₦airaland Forum

Girlee:
Course: Nursing
University: Uniben
State of origin: Edo state

Yeah! Thanks a lot.
You're one of many reasons I won't give up.
Have it in mind that you've contributed to my greatness and I appreciate

My dear, if it was possible, I would have advised you to try applying to a Northern University like Sokoto Dan Fodio for nursing. Sokoto is quite safe mostly. Cut-off marks are lower.

Also consider Radiography if they won't give you nursing. It's in demand and less hard work than nursing.
You can also try midwifery route. So you have options. Explore your extended family. An uncle, cousin or aunt somewhere may be willing to support. No need to be shy about seeking genuine help.

Many of us have supported extended family members through education over the years.

Girlee:
Sure thing!
I'm grateful for your kind words.

Young woman, at 18, you have not even started life yet really. I know you may feel otherwise but there is nothing you still cannot do. From getting your degree to becoming minister or even president.
Don't run away. You are too intelligent to do that.

Your dad may not be as financially buoyant as you may think. Be patient and keep being a good daughter to your family and society. Help will surely locate you.

Evolutionlove:
Op one Customer don show.

More to Come. Them don hear 18 Years Old. Their Mustache don Stand

Go check your DM. Some of them will be shy to reach out to you on here.

Dude, some people may genuinely want to help.
You can advise the young woman on how not to fall prey.

We need organised charitable groups on whose doors people like the OP can knock and seek help. She could easily be a daughter to many Nairalanders.

Evolutionlove, I want to believe that you have enough humanity in you to assist people like this young woman in real life.
While some do nefarious things out of greed, a lot of young women go into oloshoism for simple reasons of genuine need or lack.

yungzed360:
This is my girl. Our problems are she most times receives calls and chats with lots of guys and she lies to me alot, I've told her severally to stop and always tell me as it is, although I get angry very easily bt it would be better to digest the truth than lies cus it's hurt me a lot. So I've broken up with her many times and she sometimes swear never to come back again. But after a few days or weeks. She will come begging, calling and texting again and then I keep forgiven her.

Below is a screenshots of our most recent quarrels when she came back begging and the reason for the quarrel was she was at my house when another guy called again, and she couldnt tell the guy she was at her boyfriend's house even though the guy kept asking where she went, she only said she went out.

What exactly could be the problem?
Is it me? Is it her? I'm I too over protective or feeling insecure? Please guys what should I do?

Dude, you left out some vital information. How old are both of you? To see if you can afford to still waste a bit of time.

She might be around 22 years old or thereabout.

What do you both do? What is her socio-economic background?

Look, she probably likes you but she's still sampling around. Relationship is now strictly business or career for some babes. Love ain't got nothing to do with it.

Some babes want a guy to take them out of poverty or seek something specific that you may not be able to fully offer her.
You are probably nice but you can't give her "something" she truly desires.
It's a trade off. If for example she desires a rich guy and finds one who is a tad abusive but meets her material needs, she might stick to him and finally dump you.

For now she always returns to you because she hasn't found that other person. Not to lose out on both ends.

Unless there is something extraordinary about the babe, it might be better to move on. Painful, I know.

EriMma1:
Save up and build your finances for like three years first before talking about marriage.
A woman needs to be well cared for and you need to be financially stable to be able to do that. So build first.

But he can also get a woman who is productive as in working and contributing economically.
Gone are those days when men only provided financially.
If your wife cannot contribute economically, what if the unexpected happens to the man.

35 is a very good age to marry. He said he has a house and a car already.
He needs to look at his income, side income, contribution of prospective wife, etc.

They can marry and save together for a year and then think about having kids, plan how many, etc.

@ dondodo
If possible find a half-way decent lady to marry. Plan family well. No too many kids.
Good luck!

EriMma1:
Save up and build your finances for like three years first before talking about marriage.
A woman needs to be well cared for and you need to be financially stable to be able to do that. So build first.

But he can also get a woman who is productive as in working and contributing economically.
Gone are those days when men only provided financially.
If your wife cannot contribute economically, what if the unexpected happens to the man.

35 is a very good age to marry. He said he has a house and a car already.
He needs to look at his income, side income, contribution of prospective wife, etc.

They can marry and save together for a year and then think about having kids, plan how many, etc.

jmoore:
It will reduce further because


1. People will travel less.

2. Some businesses will shutdown because of high cost of production.

3. Many homes will spend less time powering their homes with generators.

Let the man be speaking English wey he nor sabi.
The way crime rate will go up, only God will save his children.
What are the concrete palliatives for the poor, elderly and infirm?

inoki247:
Arsenal Fans wey be Nigerian abg aw una dey take survive

They are the only Nigerians with Oxygen and ambulance on standby.

Because if you nor strong, Arsenal go just kpai you.

Donedeal1:
Your Royal Majesty

Surely Jagaban will deliver

Too sure

Capacity

Abilities

Agility are available

So be rest assured, kabiyesi.

Nobody can doubt Tinubu's ability even if we didn't like 8 years of APC that brought so much suffering.
If Tinubu began his presidency 8 years ago, he would have performed like 300% better than Buhari did.

