₦airaland Forum

Teleprompter:
After what happened between you two, the last is supposed to move out or live with it.

Don't mind the people calling you bad names. You are bad but the lady had it coming. Why is she living with you when you are not married? If she had her own place, you would be arguing over her not visiting.

She may be physically tired and she may also be cheating. She may also no longer be attracted to you now that she has her own money.

If you have been having sex regularly before, she must have known that one day, you would force her. I am not justifying your sins but I am addressing your matter from the sinful point of view.

You are no longer important to her and she must find her independence and accept reality.

If two armed robbers are fighting over their loot, we would know if one is trying to cheat the other even though they are both thieves and deserve what unfairness they deal Each other.

This analogy is epic...

Benard5050:
I'm 29 yrs old, I had a breakup with the girl I've been dating for 4 yrs this year April. Since then it has been so hard for me 2 be in a relationship cos I think my ex could still come back cos I still love her.

I had a brief relationship with a lady last 2 months but didn't last long cos I'm still yet over my ex.

There's this lady that joined my working place and also my next-door neighbor, she's kind and her character has been so gud for d six weeks she started working at my place of work.

I think I'm loving her but I will not want what happened with d lady I had a brief relationship with to happen again.

Guys do u think I should go ahead and ask her out?

I'm scared of d negative that might arise cos we are working in d same establishment even though I'm a senior colleague to her there.

Guys is this advisable? I'll be on d tread to answer any question u might want to ask. Thanks.

It's too early to be so certain about her true character in just six weeks.

You need to calm down.

Jman06:
Truckloads of excuses! Women have always looked for rich men from the days of Methuselah. But modern women have taken it up to a whole new level by abandoning their own supposedly traditional responsibilities of taking care of the house, submitting to their husbands and being the virtuous woman. Instead, they want to stay in a man's house and claim equality and feminist even while living off the man like a parasite.

Stop justifying the promiscuity of today's ladies! If you are dating a guy and he fails to propose, you don't start cheating on him because of that, you simply breakup and look for someone who'll propose. But we all know that the reason behind cheating is economic, sizing as many men's pockets as possible and checking who is SIMPle enough to marry that one.

Honourable, off your mic...

Foodqueen:
And am very sure, u once dated a homely girl.

But when she was doing those things her mother taught her to do diligently, you took it for desperation and u abandoned her.

Seeing the way good girls are abandoned to marry all these other type of girls ehn!

Seems personal to you...

There's nothing really unusual with your wife...
She's just another woman who wants her man to tolerate all of her bullshit in the name of love.

The only mistake you made was not putting your foot down & correcting her behaviour from the start.
Overlooking a woman's wrong NEVER ends well because she will simply get more comfortable doing those things you don't like.

I wish I could tell you (like everyone else is doing) to start putting your foot down and forcing her to change, but I'll be honest that you have only a 50/50 chance at succeeding because there'll be resistance (like you're already experiencing).

You simply can't teach an old dog new tricks... and if you try to force it to learn, you might get bitten.

I advise you call her bluff on that "divorce threat", let's see what she can do and how far she can go... but your mind strong reach?

Ogeneigbo1:
I understand your points but I do not agree totally.

My father died in his 80's or late Seventies..His death was never a celebration for us his children because we thought and believed he died early even at such age.

Even that 100 years old man or woman has 1or 2 people who still cherish and love them so much that they wish they lived longer.

It's NOT love to want someone who has lived up to 100years to live longer. That's insensitivity...

I think it ought to depend on the age of the deceased.

An elderly person who lived a full and long life has no need for sober reflections, mourning, and/or despair.
I believe this is why parties are organized at their death — the idea here being that it's a celebration of life rather than a time for mourning.

Where I'm from, it's against our customs (some see it as taboo) to organize burial parties for people who have died young/pre-mature.
A pre-mature death includes the death of children, teenagers, young unmarried adults, middled-aged people (married or unmarried) still with young children.

Much older people (at least 70 years old) with grown children and those with grandkids, do have parties organized for them... And that's fine.

Kevv420:
Where did you see the rape part in my post. Have tried to but I didn't succeed because she scratches me it was very painful so I slapped her very hard out of anger and I left the house for a few hours. I have apologised to her she forgave me because it has not happened before it was the devil and I regret my actions. I need advice not insult

Always ensure you have another woman somewhere — one with whom you've developed a good friendship with over a period of time, and with whom you can have sex with without any commitments.

Unless you're not that kind of guy who has a lot of female friends, having one among them who can have casual sex with you should not be so difficult.

The point here is, don't go and rape/kill someone's daughter just because she didn't give you sex, I take God beg you.
Get it elsewhere if you can't hold yourself.

Enough is a word for the wise...

Iyaebe:
Pan.sophist is a good dish but someone is already on that table, babe look well ooo, crackhus too is married just in case. Can.nicius I can't say much about him. The way small boys are irritating me these days ehn you'll think I'm in my 70's.

This can only be Rose...

So you've changed moniker again.

Mariangeles:
I be God pikin, so I no dey collect another person man.



Why don’t I make you some golden fried plantains instead? You’d like that abi?
Let’s avoid temptation.

Lol... Okay this was funny

Waiting to read what one particular NL pseudo-feminist is going to type in defence of this.

She's one of my favourite robots.

ahnie:
Leave me joor.
Banana,I'm craving fried banana.
Go get it for me.

ahnie:
What's going on here.
Abeg I'm not available for testing o lolz.
Maria, how's life with you?
You were solely missed.

