ebubeson: If a married man commits adultery or a married woman commits adultery, should he or she confess it to his or her spouse, or should they move on after repentance prayers? We have men and women with hidden adultery they have done in the past or currently, should they confess it? Will they make heaven if they cover it up till they die? Or must they restitute to their spouse even after repentance? What of those covering up children that came from sex partners and not their spouse? Must they confess to their spouse that the children are from another person? Will they make heaven if they cover it up to the grave?
Please your contribution is needed. Provide guidance and solutions.
The right thing to do is to confess, but if it will make your marriage worst afterwards because of your spouse reactions. Please, keep it a secret. Just repent and stop.. Imagine a lady confessing adultery to her Nigerian husband
Numerouno94: His goal yesterday was astonishing. Osimhen is currently in the form of his life. African player of the year loading. Serie A player of the season equally loading.
He will surely be shortlisted gor the Balon 'd Or...
Jenassandlovers: Hello Nairaland friends and family. Pls....I need your honest advice on my acceptance to one of Ontario college For September Fall Intake 2023. Program of study : Strategic Global Business Management.
My problem now is prove of funds for statement of account with at least 10M. My question is who can sponsor me? My parents and siblings did not meet the requirements to sponsor me. I've a running account with at least a 90,000 a month and I checked my last 6 months statement of account with a total debits 3,297,534.70 total credits 5,305,232.51 and a closing balance of 2,030,199.01 + 3M somewhere but for tuition fee. But my wife sister husband which is my in-law said they can provide me with their own statement of account. Can he be my sponsor? Look forward to your reply.... Thanks
cmNo he can not... He can only do that if it were to be your wife who applied.
Why not consider opting for a student to cover your POF
Naofumi: Good Day Nairalanders. I am 18, but will be 19 by April. Currently am a HND 2 Student in computer engineering. Am thinking is there any need for me to go to service after this HND (I'll be done by December). Some said I should go for degree but I don't want to stay at home for a Year. I heard DE will begin application by next week. Am thinking of Applying.... So my question is Should I go for Service or Go for DE?
Go for service, it is not too early for you to start life... and if you have the resources, endeavour to further your studies abroad
LarochelE: I don't know what I've done wrong. When I met my woman in 2020,she had a child. She told me the whole story behind the boy and her ex. We started dating nonetheless, even though the story she told later prove to be false. But I loved her and the boy respected me and follow my lead.
However, things started going really bad since last year. Sex becomes an heavy duty. About two months ago, she told me we should put a brake to sex and focus on raising her child if I truly love her. Why will I keep spending but then you let me realize I can't access your vagina? And you don't want me to find sex elsewhere. Despite all my begging for sex everytime she always refuse. I told her best friend about this and she told me to be patience with her. But I'm tired. All my earnings, I used most to take care of her, and we've not even married yet
This morning, she told she wants to change the school her son is attending and gave me the bills. But because she Just next my house and denied me sex, I was angry.
Now, she blocked me for voicing out. I have called to beg, she isn't hearing any of it.
I'm just confused at this point
My brother, even though i do not support premarital sex, but, are you sure you are not under a spell of kayanmata?
