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JezCalMeJay:
Use another mail

thanks man... U mean another email address or another email provider??

preciousfuture:
I registered for DSSC today and I noticed my number is 3000+.That's a poor turned out.It seems people are not interested in Army's job oooo.

how can I register... The website isn't working well, or is it because I'm using my phone??

sikowitz17:
Ssc applications put numbers at 2700+ this morning...

pla how can I apply the website isn't working well

JezCalMeJay:
Damn...dssc as at when I finish registering 5mins ago is above 5000 applicants

but I have been trying the website isn't functioning well.. No where to input my credentials.. Immediately I login it keep showing permission not granted... And if I click on account it repeats same page... Pls any thing I have to know

Golan007:
It cannot be defamatory if true.

the op write up isn't about what is true or not neither is he writing about a company involved in an accident. it is so obvious u didn't read the op write up before even quoting me. If u did you will know the op was just trying to put a picture of a luxury bus, bcoz that wat he was talking about. My problem is he could have got a stock photo and not displaying a particular company bus that got involve in an accident, when he isn't even talking about accident... Anyway that is the difference between a professional journalist and the OP who just want his post to hit front Page, which NL will never move to front page bcoz it defames another's business..

And u stop jumping and quoting everybody wen u haven't even read the write up, don't be unfortunate sir!

Golan007:
Defamatory?

u are welcome.....

Ilal:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/traders-lament-ban-on-luxurious-buses-in-kano/%3famp=1

op remove this picture because it is defamatory to the the Company who's bus picture is uploaded... Use a regular stock photo

magicminister:
Can’t add any meaningful knowledge but I always recommend letting Atleast your mom, siblings and your wife know your finances in and out. My mom has all my passwords to my bank accounts and sister does too.

Should anything happen to me, I want my family to be okay.

ur mum should be removed from this list, ur sister is okay.... Bcoz according to order of life pikin no dey die before mama

Localchampion:
I'm really confused about my boyfriend if hes worthy of getting married to.
We are in a long distant relationship, we hardly see, sometimes thrice in a year, but I believe the reason we are still together is because its a distant relationship, as each time I go to Enugu to greet him and stay for 2weeks, my love for him is always reduced.
So much this time around, we haven't seen for a year, and I had something important to do in Enugu, so I decided to stay in his place and use the opportunity to greet him. The first 4days, we were totally fine with each other, as I was busy with doing the stuff I came to do. Meanwhile, I didn't spend his money, as I came with my money and give him money to buy me food, so for the first 3days he was the one buying the cooked foods we ate, but I would give him 1k. Naturally, I don't eat outside, nor do I eat junks, but because he said he doesn't have money, I just pitied him and did not mention the fact that he should get foodstuffs, I don't want him to start feeling bad that he has no money plus I was even busy, remember I came for a purpose. And I don't use it as attitudes for him, I'm a very happy enduring lady.

Now after the fourth day that I finished the program I originally came for, I lost my money, about 150,000, truth is when I'm sad, im usually harsher, and would not talk much, would become exessively quiet, because if I talk, I may start to cry, this is when problem started between us, he acted unconcerned about my predicament, I just ignored him, trying to see how I can get back my money. And the truth is, if I get the money, I will surely give him part of the money, there's no time I will make money and not give him. So for like two days, I was in depression due to my money, I didnt sweep, I was just sighning, and not cheerful to him, the next day afterwards, was when he bursted, and started talking
1. He said I'm useless to him
2. He compared me with other people's girlfriend, how they take care of their boyfriend, how they cook for them, cook extremely homey food for them.
3. He said his friends couldn't visit him because I'm in his house, and thus hes missing because the fact that I'm in his house I'm useless, not doing anything for him, and yet his friends couldn't come.
4. He said his cousins girl did this and that.
5. He said I'm talking of marriage, he said what is he marrying, he said when I'm not even showing any readiness bla bla bla
6. He said I should look at his house, does it look like a girl is there, he said his friend told him that since I'm around now, his cheeks would become bigger, and in his mind, he knew he would only grow thinner.
7. He said I should leave his house first thing tomorrow morning, since I'm not useful.
8. He said at this point, hes confused, if i want to break up, I should just let him know, because what is the point of our stay together
He said just too many hurtful things and those are the ones I could remember.
I was able to record some of those things, so I can relisten to them later. But he collected my phone and deleted all I recorded.

