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lexy2014:

$3000 a month will make u live like a king anywhere in d world not just in Sweden. That's about 2.3m in Nigeria. That can make a huge difference in anyone's life. The question is how accessible are such income opportunities?

lol not in America. They wish tho

Awesome thread.

@OP, How’s country life in Sweden?
I’ve a few villages on my bucket list but I only have pictures to go off of. I know look might be deceiving so if value some input.
Have you been and what do you think of them?

If you make a police report, you have to leave your contact with the officers in case they need to question you later.

Some of you can’t resist the urge to blame victims of sexual abuse

Emperormartin:
First and foremost the sex was consentual.

The first reported that during the sex police A demanded mouth action which she wasn't cool with.

The second woman reported she was coerced by the police man not to tell higher authorities that nothing of such happened.

But the truth still remains that the sex was consentual and agreed by both parties because prior that time they have been contacting each other on the phone

Okay

Almiron:
Ma’am you tagged me with the wrong ppl, “full time husband, stay at home husband” that’s something ridiculous. That’s high level bullsh1t, Even if my wife is a celebrity and get money pass me, that won’t stop me from making my own money too. It doesn’t mean I won’t help my wife at home, even if I work my assss off. I know how to do that.

The reason why many guys say this is because they don’t value the work that goes into raising kids, keeping the home and caring for all the family members. If they did, they won’t see it as a demeaning role. Learn to see value in the things your women do for you.
That way you stop asking “what do you bring to the table?” and you’ll stop looking down the caregiving home making role.

scoobyblogspot:
The man must be the biggest IDIOT to ever accept to live this kind of life

Boyooosa:
Men are not naturally wired to housekeep, it will end up in sorrow

Almiron:
WTF!!!

Lazy asss niggaaaas 🤣😂


Dem go fvck your wife tire

Gerrard59:
What are these things which are not the fault of black women? How do white women come across as a group of people who can solve these issues?

WW come across as a group that will let them do as they please.
They often say black women do not let them lead. Citing hyper independence as a reason. But fail to understand that given the history of slavery, followed by Jim Crow, segregation and the continued targeting of black communities by the state, the black women have had no choice but to step up and lead the homes in the very often scenario that the man was away (in the fields. Locked up etc). Now they could fix this by showing BW that they are up to the task by stepping up, being present, completing their education, keeping consistent employment and making sure they can provide not just money but male parenting. Instead they often end up running away and blame the women for not being soft and feminine enough to be led. BW have had no choice but to be strong. WW could afford to hand over the reigns of leadership to their men because WM were out there conquering nations for them and their descendants.

If there is one thing I have noted about black people, at least online, it is never taking responsibility for one's actions. God! When compared to East Asians, there is a stark difference. So, I am not surprised.

To add to this, Jews and Asians keep their wealth in their communities. America is hyper capitalist. That’s the only way to hold onto power. BM who succeeded to become millionaires marry out and if unfortunately they get divorced, the wealth often gets split hence a reduction in overall community wealth.

What are these issues? Let's remember that in the US which is our focal point, blacks marry themselves more than they marry other races. This cuts across both genders. One question, though, does your post apply to black African men and women?

The main issues AA face in America is financial. There have been multiple systemic roadblocks placed strategically for AA to not rise. Too many to fit in one NL post. But yea red lining is still a thing. The financial, health, educational and justice institutions still have observable biases against them.

A lot of opportunities now exist for individuals to try to better themselves, so it’s a work in progress.
However when BW take it on themselves to keep moving forward to change these situations, they are accused of being too educated, too entrepreneurial, independent, too feministic hence they can’t make good submissive wives. I feel like if their men wanted to take on those roles and propel the community forward, a good number of BW won’t mind standing back and letting them take charge. But how can they?

No. my post doesn’t apply to Africans.
The reason why these conversations crept into nairaland is because I’m beginning to see nairaland dudes regurgitating the same BS of BW being bottom of the barrel in desirability. That’s all the stuff they see online without even understanding how weak it makes them look. If there’s one thing WM or Asian men won’t do, they won’t make it a point to tell the world that they despise their women. I know misogyny exists in all those communities as well. The men there are not inherently better than BM. But at least they understand the power in keeping a united front.

