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ikoroduarea:
Hi all,

I will really appreciate if moderator can help push this to front page.

Firstly, insults are welcome. I reside in Europe. Two of my friends they are biological brothers, they've been sucking me. I have been sending them money regularly for years, yes years, but I now realised that these people are not ready to work or learn any skill. Even their own biological brother in abroad reported them to me and doesn't take them serious anymore except their mum. Infarct, i used to send money to their mum too. But they just keep asking me for money everytime. Imagine I just sent you money when you said you are sick, two days after you sent me voice record asking me for money to rent a shop. Then the younger one who's chat bellow asking me for 100k for three of them as if I am picking money on the floor here. To some people in Nigeria who always think all nigerians in diaspora think we always think you're begging for money whenever you say hi just to hear from us, it is not the case. How about this too?

I am really tired. My wife who always agree I should help them have started complaining too. These two friends suddenly changed because I used to send them money even before they ask. It's like every week one problem must happen to them that require money. They will just send account number and the deadline time. They keep coming, coming, coming back again after giving. I have paid hundreds of thousands of naira for visa processing for one of them maybe at least they will stop asking me for money and one will be able to help his brother, but the visa was unsuccessful.

Few days ago one of them ask me to give him my sister's number that he just want to greet her since it's been years he saw her last. Behold, the next day my sister called to ask when did I hear from my friend last and did he mention about financial problem to me, I told my sister that he called me two days ago and asked of her number which I gave him. My sister said he requested for money to support his house rent and she sent him some money. I was shocked. Can you imagine guys? My friend. I am not saying it's a crime for him to ask my sister money but why lie to me that you just want to greet her when you asked me for her number? Whereas I just sent him money too not even up to a week.

See another demand again, see my reply, see his reply.

I know one or the two of them will start gossiping me around that I am proud, but they won't tell them about the good I have done for them, I have been doing. They won't. Some friends are not worth it anymore. I am very upset now that it's affecting me mentally and with my wife. Even my children were asking me last night "dad are you alright, you're not happy".

You know what again, one of them sent messages to my wife asking for mobile phone. I saw it but my wife didn't know that I saw it not until I responded to him myself and told my wife to never bother. My wife later sent the phone to him. Since then he's been using that opportunity to demand from her. Though he eventually stopped it but continue asking me only.

I have sent so much money but they just never stop asking. And I am not the time that take pictures and flaunt them on social media. I live my life on low-key.

I need your honest opinion.

Insults are welcome I promise I won't react to any insult.

I wanted to block them on my social media especially on WhatsApp but I had a rethink so they won't feel like I am proud because I am in abroad.

The truth is they aren't dealing with you as friends anymore but a maga which you should make them know you are not... Don't give them 1 penny anymore, it is better you are called proud than called a fool, which they are indirectly calling u already...

Block them all on social media and ur wife does same thing, but before you do that tell them you are blocking them so that they can start thinking and fending for themselves as men henceforth....... And when they are ready to do something reasonable with their life like learning a trade or business as that will be the money u will give them which is the last.... Give them an option to choose a trade they want to learn themselves and fund it, after that don't give them 1kobo anymore.... U have tried even their brother Don tire isn't that enough reason to show u they are Liability and don't want to work or change

2cribz:
Go and make money my bro. Dont bug me with your boring sermon. All you fools here.

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Lol indeed nairaland is an anonymous place... I would have asked you all you need in your life to make your life comfortable and I supply it to you for free just like a less privileged that you are...

Tell me to make more money, because I might not be a billionaire but believe me wen I say I'm richer than your entire family lineage together...

2cribz:
You dey act like fool. All these under 18 year old teens on a faceless forum

i just said it that you are a bitter person... All you do is attack everything around you.. You are nothing but a plague....
Proof u are a bitter person
1) attack op that asked for help(even when ur name wasn't mentioned)
2) assuming I'm a teen and calling ur frustrated father age mate a fool.
3)calling nairaland a faceless forum even when you are cruising around it to kill boredom.(Hypocrisy)

You are a very bitter person and you will soon die if you don't stop your bitterness...

funkazelik:
Hi guys,

ive got N100k..what do you know i can do and get 10-15% interest back every day or two days.

got ideas contact me on 08068298717
thanks

15% everyday, ure in for a fucking ponzi or money doubling shit.......

