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UyaiIncomparabl:

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You're just a clown.

UyaiIncomparabl:
You better learn to be romantic now, else you'll fall into the same dilemma if not your wife go cheat on you turn turn without mercy. Be concerned with it now. No say I no tell you.

May God not allow me encounter misogynists like you in my life.

bukatyne:
You don't care what makes your woman happy?

bdchange:
You are definately digressing from the main message. Caster drag IAAF to court claiming she can't be blame and shouldn't for having high testosterone level in her hormone and should not be a negative effect to her. And I stand with her in that regards. Because she is different from other feminine gender should not be used against her but be accepted as who she is, now that is my point. Now check this stats: Roughly 68% of the population has an IQ between 85 and 115. The average range between 70 and 130, and represents about 95% of the population. Now among this stats comes a very special person Marilyn vos Savant she has the highest IQ of 228 according to Guinness Book of Records. Now will you say she is abnormal and she is not human because she doesn't have the average IQ of humans? And that of Serena Williams is inconsequential in this regards(because it is a thing of choice).

1StopRudeness:
Lol....u savagery came with rational explanation and follow up uestion for extra clarity

UjuJoan2:


This one pain you well well.

bukatyne:


Why can't he? Or was he pretending before?

Is there something stopping him? If yes, he should discuss it while she helps him back in track.

I don't understand how sleeping or dating Telegraph bobo solves her problem with her husband's aloofness.

UyaiIncomparabl:
He nailed nothing. Stop lying to him.

UyaiIncomparabl:
[s]Another one.

You men will always support one another. Does your advice even make any sense to you? Did you see where she's being emotionally neglected by her husband? The quicker you know that, that simple 'I love you' penetrates deep into a woman's heart, the better for you. You men should be vulnerable for once. Acting tough doesn't mean you're masculine.

Or you think it's always about money and surpassing the basic needs? Emotional needs are meant to be met too.

I hereby render your advice misogynistic.[/s]

bdchange:
Yes with facts and figures done by researchers. Have you heard of Caster Semenya, a female athlete who has high testosterone level and the IAAF says she won't be able to compete with her gender due to high testosterone level. Was she born that way? Yes. I can't delve into it right now. My point is there are different type of people born with diff hormonal imbalance and rare gene that when you meet them or hear about them, they become abnormal to you because you don't see it around. Read books, watch countless of documentaries of real facts of life and you will understand that this world as it is today cannot be boxed inside one sentence or meaning or what you personally perceived it to be.

bukatyne:
As the babe complained na, husbandman should pick up from where he left off

KingTom:
Lashing

UjuJoan2:
I still maintain its not a game. But we'll agree to disagree on this.

Bottom line is that people should not take advantage of a marriage to treat their spouses badly, just because they think he or she cannot do anything about it. This poster's husband is not even making an effort.

I know you think her concerns are not valid, maybe even irresponsible. But it's what she wants and it's very real to her.

Marriage should not be an excuse for people to be docile in meeting their spouses needs. Emotionally and otherwise.

bdchange:
I was speaking from the same angle in the past because of my ignorance to some certain events I never knew of. I watched some videos on Youtube to discover that some people were actually born that way. I mean from childhood they discovered they were only attracted to the same gender as theirs. Not because someone coerced them into it but it was natural to them. What do you say to that? Do you call them devil? Or you say they have demonic possession (well that's African ideology of somethings they can't explain). What I have learnt from some of us overtime is that we try so much to fit some happenings into a particular box just like you stated above but then when it doesn't fit we say it is an abomination. The world is statistically going to 8 billion people with genes and traits. You will be amazed at your findings if you decide to do an intensive research. You won't sit in your corner to perceive that only one way should or must be the only way, tagging anything else as an abomination.

bukatyne:
If her husband was never 'sweet', she probably have ignored as he was her choice.

He was and has now become cold.

Like they say: Don't start what you cannot finish.

Graxie:
You will be shocked that both married women will cook up good stories just to win. I think their should be representative from the person area to codedly verify the story.

Tocynone:
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You actually nailed it.
I don't know you but God bless you

UjuJoan2:
I think you're getting it all wrong. It's not a game.

Believe me those feelings she's having are as real as it gets. She needs her husband to understand how his actions are affecting her.

My husband used to do something really stupid whenever we had a disagreement. And he did it because he could, and I couldn't. So I gently told him one day that I may not be able to do exactly what he does, but I have other ways to 'get back' at him if I wanted to. . . . And I gave him an example. It wasn't a threat.

Bottom line is that people need to understand how their actions (or inactions) affect their spouses, and the possible repercussions. Sometimes they don't really know.

UjuJoan2:
It's not a threat . . . More like a warning, or an advance notice.

Maybe he truly believes she can never be tempted, and him not satisfying her emotional needs doesn't matter. He needs to know that he's leaving her vulnerable, he's creating an environment for her to cheat. I think she owes him that.

Olannajewel:
I am satisfied, I just want a little compassion, and romance.. nothing more!

UjuJoan2:
What? It's true na.

Nothing forces a man to sit up more than knowing there's someone else out there desperately seeking for his wife attention.

Men don't know that they have to keep the romance alive in their marriage too. It's not just the women that have to keep slim, look sexy and slay to keep their men's attention. The man also has to keep the fire burning for his wife too, however he manages to do that.

For some it's money, for others it's 'love and romance', for some it's even mad crazy sex. The key is finding whatever does it for her and working hard at it. If not, she's just a crazy opportunity away from cheating.

bukatyne:
Depends on who's asking.

The OP has the money however she's not satisfied.

Is money to meet one's needs important, yes. However, we are not one dimensional beings.

When we pass the survival stage like the OP, we yearn for other things which are also legitimate.

bukatyne:
Question is does the person want to be with them?

@bold: very true.

I am amazed when people say love is not enough.

bukatyne:
It is not all about money or providing

PerfectMatchNG:
Suggestions are welcomed.

UjuJoan2:
Does your husband know there's a high possibility of him losing you to another man? Or does he think you are now 'second-hand' and can no longer attract attention from other men? I'm asking because I wonder why he's not even making an effort.

You have an itch that needs to be scratched. You need to let him know that if he doesn't, someone else will . . .

PerfectMatchNG:
Single mother challenge.
Take yourself back to the reason you became a single mother, will you travel the road again?
If so why and if not why?

Entry closes December 14. The answer Familanders deem the best wins $300 and you can participate from any country.

Fountainofyouth:
To what? After the bull you did on that thread, what more can you do or haven't done? You even went as far as getting a mod to delete my comment abi mention of you, I know you're petty but really? Smh,

FYI this is my only moniker, I use to have one till it was ban forever and I had to deactivate it, so don't even drag another person here.

MamaFryo:
Interesting. This is has helped to answer many of @OP's questions. Are you a chemist?

Fountainofyouth:
I honestly don't care, let's just continue avoiding each other abeg, I'm not in the mood for any back and forth with you......

Fountainofyouth: