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ahnie:
Banana

Mindlog:
Cradle snatcher. High probability he has been touching her inappropriately over the years.

The man and ihis now mother-in-law were once lovers.......sickening.

bukatyne:
In the modern world, babe is 18 and sooooooooo she is an adult

Ideally, the girl parents, godfather and girl herself should all be very ashamed of themselves in the order I mentioned.

mariahAngel:
Maybe he never truly loved her, otherwise, he wouldn't have given up that easily.

I mean, if Jacob could serve Laban for seven extra years just to marry Rachel, what is four years to build himself that he couldn't give?
Some men of nowadays sef!

sisisioge:
You missed the point, she made a video with her lover privately but someone got hold of it and pushed her to share it with the whole world. She was hence violated. Whether she did a video shouldn't even be our concern as whatever she did privately shouldnt reach us if the world is proper and decent.

sisisioge:
Yeah, he should be suspected. Why in the world will he make such horrible mistake! Why in the world wont the blackmailer let her or him clean up the mess before forcing them to bring it to the world's notice? Those are the million dollar questions.

I think shes being gullible by sticking it out with the dude... poor girl. Her undoing is being overly trusting. Her sex video on another human's phone! Very silly!

mariahAngel:
That op na very stubborn man wey get pride full stop!

You'll notice when you go through his comments.

NoToPile:
Well the main issue is the deceit

Also I needed to confirm something

SimpleGuy001:
I think it has to do with my growing up around him. He was quite hostile, so I always have that fear.

NYSC17:
Stop supporting nonesense Biko

She's a useless girl to have lied to her parents about a man level of education. Look at my face and tell me that idiot won't tell much more lies again? She started with deciet

That man will shock her no worry

mariahAngel:
Dey there dey make excuse for person wey no ready to learn.


You expect her to have kept on insisting and pushing someone who obviously wasn't and still isn't ready to learn? The next thing go be to come create thread for nairaland say
the girl he wants to marry has no respect for him simply because she's more educated than him.

All I know is he has a complex that is way beyond inferiority.

mariahAngel:
Oh! But she did.

https://www.nairaland.com/6809548/family-says-cant-marry-because#106869622

The reason he gave when I asked him why he "knocked off" the suggestion:

https://www.nairaland.com/6809548/family-says-cant-marry-because/1#106870076

NoToPile:
Your stand is noted

But you have not yet answered my question

Would he lie to his parents about your own status?

SimpleGuy001:
So there’s this tension I feel between me and my dad. I’m 21, just graduated and will be going for nysc this week.

So it happened that I’m making preparations to travel but haven’t told my dad yet. Will be traveling by Friday or Saturday, so I intended to tell him by today evening.

Dad asked me about it this morning and I told him, and he said if he didn’t ask me I wouldn’t tell him. I told him I would and he started saying I never tell him things going on with me but I always tell my mom and why must I send my mom to him whenever I want something and never come myself and says I feel he is not important abi.

He then went further to say it will get to my turn bla bla bla.

But the thing is honestly, I can’t talk to him. I find it difficult to relate with him. This even got worse when I started making my own money, I don’t ask him anything even my traveling arrangements down to everything I did paid everything myself.

He only did one thing for me, even that self I had to tell my mom and my mom told him.

I find it really difficult to talk to him, sometimes when he comes back from work, I stylishly leave the sitting room into the bedroom.

Not that I have anything against him, it’s just not there and he feels my mom is behind it and angry at my mom sometimes.

I don’t even have any intention to come back home after nysc, just feel I should start my life when I go for nysc.

Don’t know if I’m wrong, I just feel somehow to be honest.

bukatyne:
I weigh each situation and approach differently even for same expectations

On the first thread, the guy was schooling & got a job while the babe was static. He is poor but she was poorer so I can talk about rendering financial support in addition to emotional and social/mental support.

In the SSCE thread, I wager the OP is richer so he doesn't need his girl's financial support. He however needs a lot of her time & emotional/mental support. The guy is not ready to further his education because he said the girl suggested it some years ago. She has no influence over him.

On this thread, the babe would be expected to provide financial, social and mental support if they want to upgrade the guy or restructure his business or whatever because she has more than he does.

bukatyne:
Wetin I buy wey I nor pay for your hand?

The OP abi OP's friend should leave the Uber guy alone.

If he is not up to her taste or standard, let her move on.

I wager she doesn't have other suitors and is 'ready' to marry hence this OP.

People (men & women) should learn when they are second choices or managed and end the relationship with dignity.

bukatyne:
I read the OP of the other thread and I few posts and I wouldn't advise the lady to marry him either.

Not because he has SSCE but because he is very unteachable, unyielding and lacks foresight.

