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No body die a virgin cause life Bleep us all. The whole troubles, challenges, responsibilities and trauma, inspired majorly by the part of the world we find ourselves, where nothing matters but selfishness and greed.

Life is hard, life has erection. Depression is real, people are going through a lot, from financial debacle, emotional drain, psychological disorder and so many other issues.

When you see anyone alive, he or she deserves accollade, especially when such person is born in Africa, particularly, in Nigeria, and to a less privilege family.

bukky1994:
1 Pete 5:10 read it, and you will be fine

Depression should be psychological issue that needs therapy, someone to have logical conversation with, and not religious. Reading that Bible passage won't feed someone that is hungry or someone who is failing in school. It needs real practical evaluation and not hypothetical theory.

Superstition and the too much believe in this craft thing is funny. I am not underplaying the potency of witchcraft, but your wife have to relax, she is just being unnecessary paranoia. OP, from the chat, you are my kind of man, you are a man.

Since it's marriage, you will use maturity and wisdom in handling it. But why chatting with your wife about such issue or you guys are living separately? I think it's something you guys can sit down and talk it over.

Trusting girls is a sin I have stop committing since early years. A girl was lying naked on my bed beside me and was on phone with her boyfriend, she told the boyfriend that she is very sick so she went to her auntie's house. Months later, she came begging me to be her boyfriend, as a Comrade, I first laughed before I ran like Samuel Ortom from Fulani.

VeryWickedMan:
Who paid for the unfinished drinks?

Hahaha, abeg no kill me with laugh.

As you see me like this, I don't like stress because I love living carefree attitude to life, so the last thing I want is relationship or female drama. Where I am serving, all of them are from Akwa Ibom and Calabar, I am the only guy from the North and speaking and behaving social and classic.

Those girls, fellow corp members, the local girls and even the students have a way of trying to attract my attention. Some collecting my contact in the name of sharing information, others for friendship and all that but usually end up sending weird messages or calling me in the night.

I am thinking about what to make out of my life, I have been successful with women in the past especially in University, right now, I want to be discipline and get a purposeful and fulfilling life, not entertaining stressful drama from girls.

By all means, let us all join voice and action to condemn violence of any kind. Violence against humanity is a despicable act to do.

However, should I call it emotional madness, or affectionate blindness, or delusional stupidity, that a man or woman, will see an abusive ex and go back to him or her in the name of stupid benefits of doubt, or he will change, or has changed, and after traditional marriage, such lunatic showed you the sign, you allow your insensitive family to push you to the abusive marriage and what do you expect, public sympathy?

At least, you help yourself with your sense first before someone can help you. Years of beating and abuse, you still don't have the courage to leave the marriage, is it because of the car? The material benefits? Or lovelorn that may come your way in future?

Anything about domestic violence or any violence at all can drive me nuts. Between your friend and her family, they should have my congratulations, until we see obituary.

If it's not working, what happen to walking away, why should you endure abusive marriage? Why would you accommodate what threatens your sanity?

LoL, OP,is this question really necessary?

Dubaku543:
This is the candidate because he has a band of empty brainwashed out of school children that don't even know how to spell PVC to vote him into power!! Talk about Human Development Index using northerners as a specimen, marking from the era the Northerners first seized power, what have they done for their people to improve them like their counterparts in the fastest developing world?
If the Northerners can develop themselves mentally talk less of economically nobody will want to leave Nigeria. Infact we will be running to the North by now instead of UK. All they know is giving birth like rats littering the entire place with poverty and nuisance.

Even Peter Obi that turned Anambra into Dubai is still living in Lagos State.

I just heard your husband side of the story, true true, na you fvck up.

Initially, I wanted to give you an advice but then I realized that you are only sexualizing and objectifying the lady, sexual obsession with her and not the love you so proclaim, and that's why I wasn't disappointed when the girl sees you as her money source because you have seen her as object of sexual gratification.

When my girl wants her church to sanction and regulate our relationship that year, the church said no sex till after wedding, I asked them how is that possible, they said anything conji hold me I should baff with cold water. Maybe you can do that too.

I still don't understand the concept of sending nudes especially to my own gender. Most people are just sick in the head.

OP, you are not normal and you need help. I have experience something like that before, I enjoyed wooing ladies but immediately they accepted, I will lose interest. But at some point, I realized that playing with people's feeling doesn't make me intelligent.

First of all, you have to sit down and think about what you really want from the opposite sex. When you meet a girl,let her know the kind of guy you want. For example, I easily get bored with attention, so I always tell girls not to be too available for me if I want to take her serious.

You just have to be aware of the fact that you are growing and you have to adjust to reality. You can still talk to people you trust about it.

