advanceDNA: Madam doctor...Its funny that u choose to blame only men for pregnancy.....
Well who u blame is totally ur choice The good thing is Ur choice doesn't change the party that face greater risk in premarital sex.
.and until the gender that faces greater risk realizes that escaping being a baby mama is more in her control because she can decide to have sex only in marriage.....this ur blame game and victim card will never end
funny thing though.
Marriage doesn't stop a woman from being a single mother at all. It's never a guarantee.
The only thing that can prevent a woman from being a single mother is if she chooses to never sleep with a man and swears off having children.
Olaolar: I wanna make agreement with my girlfriend inlaws .. To pay bride price instalment..
I will pay advance , carry the girl go,after she give birth firstborn. I will pay half again. If she con born second &third born i will round up the pay .. So i need who will be my shortee. Economy do hard and about to dew for marriage ..
FRANCISTOWN: Something like this happened to me when I was in school. That's why I have no single iota of respect for married women.
Dear guys, the moment you stop bothering yourself about what a woman(GF,Wife) does with her body is the day you achieve true power. The woman body is always a public property.
Just conduct DNA test on your kids, have enough savings for your old age, exercise your body and brain, go for regular checkups.
Don't get bothered about a dog eating shit. After all,there is a reason Jesus likened a woman to a dog.
jezuzboi: "Someone" Tweeted: The man who gives her orgasms has more control over her than the man who gives her money.
"Whoever" Replied: Not if she's a financial woman. Financial women give into impulses that gear towards money-romance...fixing their minds on a man's money like their lives depend on it...& once a woman's mind is fixed on a man's money, it becomes easy for the man to dominate her thoughts completely. Hence, their romance, though monetized to some degree, is likely to afford her earth-shattering orgasms...unless, of course, the man isn't incapable of attaining such sexual feats. Even at that, his money would still have the woman firmly in his grip, affording him utmost control over her.
All she'd most likely do in such situation would be to become a sneaky cheat, finding her way to the beds of men who are capable of attaining that feat...whether rich or not. But belonging solely to that category of men can be fatal in every sense of the word. There's this account of a married chatelaine who, after sleeping with a young orgasm-giving vassal one night, had him seized by the palace guards the next morning & summarily executed in a dungeon on trumped-up charges, not only to eliminate all evidence of their adulterous night together & prevent her young lover from becoming a nuisance now that he thought he was entitled to her favors, but to stem the temptation to seek him out on the following evening for more orgasms.
It becomes obvious from those scenarios that both the the man who gives a woman money & the man who gives her orgasms are vastly equipped to have maximum control over her, even on equal levels. But if complicated events arise that require one of them to be tossed down the bin, the orgasm-giving man is likely to be that man, as evidenced in the account involving the rich married chatelaine & the young orgasm-giving vassal. It is said that she had him seized & summarily executed on trumped-up charges, not only to eliminate all evidence of their adulterous night together & prevent him from becoming a nuisance now that he thought he was entitled to her favors, but to stem the temptation to seek him out again & again for more orgasms.
So, basically, after indulging guilty pleasures with the young vassal & gratifying her orgasmic cravings, fearful thoughts of what would likely become of her reputation if her little get-together with the young vassal were to make it to public knowledge—dawned on her. To take no chances, she had him executed, since, in her elite view, "how we view ourselves is of little consequence...but how others perceive us is important." The young vassal, though having afforded her temporal orgasmic delight, became a potential avenue through which she could become permanently ill-perceived & brought to disrepute. So she soiled her hands to keep her reputation from possibly getting soiled.
Guess whose expense all of that was at? The young, promising, orgasm-giving vassal, not her money-giving husband, as such is hardly the case with money-giving men. In the context of the quoted tweet, while an uncovering of events that solely revolve around orgasmic delight without any solid purpose attached to it can be demeaning & even scandalous (depending on the personalities involved), an uncovering of events that revolve around money will always accrue striking repute to those involved, thus posing question marks to the narrative that a man who gives a woman orgasms is more likely to have more control over her than a man who gives her money.
