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Lawly:
someone else's rape victim spotted

And it takes a rapist to know such hidden rape victims, innit?

So that's it? You don't want the idiot to pay? You want to unleash the animal to prey on other victims?

This painful story is making me angry.

It will be your choice if you choose to prosecute him or not though. There are Anti Rape advocacy groups that could help you fight this if you choose to thread this path. You can call them right away to direct you on what to do.

Secondly, do not blame yourself. You didn't rape yourself. Somebody did. He is responsible for the atrocity. Resist the urge to take up his guilt and responsibility as yours. Refuse to take the blame and shame. You were only naive and trusting, you didn't kill anybody. You didn't commit any crime. I repeat, refuse to accept responsibility for this rape. Place it squarely on the horrible animal you once called a boyfriend.

You are scarred physically now. You will likely be scarred emotionally and psychologically in the coming days and months and years. Pre-empt that. Get a therapist to help you break that cycle or go to those NGOs, they can provide professional help for free.

Lastly, get closer to God. Get more spiritual, you will need the support, strength and comfort therein in the coming days.

Don't leave this to chance. Take care of yourself. Then bounce back.

Life experiences are lessons. Learn your lessons. Let this make you stronger not weaker. Be the victor not the victim.

TonyeBarcanista:
Nigerians cannot read and this is bad.

Nowhere in the article relates the Kano death to Covid-19 complications. Instead, the deceased were outpatients suffering malaria and other forms of ailments but were denied medical access simply because the government want to use the facility for treatment of Coronavirus disease.

Receive sense quickly! Disappointed

light099:
2001? You're only trying hard to defend yourself on this public forum but sincerity is far from your claims.
Lagos, Abuja and maybe PortHarcout were the first places in Nigeria to have network signals maybe till 2002/2003, later when it began to spread slowly to other places.
So even if phones and SIMs were common things affordable by rich students in year 2001 as you claimed, except they stay in those popular places, they won't have access to network to make calls. Moreover OP claimed he was from a poor background, not a son of Elites or very rich parents.

What about the school fees scratch card? Tell us about how your university sold scratch cards to you in 2001.

Some people will just come here to lie anyhow thinking only zombies and Jambites are on NL.

2001: Maybe not all states. They started with Lagos, Abuja and PH, August 2001. Only Lagos and 2 others till 2002 and 2003? You lie! Someone should help us with the roll out timelines of the GSM operators.

2002: For sure many states were up. What we can argue is penetration and ubiquity.

You didn't read where I said many cultists were into armed robbery or involved in some shady deals or businesses that funded their lifestyles as revealed by OP and many others here? Or you are just nitpicking the points that will boost your agenda?

Once GSM operators popularized scratch cards other businesses jumped into it and you could use it on cyber cafes, abi? Why wouldn't a school use it to make things easier for themselves? And remember even before that you could buy scratch cards to make calls on the nitel phone booths even before GSM phones, I think. So, what's the big deal with scratch cards?

Of course, he distorted some events or timelines to cover his tracks, but not in the blatant manner you are portraying. The deliberate distortions does not invalidate or discredit what he revealed here. Period.

light099:
I like your analysis and it would make me revert on my promise not to argue anymore.
GSM came, lets say Aug 2001. Everyone heard about it but everything, very newly kicking off, only very few privileged could own Phones and SIMs till that year ended. In 2002, phones were still expensive, all the same more people were buying, but the real issue was that SIM cards were even more expensive than some phones. Lets say you were still able to scale through and get a phone and SIM card, issue of network signal was another big challenge then. Even as at 2003, many places still have limited services. So, which planet in Nigeria was OP when as at 2001, phone was so easy to get for him and his friends, they were also able to buy SIM cards, they were also able to have enough network signals to stay in the leisure of their rooms or any location they were to call one another? Anyway, someone like me is smart enough to read between the lines.

Then, he didn't say MTN recharge card. He said 'School fees sratch card'. Which Nigeria university produces school fees scratch cards in 2001?

