₦airaland Forum

yomi007k:
This "be a man" statement don kill many men.

muller101:
you should have advised Potiphar's wife. Where were you when she was trying to abuse our innocent Joseph.

ufotty2001:
Am a shy person.. I don't have a girlfriend... am not longer young .. how can I start a family.?

yomi007k:
The question I have for you is will Chioma marry you if the tables were turned?


Don't let anyone guilt trip you. Love fades and reality sets in after a few years and by that time it will be too late because you will be bothering with middle age crises. Whatever choice you make will be your responsibility and not "village people"


The truth is bitter but it sets you free.

Xman12345goat:
Good evening all, I am a medical doctor who just graduated about 5 years ago. I have completed my mandatory one year internship and NYSC program. I now work in a Federal medical Center in the East.

The reason why I created this topic is to seek advice on the risk of getting married into a very poor family. I love my girlfriend Chioma very well. I have been dating her for more than 8 years now and would like to settle down with her. I have met her family and paid her bride price.

The problem here is that she comes from a very poor family. Her dad is late and her mum is a petty trader. She is the first child and has six siblings. She is very beautiful, hardworking, God fearing but not educated. She only completed secondary school. Immediately after introduction, I kind of became the bread winner of her family and had to support in training her younger siblings in school not forgetting that am the first son/child of my own family and I have to cater for my own siblings too.

My mum is now bothered and wants me to call off the wedding and marry someone from a middle income family, at least some one with a degree certificate, am beginning to reason with her because of the nature of our economy, but I love chioma very much and I don't want to disappoint her.

tensazangetsu20:
It's mostly women asking op to marry the woman. That's hypergamy speaking. Come on a lowly poor village uneducated girl marrying a medical doctor. That's the perfect nollywood love story but unfortunately for op it won't lead to a happily ever after. A doctor is not even a man shes even supposed to get with her status but it happened. No woman will think logically.

Marrying an even educated working woman in this Nigeria sef dey hot talk less of an uneducated woman that will be a liability. People are saying let op train the woman. As if that's easy on his probably 150k salary. If book no come gree enter her head nko

tensazangetsu20:
Guy notice how all the people supporting the marriage are all women. That's hypergamy speaking. Ask yourself this if you were uneducated and poor would any female doctor be willing to marry you.

Guy give yourself brain o. Doctors in Nigeria don't earn well and the responsibilities she will bring both from her and her family members will stall your dreams. I don't know if you are a resident planning to become a consultant or even writing foreign exams to japa but whichever route you take will require serious financial resources and concentration. Once you marry her now, prepare for her parents to ship at least two of her siblings to you. Don't say you don't care bla bla bla. This is Africa o. A cup of beans is 700 naira now. A cup of rice is 500. Food is expensive. Even on a salary of 500k as a doctor which you need to be senior resident to earn you will live hand to mouth. Better give yourself a working brain before you do what will you will regret for the rest of your life.

descarado:
Withholding intimacy is not the best way to solve marital conflict from one party but do you know that men do it a lot too?
Shocking, right?


That aside, I presently have an acquaintance whose wife was constantly doing this until he said enough is enough. Like joke like joke, it's now on the level of my lawyers will tell you when to see the kids. Guy has moved to another city.
I didn't hear from the wife and it seems the guy wasn't forthcoming too when I started digging deep and I have washed my hands off the matter. The wife was his first and only woman and he said he simply can't continue without having sex. (Wife denies him if she can't have her ways, that's cruel) But the way he is going about it with his heard instead of brain will destroy him.

That guy is making a very great mistake. Fellow guys here have told him but all that's in his mind is sex.

budaatum:
But he wouldn't have learnt to stop offending his wife?

Lord, when I grow up, let me marry a person who is not ignorantly stuck in his ways, and who would be willing to grow and respect me please. Amen

Myrealself:
I took a lot of character from my dad that I don't like about myself. I have come to realize that marriage is not for me. I see the way my mum and dad acts towards each other, and I don't like it.

If it happens that I never get married, what is the implication of that for me? Although I might have a child with a woman I love, but marriage is out of it.

I need different perspective on the matter from matured people.

Iyaebe:
When and if I get married and my husband hurts me,I will deny him sex till he finds a way to make me happy again. Why should any reasonable man get erection when his wife is hurt?So don't go close to your wife for sex if she's hurt,solve the problems first before coming for 360degrees and snake in the monkey shadow styles lol

Baba40:
Dear Nairalanders, this thread is for married persons ONLY pls.. No insults.

A friend of mine told me his wife doesn't rate him at all... I asked him the reason he's thinking in that line of thought, he told me when he checked the wife's phone that on the emergency contact he couldn't find his phone numbers there but her father, mum and elder brother.

I told my friend that incase of emergency he should be the next line of contact but the wife doesn't see it that way

What could make a wife not to put her husband contact in an emergency list? Would appreciate your contribution, thanks.

neonbash0:
Which generation started the Baby Mama/Baby Daddy syndrome and normalizing broken homes.


Silent Generation (1920's-1940s)
Baby Boomers (1940's-1960's)
Generation X (1960's-1970's)
Millenials (1980's-1990s)

arabbunkum:
It's all about settling down. I have two options.
1. A lady of about 32yrs, working (nurse). Unattractive but with good character and very independent.

2. A lady of 24yrs, student (HND 1), young and BEAUTIFUL. Good character and hardworking/hussling spirit.

NAIRALANDERS, rescue me o!

advanceDNA:
U see insult in everything...
Mehnnn!! your paranoial mode is on steriod.. how do u even relate with people offline.?? That's a rhetorical question abeg...no answer ooo

advanceDNA:
Gosh!! You are different specimen of feminist...but I'm not surprised....I've seen worse from those with louder voices than yours.... They come.online, all beast mode but are are the opposite offline and when they need a man... U right.... it's pointless talking with your kind...

advanceDNA:
So you propse of ignoring a ranting woman?? That's not a good option...it could lead to world war three...

From my experience..u gotta just showed inulge women...whether their ranting reason is substantial or petty...or just lack or having a boyfriend..

advanceDNA:
Sometimes you gotta let someone know they are being petty

Missionaire:
I don't get....
A lady created this:
https://www.nairaland.com/6753146/careers-men-turn-off-lady

jaxxy:
Not after keeping it for that long. Guys no toast am for uni? Abi she ugly? The guy no mention sey she fine through out the whole post sef.



I have been to the jungle and back.

bukatyne:
As aunty has overachieved her target, they will increase it so she will need another OP in a short while. except she resigns after her commission is paid.

1. She did well

If a man comes out to say he can't marry a marketer tomorrow, he will be misogynistic

Marketing in the bank is not a job; it is 'let me hold body till I find something else'.

I would never pick up a marketing job myself or let any of my kids do so. Even a marketing husband sef no jell. I heard a fraction of the men also sleep with gaybriels to meet their targets.

bukatyne:
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2. Madam...... You sold your virginity for millions of Naira! You are doing well o Is it all offers you must accept? If you can't meet your target, does it occur to you that Marketing is not your line? What's your game plan now? Sleep with random men when you are stuck with meeting your targets again? You were too desperate and took the easy way out. If a prospective client asks you to sleep with his dog or be a Potty Portia for three years' target, will you succumb? Where are your moral principles?
Good part of you: You are persistent (divert that persistence into a more profitable venture).

jaxxy:
Fake story.

A gal will not Keep her virginity for so long avoiding all the wolves in uni and Nysc only to give it away like a chicken without any hesitation or resistance or conversation unless she has seen a deeper reason than u can imagine.