The worry some us have is that he might not have the same vigour and energy he had years ago to face the many problems of 9ja today.

But 9ja has its peculiarities. He had to bide his time, help the North rule first to get a sniff.

We must now wait and hope he hasn't lost his Midas touch.

aidameoryou:
Your suggestions are genuinely needed 🙏

Hi my people good day, I have been having a thorough thought all in my mind and have been boiling inside of me on what next step to take.

Over the years, I have seen my mum really been hostile to my dad and it's getting out of hand for me to bear.
I am the first son of some siblings and in my mid 20s.
I live apart from my parents in another state and one of my junior sibling who went home for a little break from school was complaining bitterly about how my mum attitude towards my dad is getting out of hand.

My father has to be the most responsible, respectable, reasonable man I ever know, he doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, doesn't womanizer. He has been the sole breadwinner in the family from when we were small up till this time.
His work isn't moving very well as it used to back then and as such he cannot cater very well like he's used to and even though at that, he's been trying his best....
My mum just doesn't appreciate him enough and I've seen this a million times.

[color=#000000]My next line of action is to call my mum and give her a serious scolding because she hasn't been warned sternly about this by any of my siblings before.
This is getting out of hand and I cannot bear it anymore, please what do you all suggest I could do in this situation[/color]

It may be that your mum never loved your dad but condition made her to marry him. She doesn't feel fulfilled in the marriage and there is really nothing your dad can do about it. She's pouring all the frustration on him.

A major silent killer of men is marital maltreatment but nobody discusses it. A man is expected to be strong and be in control. If you are harsh you are a wife abuser and if you are a gentlemen trained to overlook women's shenanigans, you are a simp.

A man really can't win. I hope you are learning from your dad's experience.
It's very difficult for most men to admit that own mother is far from the type of woman they pray to marry. Because mother is supposed to be "iya ni waura". What her hubby goes through doesn't matter.

Harrynight:
Traditional rulers in Nigeria are politicians asslickers... See them,
Imagine that one bow to greet Queen Elizabeth 🤣

Here is an eye witness account of QEII visit to Benin and meeting Oba in 1956 in the link below.
That attire Oba Akenzua II wore in the pic was taken from Benin in 1897 war but returned in 1914.
Remember that QEII was the Head of State of Nigeria and other Commonwealth countries as of 1956.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gn5c_wd9cVc

pharmaking:
Jos City

Great. Any update?

PHZADDY1:
This countries,Botswana,Zimbabwe and the oga kpata kpata of them all,Kenya I dey always expect news wey fit make you know say true true wonders shall never end.

Na that same gang Uganda, Ghana and Nigeria dey.
South Africa dey hin own very funny category too,

The guy's interview had no impact really except bad PR.

UK authorities already knew. Worry more about what are revealed behind the scenes, not what the diarrhoea mouth guy said openly.

marlow1962:
Fraudulent charges needs to be pressed.

If found guilty, 10 years with hard labour. Haba!

Our Northern people nor go waste time if they find out such fraud. Divorce by pronouncing it a few times don solve it.

Ah ah!

Happy Africa Day!

Seun, Mynd and Mods, why is this not on FP?
You wan see Toke's bum story, snake, Ipob, Rufai and which story on FP?

Nation1:
Hello people,

Am married for 6 years with two kids. Some months ago, my wife started denying sex so much that we hardly have 2 times in a month. Because of this, I no longer disturb her this days cos it's better to let her be than to be rejected since most times I expected her to say no or give an excuse or the other which am always about 90 percent right about.

This days, I don't feel attracted to her sexually anymore. I have never cheated on her but this days, the thought of doing so is gradually creeping in. Have tried talking to her about this but no change. I don't want to start what extra marital affair but am tempted to.

I need your advise guys.

Well, if you provide materially and emotionally as an average man should, she's not ill physically and mentally and she's not performing her wifely duty, you have the right to return her to her parents jeje. Tell them you want a wife who can keep her own basic part of the bargain. Not too much to ask for, is it?

RIP Mama T.

nairalanda1:
Nigerians should stop blaming the guy

The decision had already been taken since

The guy ran his mouth unnecessarily.

But he didn't say what UK authorities didn't already know. Oyinbo close one eye if something favours them for the time being.

Britain gains overall. These are young people largely under 50 or with specialist skills already.
9ja will always find a way.

dauddy97:
Do you work to do?

I may recommend someone to patronise you.
Thanks.

Na skit.

Who get such time?

pansophist:
In every other areas of your live, your past matter. You wan borrow from bank? Oya bring employment contract and pay slips. You want do masters? Oya let's see your bachelor degree scores.

You wan be President? Oya let's see what you've done for the people previously. You wan enter heaven? Jesus will check how you acted on earth. Job kwanu? Let's see recommendations from past employers.

But somehow, when it comes to romance, past doesn't matter. Some girls are walking without womb, their sexual and naked videos scattered in different guys phones, but it doesn't matter.