Sheandi: I met her in church. She seem decent, godly and respectful. She seem like one who wants to serve God (Which attracted me) but, hindered by survival. So, I tried to help and guide her to better life like a youth pastor would do but, she fell in love. Love beclouded her that she didn't even consider the solutions I was bringing for her and after much hell from her people, we got married. Marriage was a huge mess as she was never available whether emotionally, spirituly or even physically. She was so lost in her job that nothing else mattered in the whole of life. Even though I don't earn much, I could meet our needs alone. She seem agreeable and contented while we courted but, immediately we got married, she became someone else. she now wants the world, especially things we do not need. Although, I saw certain red flags while we courted like terrible lies, disrespect for elders, spendthrift, undue quietness, too busy and so on. But as marriage came in, she became a big mess with lots of concentrated and baseless lies, uncultured or unethical hardworking and hard life, infidelity, stealing from work, disregard for the things of God, disregard for time, no time for self, husband or even children. It was so bad I had to be carrying 2 months old baby about as she dumped her on me the moment her maternity leave was over. I forgot to mention that she works a shift job and she does night like 3 or 4 times a week. She works on Sundays to, so she hardly comes to church. It was so bad I have to carry baby to her at work for breastfeeding. I did everything possible to get her another job or business but she frustrated it. She later became very toxic and harmful and she has the backing of her people who I believe wants to ruin her and she does not know or maybe she does not care. In the midst of all these trouble, I was still loving her like the only woman in the world, while she treats me like shit, locks me outside, wont cook or clean the house, became very disrespectful and insubordinate. If you think I didn't try please let me know. I tried to calm her and seek an amicable way to resolve things but she kept pushing me away till I no longer feel safe with her. It became scary eating her food or sleeping in this same room as I learnt an adulterous woman will either kill her husband or herself. And since she's enjoying her infidelity, she might kill me, so i excused myself for some days hoping when i return she would feel some remorse and we would resolve things but I was wrong. She wanted me out of the house and her life the night I returned. In the process of the short fracas, she started rough handling me and I hard to spank her to calm the situation but to my surprise, she ran inside the room, I thought she was going to throw my things out or pick something to injure me but she came out with an obvious wound on her forehead, claiming I tried stab her and before you know it, I was in the police cell headed for prison. Luckily for me, God reveals all that she did or was planning. So, I got revelations from men of God of how she wants to send me to prison with the help of her people. My concern now is, how do I help the children out of her grip and how do I help someone who is in love with her demons delivered. I don't encourage divorce. As a matter of fact I'm a happy-marriage crusader. And haven been separate for 3 years now, I can't see any remorse or repentance in her. Children are still young, 7years old boy, 4 years old boy and 3 years old girl. None of her family as showed any concern and she has so much despised my own family and the church. I recently found out she has strong narcissistic traits. My possible flaws or error as no man is perfect; my income is small but can cater for us; I may be too God minded for her liking; I so much want us to progress together and she wants to walk alone; I send not sufficient upkeep for children based on my current financial status; I want to raise a godly family but she wants us to be an anyhow family; I'm a dropout, she has a masters; I'm a moralist but, she wants to be with dreads, sagging and maybe smokers. But if you meet her, she be like Jesus' younger sister. What do you advice I do friends ? I'm sorry it's long experience of about 8 years. Too much to write
You have lost her so let her be please... Based on your story, she was never meant to be in the first place.
Please, taje this time to focus on regrowing yourself and become more financially buoyant. Just leave her pls
destiny4luv: Good day Nairalanders, so this morning I woke up very early to see a friend in order to conclude a deal with him. I was at his place before 6am and we spent over 2hours before concluding our deal. As I was driving back home I noticed I was hungry and the only thing that was on my mind to eat was jollof rice and chicken 🐔 🍗.
I called my wife and asked her how long will it take to prepare the jollof rice and chicken, she said at least three hours that she need to go get chicken that none is left in the refrigerator. I told her I can't wait that I have to branch an eatery, but she still got to prepare it, because it's my favourite food she said ok. She said I should just take bread and tea when I return why she make preparation for the meal that's what she and the kids took this morning. I said no, she knows I don't like taking bread and tea, I can't even remember the last time I took such. She said no wahala.
I branch one of the eateries and ordered for jollof rice and chicken the girl served it and I noticed it was small so I asked her to add to it she said that will be two portion I said no problem. I collected coke and water and asked how much she said 5k 5hundred. I was surprised, it's been a little bit long I ate at any eatery because 95% of food I eat (especially when in town) is from home, my wife is very good at cooking so it does not really make me fancy eating outside. A portion of rice #1500 (×2) chicken #2000, water and coke #500. Naija which way how the average man on the street go take survive nah?
Sorry for the long write up on top jollof rice and chicken matter. How is the eateries in ur location is it this expensive?