Moreover, I was the one who named 2001 to give OP some grace. What he personally said was that he finished 2004. Meaning he most likely got admitted in 1999 or earlier (judging by some of his other posts). And when in 2nd year in 2000, all these started. I can keep picking out things in his post because I read every of his posts with rapt attention.

I like the intention of OP but the unnecessary lies in the stories are obvious which discredited the story, and made impossible for any part of it to be believed as truth or usable to share with others as gospel truth. OP himself can't deny. Only you people turned yourselves to his mouthpieces to defend blindly.

So in essence, I only see his story as a realistic fiction that did justice in orientating our naive teens about evils of cutism. I think that's the most important thing anyway.

2001, if you had a phone as a student you were a big boy or big girl. And yes, big boys and girls had phones in schools as at that time and they would oppress other students with it. What bigger boys were in schools then than these cult boys who were by then veteran big time armed robbers or involved in one shady deal or another? Some of them where even children of the elites or very rich.

GSM companies started by having network coverages in city centres and then spread to the hinterland gradually. Any school located in a city centre would have been covered in 2001.

This is the last time I will respond to you on this issue.

light099:
I don't think OP is the owner of this story. Or he tried mixing his real story with lots of lies. There are lots of contradictions and lies.
From his write up, one could infer that he likely got admitted to uni around 1999 - 2001 and was initiated around one of these years. But the way he kept mentioning 'phones', 'calling his friends with phone', 'ayee guys collecting his school fees scratch card' etc. My question to OP is, where did he see mobile phones and scratch card in 1999 to 2001? Except for the indomie generation who might be young or not yet born that time, we know there's nothing like phones that time, same thing with internet, so why was he mentioning phones and scratch card?
I can keep picking out things and contradictions in his story.

Let me agree with you he got admitted 99 that means he graduated 2005 at the earliest if you add 1 year ASUU strike to it.

GSM came into Nigeria August 2001, through Econet and MTN. Phones and Sim cards were expensive for many students but some had it. By 2002, the price of sims and phones started going down to rates affordable by many students.

Nokia 3310, came out worldwide late 2000 and by 2002 it was the most popular cheap low end phone in Nigeria . Many students had it or they had other cheaper phones. I was a student then so I know. That's a milestone phone for tracking the timeline of cheap phones in Nigeria. The only problem then was per minute billing by GSM operators was still on the high side so students would make calls and cut it quickly or they would flash and text a lot.

So I ask you why should the OP not mention GSM phone calls?

By 2001, 2002, 2003 scratch cards had become common place. Glo came in 2003 and by the time they came, scratch cards and cheap phones were everywhere. To disrupt the market they came with per second billing and that was a game changer.

So I ask you, why won't OP mention scratch cards?

The guy is talking about what happened around 99-2005, if your timeline is correct, so what the heck are you talking about?

The timeline is congruent with his storyline or am I missing something here?

PS: OP may even have graduated even much later than 2005 as a result of delays due to his cult related activities.

light099:
I think the lies discredited the story except for those who believe and accept everything with the heart of a zombie. Right now, I can't even say what to believe in his story. All those juju aspect and anything could be lies as well. It means I can't pick any aspect of his story and tell it to people as the gospel truth knowing fully well that he might have lied.
I can keep pointing out things. If it's a matter of confusing his trackers, he didn't do no justice to that, because he gave too many details, if I was one of his peers then, I could have easily pointed out who he is. Nothing is being concealed here, that's why it's a fiction or someone else's story.

His intention is good anyway, say no to cultism, except that it's impossible to believe a story full of lies as the gospel truth.
Cultism is bad, but as for his story, I only take it as a fiction which has done justice in giving novices the idea of what the life of a cultist looks like.

GSM came into Nigeria, August 2001 and by 2002 many students were already using phones of different varieties,
expensive and cheap . I said many! You can take this to the bank.

