₦airaland Forum

namet:
G"morning. Hope your weekend was enjoyable.

What does "otondo" mean?

If you want to be nice, go and be nice to those less fortunate than yourself. You can start by deleting that your very very insensitive post. It was just short of putting on your party dress and dancing on the poor guy’s grave. Stop explaining and delete that post.

Miss me with the pleasantries. Thank you

They don’t even see it. Their hatred and awful cringe-worthy misogyny.

I do recognize that there are misogynistic men and women everywhere, but nairaland males take it another level. For the fact that it’s anonymous meaning it could be anyone, I’f be scared sh*tless if my daughter hooks up with a Nigerian guy.

For all they know this obviously wealthy girl could have been the one sponsoring this boy but what does that matter? It doesn’t fit into their narrative of oloshoism. Smh

delishpot:
LOL the average Nigerian man hates women with a hot passion.
* They believe any woman they ask out must date them. If she doesnt tben she is too prideful and deserves to die of she dates anyone else for any reason whatso ever. Her death is celebrated and her family is insulted. If she dates them without asking for a dime they go around boasting about sleeping with babes for next to nothing some even say babes spend on them not the other way round, if she makes a demand then she is a cheap LovePeddler,
* if they ask her out and she accepts without drama they say she is too cheap and has been eying them since. If she does shakara they say she is too pompous and expects to be chased like gold.
* If she decides that a man isnt making her happy while dating and she moves on, she is said to be enticed by money, if she stays and endures she is said to be tied down by her love for money or sex.
Yet they fail to see that women are victims mostly because they posses the parts most roit workers ask for. Breats, vagina, virgin womb etc. That is why many women are killed for rituals compared to men. But to be scincere, women dont learn fast enough. If the tables were turned and men become the hot cake for jaz, boys would organize tjemselves better and quickly to save themselves. They will mostly fall victims by accident unlike women.

milemimi93:
oh! I got it.

It was just an opinoin.

Secondly I don't see myself gettin married or having children.


Marriage benefits these leeches.

I also haven't found a good hole to pour my spermm.

No girl is worthy enuf to carry my child.

Order one of these. Good hole. None of those female problems that annoys you so much. And most importantly, you can vent your frustrations on it and it won’t react.

Your perfect kind of woman

Blonchilli:
All these points do not work for everyone. Just treat them nice and avoid being too close. Respect their authority over their daughter and also subtly let them know it's your house. Any man who really wants a happy home will throw that option of never allow them in the home. If you don't want madam to put the anger on you because like it or hate it she has lived with her family all her life and they share a special bond. You walked into her life few months or years back and want to stop her family from being with their daughter or sister? Who are you?

Nairaland dumbasses. That’s who they are

milemimi93:
I can't make out what u tryna say.

dull

For your mind now you’re smart

Otondo

namet:
Stay in your country and fight so it gets better, but some buffons won't listen. They'd rather die as slaves and low lifes in white people's country.

Oh i need a visa....oh travelling out is the only way......oh i can only get rich if i travel out........oh people pack money on streets in europe........oh i'll rather be homeless in the uk than die without electricity in Nigeria. What a crock!

It is not necessarily better in white people's country than our country! Yes, there is no electricity here, but you may end up in white man's country and don't even have a house to stay to enjoy electricity.

Majority who go there do not succeed, regardless of the fake image and lies they present to people back home. Most Nigerians who live outside are depressed, have very low-self esteem due to things not working out as they thought, and they don't have money. Some with jobs live from paycheck to paycheck and some even collect government food handouts to survive.

That is why some of them have to steal and traffic drugs to survive. Again, you may land in white people's country but you may not still be able to drive Uber, do CNA work, deliver food, or wok as a security guard!

I hope lessons like this and what happens in Libya enlightens ignorant Nigerian youth to the fact that Americans and Europeans did not run away from their country to do slave labor in other people's country, for their country to be what it is today. They stayed and built it themselves!

If you don't have a job and you're not from lagos or abuja, go back to your village and use your family land to engage in farming as a business. Everyone must eat, so you will sell your farm produce, create a rewarding employment for yourself, and forget about office jobs because we don't have that in Nigeria.

Instead of travelling out to die or become homeless, engage yourself in agribusiness here and you will not go hungry, and your life will be more meaningful and rewarding.

May Idoko find what he was looking for in Kazakhstan, in the world beyond.

The only sensible post on this thread


Edited. Okay there were more mature posts after yours

bukatyne:
First starters, the issue is NOT unhappiness.

From your accouny, you laugh, crack jokes and hold similar worldviews.

You have much more than many couples can boast of.

Now the issue is 'lack' of sexual chemistry.

According to Rollo Tomassi, ' you cannot negotiate desire'. ...

You either desire him or you don't.

However, today is Sunday and miracles happen (Double luck) so let's go....

In your heart of hearts, what kind of man tickles your fancy? What kind of man turns you on? Think deep and hard. Doesn't matter if it is politically correct or not.