You will appreciate your wife's good food when next you eat it, knowing what it costs out there...
DejiPlug: LET EVERYTHING THAT HAS BREATH PRAISE THE LORD. PRAISE GOD
I write this not to slander, but to intimate my Nigerian brothers and sisters of the dangers lurking outside disguised as biodisk marketing.
Sometime last year a childhood friend confided in me that he was tired of his lifestyle and how he intended to sell one of his kidneys through an agency. I tried to reason with him that it wasn't worth it but he had zeroed his mind on doing it and even showed me the 'reddish' blood enhancement pills he was already taking.
Before you know it, he WhatsApped me that he was running things in Delta state and I should not be concerned about him as he was fine, so everyone became relaxed.
Fast forward to Wednesday, after Valentine, he called to tell me he was back in our hood and needed to see me. We met at a public school in the area and shortly after exchanging pleasantries he suggested we go to my family house to continue our conversation, and I obliged.
When we got home, there was heat due to scorching sun and no electricity which caused me to remove my shirt, while he rolled his top up to chest level and my eye caught a surgically induced mark around his abdomen.
I didn't want to make a fuss initially but after lying that it was yahoo that financed his relocation to Delta, I told him I know it's a surgical procedure that caused the mark and not fetish incisions as he mentioned.
With this confrontation he confessed that being broke and rejection from those he loved forced him to sell one of his kidneys, of which he got only 1million for it.
Life after the sale didn't go as planned as he ended up being cheated on, duped of, stolen from and extorted by police till he was back to zero. Had to sell his phones and work briefly as security to raise money to return to Lagos.
He mentioned getting introduced to the organ harvesters through some boys marketing biodisk (QNet), and that he signed a contract shortly after.
In our area, these youths are identified as hostel boys; they (boys and girls) huddle together in a designated building and come out in droves to market a "supposedly groundbreaking technology" to underprivileged folks.
Now a friend has fallen victim, having lost so much on so many levels, now homeless, and the agency doesn't want anything to do with him.
The essence of this Epistle is 1. To reiterate the importance of involving GOD in our plans. (He believes in doing and inviting GOD afterwards)
2. To utterly condemn the get rich syndrome of nowadays youths. (He wasn't satisfied with trickles of blessings but comparing himself with others we grew up with who owned properties and traveled abroad)
3. To pray against bad company. (He never would have given much thought to hostel boys if he moved more with church boys).
Now he's asking to stay at my house for sometime.
Sincerely, what would you do?
It is so unfortunate that he ended up losing the money... It is sad
RuMiRgO1stSon: Family dog develop leg problem on husband right front leg, limping since 2 days ago.... I have check the leg but see no wound, the local vet also came and checked but couldn't not tell what the problem is. Any help pls
Restrict the dogs movement for now... let you dog stay more in the cage for now
Rubyjade: My Mum has a business and she has many debtors running to hundreds of thousands.
She provides a kind of service that's run even after deadline for payment has passed, the client will still be using the service knowing fully well that they have passed their due date for payment. Even when you call/mail to inform them about the service has pass due dates, they will inform you the will pay and eventually they don't and still continue to use the services.
Kindly help with ways to collect these monies and reduce the debt of her company.
Thank you for your response anticipated response.
It will help us to determine how to be of help if we know the service she renders.
EmiDon11: I wanted to comment on islamic thread but i saw something that looks like a kind of faith proffession about allah, i wanted to click no but unknowingly, i clicked yes.