So, what's your point? Even if he distorted dates, as you claim, is there no cause for that? Let me prophesy something for you, no matter what you write here, you can't and will not be able to discredit this OP. You came late.

dokyOloye:
That you don't know something doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
Dave Umahi of Ebonyi has about 500 technical assistants(TA)/executive assistants(EA)/senior technical assistants(STA).
90% of them are hardened cultists mostly drawn from Ayes.A good number of them have official cars.
Most of them are given ridiculous portfolios like technical assistant on fruits and vegetable markets but their real job is to stifle any opposition.
If you as little as make a Facebook post condemning any of his activities, they start attacking you from there and it might even culminate in physical attacks if you persist.
Ebonyi is not a very big place,everyone knows each other to their father's compounds in d village.

What's your point? You took off and never landed. Is cultism good because of the above or do politicians use them to wreak havoc on society and later dump them?

Land.

This post is not the true. A disgruntled member of the estate did the report to spite her estate members for unknown reasons.

Beremx:
Don’t mind him. He wants to be slim like Agbani Darego. He’s not even fat. He just has the body of “rich men in Nigeria “.

Just wonder where your compassion and motherly instincts went, Berem. A father with kids and relatives and benefactors just died. A little sympathy won't kill you, you know.

Please, this juju argument is distracting us from the main objective of this thread which is SayNoToCultism. People who want a juju debate can create a new thread and iron it out there. Thanks

Xone3:
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Waoh!!! Will send you a request please.

Responded.

Xone3:
Thank You. I appreciate. I am trying to get in touch with a psychologist for therapy. She is yet to get back.

You are welcome. I am a therapist too just in case that doesn't work out.

Xone3:
Thanks, I actually have a job and we stay apart. However, I went home due to the covid19 lockdown and things haven't changed within us.
They feel I am proud, disobedient and wayward. All I have ever tried to do was please them. I am not perfect, I am stubborn, hard hearted, kind, firm in my decisions and highly opinionated. Abused at 8, psychologically abused from young till now. Thanks for your comment

Read your other posts on this thread. I believe strongly you need therapy. There is a history of abuse, dysfunction, fear and trauma in your childhood and you have embodied it though you are doing a good job of covering it up.

If you don't handle it now, it will so mess you up mentally and your outcomes in life will show it including your relationships. The burdens you are covering can even mess your health up with time.

You are reacting to life now from a place of subconscious pain, anger and resentment. Your reactions to your parents, relatives and to spirituality(to God) is not by the real you. The real you is buried beneath all that pain and fear and anger.

You are angry at the world and angry with God, though your conscious mind might deny it.

Stay away from your parents for now. Take responsibility for your own healing. No blaming or buck passing at this stage. Get a therapist. Get healed. Find your authentic self again.

Forgive your parents as they are acting out of ignorance. If they knew better they would act better. Heal, forgive, then go back to them. The dynamics will change.

Best wishes

xeju:
takeaways from that match (1) okocha is one of the most useless players Nigeria has ever had (2) darkness will definitely overcome light (3) power tussle and nepotism becoming prevalent in the squad (4) allowance issue (5) Nigerians swear for that squad (6) one of the most shameful matches in the history of Nigeria football (6) etc...

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Just shut up. Okocha was our best player on that pitch that day. Taribo may be right. There was no cohesion or energy from our team. Taribo seemed angry and frustrated the entire game.

veteranExboy:
I merely observed my right to expression in a non violent approach and didn't compel any writer to stop writing their thoughts.

By calling the writings of people pouring out their hearts and soul out here to save others fiction? My friend take several seats!!

If you don't believe their stories, ask for more information in a respectful manner or keep silent.

Tremors mean subconscious fears. Subconscious fears may lead to subconscious internal stress leading to internal dis-ease (an unease which you experience as tremors) which may lead to a disease (hyperthyroidism, hypothyroidism, liver and kidney issues, autoimmune diseases etc) if left untreated or unresolved.

My key question will be were there things that happened in your childhood that would make a child fearful or feel unsafe?

If there were, this wil be a pointer to the kind of treatment that will help you.

My problem with Westerhoff in that game was leaving an ineffective Yekini in the pitch for the entire match. He had Ikpeba, Siasia and Ekoku on the bench and we played that match as if we had no 9.

Another problem was many of our defensive players being offensive minded with 2 minutes to end the match. Haaaa, that match still hurt just writing about it.

