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Men who patronise runs girls should be called runs men.
Men who patronise prostitutes should also be known as prostitutes too.

This one sided definition of someone doing runs doesn't make sense.

This is my only contribution to this thread.

Always looking for who to pour their frustrations out on,
Ignorance + frustration usually the cause of all these things.
Witch indeed.
If she has a vagina then she is a girl. What brought about the male gender there?

Pemìakd's style makes me laugh, una go shout tire, she will still do what she wants
LoL

salford1:
Jeez. Nigerians are so perverted. If this was reddit or a different western forum, you would not see paedophilia comments like the ones on this thread.
To think foreigners also visit nairaland puts this forum to shame.

The comments here are beyond disgusting

The sexualization of these girls is so much, I can barely stand to read through the thread.

Can nairaland males ever see a topic about a group of ladies and post comments on it without trying to turn the ladies to sexual objects and discussing about how they will fu*k or won't fu*k the girls?

And of course the normal comparison, bashing and belittling of Nigerian ladies is always there. Once they see foreign ladies they start to bash Nigerian ladies and try to make it seem like Nigerian ladies are inferior.
low self esteem and self hating pathetic males, who won't keep their inferiorities to themselves but must try to drag Nigerian women into it.

Pavore9:
The OP is hearing voices in his head that has convinced him to come up with this story. The tragedy in all these is that he believes everyone will swallow his tales by moonlight,!

LOL!!!!

Franzinni:
While you wine and dine on the carcass of your salah ram and bow your head in prayer that will hardly rise beyond the hair of your head, please take a moment to remember the bravest Nigerian I know till date... She stood her grounds for something most of us will cower for... Mr President, remember Leah...

We all have short memories, but I guess it's the only way to cope with the situations of a failed nation... But even if it will take 40 years, Nigeria will one day become a nation to be proud of...

Leah sharibu... You are not forgotten!!!!

Oh my Gosh

That is so unfair.

calliope:
Why do we remember to celebrate people more when they die? Why? I just cant understand the logic behind it, and I don't want to.

You brought me here

Why people see something wrong in a woman who willingly engages in prostitution (or just sleeping with only one guy for money) and want to bash her for it.
Her life, her vagina, her business.
Why is the above in blue so hard for people to get?

Just had to say something.
Your Story is so sweet.
You married a MAN, not all these boys masquerading as men because just their years on this earth are increasing.
A MAN


I especially love the way he took steps to ensure your safety and made it very clear that your safety is not something he will play with. Also the involvement of his mum

Blessings, peace and love in your home
You seem really sweet.

SifonAbasi:
Good afternoon my good people of Nairaland. Happy Sunday!

Yesterday after a dinner with my husband, I told him everything about me and my ex.
My husband asked me a lot of questions concerning my ex like "Where's he from? What's he into? How did we meet?" A lot of questions about him. I was very honest with him and told him everything. Even told him that he (my ex) disvirgined me.

After telling him everything, my husband response was "okay". I noticed his countenance changed.

He sat for few minutes in the sitting room then went to the bedroom and slept.

Normally we always pray before going to bed no matter how tired we are but yesterday my husband went to bed without praying and I was scared to ask him why he didn't pray.

Early this morning he was moody. He told me not to make breakfast that we will eat when we returned. He went into the restroom had his bathe then dresses up and I did same.

My husband face wasn't bright. We entered the car, he started it and we drove off.

While on the road we were both silent. All of a sudden he diverted from the church route to another route. I wanted asking him where we are heading to but I remained calmed.

Before I could know it, I saw him heading to my village road. I pee on myself. I asked him where we are heading to he told me not to worry.

I began begging him with tears in my eyes. He increases the volume of the car's radio just to distract me.

After 45mins drive, we arrived my village and he asked me to show him the guy's compound so I took him there.
We met the guy's mother, we greeted her then my husband told her everything I told him.

The old woman begged us to forgive her son. My husband collected the guy's number and called him in his mom's presence.
My husband was friendly on the phone. He thanked my ex for the help he rendered to me then told him to send his acct number that he will send him back his money.

My ex told my husband not to bother that he was just helping me as a friend.
That he is sorry, he thought I was joking when I told him I'm married.