If anything, both men will have her perambulating in both directions until the need arises to kick the orgasm-giving man out of the equation the moment it appears he's getting in the way of her paycheck from the money-giving man. However, if the woman is rich, she could ditch the money-giving man & pitch her tent with the orgasm-giving man. But that wouldn't be in the context of the tweet being replied to, would it? Be that as it may, whatever is worth doing is worth doing well. And very importantly, money is a defense.
Now, over to you. Do you subscribe to the stance that a man who gives a woman orgasm has more control over her than a man who gives her money?
women are like stomach. We will have both one way or another. But I will choose the money giving guy over the orgasm one anyday, anytime.
advanceDNA: Most controllable?? Hahahahahah...When there is a very high risk of condom damage? .. ...How can the gender bearing 95% of the risk leave the decision to use a condom ... that can break .....in the hands of the gender that has little or no risk to bear....I mean, the gender that can just walk away and refuse to marry u or care for the child....its funny
U know what's even more funny..mu trying to absolve ur gender of any responsibility in consensual sex u willfully spread ur legs to collect....
The most controllable variable....is closing ur legs and not fvck a man that has not married u
because if truly she understood risk of abandonment and decided to abort when the guy said he wanted the baby......she would have aborted all the same, when the guy outrightly said he doesn't want the baby
because the other options have bad side effects. It could increase the risk of stroke, breast cancer, ectopic pregnancy,causes hormonal issues, may lead to infertility. Then weight gain and high blood pressure are the common ones I see.
advanceDNA: What are u saying...A woman has never needed an orgasm to have a child...a woman only needs to receive a sperm in her vagina to have a child...that's why the only sure controllable factor is for to not receive it because shes at greater risk as u said...
.because a condom which u prescribed earlier can break, contraceptive too(pre or post sex can fail.) So....Why fvck a man that has not married u and can walk away if u understand the baby mama risk...then end up dragging him over a child u alone decided to keep when pregnancy test came out positive
like I said. Contraceptive pillswill soon be available for men.. vasectomy is also a better option
advanceDNA: Most controllable?? Hahahahahah...When there is a very high risk of condom damage? .. ...How can the gender bearing 95% of the risk leave the decision to use a condom ... that can break .....in the hands of the gender that has little or no risk to bear....I mean, the gender that can just walk away and refuse to marry u or care for the child....its funny
U know what's even more funny..mu trying to absolve ur gender of any responsibility in consensual sex u willfully spread ur legs to collect....
The most controllable variable....is closing ur legs and not fvck a man that has not married u
because if truly she understood risk of abandonment and decided to abort when the guy said he wanted the baby......she would have aborted all the same, when the guy outrightly said he doesn't want the baby
I will repeat. Every man's orgasm can result in a child. Not every woman orgasm can do so. Not every child is conceived through consexual means. If a woman opens her legs to receive fresh air. She will not get pregnant. Only when a man puts his penis in between her laps can a child occur( except IVF and co) so yes the variable with the most control is the man.
honourwealth: With the current situation of Nigeria. Is early marriage a blessing or a curse. Share your opinion to help a brother at 34 with 40k paying job
34years physically is not early marriage, but emotionally, spiritually qnd financially is another matter.
The answer actually is that only you can answer this your question.
advanceDNA: Ohhhh....So now it's one person making the child.... not both?.....now I get it.... No wonder we have baby mamas everywhere
So U women just feel "oga im pregnant must automatically lead to aso ebi and wedding ring, forgetting that just as u women can opt out whenever u like....the man too can do same.... Sigh!!
how easy is it for a woman to opt out?
You know what, I agree with what you are saying and implying.. More women should opt out by abandoning babies with their fathers who know next to nothing about parenting. More women should opt out by dropping babies at orphanages, hospitals, CHURCHES, mosques and fire stations. More women should opt out by throwing babies at pit latrines, gutters and refuse heaps.
advanceDNA: Ohhhh....So now it's one person making the child.... not both?.....now I get it.... No wonder we have baby mamas everywhere
So U women just feel "oga im pregnant must automatically lead to aso ebi and wedding ring, forgetting that just as u women can opt out whenever u like....the man too can do same.... Sigh!!