All through, I was just quiet and smiling because I don't even know where to start replying him and he was very serious, his face was in a fight mood, I don't wanna talk because I really don't like problems or fight. Then later, he said I must say something, he seized my phone, and almost made me loose a deal.

I just kept quiet, later when I started talking, he denied having said USELESS, something he mentioned more than twice and apologized swiftly.

All his accusations were wrong because the reason I didn't cook is because he has no single food at home and hes the one always complaining he has no money, so I just taught that, I wouldn't make my stay to disrupt his life, he knew I hate eating outside, and the fact that we buy food is something I am enduring, because the foods makes me nauseated each time I eat them. He knows how much i cook for him when he comes visiting me, I will cook several things, what I can't even eat myself due to financial problems, I am the one always fighting him to cook that Junks are unhealthy. But just because I was pitying him, I didn't bring up the idea of cooking, he accused me of being useless, he said I'm the one to bring up the idea as a girlfriend, bla bla bla.

Later that day, I brought the idea and he gave me 5k to the market, I cooked and did everything. I didn't buy a single food I could eat (I don't eat pasters), because the money isn't enough, so I just bought foods he likes and made a nice sauce. His friend came visiting, I packed foods for her and did normal. His friend called him to relate how I treated her, this is when my boyfriend started filling extremely happy, and thanking God for meeting me, saying nice things.

Since then, he has been saying stuffs of how much he's been gifted to have me bla bla bla, to me, whatever I have for him has greatly reduced, because I don't know the Essence of the relationship, because to him, its a roleship, where I must do my roles and if I miss, he won't even think why could I have missed it, if its intentionally, was it because I'm sad, the next thing he would be saying is if we should break up or not. Now, this is someone I never compared with anyone, I don't even compare people, I just do normal to him, like I will do to a brother, plan for him, etc, yet he compares me all the time and wants me to live like the other average girls that are using iphones.

I told him yesterday that since he wants a roleship, he would also man up, and for the first time in our 5years relationship, I started behaving like the normal girls, I asked him for money to make my hair, he doesn't have, I asked him for money for cream, he doesn't have and he has been angry because I told him I don't care whether he has money or not, since I must do my roles, he should also do his roles, and for the first time I also compared him and told him what men are doing for their girls.

He has been frowning and sad since I said those words to him, because they are deep, I just served him exactly what he did to me. I'm not happy, I'm doing that to him, I'm even sad I'm telling him all these because this is not me. I'm still going to make him realize how useless he is in my life, absolutely useless, and that is the truth, since he sees our relationship as a role one, then hes useless.

I can't marry him like this, God forbids, someone who can't endure due to the situation of things and understand, and he wants me to understand his own and endure for him, its not just possible for me, and he's good at talking, abusing, bullying, etc. Hes the one that will tell me to snap pictures for him, I will tell him I don't have clothes, he will say ''Go and Buy now'', He will bully me with my hair and compare it with that of other girls. He wasn't broke before the lockdown, but I didn't collect money from him because I want him to achieve and grow with the money, so that by the time we get married, he would be financially very okay.

Please should I marry this kind of Man? I really don't know why I should because it seems his happiness towards me, his affection and romance is dependent on fulfilling ROLES in his head.

truth be told judging by what u have said, that guy isn't a nice person.... And u just forgot to add he is MANIPULATIVE, people that behave like him are always manipulative.... Comparing u with other girls is childish and u can never be good enough for him even after marriage no matter how u try to please him... Better run from that guy if u love ur future....... And u on the other hand, retaliation isn't always the way....

Uzomacharles:
Hi My Fellow Nairalander...