The lady has no influence over him else for the last four years, he should have gotten his first degree even if it is online.

GraciousGod190:
no bro, am a business man.
finishing Ssce is enough, am 36 years old I should upgrade myself because her family refused to accept me for who I am.
if this is the end of our relationship, so be it.

mariahAngel:
You will be very unforgiving.

Raalsalghul:
https://www.nairaland.com/6788228/cost-getting-married-poor-family#106486188

Can you see why I was hyperventilating on the above thread why that Op should not marry that lady with her mum and six siblings.
In that thread, the Op had to worry about the lady's family and his too, yet they kept guilt tripping him with words like "she's supportive, she's this, she's that, who would marry poor people, bla bla di bla"?.

Tables have been reversed now, she has seen a hardworking guy and perhaps don't need to worry about the extra baggage of his family. Better still, the guy is even busy oh and intelligent in this case and maybe only needs the right connection to upgrade.
Yet from the disposition you can see she won't go ahead with it with excuses already ranging from the usual "class/status issues" to invented ones like unknown gunmen.

Assuming it was a poor/broke lady, the thread for don reach page 10 with buzzwords like "supportive, good woman, empowering her" everywhere.


Honestly,I don't know when some men will have sense.

CountVersailles:
Na so dem dey set people up ni

CountVersailles:
Given her venture capitalist background where she hunts for opportunities, she's considering it. We've been talking about it and I say make I hear wetin our greatest gbos-gbas nairalanders have to say. He doesn't earn one-tenth what she earns.

CountVersailles:
Uber na driver. First and foremost.
Secondly, unknown gun people fit carry am kill am anytime.

The lady in question is a top executive at a venture capital. Keep your opinions coming. I'll forward to her. They met in his uber car.

Caseless:
I've always said it, if your wife flaunts her sexiness online, she's inwardly looking for attention of other men. I mean, "They'll tell you that doesn't mean she's a hoe, it doesn't mean she's courting other men, she's trying to impress her husband(most dumb excuse of all) " etc. If it walks like a duck, "squeak" like a duck, then it's a duck. If you do like a LovePeddler online, you are likely to do it in private.

bukatyne:
Your whole family, relatives and village are a disgrace to the entire human race.

Anofia!

ibinaboonline:
Anyone who has grown up with a sibling knows how easily rivalries can develop. The desire of brothers and sisters to outperform each other is a nearly universal emotion, one that transcends social class, culture, and time period. In other words, everyone is prone to this rivalry, even US presidents.

History is chock-full of famous siblings with particularly juicy beefs. If humans are already naturally inclined toward competing with their sibs, adding power, wealth, or fame to the equation only inflames that tendency. In societies with hereditary governments, siblings have done all kinds of terrible things to each other to seize power for themselves. In more modern times, while dynastic political families do still exist, high-stakes sibling squabbling often plays out in corporate boardrooms or lawsuits. But throughout history, one thing is clear: Family is complicated.

Read on for some of the ugliest sibling rivalries across history.


The Puma and Adidas shoe companies owe their origins to a pair of German brothers, Rudolf "Rudi" and Adolf "Adi" Dassler. While Rudi was drafted in WWI, Adi began creating shoes in their mother's laundry room, and in the 1920s, the brothers formed the Dassler Brothers Sports Shoe Company. It soon reached success due to Adi's innovative new shoes with spikes on the bottoms. At the 1936 Olympics in Berlin, American sprinter Jesse Owens won four gold medals wearing the shoes.

But success led to tension between the brothers, and WWII brought them into a full-blown feud. After Rudi refused to employ his sister Marie's two sons, hoping to deny other family members control of the company, both sons were drafted into the military and killed. Rudi was himself drafted in 1943, for which he blamed his brother. Adi managed to avoid the draft, as he was deemed essential to running the business. Rudi tried to desert his post, fearing his brother was planning to take over, but the Gestapo caught and imprisoned him for the rest of the war.

Like many Germans at the time, Rudi and Adi were both members of the Nazi party, joining in the 1930s. After WWII, each attempted to paint the other as the bigger Nazi, although Rudi was reportedly the more loyal party member. The denazification panel agreed, and Rudi was again briefly imprisoned.

In 1948, the Dassler brothers finally decided to go their separate ways, splitting their assets and forming competing companies. Adi formed "Adidas" using a shortened combination of his first and last name. Rudi called his company "Ruda," which eventually became "Puma."

At the height of the shoe feud, their German town itself (Herzogenaurach) became divided. Workers for either company didn't dare cross the village river to the side of the other. For the remainder of their lives, the siblings rarely saw each other, but on his deathbed in 1974, Rudi invited Adi to speak to him one last time. He declined.
(More coming, depending on engagement)