The most controllable variable to making the child is always the man. Next time wear a condom, or better still, get a vasectomy.
NeckingNgulping: Your girlfriend should act mature in this if she wants to spend the rest of her life with you. Yeah, people get pregnant in relationships out of carelessness when they never wanted to. And I'm never against abortion. It depends on the circumstances.
In this case, since you love this girl and you want to marry her, there's no need to abort the child if she will accept to marry you too.
The biggest scam that originated from our society is when they say it's a taboo to have a child before marriage.
If your woman doesn't want to keep that child knowing full well you'll marry her, show her the exit door, because she doesn't care about your happiness.
What's the point of killing the child of a to be husband because of what the church will say and societal construct and still want to stay with the man.
it is never guaranteed for a woman that he will marry her until he does. So she should risk being a single mother, her entire future, based on the promise of a wet behind the ears, man who is still relying on his parents?
It never ends well for women who make such a gamble.
advanceDNA: ....I actually don't care whose decision holds more weight in determining weda the child lives or dies....
My issue here is .....If u feel u have the total right to deny me an opportunity of being a father when I want it, just because u are not ready want to become a mother, or u have someone else u want to marry, or because u feel i am broke..
Why do u think u have the right to drag me in to becoming a father or ur husband when i am not interested just because u want it....
By the way...Nobody is stuck.....anyone irresponsible enough can leave at anytime. ..and we've seen many women dump their kids after birth
because your orgasm(ejaculation)resulted in a child, not hers. So take responsibility for those few seconds of pleasure.
when a woman doesn't want the baby, the man doesn't have a say.....
..but when its the the man that doesn't want baby... the woman will start threatening fire and brimestone, dragging him for marriage and child support
it is very simple, a man can want a baby now but not want it in a few years time. Men can opt out of fatherhood when a younger woman comes along or when he loses interest or any other reason.
Women on the other hand are stuck with the results of a man's ejaculation for the rest of her life. Ask all the single moms and baby mamas around you. They had to stay when the man opted out, no matter the reason. The woman is the one taking the risk. Risking her life by carrying that pregnancy, so it makes Sense that her decisions should hold more weight.
The only time the man has such power is when the man is about to ejaculate or when he marries her and does fatherly duties to the child.
She came to my side on 6th February, we had se'X using the pull out method without protection. She was supposed to see her period at that month but nothing show, on the 2nd March, she carried out test and told me she pregnant.
We are in our final in school. I want a child because am the only son of my parent but she want abortion because of shame as to when she will go back to school, She's a churchy kind of girl and people know her very well.
I promised her marriage but don't know how to do it after the abortion. Although am broke as well.
let her abort it. You can opt out from fatherhood at anytime. She cannot.
Don't destroy someone's daughter's future because you were too stupid to use a condom .
meedoLock: Why can't this people opt for an adoption instead of this illegal means? Human babies are priceless for crying out loud. Why would you purchase a human baby like a cockrel in the open markets
People sha..
Adoption is very stressful, time consuming and expensive process. IVF is cheaper
NEUDUDE: I think he suspects his wife and hes damn right to do so cos shes suspect. How can you run out of love cos your guy did a DNA test lol the dumbest thing ive heard. She knows hes closing in on her and shes scared he would catch her
NEUDUDE: I think this woman is cheating and shes leveraging the DNA thingy as a way out. Shes even surprised the child is his and scared silly as it stands. To the man you can do better give her a divorce and be done with it. At least kid is yours, make that a priority and dont look back
I think the man was cheating in the first place. That's why he demanded a DNA test. Guilty conscience.
jadyclem: You told your husband you don't love him anymore and he wants you guys to go for counseling? What a very stupid and insecure man! If I was in his shoes I'll be very glad to let you go. Openly telling me you don't love me is the end of whatever bond we have. The sooner men starts treating entitled and thriffling women like they truly deserve, the better the society will be for everyone. Marriage that can't give you as a man peace and some form of comfort is a waste of time, energy and resources.
I agree that he is a stupid and insecure man. His stupidity qnd insecurity made him demand a DNA test from his virgin bride. It also made him fail to see an issue in the horizon when she reached out to him for help with the way his actions made her feel, thereby killing the trust and love in the marriage.