I'm a guy (20 years)

I have this problem in me and I think I can get some solutions/advice from you cos I believe many elders and well thinkers are in Nairaland...
So let me start
I'm a guy and I don't have a girlfriend and anytime I have some feelings for a girl and if I get to see her everyday then suddenly the affection and love I have for the person will begin to demish and im still a virgin(nobody believes that but I do) and have not dated any girl so I begin to feel somehow like it might cause destruction in my relationship like if I get married.......
I Masturbate Too and I HATE It....
Advices And Solutions Are Highly Appreciated..
Don't Mind My ENGLISH Please

masturbating is your only problem.... It is the reason why love diminish so fast when u love somebody, and its same reason for your lack of Confidence and still remaining a virgin

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Golan007:
Nobody wants to know your side of the story you idiot.

[[/s] you have a shallow mind and talks anyhow.

Racoon:
The journalist was not wrong in asking the question.Fani Kayode should have simple said he is sponsoring himself
That would have been it.

he didn't ask a question it was a direct statement... And it's wrong.... If he has said who is Bank rolling u, its a different case, he said although we don't know who is bankrolling you. There is difference between a question and an affirmed statement

Golan007:
What an excellent opportunity for the often boastful FFK to tell the world how he makes an income but alas, he blew it.


All FFK could say was that he's an ex minister.

I guess he means to say he has stolen quite a sum because we all know he's held no job for about 6 years now.

It is also well known in government circles that FFK is a corporate beggar.

He goes from governor to governor without a proposal but to laud them and sometimes sell them a pity story of how the federal government has been frustrating his business ideas.

One often wonders what those ideas are.

he held no job, and you think millionaire and billionaires remain rich because they hold a job position?? Face reality and understand that the money he made as minister when well invested he doesn't need to work to stay rich........ It is called money working for you, Do you know how many company he might be one of the board of directors as a result of investment??

collum:
FFK is simply unstable in mind, nothing stop him from answering such question with a joke and everyone smile over it. No amount of apology can undo his wrong deed

I'm not a fan of this man, but the journalist wasn't asking question he was sure that someone was bankrolling him and didn't know who it was.. That was really an unprofessional question and warrants same public address as FFK did....

alhajidembele:
Hello sir? I said imagine... besides some of these secondary school girls are 17 or 18+

I never even considered age... Even if the secondary school girl is 22, provided she is your student such tinx shouldn't even come to mind.. My own personal opinion...

alhajidembele:
Let's imagine you are a youth corper who has been posted to a secondary school or even a normal teacher - today some students didn't do their homework, which you which you gave to them since last week. There is this girl in your class who you have been eyeing since last term because of her big boobs or big ass & she also failed to do her assignment - will you punish her along with the others students? As a matter of fact, have you ever been caught in such a situation before? What did you do? If she fails your test, would you give her a C instead of an F?

dumb question.. Why will u eye a girl on uniform in the first place?? That alone makes this ur write up stupid... Not all feelings are allowed to grow get that sense now

.

It isn't harsh it is stupid and childish..... Just once in your head turn the table around and out yourself in her shoes, some guy says before he can help u a fellow guy he must start sleeping with ur sister... How will you feel?

ExBanker:
Nairalanders, I want you to judge if the conditions I gave this girl is okay or it is too much

I met this girl around June this years. I really liked her. As I was asking her out, I was always taking care of her. Buying her stuffs, giving her allowances and supporting her. Then the relationship started last month officially when we smashed. I continued to take good care of her. But note that before we officially started dating, she showed half interest. She wasn't really into the relationship. When we started dating, she showed same attitude.

Her much elder sister is a hair dresser. Like 7 years older. She lives with the sister. The sister shop is in one hidden corner. They hardly get customers. So both of them are always broke. I have being supporting them. This month, their rent is expiring. They intend to move to a better location. The new shop is N75k per year. My girlfriend asked me for support. I said I will give them N50k by August end. Since they were expecting N50k from me, they gathered all the money they have home and abroad and paid advance of N30,000 for the new shop to secure it. Last week, my girl asked me for N7k for something. I told her I don't have. I am gathering money for the N50k. It is a lie sha. the money is already there.