2cribz:
Shut up. Just say u want to buy salvaged car.
Fool

you are a bitter person... Go treat ur bitterness and leave the op alone who is open to reasonable advice from expert not your bitterness

You just played yourself.... U lavish 1.8m future expenses money with this girl and u fell and needed help she couldn't help... Are u blind to the fact that she is using you or u are foolish Ask urself that sincere question.. That girl will reduce you to nothing and hop on the next available guy who has to spend on her.. Dey there dey form love to a girl who is even a Liability to herself

Olamila:
Let me not bore you guys with my relationship history but this girl is my first love, i met her while i was in school 300l. Ever since then i have always been there for her despite even having a low budget as student because I'm not from a wealthy home, even her parents has times10 more than my family. But despite that i try all i could to maintain my role in the relationship because i don't fancy myself asking anything from my girlfriend.

Before anything else i need to tell little about my girlfriend, she is beautiful and nice. Almost every guy wants to woo her and all of that. Aside of that my girlfriend is very stingy to me, she can never allow her anything be in my possession, she doesn't have this idea that we could end up one day though she will always say something close to it only during fun time. But when she is at her leisures she will say how she fancy how husband to be and all of that which i no I'm not the person she could had been referring to. That not even my major issue.

She always been cruel when she asks me for anything and i refuse to give her maybe i don't have or just don't see needs to do so.
I also discovered that most of our fun times comes immediately money enters my hand. Because i remember when i was in school my first 800k i made was finished and squandered with her, i haven't dated anyother or even have another girl since i met her. Because i try to make her feel comfortable because i no how many guys wish her to be with her. So secondly i made another 1m i squandered it with her too. But when this money just finish guyz i always see hell in her. This was the ups an downs i was experiencing till i finished my school with her. It was a shame for me upon the money i made in school i graduated with zero account looking for money for my law school. I wasn't fortunate to get any help so i sat back to Hustle. Then i was begging looking for helper to assist me when i saw one big opportunity that i need to take but it the opportunity required money as my account was bleeding zero. I begged everyone including my girlfriend but she told me she doesn't have even if she happened to get money for me i will pay her interest. This words alone made me cry, did you no instead of helping me out she told me I'm not the only one that needs help she also need to invest on her self which she was right i believe her. She later invested her money in one fraudulent sheme which she lost the money.

FastTrack to what is happening now, i later got help from someone who offered me 50k and my mum 20k making it 70k i picked myself up and started my Hustle again. Within three months i made 800k again. All this times i was giving her update about my business and earnings. Could you imagine she had the gut to ask for money despite her behaviors. Because of my nature i don't believe someone's bad nature should change my own nature so i still sent her some money because i also no she is broke.

Since then i just forgot about what she did and all of those stuffs because my money kept coming and i don't keep grudges i keep taking care of her. Now i had issue with my business i want to fix something up i was also telling her. this girl went ahead to start asking me to send her money. I was really disappointed i protested because i noticed when i have money i become very careless. It seems money covers so many things.
I just need advice because i think it is time to let her go coz with her nature and type of girl it might end in tears for me. All she do is stay on social media, snap and post and look for who will send her money. No skills, i have begged her several times to look for something to be doing she refused and tells me how her dad won't allow her. She doesn't listen to me, always feel like boss when little money enter her hand. Guys i really love her but i think it is time to seek help because i will regret if this continues.

Mumu governor victimising his opponent supporters.... How clueless can this man be

PS573:
I'm in a relationship with a lady I love so much, she's so loving, caring and kind to me and after some months I asked her (Can you marry me?) She replied yes and she asked are you sure you can marry me? I replied YEs.

After Two weeks time she came to my house sadly, I asked what's wrong with her? She asked me again' are you sure you can marry me and I replied YES and YES, she said OK!

She opened up to me after some months, that she have "Tow kids from Two different men".... I felt so bad,speechless and confuse for a while, I just closed the conversation that day but till now I'm still confuse because I loved her before she opened up to me.

Please I need your advice what to do because I'm confuse and scared right now.