My husband gave the phone to his mom and the old woman spoke with him (my ex) and warned him to stay away from me that I am a married woman.

My husband collected the phone and told my ex that for the help he offered me, he (my husband) is going to sponsor his wedding from start to finish whenever he (my ex) is ready to marry.

My husband also told him that his (my ex's) name will be on the police watchlist in case anything happens to his wife.

My ex was begging and promised never to hurt me.

We left their compound to my father's compound, greeted my mom and we headed back to the town.

On our way home, my husband was smiling all through and gave me the car to drive.

We branched an eatery to have our lunch and he bought me my favorite.

We just arrived home not quite long.

Now instead of nairalanders to ask wonder why they were killed, look for how to bring the perpetuators to book and ask for security to be tightened up so to find a way to reduce this rubbish and eliminate it completely

They would rather engage in their favourite pasttime.
Victim blaming.

Followed by bitter idiots who post useless comments like, since they don't want to date broke men, this is what they get. As if it is acceptable for a lady to be murdered just because they don't like her standards.


So many useless comments here from male and female nairalanders alike.
Nairalanders deliver yourself from this disgusting act of victim blaming.

4601CE:
Wetin concern you ?
Na your blessing?

The thing tire me oh see beef
Na her blessing them dey tap into?

How old is she?
If she is under 18 and she isn't a virgin doesn't that speak to the failure of the parents and her care takers to guide and protect her.
Doesn't that mean she was sexually abused?

Nigerians and horrible treatments of victims.
Nothing. Gives anyone the right to beat a child like that.

BTW. How can this woman still be speaking out when she is supposed to be in jail for abuse? She can even post on Facebook and defend herself when she is supposed to be languishing in jail.

What kind of country is this? SMH


Many people in this country don't deserve to have and raise a child, not at all.
Savages in Human skin.
Instead of looking for how to make sure that people are mentally able to raise children, Nigerians will be looking for who is married and who is not married, who has a child or not, how many children the person has. Mtchewww,



Some of the comments in this thread.
SMH.
I already know many posters on this forum are mad but seeing some comments here just reinforce it.

With the way all the male monikers were shouting divorce just because it is a man who brought his story here. I forgot how the Tables would turn if it were a woman who came here to complain about her husband,

This is the exact same advice they would give her.
The same damn template.
-Don't leave all men cheat. How do you know the next one won't.
-Then the victim blaming. Trying to blame the wife for the husband loosing interest
-Then telling her to fix everything she is doing wrong for the man to loose interest, and then telling her to pray and watch war room last last if everything fails lool



Carry go jare I support you.

Like you said. If all fails, the man should watch war room

LMAO

yettymuse:
Divorce is not even an option because the devil you know is better than the angel you don't know. You just have to make your marriage work. I hate to hear about cheating causing dissolution in marriages or relationships.

By the way your wife could be flirting and not cheating completely... Are you still doing those things you were doing during courtship? 9 years is a long time and trust me you must have begin to adopt the mama and papa style. When was the last time you both went for a dinner, movies, walk, vacation...?
Do you even still remember to call your wife sweet names?? Some foot massage after a hectic day?... Raunchy whatsapp message whilst at work?, breakfast in bed.... Little gift, lingeries, etc..

How's is your sex life? Do you communicate your fantasies and cravings? , when was she last time she got an orgasmic gift and said "THANK YOU"! Hunku you're married so no limits, no boundaries... Set everything on fire!

Maybe your marriage needs a rejuvenation, we sef dey get bored sometimes..

Reignite 'em romantic spark and set the atmosphere on fire. Instead of snooping, change your mode of dressing, stay trim and fit, wear a clean hair cut and smear some cologne mix n match.

If all this doesn't work, pray and watch WAR ROOM, please watch this movie and your marriage would be back to how it was.

So sad to see how she has been treated.
People denying her of jobs saying they don't want a whistle blower in their midst. People calling her home breaker, ashawo, SMH
Nigerians and victim blaming. 5&6

We know una ways

Auladimeji:
Sometimes,We guys dates those ladies or woman to boost our ego or to prove to our pals that we can get anything we want

He is very right.

Simple intelligence.

Her bare minimum will be stress for you,
He hit the nail on the head there.