Next, ask your husband the kind of woman he likes/turns him on/ fancies. You already have the rapport so it shouldn't be hard. And if he says ' I love when ladies wear skater skirt', don't go 'agrrrrhh I love straight skirt and think skaters are babyish/indecent/ old school' etc. Hear him out.

Now, gently change what you can to be his eye candy. Your aim is to change to the woman that wakes up the sexual man in him. When you do that and he starts responding to your changes, react to the response.

Also don't tell him 'I am changing this straight skirts to skater because you said so'. Change in a way that is subtle and brings out the unconscious response in him.

Also subtly change him. So if beard gang makes you melt and he is clean shaven, you can turn him towards growing a beard and buy beard oils et al to encourage him when he starts growing it.

Develop a mindset of pleasing him. When you wear your undies, think of how you want him to stand at attention and get a matching pair. When you are creaming, think of how you want your body to be smooth for him and carry on. When you are giving him BJ or kissing, admire the work of your hands when he is reacting in pleasure and soon you will be the one jumping on him.

Also have seperate interests e.g. if he does something for recreation, don't join him. Dress like his girl and watch your man display for you. If he wants to fix some things in the house, don't join him. You can follow him round and just admire what he does.

All these will make you see him outside the friendship and see him as a man.

You both have something great. Work on the passion part and you will have a fantastic marriage.

Good luck.

This woman hating this is now a full time job for you people.

Do something better with your lives

CAPSLOCKED:

ALWAYS QUICK TO SHAME AND DISRESPECT EACH OTHER WHENEVER AND WHEREVER THEY CAN.

AND BLAME IT ON MEN.

inoki247:
women always fighting each oda nd pulling each odaz legs... daz y b say na women plenty for witch dey av inbuilt hatred for each oda...

tellwisdom:
87.4% of Nigerian women are brainless; including my female friends

Maverickking1:
Women are their own worst enemies

For you to assume that every yahoo boy is overtly so, shows that you have limited experience of how life works.

CSTR1005:
Her actions are not the actions of a smart individual.

If she was stopped on the way by a serial killer or armed robber, and murdered, it would be foolish of me to blame her .

Yahoo boys killing their girlfriends for money is something every Nigerian lady have heard about.
It is a major phenomenon in Nigeria, even a 12 year old child is aware of.

Surely, you would expect a sensible lady to beware from such relationships.
Relationships with men with no visible income and living the fast life.
But they wouldn't beware, and yet keep falling victims because of the fast life which they enjoy. .

No sensible girl can die that way. They know who to date and who not to.
They know when and who to cohabit with and when not to

In fact, right now, I am sure there are female nairalanders on this thread already making plans to go and cohabit with that boyfriend that spends hundreds of thousands of naira on Champaign at a go without any major work he is known to do.

It is not a case of ignorance or bad luck. It is Death as a result of greed.

It is very avoidable if a lady decide to have sense.

He could have killed her whether she was living with him or not.

Comments like these means you people consider the women who date you to be foolish. Since it’s always a woman’s fault when the man she’s dating kills or hurts her.

It’s a very damaging narrative you guys are propagating.
An adult (which is what she is) is free to have a romantics relationship. If it turns out the person she ends up with is evil, we should not make it her fault.

CSTR1005:
Take a deep breath .

We are in Nigeria. We see how ladies behave here.

Pursuing after flashy guys and criminals.
She may be rich, but it doesn't stop her from being greedy.

Beside, Which sensible lady will leave her school and travel to go and cohabit with a boyfriend.?
A boyfriend which I am sure she knows has no defined source of income.

The guy is a criminal and deserve the worst punishment in this world and the afterlife.
I don't need to waste my breathe on him.

The lady on the other hand is who I want to focus on so that others will learn.
She was not wise, though she didn't deserve to die because of her foolishness.

But foolishness can sometimes be very fatal in this world.

Do you people even use sense to make your comments?

A deputy governor’s daughter is definitely not looking for money. Maybe she just likes him. why are you fvcking sexist prigs so callous and hateful of women? The least you could have done is to call out the wicked guy that killed her (if indeed he killed her) instead of making it her fault. Jesus Christ. You assholes.

Someone just died a possibly painful death and there’s no atom of sympathy in any of you cold hearted beings. Instead you’re making it an avenue to start your woman hating spews

CSTR1005:
It is very hard to find a young lady of that age that has sense.

Your papa put you for school, you leave school go boyfriend house to fucck.

Even if you like the good life and the high class guys, why not study hard, get good grades and get employed in good companies so that you can meet quality guys with legitimate wealth.

greencard:
After series of critical observations and personal contacts , I have come to the conclusion that most girls may not really even get access to the said money we often criticised them to be after, they just want a guy with "class", "swag", probably with a "ride" and other glorified material contemporary possessions e.g phones and expensive outings to eateries or bars and club...just to prove to people they are dating someone with class or more honourable than the other girls in town ,

Hence, they fall into the hands of rogues and yahoo boys who keep flaunting these things before their eyes and ignore genuine struggling guys who really have them at heart.