I appreciate all comments

don't marry that girl, point blank... If she truly was for you, she would have told you that deep secret initially immediately u both start dating.... I'm not against the fact she has two kids, NO!!! but I'm against The fact that it's for TWO DIFFERENT MEN... nigga don't even dare it, regrets ends it.

Only number 8 is a valid undeniable point... The rest is fiddle-faddle and Balderdash....

SolarEdge:
Your laptop charging port did not fit the power bank you bought, we never scammed you and we won't scam you. We tried all means to get the right plug to fit your system which was abortive. I suggested to you to incorporate an inverter to the power bank which you said the money was too much (15k) , I later asked you what amount can you pay while we balance up to get the inverter which you said 10k. The week we promised to send the inverter I was not on ground, I beckoned on you and you asked me to send your money and I said my colleague might have bought the inverter as we already agreed. To cut the long story short we came to an agreement to refund 35k to you which you've sent your account details. We traveled to Benin for a job and we came back yesterday which we intend sending you the money, but my personal account was restricted and the bank asked me to come over for a upgrade due to the cash inflow and outflow. I sent you a screenshot of the message and I told you I will send your money when as soon as I have access to my account. The deal we had did not go well doesn't make me a scam.

The job we went to do in Benin is 850k.. The client paid 550k last week Monday, sir we've never met with the client until we got to Benin. I have handled jobs with several client who has paid at least 850k without meeting me in person. I told you once I resolv the bank issue I'll send you your money.

A client I met on nairaland was the one that drew my attention to this.. Bro 42k can't make me. Relax you'll get your money once I have access to my account.

I never threatened you, I only told you that I did not steal from you, we are humans, circumstances beyond my control made this deal linger for this long.

I render my sincere apologies and every inconvenience this must have caused you.

Thank you for your understanding.
Regards

a business man like you isn't suppose to have issue with his account for long, if the account is really the issue you haven't refunded him. what if a client decide to pay you will you give a client account that doesn't carry ur company name or ur name, its unprofessional, so bros that is no excuse why you haven't refunded him..... Refund his money before you start answering for fraud case, be careful aiit. Be Liberal enough and sort the guy his money, you can't be holding his money and the supposed product you sold for him it makes no common sense regardless your excuse.... Same u that went for more almost a million job, same account you used in collecting the money you couldn't squeeze his 35k out of it, yet you are coming here to boast about the job you went to that sent you more than half a million last week without knowing you.... You are just dubious, be careful.

Have been using redmi note 8 since February and I can tell you it is the best I have used since Compared to those tecno and Infinix....

Trust be told I have never for once even opened my redmi stock camera.. I don't even know where it is, because the Gcam is close to perfect which I have been using... As for the battery... It gives me nothing less than 7 to 9hours as an heavy Internet user...... What more could I have asked for

Nice

Mvici:
I Lost Confidence In My Girlfriend The Moment She Asked Me To Marry For My Mother.

I had a girlfriend some few months back before the covid 19 outbreak, that was after we went home from school due to the strike and the pandemic, we both are in the same school which is IBB university lapai, in our final.

So at home this faithful day, I put a call through! We both were talking, laughing on phone, so she ask about my mum, I said she was fine and she now ask abt her loneliness because no one at home, I told her but I'm still here with her, she ask what if school resume and what if we should go for our service next year, she now told me to marry another man for my mum.... lol... telling me who knows" that my mum might like the idea if I should table it with her. Gosh! I actually laughed about it then on phone with her but inside me, it wasn't funny at all.

The next day, what she told me was still bordering me, so many things were just running on my mind...so even if by mistake I wife her in future and the Lord decide to take me when we have a grown up child like me, who is planning on becoming a graduate this year and have even spent 30 years in marriage already....she won't even mourn me for long before accepting another man's proposal or bleeping with another man or probably her one time ex.

I decided to ask my mum with play, mum be sincere to me, you and my dad have been married since far back 1986... U both were in marriage for about 30 yrs before he past away few years ago, may his soul rest in peace..this is 5yrs now are you considering on marrying any one or having any kind of body movement or even can stand the presence of another man in your life?