Kossyso:
I can't vouch for Nigerians but most black Africans are referred to as Nigerians.

that’s possible

Notice it’s not Nigerian women

Where’s that guy that says all Nigerian women are useless

What a lovely woman

Gerrard59:
In your opinion and observations, why is that so? I don't fancy a baby mama situation. I rather remain single. Having children in a two-parent household remains the best.

I’m with you on that as well. I think a healthy family with two loving parents is best. The only time I think one parent household would be better is if the two parent one is fundamentally and unfixably broken.


Why is the that so?

There are so many social determinants stacked against the black community in America. The reason I blame the men is that instead of understanding that they are in it together with their women, they hate the women for things that are entirely not their fault and think going to white women will solve the issue. Then of course it doesn’t. So they bounce and circle the block. Only to do it again. all over again. They often don’t take the opportunity for self reflection and re-strategizing.

This is not say BW are blameless but statistically when things go sideways, they are the ones who often stay to “hold down” the forte. BM don’t give them the same grace when things go sideways

ednut1:
why are other races not rushing BW Minus those who have a fetish and sleep with them and run.

BW are selective when it comes to other races. They are not the same as some low self esteem BM that think if anything fair skin smiles at them it’s a come up in life.
When BW select a non-BM, they go for the refined, classy, polished, well traveled and well-to-do ones. Light skin men is not a come up for us. The social status may be. But never the skin color.
And that’s why BW will marry a poorer BM, hold him down through joblessness, jail, prison, multiple affairs and baby mamas and when he finally makes it, he will start looking for a light skin woman who better fits the “aesthetic”.

They don’t wanna talk about it.

The pipeline from being the preference of a black man to baby mama is a straight line.
Or at least here in America. Yet they don’t see how they are the common denominator

1Sharon:
Black men have constantly asserted that it's the attitude of black women that pushes them into the arms of other races of women, but it's a lie.
Black men have the largest appetite for women out of all races of men.
I recently realised that black men in the UK are converting to Islam for the sole reason of having access to and sleeping with non-black Asian Muslim women. They fake convert, sire kids with the women and then bounce.
Why would any man go that far just to sleep with a non-black woman? Islam is not a religion you want to mess with.


Interracial dating with BM and WW is at the highest its ever been. And I remember when WW used to mock BW for being single mothers. Now WW have opened up their options and started dating BM and now they've also become single mothers 🥴
They've kept quiet and gone to raise their mixed kids

I mean, if BW are the problem, why are you doing the same thing you do with BW to WW?

Thats precisely one of the things I love about Canada. Few times I’ve been there and the quietness calms my soul.

pansophist:
UK is even better. UK loneliness is just the lack of people to talk to, that's all.

But you see Canada, that big arse country that can fit Nigeria x10, but with a tiny population of Lagos and Kano, don't go there.

Your neighbors would just be snow, fox and coyote, and you'll hear the sound of a pin dropped a mile away. So much few people in a very huge sparse of landmass.

At least the UK girl don't need a car, since UK is very tiny and well-connected with public transport. In Canada, not having a car is like being cripple. Everywhere is so far, and public transportation is just not the best.

Canada is a country introvert goes to and get mad lol. Being an introvert doesn't mean you don't want to meet people, or feel like a cripple because you can't drive. Just a week I stayed in Canada, I changed my ticket and left earlier.

Can't stay there. Tufiakwa.

Rahkman:
how is my comment misogynistic?? Black women Nd Asian men re the least desired group in the dating game ,its on Google I didn't manufacture it..you can check it online

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A Nigerian woman married to a Nigerian man living in Nigeria and isn’t concerned about dual ownership of family resources is not only naive but irresponsible to herself.

All she needs to do is to come on NL and see how you guys reacted when Yul betrayed his wife of decades long relationship and her brain should reset. If it doesn’t reset, then she’s foolish

jmoore:
You have trust issues.

There is nothing wrong in what your husband did. You did not contribute a kobo for the purchase of the land.

If I am your husband, I will also accuse you of having an ulterior motive.

You claim you have I million and you can't buy a land in a good location with that amount. A village today can become a good location in the next 20 years. If you have money as you claim, go and use it and buy your own land.

My Dad registered all his properties in his own name and my mother never complained about it.

Rahkman:
Black women are not wanted by any race except black men .....talk about bottom of the food chain

Never miss an opportunity to express some good old misogynoir. Don’t stop here. Screen shot it and go show it to your mom why don’t you? See how amusing it is to her.