She then asked me to borrow her. She will pay me back. So I gave her. By weekend, she was acting funny. I told her I am tired of the relationship. She should forget it. It turned to quarrel. Then she left. We quarreled on phone till Monday. I think they felt bad that I am leaving out of the deal to help them secure the shop. On Monday, the sister called to quarrel with me too. Imagine.

After everything, today, my girlfriend called to apologize. I told her that I have forgiven her. But, for our relationship to continue, there is one condition. She asked me what condition. I told her that despite the fact I have being supporting her and her sister, both of them still had the gut to talk to me anyhow. I will only continue the relationship if I will be having sex with the 2 of them. She was shocked. She wanted to start talking nonsense. I told her to shut up and relay my condition to her sister. Let the sister call me to tell me if she agrees.

Is my condition too harsh or it is okay?

The one them dey talk for aso rock?? They think Mali is a state in Nigeria abi?? Those old men in aso rock should just shut up and not comment on that coup

Racoon:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/punchng.com/fg-condemns-mali-coup-demands-return-to-constitutional-order/%3famp=1

Tell her to stop using organic. Na Organic dey kill her dey go sooooo. How can somebody make Creme without a degree in skin therapy or dermatology make a Creme and girls will buyI wish these girls know they are poisoning their selves

NevetsIbot:
So a female friend dropped into my dm distraught at her skin condition. She was talking about her having stretch marks and how embarrassed she was about it... While I was trying to calm her down and let her know it was natural for someone who's gaining weight or for most people even... (I have tiger stripes on my bum too na ).. She maintained that this one was a big issue and she has been emotional and even lost her confidence...

According to her, her marks just started turning black and she has used organic creams to treat it, shea butter and just got coconut oil.
She sent a picture of her skin at the waist running to the back.

She would like a natural treatment cos she doesn't like these chemical stuffs from the counter. I for one don't like drugs and all.

ALEX182:
So I have this American patient who I recently came across. He's a fat dude who is like in his late 40s but has a very jolly and likeable character. I introduced myself and we got talking afterwards.

After a while of chitchat, he asked me where I was from. I told him to take a guess and he said said, you sound like you're Nigerian. I told him (regrettably) that I was Nigerian. He started smiling and told me that he had a Nigerian girlfriend and that we both had similar accents.

He then started telling me recent occurrences that had befallen his girlfriend in Nigeria. He said the lastest story was that she was in Abuja and as she was on her way to the airport in a taxi, the taxi had an accident and she was seriously injured and had to be rushed to the hospital. He said that the hospital demanded money before treatment started and he had to hustle about $4000 and send to her in order for treatment to start.

He said that after a week of her being in the hospital, they wanted to discharge her despite her still being in pain. Because she had exhausted all the $4000 on treatment, he said the hospital had threatened to discharge her on the streets and he was trying to borrow more money to see if he could send it to her so they could continue with her treatments.

He furthermore told me that the girlfriend said that she was a Nigerian American citizen who was currently stuck in Nigeria due to her passport having expired and also due to Covid lockdown at airports in Nigeria. He said she had asked him for $300 to renew her US passport from American embassy in Nigeria.

Another thing that he told me was that just before covid struck, there was a similar pandemic which happened in Nigeria early this year and that his girlfriend had contracted the disease and he had to send her $2000 for treatment. Right now he said he's broke but is waiting for like $2000 disability check from the US government next week which he will send to her as soon as the money clears.

As he was telling me this tale, I was so angry with Nigerians and how they take advantage of people in love to scam them. I wanted to swear for the scammers


I'm at a dilemma here. Do I tell him that he's being scammed by Nigerians or do I continue to be professional and just ignore it. Because I don't want him to think I'm involved with it because these oyinbo people can turn everything on your head and accuse you that is your people in conjunction with you that are scamming him. They are that crazy.

