reasons. Plus It was a slave kind of work. Presently am hooked. I don't know where and what to do. I currently don't have up to 5k in my account self. As I no gree do yahoo aka jazz. Na wetin my eyes dey see be this.

...any way my gist is getting to long. There is an man that has always been a father to me. He helped me through school. I really thank him. As in he has done alot. The man just like me for no reason.and has been helping me since I was young. Anyway he called me and then after explaining to him how things has been for him.

He called again after a month. He said he has a deal for me.

The deal is that, he wants to sponsor me to go to canada. I forgot to add, he stays in Austria. Him and his family. So the deal is about 2.5 million naira, so he said he going to work everything for me that includes international passport,visa, airplane ticket, accommodation and also the package includes work also. but the deal is that. He will pay about. 850k. To get me there first. Then when am there and have started working I'll pay 1.8 million to the agency $4k.

So that's the deal. The 850k he is just using that to help me.actually he himself he paying 650k to the agency and giving me 200k as pocket money. Then when I get there I can work and give the agency the remaining 1.85 million.

So please guys, what to do you think. My fears is going to a country I don't know anyone at all, there is so much risk involved canada far o and will I be able to pay up the money. I don't want to owe gbese that I can't pay back.

What do you guys think?
Should I go ahead? Or remain in naija?

I have so much fears, that's why am scared of going, what if I go broke?

I have from now till Monday to decide, the processing is starting on Monday

you have a very lazy and negative mind with the last part rubbish u said... Even me no go help u knowing this ur kind of Mindset even if I'm ur brother.... Suffer never tire u at all. My only advise to u if ur Foolishness allow u take this golden once in a lifetime opportunity is this... Never u accept to deliver load fir anybody, nor even the man wen wan help u without the load spending a day with u, don't accept shirt. Shoe cap or underwear from anybody especially the man, because some might want to use u push hard drugs... Be smart and be Street wise u won't fail or suffer. Because ur major fear is failing even when u get there

shegxy9:
I will make it short guys... I met this damsel February this year and it has been great times since then...

Around may she got admission to University outside the state we are but the main issue is that wen she came back I was telling her about her attitudes when she was in school like most times we hardly talk but she said that I know this is her first semester in school and she apologised that it would not happen again...

But the main issue is this, she said I need to forgive her because she has offended me, she said a guy slept in her room though she swore to me that nothing happened that night...

Pls guys have been having these mixed feelings since yesterday like can she be trusted?? And hope am not in love with upcoming olosho

Pls no insults, only matured responses

guy focus and forget Negativity.. What if she no tell you, you go know? Focus nigga. Every lady get one flaw or the other, nobody be Saint... If relationship tire u, move on & go find Saint date.. Last advice.. If her Atitude remain same if she returns to skul after saying it won't happen again. There is a 90% chance someone else in her skul is getting her attention she is suppose to be giving u. Maybe dem Don dey Chop her self.. ��