Also it doesn’t make sense to kill somebody, remove some parts and leave the rest for people to find?
If it was so calculated, What happened to planning it in such way that he can hide or bury the remains and claim she went missing?

It sounds like a drug crazed incident in my opinion

DREAMHOMES6970:
Na bloggers add that one to spice up the story. As if you don't know Nigerian bloggers. True story is the guy killed the girl but I don't think any body parts was missing. Also go to the guys instastory and read most of his confessions. I don't believe everything he's saying there but logically you can deduce there was no mutilated parts as purported by bloggers, reason why people are not talking about it. He could have killed her for ritual purpose or maybe it was a mistake as he said but there was no mutilated body parts

achimendy:
I thought am the only one that noticed it. She look dry, old and sick.

wahala

He sounds really bitter. Like she did something to him

Acidosis:
This is bitterness taken too far.

While I haven't physically met DJ Cuppy, her body shape (judging by her online presence) will typically get her more men compared to Teni. This is the reality around you. But, as with many men like you, it is okay to appreciate aesthetics online while you secretly thirst for boobs and ass offline.

fourboys:
She is fast aging abi na my eyes

Let’s Allow women to age in peace

It’s almost as if their personalities are quite different and it shows In how they express themselves. Who knew?

See, You may not like her size (which is fine everyone has a preference) but everything else you’re saying is obviously more than not liking her size. As if she owes you a duty to be a perfect match to your preference. Someone not looking the way you want is not a character flaw. And you don’t know her well enough to be saying all this. so let it rest.

Jakumo:
Referring to this Teni Otedola as anorexic is a stretch but with that said, her 32-inch bust size is a little smaller than my general preference, though her hip size is to me perfect with just the right degree of feminine curvature.

The general and widespread popular resentment for her deranged sister BJ Puppy probably relates more to that woman's constant boasting and frenzied social media attention-seeking, thus BJ Puppy's ballooning figure is just one more obvious sign of degeneration that amused onlookers cannot help but notice.

The pictures of Teni Otedola personify class, grace, and elegant poise, while the mugshots of pink-hired blubbery BJ Puppy sticking her tongue out and acting the fool hint at chronically low self-esteem and arrested intellectual development, none of which are becoming of any woman rich or poor. In short, while Teni Otedola is the epitome of effortless feminine allure, BJ Puppy is the overgrown poster child of infantile buffoonery of the type that will continue to repel would-be lovers for the rest of that chubby woman's chaotic and erratic life.

Ndi feminist don’t even want to do anything to them.
We just want them to acknowledge the obvious problem because there’s no solution without first acknowledging there’s a problem

Gerrard59:
I read all the pages and every post word for word. I am very disappointed in how most Nigerian men think. A criminal murdered his girlfriend of three years, and she is blamed.

Nah! Na small thing separate Nigerian men from their Somali counterparts. I will forever die on the hill that says Nigerian men have failed their women: https://www.nairaland.com/6643241/nigerian-men-failed-women

Also, you cannot make money via money rituals. The earlier you people know this, the better: https://www.nairaland.com/6856398/cannot-make-money-via-rituals

At this point, anything Ndi feminists want to do with you people, na una sabi.

This is heart crushing

goldmatrix:
man or woman with tattoo always violence.. Not too sure if I am correct but so much evidence pointed that direction..

I abhor violence and I have tattoos. Y’all generalize too much.

Also a lot of the tattooed people I know are softies

Honestly this has been one of his milder takes. I almost congratulated him for keeping it above board

Ladyhippolyta88:


All these years I was thinking that it was a pick me woman ooo
The takes have been annoying so it has been a man self? I have been the only one who didn't know
I am not surprised.
I will not engage with that monicker again.
Thanks for the heads up I could not believe that a woman was blaming it all on prostitution and bringing a baseless stats that for every fraudster there are thousands of prostitutes like as if it justifies anything.
What a dunce.

Ladyhippolyta88:
The society is collective so women protecting themselves first is not the lasting solution because everybody must socialize and meet people as much as I get your point that is not what will bring the lasting solution. Everybody must join hands to rid society of this menance. Crime thrives because people condone it. Women protecting themselves first can also be done through advocacy and calling for reforms but this can't be possible if everywoman does not acknowledge the problem. The men that do these things are women's brothers and children those women can be victims too. I don't think it should be normal to protect yourself around your family member but then that is where we are today. Some abuse are done by family members and not strangers.