Was it Westerhoff that told Oliseh to send an aimless ball to nobody which resulted in the Dino Baggio throwing that triggered the equalizing goal? Was it Westerhoff that told Eguavoen to barge into a harmless Roberto Baggio from the back for the stupid penalty we conceded against a 10-man Italy?

Anyway, if what Bonfrere is saying is true, we must prosecute Westerhoff. No time.

After this match football could not hurt me anymore. I became immune. Damn!

damiBJ:
Summarise...be concise.... Wit strong warning.
Diz is wat am trying to say. I never mean to derail.

You have to know when to stop, when to be silent, when to stand, when to sit, when to walk away, when to run.

You don't know when to stop.

Stop responding!

It's called wisdom.

Sanchez01:
You all still don't get it. It isn't about whether or not our country is a haven, Utopia or some wilderness. A racist will look beyond those things and always consider themselves well above you because of your skin colour.

I'm sure you've never been there. No matter how much you package a black country, or a black man, you're seen as an ape all because of your skin colour.

It is not about your leaders but your skin colour.

Hiaa, so you are still doubling down on your obvious goof? I know you are intelligent so I will give you the benefit of doubt.

1. He criticized Africans for worshiping the white man while they think of us only as Guinea pigs.

2. He criticized our government officials for not developing our nation and looting the treasury thus exposing ourselves to such ridicule and shame.

3. He urged us to wake up and free ourselves and Africa from the shackles of mental slavery that has brought this upon us.

4. Note that in between the lines he has called out the racist French scientists( he wrote, "they think of us as senseless baboons" ) but goes a step further, instead of playing the victim, like we are wont, he makes a call to action - that we must take responsibility for our own development.

Pray tell, what can be wrong with this exposition?

Sanchez01:
Unfortunately, your parents wasted your tuition fees, I'm sure. In plain words, you are the foolish one so far.

Two French doctors exhibited normalised racism against Africans, you posted the piece but didn't realise it and thought our government is running to them.

For the record, what those French doctor implied is that Africans are Guinea Pigs.

France currently has 82,165 COVID-19 cases with over 6,507 deaths recorded so far and rather than the doctors suggest that they start with them, they needed to be sure the vaccines are working by sampling them on lab rats - YOU!

They readily ignore the fact Africa present has the lowest death cases of COVID-19 across the world but still feel the the need to see whether or not this vaccine works.

This isn't about the Nigerian government. Eto'o, Drogba, Demba Ba and other African players that are non Nigerians are reacting to the call of the two doctors. Egyptians, Algerians, Morrocans and other Africans have been reacting since yesterday across social media platforms, the first I have ever seen.

You should speak against this if you aren't a lab rat but you can't because you are likely one or uneducated enough to read the message clearly and would rather blame your government over the comment of your white superiors.

Please understand what you post before commenting. It is embarrassing.

Pfizer did this same thing in Kano in 1996, when they tested trovafloxacin in the wake of an epidemic.

Chairman, this time slowly and consciously read the comment you are criticizing. Smh

simplelex:
As long as there's intimidation,there will always be cultism... Wetin men don do, na only God fit forgive person.. Cultism brings out the worst in you. Nobody be superman, na just grace..

No brother, there is another way. You can walk away without shame, knowing that those intimidating you are ignorant, having their hearts covered in darkness or you can bring in soldiers or you can leave that city for a while or for good...

The mistake people make in the face of intimidation is to think that there is only one option open to them - joining them or a rival cult. No, there are many options out there that do not involve darkness and sorrow. That's the lesson we've learnt so far on this thread.

Congrats for not killing yourself. It sure took a lot of courage to do that.

Now, take the next step, the same courage, use it to forgive the people that hurt you. No, they may not deserve it but you do. You deserve to be free, to let go of the weight and the pain, to be happy. You deserve to be light for the journey ahead.

Carrying resentment and unforgiveness against someone, is like someone hurting you and you drinking acid and hoping that the day you see him you will pour that acid on him.

You are committing suicide by another means.