Women can lie to you no matter what, especially when they are cheating in the relationship. Women are very comfortable with lies and deceits. Trusting women is more dangerous than trusting Buhari. Devil used her for a reason.

Atiku Abubakar contesting presidential election since 1992 is not a crime in Nigeria Constitution. That doesn't make him desperate.

Donald Duke will be running to Aso Rock to shake hands and take pictures with the same Atiku Abubakar when he wins.

Nigerian politicians don't talk issue base opinions but irrelevant issues.

Just tell her you will come, that day she won't come and force you from your house. No need for stress.

One like that even told me that I am going to be the MC in her wedding and I accepted, I even assured her that I am bringing my DJ friend too.

Nonsense and Buhari.

There's no basis for comparison. I am not a one sided gender advocate, but God can never be "she" because God don't bleed every month.

Whether

Black

White

Purple

Green

As far as my peace of mind is guaranteed, I am good to go.

You and your boyfriend are very mad. He is very mad for raping you and you are very mad for enjoying the rape, and very madder for bringing it here and very maddest for saying you don't want to break up with him. If you people are jobless, go celebrate that fire burn national assembly.

How can one possibly love two men equally, the same time? That girl is really far from sense.

The lady has the final say, but if wife abort any pregnancy that I begged her not to abort, then marriage don end be that o.

franchasofficia:
This is the reality of life for many men, as a man grows older, his interest in that jigijigi stuff declines and if he is rich and bent on exploring ladies outside his marriage, most times they pay chicks (2 or 3 self) to be touching themselves while he watch in ecstasy cos the strength and interest to be digging a woman is no more there like when he was younger.



Men are most naturally active sexually between 17yrs to 34yrs, after 35yrs their sex drive begin to dwindle, and the first casualty of their declining sex drive is that woman they have been with sexually for years, either their wife, fiance' or girlfriend cos they hardly feel the urge with her unlike before. This is different with younger guys who are ready to dig any available female lol.

Ladies must try to understand this, though some men are exception as they can dig till they enter grave

LoL, you are totally right.

UGBE634:
fellowship leader and you were having reckless sex. Odiegwu

The word"fellowship" is not limited to religion or church, sir. I am talking about academic fellowship, I am an Art student and during the University days, we have fellowship like writers league, drama critics, independent theory analysis group, these are the fellowship I was leading back then.

Anointing have colonize the girl.

slimfit1:
Don't try to impress Hausa people with the money they are just receivers. look at Rotimi, he bankrolled Bubu instead of Bubu to give him proper jobs like Attorney general or secretary of state.

The people aka (thieves) that we have never had or seen all appeared from nowhere taking top serious positions.
Warning for Tinubu. A goat that goes hunting with a lion should know that whether hunting was successful or not the lion will still eat.

Rotimi Amaechi cannot be attorney general, he is not a lawyer.

BirtherOfKings:
She likes u and u like her..den go ahead unless u are 36 or have a wife, just don't sleep with her and ensure she focuses on her studies ..she will get over u soon..than her infacuation

Thanks for your input. I am in my mid twenties, no wife, no girlfriend.

LoL, thanks dear.

I visited my cousin in Port Harcourt and spent three weeks. My cousin's neighbors are all igbos. There's this particular one that has a daughter. She is just 18 years old.

I am very social and jovial, so I started talking to her, maybe when she is working and I am passing, I will jokingly ask if I should help her and she will smiles and accept but I don't always go.

We fell into the habit of gisting, mostly in the evening, talking about school, business, life plans and all that. And I noticed she is always looking forward to that evening.

My cousin and his wife are not so good with their neighbors, the couple, that's my cousin and his wife, are the self righteous characters, which I am not comfortable with. They are the only ones not talking freely with the other neighbors the way neighbors ought to.

I am aware of this but I still accepted the friendship the young girl offered. I don't have any friends and I don't no where to go, so I think it's normal to find her friendship a relief.

She usually compliment my look, mostly my hair cut, skin color, physique and my friendliness. Then I travelled on Saturday. Since then she has been calling me and we have been talking about everything. She said she misses me and wish she give me a good bye hug before I travelled, I took her comment as innocent one.

Today, this morning, she called and she asked me out, telling me about how she is so in love with me, how she has loved me right from the first time we started talking, although, before asking me out, she begged me not to get angry at what she was about to say.

Guys, please, how can I advise this young girl to prioritize her studies over relationship, without sounding judgemental? I want to talk to her to be focus and that relationship will come later, I don't want her to feel bad about herself. Please any idea?

Although, I like the girl too, but I feel she is too young and I don't want to take advantage of her.

Forgiveness is a virtue.

But like Vladimir Putin will say; it is not my responsibility to forgive, that responsibility is for God, but it's my duty to send those who have offended me to God to be forgiven.