They are similar because the common denominator is women who are subject to violence and abuse perpetrated by their male partners who ideally they tell us are our protectors, young women are not killed by yahoo boyfriends alone even the ones with legit income do these things.
But men are the ones that are the majority in prison. How is prostitution the same as fraud and yahoo? A prostitute and her customer are consenting to their services we can argue about the morality here but a fraudster is killing people and making life unbearable they are not the same thing. Stop comparing apples to oranges and justifying female abuse by telling me that there are not much fraudsters yet men dominate prisons around the globe for commiting crimes. Nobody has "absolute freedom" if you don't like your freedom use chains but stop trying to blame men's excesses on women it's disgusting.

You think prostitution is not in the Arab world same arab world that abuses and have sex slaves and women are being violated and abused and no one is held accountable for it.
You mean that is your model of what society should be. Prostitution is as old as time and did not start with feminism. Men saw women as chattels and bought them as sex slaves to be abused. Blame men for once nobody will beat you if you call a spade a spade.
Aunty get out of my sight. I thought I was talking with who could reason.

Well said.

Also Beverly is a man lol. You must be the only one on NL that doesn’t know that. He changed his m to f a couple years or so back and stuck with that one because that’s one that got him more attention. As per people reading the comments and wondering how a woman thinks that way.

But yea he’s a dude.

dealslip:
Read my comments again. I used the word supposedly . Do you understand my point now

okay

You can say that for yourself. As in you personally don’t mean to blame the victim of course or absolve the men of crime. We can’t say that for the lot of these guys tho.

If you observe the comments that are being posted, some of them are indeed absolving the man. And blaming the victim.

I think everyone can 100% agree on the saying that no one should knowingly date a fraudster.

Acidosis:
It's okay to express anger over gender-based violence. However, when people talk about the need to avoid yahoo boys, they are not necessarily absolving the man of blames.

The repercussion of gender-based violence is justice. But what is justice when the one who deserves justice is lying 6-feet below the earth?

We advise women to avoid yahoo boys because some of these guys go after the closest persons to them. It is only the hard core ritualists among them that go looking for strangers to kidnap. It's also unlikely for a drug addict to inflict pains on a stranger.

It is called "domestic violence" for a reason - "domestic" before "violence." Solutions won't come by deliberating ignoring "domestic" for "(gender-based) violence."

So as much as we see the need to address fraud and ritual killings, humans must also take deliberate steps to safeguard themselves.

Ladyhippolyta88:
The truth is men are a danger to women.
I saw different cases of femicide yesterday omo.
I am angry.

@bold, Period.

And any sensible person should be upset about it too.
Just because your male family members are not amongst the terrible ones doesn’t invalidate that fact and it doesn’t mean you hate them. We just need as a society to collectively start raising men who value the humanity of women

What a disgusting post

AlabiKILLER2021:
If the guy is killed

The girl won't still come back to life
He should settle the girl family with 100m


Meanwhile, the girl is a cheap Ashawo

She deserves to die

If you’re too vocal about your observations they’ll call you a man hater. But let’s face the truth. How many women kill men? In the same ways and for the same reasons that men do? Out of anger? For running their mouth? for cheating? For rituals? for organ trafficking? It’s definitely minor compared to the rate at which men do.

And do we see other women supporting them if they do such gruesome acts? We have to start telling ourselves the truth.

Ladyhippolyta88:
Men are wicked oo.
The lady's killer was on Twitter to explain his killing and men of Twitter were wishing him well oo
I hope they are looking for him oo he was using Twitter and IG oo.
He even confessed to doing it. Men on Twitter were supporting him and blaming a dead woman oo.
Nothing when my eye nor see yesterday o.
Feminists are not angry at men enough.
Men are wicked.

flokii:
Noone deserves to die coco.. ladies too should start dating right and leave blood suckers alone.
Hardly will you see guys looking for rich women to date.. we mostly struggle for everything we need and still factor in needs of loyal girlfriends in our struggle.

Well we keep saying women should date right but don’t focus on raising the right men for them to choose from. How many women wan share the few good guys available? It’s too many in the mix that are bad both amongst the poor and rich. At this point people are just choosing their poison. It’s unfortunate