Hence we keep hearing sad news like this


Ps. I've decided to see every girl as my sister till I am financial ok to some limit to avoid some unnecessary eventualities that may arise in the course of keeping a partner as girlfriend

Yea. Quite sad

Admin401:
He's tone did change though. As if he was trying to come to terms with life. Most sucidal people don't post about committing suicide before doing it, that's if they are serious. He just did it.

I wonder is he left his baby and the babymama alone in this world

https://www.nairaland.com/4537870/she-just-told-me-she#68100485

Daeylar:
The way he was posting in his threads as if he is moving on from the past and doing the best to make his future better not knowing he was so broken he felt he had to commit suicide.

That's quite sad.

Yea he didn’t sound suicidal at all. Man this sucks . May he Rest In Peace

I’ll take this with a pinch of salt.

I have no trust for the Nigerian police force

front4line:
More like she should burn in hell.

so make she no knack abi?

Can you stay forever without sex?

codedmelvin:
if ur the one in ur profile pic
I swear u r extremely beautiful

I am the one. Thank you

bukatyne:
See lyrics.

like a poem

If the wife decides to stand up to the mom and say no, I doubt this dude will admit to his mom that they agreed not to do it together

He will let her take the fall.

bukatyne:
As in

Infact, he must be trolling.

His wife agreed to fattening house against their joint decision?

So when his mother said 'Oya let's pump you', wifey would say, no o, my husband and I have agreed not to fatten me up. When said husband is there saying nothing.

“He lies beside me like a log of wood every night while I burn”

That will do it.

Dongreat:
Before I continue on this debate may I please ask you a question, are you married? If yes how old is your union?

no disrespect but that is not relevant to this discussion

DankemzI:
Don't take it that way!
View it from my perspective.....
We agreed as a family for her not to fatten up! I no wan cheat on her, I no like fat!
Only for my mom to show up, she dumped our initial agreement not to fatten up....
Now I have a reputation to protect

so it’s her fault? What if she agreed because she didn’t want to disagree your mom? I’m almost sure that’s the reason. Otherwise she would have told your mama that you are the one who paid for the tattoos. I sense a typical african girl who wants to get along with the mama in law but you’re not standing up for her.

Dongreat:
Madam coco, happiness is not flaunted on social media. I agree it’s a celebrity stunt to stay relevant hence the showcasing of trinkets. Believe me only insecure fellows exhibit a need to broadcast their relationship online.
And saying I am hateful? You really don’t know me so you are forgiven.

Y’all would rather only sad stories about marriage be told? When you consistently put down any relationship that seems to be happy because you would rather believe they are unhappy and insecure. That's hate if you don’t know. And it only enforces the scare that marriages are a horror story.

FYI. A Rolex watch is not a trinket BTW.

people show off different things all the time. Be it their beauty, their lovely children, their skills and their academics achievements to mention a few. why do you and people like you pick on those who show off their good relationships or material belongings.

How’s that different from other kinds of showing off.

Only hateful people speak ill of other people’s happiness without any reason or any form of provocation.

Dongreat:
Only insecure people do this and only novice think that marriage is Utopia where you wake up everyday to breakfast in bed, brush with chocolate, and dance under a willow tree to an Indian music.
They all portray marriage to be ever blissful without blemishes and fooled people into a folly union. But we all know how the divorce clause is activated after a few years together.

Secure union don’t get flaunted for the people in the world to see but insecure union.

Exactly

bukatyne:
Help me understand.:

Your wife has tattoos you paid for yet you cannot tell your own mother that you paid for them?

Oya send me your mother's number and wife's name with details if the tattoo so I call her.

Na wa!

If you cannot stand up for your wife on something you 'authorised' and paid for? I wonder what will happen when your mother raises a point on something you are not in agreement with.

And it is NOT your mother's place to label your wife. If you were fine with the 'prostitute', married her and had babies with her, your mom is a little too late labeling her.

Again, you don't like fattening process yet you let your mother persuade your wife to do so?

Tomorrow you will tell us 'you don't like polygamy, your mother just brought a second wife to your bed'!

It seems you haven't weaned yourself from your mother.

Nobody cares

I don’t support jungle justice

Although I understand how frustrating it is when there is no dependable justice system.

Also these guys were drunk. How do we know they had their facts correct?

All in all, poor girl. I hope she heals completely

Eketem:
There is this guy from calabar always trying to scam in this section





The begger, the laptop owner and buyer are one and the same, all part of the scam, that is why the main poster left no details

I think there might even be more than one of them but they are all from the same axis

The moment the Op mentioned Calabar my ears went tiiiiing

ifyalways:
Buyer


Seller.

You forgot to log out.

Carry on. Ma gi ma OP, as you were. . .

romenna:
involving members of his neighbourhood is even worse as they will him a wizard. We r too religious so it's better for him to relocate.

and quit his job? Pay rent all over again?
Na so e easy to relocate

I’ve experienced this and it’s totally frustrating.
If I still lived in Nigeria, I wouldn’t mind shooting at them to scare them away. They can go call their useless police if they feel threatened by that.