The good part of me wants to help him but I'm hesitant that it may turn out bad for me. Please matured responses.

be a professional and mind Your business.... Don't involve yourself in his personal affairs unless he asked for your advise or seek your opinion..... Don't go and shoot yourself in the leg. The two worse people to advise is a person in love and a person with money... Stay away from his love business, you weren't employed for that

Bacteriologist:
1. Canada.

Pros; Polite people, Great liberal politicking, Strong and rapid growing economy. Immigration policy ensuring strong cultural diversity. Canada is the future.

Cons: Small population density, Harsh weather, difficulty getting a good job without "Canadian experience."

2. Seychelles

Pros: Visa Free, Well developed (according to African standards), Maritime environment, Vacation paradise (meet new people often).

Cons: Very small population, Prone to Tsunami due to climate change, Not a diverse or strong economy (over dependent on tourism).

3. UK

Pros: That English accent (lol!), Strong/Rigid economy, Better weather than the Americas (well most of it), EU passport (Brexit has changed that but proximity still makes it easier to move around other EU countries with relative ease).

Cons: Can't seem to find one for now except Brexit and Muslim invasion.

so u can't find cons?? Keep lying to urself.. OVER TAXATION is a con just to mention one

lekonso:
You are a very wicked person. Are you perfect? Have you not committed any sin since you were born? Everyone one has made a mistake before at one time or the other. The most important thing in life is to learn from your mistakes. You are talking as if you have never committed any sin in your life.

tell him the bitter truth and stop sugar coating and what is bad all In The name of we all make mistakes, how would his mum feel knowing the son stole from her and betrayed her trust and tried playing her for a fool? It's painful and disheartened, I pray he doesn't give his mum BP. Isn't this boy and his siblings the reason why the mum is saving In the first place...?? If the bank should know about it trust me they will file fraud case against him with or without the consent of the mum..

He isn't an addict but a gross thief.... Ask urself one question if he didn't have access to money given to him for safe keeping or his mums money what would he gamble with?? Why has he not sold his fone or clothes to gamble

You are evil and a thief to even consider using your mum's account playing fast on her maybe because she trusted you or she is ignorant how bank work... U should be arrested.... Just go to hell you deserve to be a loner.....

Though don't kill yourself, hustle legit without forex or betting coz it's obvious u not even an intermediate in forex, broker will always use u to shine... After u pay ur mum and the boy their money u can do whatsoever you want with ur fraudulent life

yocreo:
In Need Of A Serious And Sincere Advice

Hi Nairanlanders,

I would have loved pour out all I'm going through but posting about personal issues can be really boring to some people and also, some might think this is some sort of competition cos of the rate at which people speak about their ordeals lately. I have done something really terrible which I personally go crazy anytime I think of it to my mom. All I feel right now is depression, anxiety, unhappiness and frustration that I'm afraid I may do something crazy. However, I'm in need of a serious advice and counselling from concerned people. I'm willing to let everything out... I NEED HELP, I'M SO GOING NUTS!!!

MODIFIED: Since many are of the opinion that I type it here, I'm going to do it..


December 2018, a boy in my neighborhood who is also like a relative started making some savings with me, unfortunately that was the time I started betting as well. I used to be very trustworthy when it comes to managing people's money that's why he entrusted his money in my care.

Betting later got the best of me, I used part of the money to bet, that was how this ordeal started. In the quest of refunding the money I used on betting, I kept losing the more. I lost up to 90k before coming up with a lie of how the money was stolen in my forex trading account but I promised to refund the money.

While trying to refund the money I kept losing the little I had with me till I got hold of my mom's bank account, this started around October last year. I kept using my mom's money and the loss kept accumulating. I was able to recover the loss on my mom's bank account before 2019 ended. Now to 2020, the boy kept asking for his money, I had to return to using my mom's money again as I had no other hope of getting the money.. how I wish I had told my mom about the whole thing when it was still amendable. Fast forward to today, I have used virtually all my mom's bank savings from betting to forex trading without her knowledge.

When she noticed about the error in her account, I had to lie I helped her fix her account as she doesn't make withdrawals from her account  cos she's a trader who doesn't use her bank savings for her business.. I'm finished now, I lied to her the duration of the fix is 4 months and she's expecting the money with return by August ending.