You are mad. Nonsense.

Na play dem dey.

Let them go apply for job as policewoman but you have criminal record of serving jail term as an armed robber.
In a working society you won't dare. But in romance matter, abort 15 babies, cheat recklessly on boyfriends, sleep with father and son BUT it's all in a day's work. No problem. You can marry a virgin guy,

Hypocrisy.


People forget that the main purpose of sex intended by nature is to have babies. Na we humans commercialised it and made it leisure activity.

A man can be duped with paternity but a woman can't be duped with maternity. That is the key difference between infidelity in men and women.
Till tomorrow, in many animal species, once mating season is over, males and females separate until next mating season.

As of now, around 35% of first born kids belong to another man and 25% of all kids too.

Some women ask: Is it not men they are sleeping with or cheating with? Yes. But the woman made a free choice to do so.
A man biologically wants to spread his seeds, the woman grants access to it freely or can refuse.

IyaTola:

Our immigration and police are very friendly to people with non-black skin.


Most Nigerians speak pidgin English very well i.e our own version of English language.

In no particular order;

You can't understand Nigerian religiousity even the Christian, Islamic or the traditional brands
Don't critise our politics
Don't critise our football
Don't critise our parties, the social type
Don't critise ANY tribe
Respect our world famous policemen
Respect our soldiers, Lastma, traffic policemen, neighbourhood watchmen, Red Cross members, Boys Scouts and even Girl's Guild. In short, anyone in a uniform
Respect yourself, very important
Remember to call the following OGA, secretaries, bureaucrats, gatemen
Respond to all greetings till the greeter is tired; example, good morning, how are you, how was your night, how is your day, etc
Enjoy Nigeria!

We just like respect too much.

MasterJayJay:
How many have you adopted?

You know castigating other people is easy.
Make she tie her womb and wait for new born throway inside gutter. She go find plenty such babies in PH.

JungleJustice01:
My appreciation to everyone who took time out to give some advice.

As advised, I'd just leave the house as is and do minimum maintenance to keep it standing. I don't have any grudge with my brother and I do hope that someday, he becomes financially successful as well.

I believe it's better I focus on other personal ventures at this point.

This is where culture and tradition play a big role. No elders in your family? No olori ebi, okaegbe or whatever equivalent is head of your family in your tribe?

In my culture, if the house was your family homestead, where your father primarily lived in his lifetime and probably raised you all or the only house he built by himself anywhere, by right it belongs to the first son. In the same way the family relied on you to lead your father's funeral rites, (whether traditional or of Middle Eastern religion) when he exited. You decide what privilege to give your junior brother to use the house. Most tribes have clear cut traditional answers to these things.

It is your responsibility to keep the house in good nick. Anything you don't repair well now will cost even more a few years later.

Okpeke22:
But what was an 80 years old woman doing in the farm and alone for that matter? She should be at home being taken care of by her children except of course she has none or they are irresponsible children.
I can't allow my 80 years old to do such hard jobs, she deserves to spend her last years in the comfort of the warmth of her children.

Actually some women/elderly people of that age in rural areas don't want to stop what they have been used to. Stop them and they will die very soon. Just don't let them overwork but activities keep them going.

The lady had every right to go to her farm and feel useful. Nigeria failed her.

RIP iyagba.

Sweetvie:
He got a point. They should be arrested for patronising prostitutes... That's the only way to reduce hookup. And, there are other ways to satisfy ur needs as a guy.
If no one is ready to buy what they sell they'll find other things to do.

Then the lady who offered sex, or accepted money for sex should not be punished?

While this may earn you cheap popularity with women, it's actually not in their favour long term.

It implies that, in your estimation, they are somehow deficient and cannot be treated equally as men or can't take responsibility for their actions as can be expected of men.

So much about gender equality.

PeterTinubu:
Ahnie,are you okay?

Are you okay,ahnie?

Smooth criminal. Ahooo!

davidtemi:
Is there a snake dat is not venomous??

Yes, many. Pythons and other constrictors are not venomous. They use sheer muscle power to wrap around a prey, squeeze and constrict it to death before swallowing. The largest snakes including anacondas are not poisonous.
But this large viper in this thread has large amount of venom, large fangs like hypodermic injection needles and HIGHLY poisonous. But not aggressive like cobra. You have to step on it or disturb it where it is hiding to strike.

chinchum:
Hope it is not independent candidacy that will make every tom dick and harry want to contest as governor or president?

There may be a whole textbook as ballot paper o.., there must be stringiest requirements to be met to contest as independent candidate.

Dude, na format. Power brokers will just sponsor many people to crowd the field. Then settle them last minute to withdraw.

They will never do anything that will truly empower the masses.

Imagine how Wike could have mixed things up with Rivers cash, by recruiting many "independent" candidates. Atiku too.

Tinubu would have had an even easier ride to the presidency if there was independence candidacy.

They won't take of death sentence of kidnapping, corruption or electoral fraud.

Dem never ready.

fyzaila:
Are you sure this your last paragraph exists in this country?

Maybe 30 years ago or in some villages,