Scores:

Your Enemies 2: You 0

Let go and live for your own sake. Let go so your success and results can speak for you

OlawaleBammie:
U re just talking like a small pikin.

Do u tink its easy raising children all alone?

Do u tink about she shame she faced after ur papa's demise?

Do u know the kind of allegations she was subjected to which led to the retrieval of ur father's properties by his families??

Can u count how many days she had to sleep with empty stomach just to face her responsibilities (u and ur sister)

Do u tink its easy moving from one location to another??

Do u tink its easy trying to provide necessities for u just for u to b equal with ur mates?

Do u tink its easy facing abuse from ur husband's family? Am sure she faced it.

Av u sat down and tinn about how troublesome u could be? Dont tell me u re not while growing up.

Do u think about how depressed she is? Even in depression she was stil there for u and ur sisters.

Do u know how hostile one can b why depressed??

Do u know what she had to cope with just to feed u, pay bills and other necessaries??
Am very sure one day she was deep in thought and u came with ur usual wahala, dat is why she threw u knife, not dat she wanted to but u and depression caused it.

Its a pity u didn't see her one of those nights wen she was crying alone cus u were deep asleep. She needed a helping hand but non showed up, instead she was denied of her husband's properties. This alone may make her hate u guys u know!!!

Its a pity u re putin her into sword again tru ur actions and inactions.


U BETTER APPRECIATE HER FOR NOT TAKING THE DECISION TO SELL UR SISTER ON EBAY TO LIBYA AND TRANSFER U TRU DHL TO COTONOU

So this is you boldly and blatantly excusing the serial abuse of a child, who did not ask to be brought into this world, who did absolutely nothing wrong than just being a child, by his own mother, a full-fledged adult. This is you siding an adult and making the victim feel like an oppressor and deny his pain thus perpetuating the cycle of buried trauma and the many dysfunctional consequences that's bound to follow in this young man's life.

Well done sir.

SmooshCHN:
But we lost in that finals na. We choked and KD was available. Who wouldn't want to play with Steph and Klay?

Guy, tell yourself the truth, that's too much fire power!!! Damn!!! It's like playing with aliens

SmooshCHN:
I remember watching it live. I legit screamed from my bed.. And the one Iggy set as well. No shooter attempts that shot without setting their foot.

Steph and Klay were freaking beasts!

And you all were wondering where all the hate on KD for joining the duo was coming from?

EDDYBABA01:
Please can I ask a question, when the op was sharing his testimony he made mention of dealing in drugs, please do you advice me to do that since I am not a cultist. I am not taking drugs and I only take weed once in a blue sky, because I will be moving to Singapore �� soon. And I am considering it as side hustle too. What do you think guys

Singapore? Lol. In Singapore drugs is called dada. On arrival in that country's airport, written in all signposts and billboards and documents in bold red letters are these words, 'Dada is death.'

RIP to you in advance if you make up your mind to die.

No wreathes for fools.

Repeat

Repeat

steady986:
I'm glad you brought this up. LeBron's first year in Miami, his usage% was 35.5% while Wade was 35.6%. This is nothing like KD and Steph in KD' first year there. Steph dwarfed KD in usage%. And as the years went by, LeBron steadily topped Wade in usage. Why? Cos Bron is a floor general. KD isn't, he has to defer to someone for that job.

So deferring to a ball handler means he can't be number 1 and that a team can't be built around him? I don't think so.

OKC management making the mistake of encouraging Westbrook to be co-number 1 with KD was the beginning and cause of OKC's fall from grace.

steady986:
I don't agree. The two are very reliable ball handlers, and one obviously is a better passer and floor controller than the other. They're both capable scorers, although KD is more diverse. It's only fair that they be co-number 1s. Or are you trying to tell me Stephen was number 2 when KD was there?

Well, your opinion. Apples and oranges. It was Steph Curry's team before KD came, so even though KD was their best player GSW's game was woven round Steph.

It's a lot like Miami Heat was Wade's team when Lebron and Bosh joined even though Lebron was their best player until Wade handed the team over to Lebron to lead voluntarily.