Together with the money I owe the other boy, I'm in over 600k debt... I seriously don't know how I got here, I wish I can turn back time, I feel drained... I don't know what to do with my life, I feel like I have failed the woman who has always shown me nothing but love and care. I failed her, I failed the woman who has always trusted me to be a good son.  I even had to lie to her! Each time I think of telling her about everything, I get sick. I can't keep on going this way.. I just want this to end. I'm really SAD

I wish eve we the youth in edo can realise these politicians are animals and aren't worth dying for.... But of cause they choose to still die for politicians that doesn't have their interest in heart....

YoungandDepress:
My story is quite a sad and long one.
I wish I could write it all out. My life has been a terrible mess.
Where did it go wrong for me, I have no idea.

I am writing with so much emotion, my heart is full and heavy.
Life is bitter.

I am a 23 years old guy.
My life all started to go in the negative direction when I gained admission at age 16.
A 16 years old boy in the university, so much freedom and exposure.
I messed up my life, I became addicted to bet9ja virtual gambling I lost focus, Gambling killed me, I started failing exams, at the end I dropped out without my parents Knowing, but the truth came out when I was supposed to graduate, I could not hide it anymore. I told them the truth, my parents forgave me like the prodigal son.

They still believed in me especially my mom, she keeps reminding me of how intelligent I used to be.

Well I'm not here to talk about my past life but here to talk about how it is still affecting me today.

Ever since I started university all over again, I have been miserable and frustrated. Nothing has been working in my favour. I'm currently now in 200level hoping to graduate before 25.
All my mates I started with have done their NYSC.

I'm still stuck in the same stage.
I have no idea what I am doing with my life. I'm young, broke and depressed. I get irritated over little things. I feel disgust at how I uselessed my youthful life. How gambling destroyed me.

By the grace of whichever god exists, I am no longer addicted to gambling. I have quit the addiction for almost a year now but nothing changed, I still feel miserable. I hate having people around me even my family members including my mom.

I have no true friends. Nobody checks on me, nobody calls me.

At this age, I can't boast of having 500 naira in my account.
I'm broke and miserable.

I have started hating God and question my belief in God. I hate Sunday's. I hate hearing about God, I don't blame God for my troubles but I'm angry at the fact that despite my parents being dedicated Christians, things are not working well in my family.
My elder ones are graduates, but no solid job yet.

Only my eldest brother who is doing quite well now and I thank God for his life but we don't talk. I can't remember the last time I called him on phone. They don't hate me, I hate myself.
I have disappointed them a lot.


I just lost the last #1000 I had in my life today and I cried. The money fell out my pocket when I went to get something.

At 23 years, I have no idea what I will do with my future.
I still live with my parents and I have never rented an apartment of my own even in school.

What is wrong with me, why am I miserable?

I have no good clothes. My clothes are all worn out.
I have nothing doing, i live off my parents.

Since schools were shut down, I have been at home doing nothing.
Completely broke, damaged and miserable.

Can my life be any better. What do I do. I am depressed.
I keep asking myself these questions but there
Seem to be no answer.

I'm more angry because you don't know your life is just starting.... Early twenties of 23' and you are lamenting bitterly like you are 40 already... Have sense and stop feeling depressed because of what your age mate are achieving... You will come out good just be steadfast and hustle harder...


Note: Life is an individual race, we are not in competition with anybody... That very time you wake up is your morning, even if it is 2pm...

Anigreat:
I'm sorry to bother you all this early morning with this my story.

Apologies for any blunders spotted, and sorry for the lengthy post.

I have a niece who unfortunately the mother died when she was barely a month old, and her mother was my only sibling as my mother gave birth to two of us, remaining only me now. Her death was really painful to us, but i thank God for consoling us especially my mother.

During her pregnancy, she never made mentioned of the person responsible for her pregnancy inspite of my mother's threat. When the inevitable happened we had no other option than to adopt the child. We were praying earnestly that the child survive, glory to God she did survive though it wasn't easy, as at now she's 14years old and currently in SSS1.

