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A girlfriend should be a potential wife. Relationships are investments, not hobbies. Date with a purpose.

Most people don't understand the word, loyalty and fidelity, in a relationship. What is so special about cheating?

OP, I understand your pains, it's difficult and hurtful, you just have to sit down, cry, drink and move on. She is not worth your psychological stress.

You see why it's difficult to commit to people? They are bunch of manipulative dimwits using you like tools.

Op, we can talk about the plus size woman later, can you help me contact the fair slim lady dancing beside her with that open gown? I need to ask her for a favor.

Looks matter a great deal for me. I am naturally sapiosexual, which downplay looks, but recently, I became conscious of how my lady should look like, outside the intelligence.

My spec, my ideal woman should be tall, at least, average tall, moderate breasts and buttocks, to bring out the feminine side of her, full hair, fair or chocolate in colour, and not plumpy.

Economic factor: we have young men who are ready to settle down, but the economic downturn of Nigeria is taking away their dreams. Who do you feed and raise kids with no job? How do you take responsibility with meagre pay cheque? How can a jobless man raise bride price?

Emotional fraud: most people have neglected fidelity in a relationship/marriage. Men having extra marital affairs and women having babies for their ex in her marriage.

Scary event: Most girls are into hookup and do irredeemable stuffs for money, how can a man witnessing all these have the courage to settle down?

For me, I will gladly choose bottle of French Wine over marriage.

That video deserves Oscar nomination.

Cheating is never a mistake, it's a habit, a choice, a dishonest act and indiscipline. Instead of cheating on me, why not end the relationship if I can't satisfy you.

Marriageable girls are scarce. This hookup and serial cheating is scary. These girls are doing some irredeemable stuffs for money and when you want to marry, you have to think twice and judiciously search.

I have been introduced to some girls, even my mom try to match make me with her friend's daughter, but I am not even interested in marriage.

Me want to live my life and enjoy my peace of mind and be grateful for the blessings that come my way.

LoL, it's nothing to be worried about, it's just a friendly family get together. Family ni, neighbors ko?

The distance between you and sense is very far, very far like the distance between Akwa Ibom and Sokoto. We should clap for you and your useless fiancee? Oh, she is not useless, at least, she is distributing pvssy for area boys.

Nonsense and Buhari.

To stop serving people breakfast

To stop playing with people's feeling

To stop approaching girls for relationship when I know I can't date.

Moving on with my life after break up is one of the easiest thing for me now. Most times, the girls will be accusing me if I ever take them serious while we were dating.

I don't like over communication. Most of my close friends, we talk on phone once in a week, but chatted some days, not everyday. I don't enjoy constant communication with people around me, I run out of what to talk about, sometimes, even in relationship, I love communicating with my lover but not over communication.

My Mom and my auntie call me everyday, at first, I find it intriguing and excited, but recently, I am getting tired of their call, it's getting boring. They are calling everyday of this life, sometimes, I don't even know what to say to them when they call.

If nothing happens, when there's no special occasion, I prefer I communicate with my girlfriend once in a day.

I can't really predict the amount I will be spending for my wedding because I will bring my siblings to Paris and some cousins too. France will be brighter that day.

Hahaha, I always know that I can never date a girl that has male bestie. Male bestie is just another name for kpekus shareholder. Nonsense.

About your predicament, I understand the pressure, fears and worries. I have been there before, it's threatening.

First, you are having sex with your bestie which means it's free kpekus, no billing, but you refused to get condoms.

Secondly, you guys were knacking instead of reading, I pity your result.

Thirdly, you said you are an orphan, Idoma proverb said an orphan penis no the rise when urinating, but your own rise.

In conclusion, congratulations bro, you are truly a cumrade.

Hahaha, I can't, I won't, I can't can't date any girl without sex.

Girls are like mango, while you are waiting for it to ripe, another guy is eating it with salt.

I don't know what OP will be looking for in a friendship with the lady that turned down his advances for two years.


OP, you have to understand that when you are not good for a boyfriend, don't accept friendship. Don't settle for less. A girl you asked out and want to be just friend, have nothing to offer.

Either you date or you move on. Go and have female friends that you didn't ask out, they will respect and benefits you.

Don't give her the money, ghost her, she doesn't deserve you. And never go and ask her out again. After two years, as if you didn't any girl since those years.

Back in school, I have one girl that was generous with kpekus towards me. She was a constant visitor to my room. She doesn't shave her kpekus. She leave it bushy, she was the first girl I met like that. Before we had s*x the first time, she confidently told me that she doesn't shave because she likes it bushy. We did it, but I prefer the clean, shaved and fair kpekus.

PS: for health reasons, girls are always advised not to totally shave everything from kpekus in order not to allow germs have access to it.

She did not use kayamata on you. She just use her kpekus confuse you. If she used that thing on you, immediately she asked, you would have done transfer without coming to nairaland.