Guess what her reply was....
Mum said my dad was the only man she know in her life and that's how it going to remain by God grace, period! and I shouldn't ask her such again with cry/smiles on her face because she has me and I will give her groundchil........

Seriously I don't know why I brought this here but pls tell me, any girl that can ask a 52 Year old woman to re_marry even after she has a child, isn't it clear that she can't stay without having sex to anyone as long as her husband is on a peace keeping mission or even travel abroad?

Thanks everyone.

U are really childish... She only gave a harmless suggestion... 5years isn't enough to mourn the dead abi?? Its just in ur mum's nature not to get married again and the decision should be respected, it doesn't mean what she said was out of place.... But would u have called her to thank her if your mum actually agreed when u asked her if she would like to remarry?? Without being told ure behaving like a child even if ure more than 25yrs u still have a child's Mentality by judging an harmless lady over a harmless suggestion....


NOTE: I'm a guy and I don't see anything wrong with what she said. U should readjust ur low Mentality...

212km brand new Which weed did u smoke? Dixwan better pass those with 100km less odometer reading yet they write tokunbo... Ure not okay at all

ghettokid1:
This Lady has a better chance of winning than Ize-Iyamu.
Edo is PDP

just shut up since u have notin to say.... In all aspirants including Obaseki, ize iyamu has better and stronger political structure..... Let me just tell u Obaseki can only win if APC members loyal to Obaseki play anti-party just to spit Adams...


Note: I'm not a politician, I don't vote. I'm just a political analyst

Way to go

UzorChinonso:
Good day Nairalanders, I have been married for just a year now and it has not been easy here! My Husband wants to know every thing about my finance. He has disturbed me to know how much is my salary worth of.

I have always denied him of the fact, what I know is that I used my money to refurbish our flat, got some new things to change the outlook of the place....

But I am not really finding it funny any longer. As we speak, he collected my ATM card since last two weeks, said I must tell him the pin or I should forget having it back. I went to my bank, told them that I lost the card and they changed it for me last Friday and he collected it again said it's either I tell him the pin or he will do something funny ...

I don't know what funny thing he's gonna do but I am worried! Pls is this how marriage is?
He claims to own me and own my salary! Is it fair? This marriage is too early instead I would have quit and I am pregnant at the moment!
What do I do? I don't want anybody to know anything about my finances including him till I have my baby whom my spirit accepted that I should make my next of kin.

What do I do ?

Why shouldn't your husband know about your finance?? It is good to know about each other finance in order to plan financially and secure a future for your unborn kids... At least he hasn't asked you to give him money or remit your salary to him monthly.... U both should discuss your finances it's no big deal.... Your kind are the kind that buys properties or build properties without the husband's knowledge....

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr

Who gives a fuckkk
Untalented moda fuckker with frog voice
Using too much voice enhancer in the studio
How people manage to listen to his crap songs baffles me
Only Burna boy and 2face got a little talent

Davido can never make my play list


My play list will remain like this till the end of time:
The weekend
Imagine dragons
Sia
Burna boy
2face
Katty pery
Passenger
Bruno Mars
Avicii
Twenty one pilot
The Chainsmokers
Dig the kid
Cold play
Khalid
WizKid
Maroon 5
Calum scot
John legend
Selena Gomez
Post malone
Ellie Goulding
Christiana aquilera
A great big world
Rita ora
Clean bandit
Dua lipa
Martin garixx
Major Lazer
The night
Edsheeran
Taylor swift
One direction
Lewis capaldi
Sam smith
Ariana Grande
Kehlani
Billie eilish
Camilo Cabello
And some head bangers like future, migo, quavo, big Sean, Nas, tyga, french Montana, whizkhalifa, lil Uzi vert, Eminem, jcole, Kendrick Lamar, young thug, 21 savage, Travis Scott, Gucci mane, kid cud, g easy

you are a bitter person.... And that bitterness will consume u soonest if u don't change

So sorry

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.

After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

If You ask me, birthday money for you when him nor give nor reach to cause breakup.... There is more birthday to be done... Don't be on his neck because of your birthday morning, you seriously want to celebrate birthday, do it yourself

Yes you have given him some really good advice and thanks for that.. But the main problem I see here is Your 3rd problem u listed.. And the problem is your parents expectation are too high and that in turn is affecting the way you see him making you think he isn't doing enough.. Better set your priorities right if you want a good husband or one that can impress your parents....