Last week my mum called me that my niece says she's coming to Uyo were i am staying to stay with me since there's no school for now, which i obliged to it immediately. Prior before this call, my girlfriend whom i intended to marry was staying with me. I informed her immediately that my niece is coming to stay with us for a short period of time, immediately i told her this, her countenance change through out that day. I keep on asking her what the matter was but she keep on saying nothing.

Monday last weekmy niece arrived my place.

My dears ever since my niece set her foot in my house, this girlfriend of mine whom i intended to marry turned to something else. She stop cooking, washing and sweeping, all she does is to ordered my niece around as her house help. I was so hurt seeing this that i confronted her thinking that she will change, but she went from bad to worst.

Yesterday morning i overheard her telling my niece to wash the toilet and mop the floor before thinking of eating. My niece replied that she's too tired that she won't be able to do it(I was actually happy inside when i hear this)

What follows next was a sounding knocked she gave to my niece and the poor girl screamed and started crying.

Truth be said, i was so furious that came out of the room. I didn't asked her anything i just told her your cup is full today. I dealt with her seriously. The beating i gave to her was out of this world, that she was bleeding, though later in the day i took her to a nearby clinic for treatment.

I have learnt alot this few days. Men should be careful of the type of women they intend to settle down with.

As some of them will manipulate you that you start hating your family members or stop them from coming to your house for no reasons if you're not strong.

I want her to get well after that i will put an end to the relationship, all marriage plan cancel, and no going back and no regret.

Imagine if I've gone ahead to marry her. Is this how she will be maltreating my niece? obviously i will forever leave in regrets.

If you ask me if i feel sorry for beating her, truth is, there's no atom of regret in me, and i will never feel sorry for her. If she has the mind to maltreat a poor girl whose mother is late, she's capable of anything.

Insults are welcome.

though I'm not a fan of beating a woman. But bro I like your courage for standing for what is right... If she can do this to your niece, as yourself what she would do with a house help who isn't family?? Trust me she is a bad choice for you, if you marry that girl out of pity of her breaking down trust me she will manipulate u against every member of your family... Just be thankful she showed her true color before marriage....

sarrki:
Is true that Sheik Isa Ali Pantami left a better pay in Saudi Arabia to Nigeria (a professor in Saudi Arabia collects up to 25,000SR monthly).

Dr. Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala also left her job in the world bank with a pay package worth more than $351,740 (net) yearly in 2008 to accept ministerial appointment in Nigeria

Prof Usman Yusuf, the embattled NHIS Boss moved to Nigeria from Saint Jude Children Research Hospital in Memphis, Tennessee, as professor in the Division of Stem Cell Transplantation with annual net worth of over $200,000.

Olusegun Olutoyin Aganga equally left his role as Managing Director with Goldman Sachs in London in 2013 with annual net worth of over 300,000 pounds.

Magnus Lekara Kpakol also left as a professor of economics at the University of Dallas, USA then to Nigeria

There are many of them, what is opened for debate are those undisclosed and behind the scene benefits believed to be attached to these offices in Nigeria ��

and you think it will as a loss on their part?? It was a wrong move by the government to call them back.. Eg pantami would have been collecting 2million estimated monthly in the lecturing job... Now as a minister what is he collecting?? Forget basic salary.... They can't steal money in those places they where suppose to be employed but they can steal money in Nigeria and get away with it.... So know the difference

Miracle7998:
Brethren this is the reason I always tell people to always be on alert and be vigilant so that you will know what kind of things the enemy brings to your house, this is a bat that the enemy sent to my home this night around 10:40 pm and glory be to God we killed it.

You have to stand and fight your enemies we are in the last days

y'all spritualize everything.. And it's total bad and the thought of people are always after you will even kill you first before people are really after u

LordNicvuitton:
Hi Romancelanders, don't know if it's right to share this topic here, but I'll do for now.

