₦airaland Forum

misterme:
Almost 15 years of marriage and 3 kids, my wife has said that several times to me. She has threatened to leave me. I said ok, yet every morning I still see her in my house. Bros, no bother yourself, na women's way - emotion before reason.

Gozye:
Hello All,

My wife is seriously suspecting am still engaging in a past relationship where I had an issue. Though I occasionally send money for the child school fees that's all. All these are known by my wife before we went into marriage but am just surprised this is coming up now. Pls advise me on how to handle this,thanks

JustforMen:
Ok... makes sense.
But women are strange creatures.

afamaustin:
why will u be laughing

JustforMen:
Why would you find that funny? just out of curiosity

mariahAngel:
The point I am trying to make is that help is necessary. Especially when working and raising children (unless one is a housewife/househusband, then maybe not).
See, there’s no point in one forming wonder woman/superhero when one needs help.
Delegation of duties make life easier. That way, you’re even helping someone else by giving them a job.

Do you know that these days, there are people who get paid to even run errands (like market runs)?
They even have Instagram pages o...
These services make life easier.

mariahAngel:
In Nigeria. For real.

Even those that exploit children by using them for labour, their parents get to receive monthly token.

mariahAngel:
Most of them get paid for it.

bukatyne:
This your edit nor follow

It is a human behaviour.

This stage is not for disturbing one another. There is a lot of calmness and commands are few. This is where if you are watching TV with her in the sitting room and you feel thirsty, you don't send her to bring you drinking water but only wait when she's moving in the direction where there is water and you tell her if she is coming back, she can come along with some water. If she asks you to repeat what you just said, you have to pretend like you didn't say anything. All of a sudden, she shocks you and returns with drinking water. There is mutual respect in this stage. In conclusion, Those in this stage should just work for eternity.

cybertruss:
Well. I pray no one experience this kind of thing. Experience might make you believe. But I needed more on why it is wrong to re marry.

bukatyne:
You mean it is ok for a woman to leave a troublesome husband to become a trouble to another woman by marrying her husband?

Interesting

It would be ironic if the woman left her first husband for adultery.

We Nigerian women are not against oppression, we Nigerian women are only angry that we they are at the receiving end.

abbey621:
if you like shout till thy kingdom come, nothing will change. When people realize there's no legal consequence they tend to become confident so ask yourself if there are no deterrents, what would motivate a rapist not to rape? This is not an issue for men alone, our politicians, those in the judiciary, legislative and executive branch, what have they done to update the law against rape? What has changed in this regard in the past 20 years? If men are beast then women are equally complacent, the mothers, the wives, the neighbors, the church leaders, marketwomen, all of una know at least one or two rapists but chose to keep quiet, when una ready for true change, please let us know.... for now let us all keep shouting on social media and writing epistles.

cybertruss:
She is my first love and we struggled together. We are married for more than 20 years. Our first daughter is 22. Everything was ok with us till I sold my car to build our first house in Obada, Ewekoro, Ogun State. Because I don't hear Yoruba so well I allowed her go for landlord meeting on my behalf. They elected her as the PRO of the community. That was the time the thing climaxed. I have asked her that I want to kiss why don't she allow me. No answer was given . Once in a blue moon either once in a month or 2 to 3 months she gives me green card for sex. Half bread is better than none. If you try to kiss and the green card goes you might not have sex in another months. I survive by masturbation. And in 2 ocassions I went for prostitutes (I won't lie, when I cannot take it again) but hate it because like my wife they don't want kissing.

PT: What was the patronage like at your facility prior to this renewed awareness?

Salami: Let me give you the statistics. Before now, we do an average of 100 DNA tests in a month, but now we handle as many as 400 cases monthly.

chatinent:
What you call real niggas is called efulefu in Igbo.

Mercychen:
What effrontery?
What insolence?
What audacity?
What the hell of a guts the shameless husband has to be telling the wife to her face that he'll marry his side chick??

Chai! Some women dey endure shit!

He's not even sorry for cheating on her, he still has the audacity to bring in another woman. If the wife does something stupid now, they'll say she went too far..

I give up on men. Seriously... This is just too much.

owenseddies40:
Thanks for this your answer, this has really cured my curiosity

budaatum:
Your "J. K. Rawlings style", did you mean Jerry John Rawlings? If so, Nigeria w/should not put up with despotic extrajudicial killings! Buhari, 31 December 1983 – 27 August 1985 was our version of Ghana's Rawling with his 200 year jail terms. We hoped he'd have brought back something remotely like it but na democracy we de now.

People underate this NOI. Thing is, she has the knowledge, experience and international institutional support to transform Nigeria, and all she lacks is the support of Nigerians who can't think of a better person to rule Nigeria, mind. I see an Angela Merkel in her.

Olivertwist1985:
My wife which we have been married for the past thirteen (13) years and have five(5) children, four boys and girl for me ,just left my house on Sunday to her parent house without informed me.

She left because we have little disagreement about monthly food allowance which I used to give her every month but I failed to give her this month when she requested for

She left with the girl which is six months old and a boy two years and left three boys for me.

Please I need your advice, should I go and beg her or I should forget about her and continue with my life. According to my family members, they said I should forget about her because of the manner she left.

Kobojunkie:
You are kidding.... you believe just own man's wickedness was reason why this woman had to die? There were no other men or women there at the same pool who were not held back that could have saved her life there?

The article does not mention that the pool was a private pool, for anyone to assume no one else was there to hold the old man so she could have been saved. Just saying..

bukatyne:
It is so funny that we do not see that men still enjoy these comparison with them. On traditional roles, A man cannot cook nor clean and he gets a wife with his full chest; nobody calls him a domestic liability A woman wants a provider and suddenly she is called a liability.

According to Collins dictionary, a liability is someone who causes a lot of problems or embarrassment. Also burden, inconvenience, drawback, impediment etc.
How is God's name does a wife who is doing every other thing than bringing in money accept the tag above all because her husband provides the money?

Businesses/jobs you can engage in as a woman


1. Keke driving business


2. Barbing business


3. Painting jobs


4. POP jobs


5. Stamped concrete fixing (juicy)


6. Auto engineer


7. Tiling


8. Electrical wiring


9. Carpentry design


10. Roofing.

Let's help increase the worth of our women by encouraging them to do better, by empowering them, teaching them and supporting them to chase and build their dreams.