I don't understand the people saying let it go, or time heals all wounds. You will never hear a rape victim say that. The guys is telling you that the incident has eroded his self esteem and self worth. If its something he can "let go" I'm sure he would.

My dear OP what I would suggest to you is psychotherapy. That would help you with the issues you face. Please pray and when you have kids you watch over them like a hawk.

flyingdutchman:
Sorry, but why all the graphic and disgusting description of the encounter? I had to jump past that section. I wonder why you would go through the trouble of describing in full details. Seems like either you enjoyed it, or u want to subtly entice other guys

I pity you.

Vibesking:
so your lil boy is used to see 'na.ked' women.
Ok o.
But what do you suggest I do in my situation?

Not naked women o! He sees me in my underwear. Besides he sucked the breats and watched his sister suck it too, believe me theres nothing sexual in it.

As for your aunt, tell her it makes you uncomfortable. I fel we place too much seriousness on things. You should be able to sit her down and tell her to cover up that it makes you uncomfortable. Chikena

Vibesking:
and your people, they are comfortable with thise? Are there males in the house?

My husband. My son is 6, he's used to it.

Vibesking:
I wonder why you would choose not to put on clothes.

Clothes are so uncomfortable! I take off my shoes at the door. I just don't like wearing clothes.

Vibesking:
I have a useless aunt (am sorry for using this term but am upset about the situation). I can't imagine why a grown up can't apply her IQ.
My mom's sister have been living with us for a year now and I must confess, she's beginning to get on my nerves. She's in her late 30s and she has all the feminine endowment.
She's a nice person but my problem with her is that she's not conservative. Am talking about someone that hangs her panties anywhere.. Especially on the door of the bathroom.
When she ties her wrapper, she'll expose her mammarry glad. .
She wears those shorts that only covers her unmentionable and every other things are left uncovered.
The height of it all is that. . The bathroom is perpendicular to the passage which is opposite my room. When am getting ready for work in the morning and am probably heading to the kitchen to fix something for myself, I'll see her bathing. She doesn't even close the door! I'll greet her and pass and when returning the door is still opened.
She does this everyday (morning and evening).
Apart from this, she doesn't cover up properly at all. She wears really short things and hardly covers her upper part.
Just yesterday she was getting ready to go out and she was mending her dress, she wore only a top and panties! Yes panties! and came to sit in the living room while she was mending the dress.
Am not having any bad thoughts about her though.. But am Deeply uncomfortable in my own house!
And my mom sees everything and she doesn't even caution her!
I can't even look at my aunt when she's talking because I don't want her to feel like am staring at her bo*bs..
I don't really know what to do.
if I confront her she may start saying am trying to control her because she's living with us.
You know. . Those kinda crap talk.
Am really tired.

Hahahaha! I'm exactly like your aunt, the only difference is I do it in my house with only my immediate family members!

I have always wondered about Tinubu's agenda. I have never trusted that man and I will never ever trust him. I don't doubt Buhari's integrity but that man backing him up is a crafty devil.

MzNelly:
Lol

If a girl is capable of beating you, you gass to question your manhood.

Its this kind of talk that keeps abused men silent. Not cool

.....

searching4love:



INI EDO IS SHAMELESS. I MEAN HOW CAN A SANE WOMAN BE JUMPING FROM MAN TO MAN THIS GOLD DIGGING TENDENCIES STILL FOLLOWS MOST NIGERIAN WOMEN TO MARITAL LIFE. ONCE THEY ACQUIRE ENOUGH BENEFITS THEY RUN TO THE NEXT MAN. MARRIAGE IS VALUELESS IN NIGERIA DUE TO THE IMMORALITY OF THE LADIES OF THIS GENERATION.

THIS IS WHY I WILL NEVER MARRY A NIGERIAN LADY. I RATHER DIE SINGLE OR LOOK FOR WIFE IN ANOTHER COUNTRY

If she was a man, you wouldn't complain. Double standards

I would like to vote for change, but I just don't trust Bola Tinubu. What does he really want?

classicB:
He said this after a prolong chat that am not a wife material. He said I dnt display the attribute of one, what I.dnt understand is that must a gf act as a wife even when she isn't? Just to prove she's a wife material

My dear Op, you are not his maid. I did EXACTLY what you are doing. I did not cook, clean, wash anybody's clothes or any such nonsense. I am not your maid or wife. Kpata kpata I will lay bed. My husband actually said "I was spoiling you that 's why I didnt ask you to do any of those things". I told him "You are lucky, if you had asked me to, I would have dumped you. I never wash my own cloth, na to siddon wash your own? If I like house work so much I will stay home and do mine. NANSENSE!!!

Ask the visa officer.