I'm Victory, from the East and currently a resident of Edo state. I came to this state, as an intern and thereafter, still served here and in the course of all these, I thought out and established a laundry business, which is just about 8 months old. This was to keep life going and to better bond well with the lady in my life currently.

While in Edo state, having rounded my internship & kickstarting service sometime around 2017, I met this Kiki Osemudiamen (Name changed), and it was nothing serious at 1st, cos I never really thought I'd date someone here, fact is that I never thought I'd stay beyond my service year. I met her while she was in 200l. We encouraged each other, she saw potentials and had faith in me just like I have so much faith in her. She is simplistic, encourages me to save and I in turn, encouraged her and guided her through some of her studies. She passed her 2nd MB.BS. and is currently awaiting lifting of the lockdown on schools, so she can start her clinicals.

Problem is that she came from a not buoyant family financially, and although both parents are alive, she struggles to survive/feed daily. Her dad supplies about 1000litres/trip water to households, while her mum sells at the local market. I on the other hand, came from a middle class family but my Dad is late since 2012, and I've been a sponsor of my education and that of my younger ones through the lil I inherited (which mum manages for now) plus my various endeavours. She depends on me for daily meals and other basic essentials, in fact I had to place her on salary in my laundry shop during this lockdown, so she plays the role of secretary in my shop too.

The latest challenge came about, yesterday. While she slept in the shop, I was out on errand, someone sneaked into the shop and stole her android phone with all of her e-medics textbooks (she reads mostly e-copies because she can't afford hardcopies), she has been crying all through and I really don't know what to do. Since I knew her, She'd been an appendage and an extra financial burden to me, I can't begin to list what I've done for her, although I kept reminding her never to not have entitlement mentality and she does appreciate. Out of desperation to ease her pain, I promised to sponsor her in getting a new phone. I have burdens, huge ones, I'm yet to acquire a diesel engine for my laundry (I use ponytail industrial iron which has higher voltage/current than normal ones), plus other related merchandise that I need to set up and I feel like she slows down my financial pace.

Honestly, I don't do all these for her, hoping for any personal gains, in the words of my daddy in the Lord, Prophet T.B. Joshua, He said and I quote: "We make a living by what we get and we make a life by what we give" but I am almost fed up and tired, especially when I remember that both her parents are still alive.. I am scared that that for the 1st time, I may fail her in that financial obligation because I honestly need money now, with the whole pandemic issue plus, I feel like she slows me down in life financially and a huge burden to me. Right now, she's so attached to me, more so that when I initially wanted to hault our relationship, it almost nearly affected her academics negatively. Please I need matured minds to help me think this through and garnish me with advice(s) because I almost feel so choked up and a rising urge to relocate from here, so i can breathe again.

NB: Advice from married couples and those in serious relationships, will be highly appreciated.

Modified: She went to her bank (First bank) this morning, only to be informed that about 20k (Her mum's business money) has been used to purchase recharge voucher. Her mum sends/receives money from distant customers through her account. Yesterday's scenario, all over again. Please folks, lock your SIM cards just as much as you lock your phones. Learn from this painful experience please.

Bro I understand where you are coming from..... Trust me God will reward u for watching out for her financially, my advise is you must not get her a phone with huge price.... Even if it is a low range phone of 35k below she should manage it.. U are buying it because its a necessity to her education not because u just want yo make her smile that u should explain to her and make her see ur laundry need also which you are halting a bit to support her with the phone....... During are medicals she can fend for herself... And if she is appreciative enough, one of the days in future she might be the one helping u even if not financially or u both aren't together anymore..... Are u not surprised why you are still afloat in business even if she is stressing u financially Because to everyone in life there is always a helper which God won't let drained financially because of those dependent on him or her.... God knows where u fail financially(God forbid) so many others destiny fails as well.... Thats why u are still afloat in business....

NOTE: Don't expect anything in return or expect her to marry u because you helped her while In school, that's Entitlement, and when she doesn't trust me ur will be destabilise and feel she is ungrateful.. Do for her whatsoever you can afford to let go if that time comes... And don't make her feel indebted to you... This will help you