JONSYN7154: This new neighbor of mine parked into our compound with his newly married wife. They were busy flaunting kisses every where. On the stair case, toilet, inside the car, outside the compound even on the road. At times, they will kiss till the extent, i and my wife would think any moment they might get naked and ravish themselves. Compelled by this recent development, i decided to spice my own love and sex life before my wife starts feeling somehow about us. I came back home to meet my wife in the kitchen. She had her wrapper tied to her breast as usual. I slowly tip toed passed her, heading for our bedroom. I walked into our bedroom, and dressed the bed. I changed the white bulbs to red. I scattered red and white flowers on the floor, and arranged red candles round our bed, placing some candles in the centre of the rug carpet. I pulled off my cloth and wore a white and red trouser to match with the moment. I was arranging the bottle of wine and bouquet of flowers in a small bucket, when my wife opened the bedroom door to see every where in red. 'chimmmooo! Praise, you are now a ritualist .' my wife shouted. She opened the door and ran out. I chased her behind to explain. 'Uju i can explain, stop!' i shouted as i ran out shirtless with just my red and white trouser" I was chasing Uju with a red candle in my hands and i didn't even know. Our new neighbors saw my wife zoom passed them in a flash. Moments later , they saw me with a red candle and red trousers running towards them. On seeing me, they removed their shoes and ran out of the gate, chasing my wife behind.... . My wife's family and i, have been gathered for over 2hrs now. We are all receiving marriage counseling from pastor Ebube... My surprise romance may have put me in trouble. But then, i learnt something from this very experience. Fear anything red.
This really got me laughing and eased every tension in me... Nice piece
LongLiveTheKing: I would love to make it short... A neighbour drew my attention to a cummunity land which was put up for sale. Knowing how important landed property is, i quickly made payment for 4plots of land in the presence of the cummunty heads...
I paid whatsoever i was asked to pay, signed the necessary document (power of attorney), the community heads also penned they signatures as well. Time came for me to develop the land after 3months or, i was told to pay development fee to the youth as tradition demand...i did just that.
Time for me to fence my land i was told there was a problem, infact that the money i transferred to the youth leaders account caused a huge issue due to how it was embezzled leading to the death of one cummunty youth... I tried contacting those that sold the land for me but they where not reachable... i took a trip to whr i bought the land to see things for myself and i discovered the people i bought the land from (community representatives) where on the run from thier community. Another set of representatives whr formed and i was told that the ones i bought the land from couldn't give account of all the cummunty land sold, so in that case they consider no land to be sold... meaning they can resale my 4plots of land to new bidders..
MY PEOPLE AM IN SEVERE PAINS RIGHT NOW... your advise is welcomed please.
So after I was thoroughly bashed on this threat https://www.nairaland.com/7544500/far... by illicit and callmetrinity for not taking an irrational decision that could stem from my emotion or a violent means in engaging those attacking our farm, a fellow forum member based outside the country was moved by my calm responses as the gbas gbos continues hence reached out to inquire about the veracity of the project or it's only a clout chasing. Though troubled but I was calm to engage everyone in the DM and this person has lend a hand of support by introducing me/us and the concept of the project to his community of organic farmers abroad who are quite willing to support.
We have gotten some materials such as flood light and installed as captured in the footage while a sheep breeder has also promised to support with 4 colony of sheep for breeding. The idea is divided into 2 parts, the first part is to study the breeding process of the animals within the same colony after being introduced into our climatic region while the second part is to study the cross breeding process of the animals with other local selected breed.
Also, mobilization was also made for a farm assistance, hence i'm no longer the only one here and and needless to say we have almost enough net to carve out the 3 acres of land to restrict the animals from grazing outside the safety perimeter. Just this morning, I also receive a message about some materials to be expected which include solar powered CCTV camera, Starlink broadband internet among other things. Yes, the same Starlink internet from Elon Musk.
I'm grateful to God for making such an amazing opportunity come my way, I'm grateful to the moderators for support ideas of entrepreneurs in the forum by putting their contents on the frontlines where it can be seen by people and finally grateful to Seun, the creator of this great online community.
Kindly subscribe to my channel on https://youtube.com/africandiarytv, You don't have to look like it before you can do it, go for it even if the odds looks like it doesn't favor you.
Mide Oludipe, Regenerative Agriculture Expert Possible Farms International.
Nice one... It all ended up becoming a blessing in disguise!!!
Politics › Re: Senator Aduda's 20-year Re-election Bid Sparks Mixed Reactions by dawnomike(m): 9:15am On Feb 20, 2023