The way I see u and how u spoke of ur mother you have been given a standard of a man u should marry because your mom's expectations are too high and you on the other hand ure too blind to see that is the reason you think he isn't doing enough....

If I was your boyfriend I will quit the relationship with you because in reality you aren't a good lady to even say your parents won't accept him because he earns 90k a month.. Not everybody can be like your dad or mum who got fortunate to work in one of those big oil company, telecom, or have a huge business, the earlier you stop using your parents as a control to which your boyfriend is being judged the better for you... Else nobody will even want to get married to someone who think others are lazy because of grace upon their parents...

STARGREEN:
"I have saved enough to buy a land and I am not planning to include his name in the property."

This is obviously the reason for your lamentations.

it is better to keep mute and be assumed a fool than open ur mouth just like u did now to clear all doubt of you being a fool... So the woman has no right to lament right?? If u like ignore and neglect your immediate family and spend all you have on your life extended family... When u die, automatically you place your kids and wife in suffering... Shey na u love ur family pass ode... OP pls I dint support buying properties without the knowledge of you husband, it has broken so many homes... Make him see reasons why he should invest in his immediate family..

Pls if you have redmi note 8 accessories and you are in Benin pls quote me and signify... Casing and tempered glass to be certain

PLS IF YOU HAVE THE REDMI NOTE 8 ACCESSORIES.. like the glass or plastic 360°case, 9d screen protector etc... Pls quote me and signify...

Seriously you are really senseless and acting like a child... What concern you with the past of your gf.. Living a couples life in school was before she met you, why are you concerned about it... Grow up before entering into a relationship coz ure obviously a child... Even if na olosho before as far as u ready to date her then her past does not concern you provided it doesn't interfere with your present relationship with her...

Jasonjay101:
Please I'm new here on this platform and I just want some advice to clear my mind.

Let me just go straight to the point. My girl that we've been dating for a year plus now just told me a week ago that she lived a couple's life with her ex back in school right from when she entered 300l (4yrs course) and the guy 400l (5yrs course) and I've not been able to get over it.

It happened a week ago, we were together and she saw a post of her ex engagement to his current girlfriend and she started feeling bad, so I asked her what happened and a little bit angry with her thinking maybe she was not over her ex yet. She told me she has gotten over him but she just remembered her past so I try to console her to let go and if there's something she hasn't told me yet about her past that is still eating her up she can tell me because before now we've talked about a lot of things about our past and we've try to forgive each other and let the past be in the past.

She had told me it was this only guy she had dated and it was the same guy that disvirgined her. I was not bothered about that because I was not a virgin either. She told me she has moved on even before I came and she stayed for close to a year to heal up and all through this time I was asking her out but she never said yes and never told me she was going through heart break.

Now, it's a year and few months into our relationship, she's been a very good girl, supportive and hard working. And now she just told me this, coupled with some lies she has used to cover it up in some of our previous conversations about her school life.

I'm not perfect either and I've had my past which I have told her. I never lived a couples life back in school and it was only a girl I've also had anything sexual relationship to do with.

Why am emotionally down now is because I know what it is like to live a couples life in school. I never lived as one but I know of people that lived as such in school and I know what happens.

Now I don't know if I can forget about this and we move on. I love this girl so much and she has shown to also love me as much and I've tried to forget about what happened but most times when I see her now I tend to always remember and it eats me up.

Do you guys think I can forget about this?

egbeocha:
Nonsense animal!,,,,,,, d person who introduced u didn't advertised it for public. Now u wanted to cast it just like zap. U needed referral abi? Continue

with this ultrance I can tell u have a shallow mind... Your type don't ever go far, u know why?? Because u have a bad mind...... Las Las the thing go cast & u go dey ordinary ground bcoz u never help nobody talk less person go help u.... Grow up bro both hands wash each other clean compared to if one wash itself....

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KingCurtis21:
I no longer have access to my Nairaland.. drop your WhatsApp

can't drop my number here due to some personal reasons... Here is my email send me a mail and I will send u my whatsapp