Nuges11:
I can’t say for sure, but it seems my irreparable inability to stay in one place without getting bored is beginning to take its toll on me on a larger scale; or maybe my insatiable gluttony eyes just crave new diet. One thing I know for sure however, is that I really dream to travel round the world. It makes me sometimes wish I had superpowers, maybe one that could make me go anywhere just by thinking about it. Trust me, there’s no limit to what I’d do if I had that power.

I’ll definitely swing with a rope all around Europe, but I won’t leave without leaving a mark in Denmark. I’ll probably obtain a gold chain in Britain, and I’ll really love a chance to take a glance of France. Sure I’ll play in the rain in Ukraine, maybe hook up with a pal in Nepal and endure the pain of a big stain in Spain.

I heard you can never have amnesia in Indonesia, some say you can’t go hungry in Hungary, they say it doesn’t rain in Bahrain, they even say you can’t sing a song in Hong Kong. I hardly believe them, but trust me, when they told me about Iran, I ran.

I’d love to take Kate and Dora to Andorra, go to Bolivia with Olivia, dance in my pyjamas in Bahamas, sing with Style Plus in Cyprus, and when I start feeling down, I’ll pick up what’s left of my zeal and head to Brazil. I’ll party with girls in Monaco, Morocco, Puerto Rico and Lesotho; wait, did I just leave out Kuwait?

You want to know if grease is really made in Greece, if Ayuba is in Aruba, if they sing fuji in Fiji, or you just want to know what exactly a barber does in Barbados? Oh I’ll tell ya, but first let me rob Gabon with a gun and run off to Djibouti with the booty.

Well, I’ll party in Haiti while I can, but I hope to dine with the Pope in the Vatican, and if I should pick up as much as a catarrh in Qatar I’m just gonna fly off and hope I land in Ireland. I’ll live quietly in Italy as long as nobody eats turkey in Turkey, everybody wears a tie in Thailand, nobody smokes tobacco in Tobago and everyone is a virgin in Virgin Islands.

Yes I want to travel round the world but since I’m still stuck here in Nigeria for now, all I can do is wish, and wish I will.

You and I share one spirit! Lets make our dream happen

Nuges11:
I can’t say for sure, but it seems my irreparable inability to stay in one place without getting bored is beginning to take its toll on me on a larger scale; or maybe my insatiable gluttony eyes just crave new diet. One thing I know for sure however, is that I really dream to travel round the world. It makes me sometimes wish I had superpowers, maybe one that could make me go anywhere just by thinking about it. Trust me, there’s no limit to what I’d do if I had that power.

I’ll definitely swing with a rope all around Europe, but I won’t leave without leaving a mark in Denmark. I’ll probably obtain a gold chain in Britain, and I’ll really love a chance to take a glance of France. Sure I’ll play in the rain in Ukraine, maybe hook up with a pal in Nepal and endure the pain of a big stain in Spain.

I heard you can never have amnesia in Indonesia, some say you can’t go hungry in Hungary, they say it doesn’t rain in Bahrain, they even say you can’t sing a song in Hong Kong. I hardly believe them, but trust me, when they told me about Iran, I ran.

I’d love to take Kate and Dora to Andorra, go to Bolivia with Olivia, dance in my pyjamas in Bahamas, sing with Style Plus in Cyprus, and when I start feeling down, I’ll pick up what’s left of my zeal and head to Brazil. I’ll party with girls in Monaco, Morocco, Puerto Rico and Lesotho; wait, did I just leave out Kuwait?

You want to know if grease is really made in Greece, if Ayuba is in Aruba, if they sing fuji in Fiji, or you just want to know what exactly a barber does in Barbados? Oh I’ll tell ya, but first let me rob Gabon with a gun and run off to Djibouti with the booty.

Well, I’ll party in Haiti while I can, but I hope to dine with the Pope in the Vatican, and if I should pick up as much as a catarrh in Qatar I’m just gonna fly off and hope I land in Ireland. I’ll live quietly in Italy as long as nobody eats turkey in Turkey, everybody wears a tie in Thailand, nobody smokes tobacco in Tobago and everyone is a virgin in Virgin Islands.

Yes I want to travel round the world but since I’m still stuck here in Nigeria for now, all I can do is wish, and wish I will.

You and I share one spirit!

CityNG:
Does my 8 month old need to appear at the passport office in order to be issued a passport?

She didn't have to do that for her US passport as an example.

Please let me know in case someone has done this recently.

Thanks.

Are you sure you did not take your daughter to get her US passport. As I recall, from the rules in 2011, I HAD to take my daughter to get her passport at the library.

Chilug:

It won't get that bad. Gerrit?

Then you don't know what life is.

Chilug:

And what kind of husband does that? Washing plate. Shh!

