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bepositive11:
I think the best thing parents can do is build their children up to a point where they can build for themselves

udoka55555:
For sure bro...

At 28 I am married and own my own business...

All I think about when I am working is my unborn kids, nephews and nieces....

I want to make sure they enjoy the best life have to offer through me.

seanfer:
Reason for the question is because some people don't if their odometer reading is in MPH or KM.

mariahAngel:
The comment above was nobody else’s but yours!
You’re a hypocrite and a pretender, and your agenda would soon be totally exposed!


Neither you nor Bratiwhatever knows anything about me!
I’m not even familiar with the person, so what you or he/she thinks do not matter.

For the last time, stay away from me! It is all I ask of you!

GAZZUZZ:
is your vehicle calibrated in miles or km? Meanwhile noise is not caused by lubrication

udoka55555:
Yes
I inherited lovely siblings and good family name.

NoToPile:
Oga which one be coven meeting again. I am actually enjoying the Convo. Abi na lie them dey tok?

What exactly do Nigerian men want? Even the religious ones are not left out too.

You guys should choose a side and stick to it o jare.

Shuu.

Let me finish reading jare.

Rich4god:
From the comment so far I can see that it's not a man's responsibility to cater for his wife's family. Anything he does for them should be out of his own volition.

Fully understood.

VTJN:


You be comedian i swear

descarado:
If you haven't met this type of MIL, I pray you don't meet such.
What wives see eeh, if not for societal and religious discrimination, some won't last 2 yrs in marriage.
And our fathers always exonerate themselves when they are the architect of this circle of problems.
I haven't seen a woman dearly loved by her husband that has time to fight with her daughter inlaw over her son. Never.
She don't even have time.
When she come for omugwo, she will stay just small and go back to her husband cos she miss him dearly. Papa emeka will not even allow emeka to rest.

descarado:
Crackhaus, there is time for everything you know.
Even if it's not hormone, it's the culprit.
That man's calculation is very bad.
Of course wifey asking for divorce is another thing entirely but like I said, lots have been happening for her to come to this stage.
I am very objective when I make my posts and you know it. Guy na idiot. He is not a wise man.
I wouldn't want to have his mum as a MIL too.

VTJN:
Who tell you Buhari government gave the fvck about what the West think or say?

You see Buhari, OBJ and some military head of state don't give a fvck about the West o

bukatyne:
In the cases above, both of them would work together to resolve the issue/ they have a mutual understanding.

@Emotional injury: those were the examples of humiliating acts I stated; denial of sex, trading sex for favours, I will even add unwillingness of to satisfy your spouse.

I was not discussing the context of proving in court (do couples go to court to seek re-dress for such things?); more like defining what is sexual abuse.

VTJN:
You want freedom of nonsense?

bukatyne:
The fault started from the husband. He has 90% of the fault in this scenario.

If the MIL considered herself a mother to the DIL, she would not accept the gift.

I blame the DIL for marrying such a man out of all the 3.5 billion men in the world.

@Summary: True. I know someone who had two terrible marriages (MIL issues) and is a very terrible MIL today. To think they claim to be Christians beats me. I am sooooooooooooo disappointed in them (mother & son).

descarado:
I will disagree with you here totally.
That man took that decision alone. Its more than buying a car. Its more like its my money and I will do as I deem fit with it. Why not wait till she put to bed. That's a woman running on high hormone here and this man is acting like a goat. If he is smart, buy 2 cars for them. Get one for wifey when she delivers and one when mum visit for omugwo.

That's a manipulative mother you have there.
Situations like this will make the wife to become manipulative in the future too if she chose to stay and the circle continues.

When husbands don't perform their duties, this is what you get. U guys should wake up na.
This got nothing with feminism and all the sm.

bukatyne:
The bruises are mutually sustained It's different from trying to penetrate a dry woman without lubricants.

bukatyne:
While divorce is over the top and very rash, a man who buys a car for his mother while he & his pregnant wife doesn't have a car is bad market and useful as P in psychology.

A mother who accepts a car gift from her son when he doesn't have a car for his expectant family is a bad mother and very manipulative woman. Even if her son doesn't have sense, she should have rejected the isonu gift and re-trained him a bit.

ademidedavid:
Ohhhhh, why please?

She looks more beautiful, well packaged than all these younger ladies and you will never believe she has 3kids.....


you will never ever.......

money121:
I swear to God.. big laugh sef
Wetin concern me..
Marriage that almighty God have bless
And moreover she didnt mean that word..
Naso them life take be

bukatyne:
@bold;

Very well said.

I would rather say sexual abuse if bodily/valid emotional injury was involved e.g. say the spouse uses force to penetrate a dry vjay that you see bruises; hits their partner to make them succumb; withholding sex for gains/punishment; performing acts their spouse finds humiliating/unnatural (anal sex, golden showers, spitting, negative name calling, parties etc.) etc.

The OP should go and sleep; not all feelings are valid.

fykes:
When I become governor of my state, it's d first thing I will do. Ban porn, prostitution and nudity in TV from my state. Have a very active state censure board.
Infact, restoring moral codes is one of my cardinal electioneering points.

Lucrativress:
Pregnant Wife files for Divorce after her Husband buys his Mother a Car.She said "I can't be carrying your Baby and walking with my legs while your Mom drives a Car"
What's your opinion?

For me o,in this scenario the Husband was quite wrong, especially if they live in Lagos and her Job entails her going out frequently.
Just the bad roads, waiting under Sun to get a Bus, rushing to enter one,swears from the Conductor can cause miscarriage fear's.
So if you have the means for Uber or to get her a Car,why not?
If it is to give the Car to an Uber man to drive and say "drive my Wife when she needs to go out", why not?
In this scenario,her outburst is quite understandable.
Some recent men are growing less caring abeg, just looking for women to manage their Homes and carry their Babies.
But a divorce was pretty overboard,very overboard but she is hurt.

Regex:
You know, you are wet down there and you are not interested...

Give a rogue man a wet pussy and he plays with it the way he likes.

It is mind over matter. You can't be wet and claim rape.

mariahAngel:

If you don’t want to be unfortunate, STAY OFF MY CASE!
I’ve warned you severally; YOU DON’T KNOW WHO YOU ARE MESSING WITH!
I AM NOT TO BE MESSED WITH! TRUST ME!
There are consequences to messing with me! You’ve been warned!

iod69779:
I live in the US, divorce settlements can get complicated if there is infidelity involved

iod69779:
You have a point but I'd rather do it the right way at least for respect and reputation sake because its marriage not singles relationship

mariahAngel:
Yeah, but no form of abuse should be tolerated or excused though.
I could never deal!

iod69779:
This is one of a series of threads I'll be creating to learn from your experiences and wisdom

I may end my marriage and put myself back out there soon. Emotionally checked out. When you ended your last relationship, how long did it take you before going back on a dating website or making your superman moves on a woman?