But instead of nairaland misogynists and female nairalanders who love to asslick male misogynists just to show wife material status, to accept this. They would rather attack the woman and look for manipulative ways to shame her for her standards and force her to bring down her standards.

Girls have suffered in this Nigeria sha.

centurionpapa:
The guy should go and hide his poverty stricken face.
Some men dey complain that women like money. Na poverty you want make them like?
Women are prize for the high baller. Check the wives of millionaires you'll understand my point

For the part in bold
I really think that's what they want.
Then later these same men will bash those same women who followed their teachings and stopped "liking" money and say they were too cheap. Too easy to get.
Just one pack of indomie.
Then they will say if a girl agrees for you easily, she is too cheap, don't take her seriously,
They will also throw the girl away when they have money and get a new girl, then say they are not obligated to the old girl just because she was with them when they were broke.

Girls are bashed if they do, bashed if they don't

Any girl that is following a Man's mouth(most times to form wife material) will seriously fumble.

As for women being a prize for the highest baller. Not a good way to look at women,
Some women don't care if you are the highest or a high baller. So your balling level means nothing to them

Just researched on this and seems all these virginity sales are fake,
If real though, congrats to her.

Definitely,

Will try it once at least

datascience:
I saw a post here and decided to prepare my indomie just like that.
Thanks @Nairaland. It tastes nice

Does it mean it was copied? Nope. People can decide to prepare exactly same thing they see. Google can be wrong too, lets keep our swords!

you're sweet.

[quote author= post=70291835]Oh, THANKS sis.
We were confused for a minute for real.
Stay blessed.[/quote]You're welcome

mayberry1:
NB: Miss- You add 'miss' to the name of a single young lady who's not married
Mrs- You add 'mrs' to the name of a married woman
Ms. You add 'Ms' to the name of an advanced lady who's not not married.

You're wrong.

Ms is used to address women/girls without reference to their marital status. It has no relation to marital status.

Ms can be used for young, old, married or unmarried women.
As long you are a woman/girl Ms is used for you.

So Regina can be addressed as Ms
is right.

You can Google search the use of Ms

No dragging him, no calling him an olosho.
Thread is quiet as hell.
Not surprising at all.

What was wrong with his swimming suit?
I don't see anything wrong with what he wore

Mynd44:
Well actually, its her body and she can decide not to have any children sef.

The flip side is that it is his life, he can decide to walk out of the marriage to go have more kids.

These things shouldn't be binary. Childbirth isn't easy and a lot of women after going through one dont want or are scared to have another and they should not be blackmailed into it. But women should also not blackmail men into staying in a marriage where she has refused to have more and he refused.

A better solution is surrogacy. Her eggs, his sperm and someone else (paid or whatever the arrangement is) carries the baby to term. Everyone is happy.

Childbirth does a lot of things to women, a lot of women have to stop their careers, have to give up dreams, have to watch their body go through (sometimes irreversible) change so please do not blame them for not wanting it.

But is it selfish? Of course it is. But is it wrong? No.

Oh my

I'm in love

awoofawoo:
Froggy can now gives Chioma a flying 4uck

I love this

Hope those who were raging in that other thread because of the rumour that NYSC allowance will soon be increased will calm down now.
Crab in a barrel mentality.
If minimum wage isn't increased no one else salary is allowed to be increased.
SMH.

Tolumiide:
You must be thinking that everyone on nairaland is a teenager

Oshey mind reader. You now know what he is thinking about.

He spoke about his own experience and what would happen to him specifically if he were to react the way the guy in the story did.

You mind reader went to read his mind and post absolutely off point. The rush to post comments will lead people to post rubbish.

SMH.

Oh my God

She sexually harassed him and then slapped him after?

F**king annoying.
I hope she is really dealt with I don't mind him slapping her. She deserved it. some people really think they can do whatever they like to anyone they like whenever they want.
Ridiculous.


However, incase there are people who are supporting this guy but would turn to victim blamers if the genders in this story are switched,

Remember to keep this same energy then and not ask stupid questions then like "what was she wearing?", "why she was dancing this way or that way?" If this happens in future.

In his story he said no woman who witnessed it or was told about it supported the lady but some guys did.
Hope he can see what women mean now when we say men who engage in victim blaming are a problem