So if you had no means to provide for your family, and got a chance to wash plates in a restaurant so your family can eat. Will you do it? Or is it beneath you. While your family starves

I'm sorry for Arik, too many complaints. Soon and very soon.

I've never understood why people question the normality of albinism. It didn't even factor into my thoughts as anything strange. I guess it's because I grew up with an albino next door neighbour. I had known him all my life and he was just a normal kid to me. We used to try and catch his eyeballs tho, and pinch him to watch him turn red. He used to pinch us too.

Its as an adult I realised that albinos are discriminated againt. I mean seriously? They are just like everyone else. Every one else. No different.

menix:
Wonderful!!!!
Is he sex starved to ve had a hard on..
Pls post wat u were puttin on cous am sure u were addressed d way u were dressed.

Y tell ur husband? Its now left to u to avoid him lik plague.
'Tomorrow is pregnant', don't spoil dat relationship btw them cous of somthing u can deal wiv...

Excuse me! Don't spoil that relationship? Seriously? Who spoilt the relationship? Her or the Hot friend? Can you call someone who makes a pass at your wife your friend?

What disrespect! He doesnt respect her or her husband his supposed friend! Spoil the relationship? My God ! You must be one of those people who blame women for every thing.

Momma2:
My hubby and i were visiting a friend of his yesterday.
We are quite friendly with each other so no awkward hugs and all.
However, something strange happened yesterday.
I went into the kitchen to get something to eat, while i was there, he came in and tried to hug me. I didn't think much of it but he continued to put his arm's around me and rub me. I pulled away gently only for me to turn around and see a huge erection.
I acted as though i didn't notice and ran from the kitchen.
He is quite close to my hubby but i feel as though i should tell my husband.
Your candid opinion please.

My dear, you have to tell him. He has a bad friend that can try that crap. If you dont tell him and he finds out, how will he trust you again?

I have to say thank God for my husband o! For all the foolish things he has done in our married lives he has never pushed the financial burden to me. I know he will even wash plates and clean toilets sef to make sure we are catered for.

naturalwaves:
25% gain.

Mehn you try o see as your work neat! My work is never this neat. I have always solved sums jaga jaga all over the place

25% gain . I miss maths well well.

Cutehector:
whr do u think I am? Pls tel me jor

Iya e means, your mother. Ask her her price.

Cutehector:
lol I dnt understand yoruba

ask around

Cutehector:
how much?

Iya e

Cutehector:
One thing I like abt life is d freedom of expression. D right to live as u like. Its all abt choice. So dear, u dnt need to kill urself over such behaviours, wen they get sense, dey wil stop. Your words are very good and I lyk it. Thumbs up.

I beg to differ. Such displays tend to rub off on the rest of us. A lot of men do not think beautiful women have brains, hence the dumb blonde jokes. When we cheapen our selves it rubs off on other women. I have had men proposition me and ask how much because my fellow females have shown them we have a price.

I am smart, beautiful and talented and I want to be judged for my brains and abilities and not the size of my boobs and ass.

simplemach:
And yet they say he did not go for treatment. Somebody should tell me if that inscription beside him is for mr Biggs or shoprite

Ol boy it is better to keep quiet about things you don't know than to shame yourself publicly.

Bosch10:
Am a young man in my twenties.Am a student of futa with the hope of a bright future and a happy and fruitful home.But i seem to be in love with village girls and maidens and wish to marry them for some serious reasons which i will state below
1.True love-if u need true love,then go to the village.village girls love their husbands with all their might.and they are the exact replica of what the bible is saying in proverbs 10
2.Respect-they are full of respect and honour their husbands.it is a rare thing to find a village woman arguing or abusing her husband,or threathening him with divorce.
3.Romantic-Trust me,they are very romantic with the sweet names they call their husband e.g ade ori mi,baale mi,olowo ori mi,eyin fun jowo,abefe okin,ife mi,ayo mi.
4.They are appreciative-They appreciate small things their husbands do for them
5.They are prayerfull and supportive-They encourage their husband and are optimistic to the core.
6.They are strong and hardworking-they are so good in domestic duties and are so strong even when in pregnancy
7.They are good cooks-They have B.tech in cooking any type of soup or stew,they can pound yam everyday and they are concerned with the well being of their husband and children.
8.Their accent-This is one great reason why i love them the more.their accent turn me on anyday any time
9.They are great economists and dont waste money or spend much.Although they are not in the school of management technology in futa,but they are great managers.
The list is actually endless.I know that some will counter me with their flaws but we all know that there is no perfect human being and that is why they are human.some marriages wouldnt have broken if the man had married from the village.i love them so much because they are blessings in disguise.
#teammarryvillagegirls#

Little do you know.