Lmao...

ahnie:
Go get me the fried bananas
Banana.

I hear Mami...

Mariangeles:
Won de!
I hope say no be ”test” you dey test madam Ahnie so...

“Dem go test that him wife/girlfriend fidelity for am...”

Mariah na you I go like to "test" sef, not madam Ahnie...

ahnie:
Banana

Mamacita

richmondefosa:

A sad reality many of us have not come to accept is that 5-10 years from now, the women we will be getting married to will be retired , rebranded, repentant or undercover oloshos and serial cheats.

The earlier you come to terms with this revelation, the better and more peaceful your life will be.

I am not a redpiller or whatever y'all choose to call it but this is fast becoming our sad reality.

I can't say for a fact that they're all repentant, rebranded, retired, or undercover oloshos... But if it's about cheating, then any man who still walks around believing/thinking that his "modern" partner can NEVER cheat on him, should also be praying that one guy somewhere doesn't decide to dedicate his time to that his wife or else...

Dem go test that him wife/girlfriend fidelity for am...

I fully blame the husband for not doing the DNA tests sooner when the children were born.

There's nothing the wife has done here that is unusual to me... the point is, a man ought not let himself be taken for a fool.

The very first night he noticed that she snuck into the bathroom to make a call, dude should have accosted her then and there... No restraint whatsoever!

Lord knows if it were me, she go give me that her phone (a MUST), then explain in detail the kind of prayer meeting that was going on inside bathroom... Afterwards, I'll still call the man to ask him if that's the time to be calling someone else's wife — at least if person wife nor wan gree get sense, you can have sense for her...

Some men believe they are acting mature whenever they overlook ccertain "funny" things their women do... not knowing that by ignoring it, they're simply allowing her get very comfortable in her stupidity.

Nor be only 'he shed a tear'...
Boohoo to him, he should cry me a river.

bukatyne:
Why blaming the side guy in this case? Is he supposed to help the wife uphold her marital vows?

If not her ex, it would be another man.

Don't you know that your gender finds it hard to resist when good looking men with silver tongues approach them?

Needless to say, but a lot of "modern" females are quite easy to lure into bed if a "spec" man knows how to game them, as long as he has the patience/interest to see it through.

Only women with the spirit of God (for real) can help themselves by not creating/feeding the opportunity to fall into sexual temptation.

descarado:
Hahaaaaaaa
Gosh

Na boredom.

Lol...

How long before your bed rest will be over?

dboY1123:
Absolutely nothing.. It's just the kind of familiarity it could bring..staying in the same compound
Or what do you think? should I go ahead I don't have anything in mind

Please go ahead.

Just ensure you separate your work relationship from the "neighbors" relationship – it could be tricky but if you can do this, it'll be fine.

advanceDNA:
She’s a clout chaser...there are hospitals running sperm bank services.... she should go there....

Though she will have to pay more...since artificial insemination is already over 1 million.

And if this is a move to cut cost...she’s a thief..
1 million for all that spec and natural insemination is too small

Exactly what she wants to avoid... which is why I believe that any guy who decides to show interest will be short-changing himself.

But the economy is not smiling, and some of my gender people will still rush at this.

There's no big deal, unless you're worried about something else you don't want to mention here.

I expect her to get a lot of men in her DM who will show interest, even the ones that don't qualify but still want to try their luck.

SimplyFacts:
If I may ask, what is your contact doing on your profile? Because I see no advert there.

SHE is the advert...

descarado:
Seems you are expecting another one.
This one wey you tanda here
Congratulations


Babies are blessings.

Na story you dey find...

debbydams:
he's a ritualist na

Lol...

loyalty500:
hmmm what?

That it's time to start having yours...

LiegeMan:
There were many things that I omitted in my write-up while I was trying to make it snappy but Nairalanders misunderstood me for not including them in my write-up.

Like the saying goes,

That spirit of enjoyment, let's-have-fun-till-mama-call never left her and I've beginning to see that trait of waywardness, crave for too much enjoy in my daughter and my wife always kicks against it each time I try to call her( my daughter) to order or to correct her, my daughter will be 5 years old by 5th January. She wants to train that child with over enjoyment, I didn't want to include this part in my write-up in the other thread below
↓↓↓

https://www.nairaland.com/6822178/just-discovered-wifes-past-how

Because of me trying to be snappy and not going into much details in the above thread, some Nairalanders believe that I was angry towards my wife because she enjoyed her life in the campus while I didn't,
Capital NO, I'm angry towards her because that spirit has not completely left her, this is where the word "Revenge" came from, as it was used in the above thread, and she's training my daughter with it.

I'm here... What do you want me to see in this thread?

loyalty500:
I loved babies as a kid but these days I don't see babies as often, I haven't carried one in 8 years.

It's like God is trying to tell you something.

Lastpharoah33:
Xmas dey reach so. People go ask me my achievement for this year 2021.

And I will proudly present my partner.

No problem...

Good luck in your search.

I'm more interested in knowing why it must be between now and December...

1Sharon:
No

Lol...

akpunda86:
Hello fellas.we are just 5 my two kids and I with wife and house help.i hate house help pisses me off but wify insisting but told her 4frm day 1 she is her responsibility well now shifting to me.
Well I just gave out 50k last week for food stuff and dis week again said no food .
Luckily I was paid sumwhere wanna give her 100k to buy food stuff in bulk but like she diverts so told her list all needed which she did. I'm going market mrw to stock the house. if I give her d 100k dat means I MIT spend again bf December.
Her money management attitude pissing me off

Problem solved.

Cheers...