I have always make it a point never, on no account to have anything with single mother pertaining relationship.

Most single mothers are toxic, emotionally damaged, dramatic and confused. No offense intended.

I have seen most people that have single mother as wife complaining about how the wife is gearing everything she has to the first child, who is not your child and allow the man to take care of his children. She wrongly believe that since you are still alive, her children with you should be your sole responsibility, therefore, giving all her attention to the first child, above your children.

Secondly, there's this sexual confusion when it comes to their baby daddy. When they visit their child or meet with him, the man who already know their weak point can easily have them, ending up serially cheating on you with the man that damaged them.

I have seen single mother misbehave towards their own children because she prioritize the one she had before the marriage.

I will rather remain single than to complicate my life with single mother.

I am a virgin. I have zero body count. Team virgin all the way.

Totiemide:
Na them, AA buga group. Just joking anyway.

The trauma no be here I tell you.

Hahaha, AA buga group, what does that even mean?

Yes, to avoid such situation, we ask important questions when necessary.

MrPower:
@Demigod22 that's funny but you know some relationship never started with the question "can we date"? Some people just woke up one morning to find themselves in a no going back relationship

Immediately you woke up that morning, you need to ask those questions before leaving the house. Questions like these prevent complications at the long run.

Most of my new friends thought I am a lawyer because they claim I ask lot of questions, but I am curious, I ask to know and avoid complexity.

That girl must be the good example of what ASUU strike can do English student. I wonder how OP was able to understand her write up.

Marriage experience is relative. While others are suffering and enduring marriage, we still have people that are enjoying their marriage.

I pray that when I marry, my marriage should be peaceful, genuine and supportive.

On the first date, questions about health status like genotype, blood group, goals, inspirations, dos and don'ts, religion and education, culture, beliefs, hobbies, occupation and occupational hazard and every important thing need to be asked and discussed.

But these girls will abandon such and ask for suya, pizza and urgent 2k instead.

Personally, I have no such experience, while because, I am O- blood group, and AA genotype, which can marry any genotype, so I have no issue, but I can imagine the whole trauma of losing your lover because of genotype issue, although, it's better than suffering the children.

Relationship should be built on mutual respect, trust, love, and compassion. Relationship it's not meant to be stressful when you are with genuine partner. We shouldn't have rules in loving each other, no ill thought, no disrespect.

I see lot of people struggling with relationship they should let go, if it's not working, move on. Don't beg for love, you deserve better. Don't allow people love you out of pity. When you notice signs that your partner is derailed and your concerted effort didn't yield any positive result, then move on.

Anything that cost you your peace of mind is too expensive.

In my head, I have the idea of great relationship, but somehow, I always mess it up. I have met great girls who are genuine and can go all out for me, but I didn't give them that time, attention, and love, they desire. I easily become bored when a lady is too emotionally available.

But I have worked on myself in order not to give people reasons to think all guys are the same. But I am not ready for relationship still.

My major challenge is the fact that I have lot of girls around me and I go imtimate with them but I can't call anyone my girlfriend, I don't have the courage to be committed to any relationship. All thanks to these redpill guys that messed up my head.

I am the one hurting girls or ghosting girls, and I am beginning to worry, especially now that I am growing too fast.

Drsnives:
Only me go
Me: Call
She: flash

Me: spend
She: chop

Me: contribute to all pertains her
She: shi shi

Me: Bleep
She: moans

Me: buy gifts on her birthday
She: sms birthday gift

Me: Takes her out
She: buys 100 naira aboki yam while visiting
I no know why i still like her
I tire

Hahaha, she has used kpekus to confuse you.

Cheating is like norm now. The rate at which people cheat makes marriage scary. I'm not dating currently so I won't say I am cheating, I am only fornicating. But most of the girls that come around for pleasure have boyfriend and they give me conditions just to protect their relationship. Don't call me so so time, don't chat me so so time, I will be the one to visit you and all that, some broke up because the boyfriend saw our chat.

I am tempted to ask one after romp, why are you cheating on your boyfriend? But I have to mind my business.

The man that said don't judge a book by its cover must have drank from Solomon's cup.

I have had series of experiences with looks and the inner content and I can tell you that it's not funny.

I am also guilty of this particular phrase.

Sometimes, I wonder if relationship worth the stress some people go through for. OP, it seems like you are the only one carrying the relationship for head like family curse. A girl you called your girlfriend won't post your pictures but go on to post your suppose frenemies pictures, claiming to miss him. Instead of you to confront her and take your stand, you are here asking for observation, awon science student ni?

Don't allow that girl to stay with you out of pity, don't be her plan B or second option. You are the King, the prize. If she can't respect you, then why are you still with her?

Girls are begging me to post their pictures and I don't even do it, and I don't even allow them post my pictures either. Don't beg for relationship. Ask for relationship and be in charge.