I don't see what the woman has done wrong here at all. The man bleeped up, he lacks responsibility and is failing to hold himself accountable for his role in this. Now you men are advocating that he divorces her, hiding his head like an ostrich in the sand. Even if he gets a new woman I guarantee that the same issue of his stupidity and insecurity will ruin the 2nd relationship.
jadyclem: The man did nothing wrong to me o. What's wrong in conducting a DNA on ur child to be sure it's truly yours? The only wrong he did was entertaining her nonchalant behavior and allowing her seem like she has the upper hand in the relationship. Have you noticed that women always try to make things work and be in their best behavior when the man care less whether their relationship with her work or not?
Place a woman on a pedestal and she'll think she's better and deserves more. Weak men are very annoying people. They're the ones that empower such type of nonsense behaviors
It's like you being falsely accused of raping a person and being tried at court only to later be found innocent, meanwhile damage has been done and some people still think you are a rapist.
If you don't trust the woman who you disvirgined, then you are the issue.. You might as well have not gotten her pregnant. Why did you ejaculate in an untrustworthy person. Shows that the man is truly disingenuous, irrational and emotional in his thinking.
jadyclem: The man is a mumu for wanting to go on counseling with someone that has already "checked herself out of the marriage" like you said. A woman telling you she no longer loves you as a man should quench whatever interest you have in her. She should become a stranger to you and be treated as such the moment she opens her mouth to tell you that.
Men need to understand that they deserve better
The man landed himself in his present pot of soup, he is responsible for his misfortune and his destroying his marriage himself.
You can't be with a man you call a husband, see sex as a chore, and perform your responsibilities as a task.
Look inwards and see if you gave him reasons to suspect you in the beginning. People grow in marriage. Everyone wasn't perfect or ready for marriage when they got married. Neither were all in love when they did. Your husband seems like one of such. Flip the table and if you were on the other side, how would you feel.
For your own sake, you better leave now or change. This your stance will only favour you at the present.
I hope you know that it takes resources to leave a marriage
jadyclem: You told your husband you don't love him anymore and he wants you guys to go for counseling? What a very stupid and insecure man! If I was in his shoes I'll be very glad to let you go. Openly telling me you don't love me is the end of whatever bond we have. The sooner men starts treating entitled and thriffling women like they truly deserve, the better the society will be for everyone. Marriage that can't give you as a man peace and some form of comfort is a waste of time, energy and resources.
so you ignored the rest of that writeup. She has checked herself out of the marriage.
I (33 f) have been married to my husband (36 m) for 7 years. A little over 5 years ago I got pregnant with our son. Long story short on that it was a terrible time for me. The pregnancy was rough on me and on top of that my husband demanded a pregnancy test. He kept trying to say he didn't think I would cheat on him but he 'needed to be sure'. It destroyed me emotionally and it didn't get better after our son was born and he got the proof he needed. I asked him to go to marriage counseling with me he told me no because it was my issue I needed to get over.
So, I asked him for just therapy for me and he said no because I just needed to get over it and we didn't have the money for it. I hated him for the first year of my sons life. Like with a burning passion. However, I learned about meditation and mindfulness and over time my hatred dissipated and I just felt indifferent towards him. I didn't love him anymore but I didn't hate him. I wanted a divorce but my family and his family convinced me it would be better to stay for my son and I did for him.
My relationship with my husband, if you could call it that was fine. I still did everything I was suppose to as a wife. I cooked, cleaned, and let him use my body to get off whenever he wanted. I just saw it as a chore that I needed to do. I thought everything was going fine, our son just started going to Kindergarten and I have been looking for a job while son is at school, I even started working out again. Now the problem is my husband came to me and said he wanted another baby. I laughed because I thought he was joking but he was serious.
I told him that I wouldn't have a baby with someone that I didn't love and he was shocked. He told me that he had no idea that I didn't love him Which was ridiculous to me because in the past 5 years I stopped wearing my wedding ring and have never said I love you to him. We didn't do anything together no date nights, didn't exchange any gifts for any occasion. We were just living like roommates who had sex some times.
Now, he wants to do counseling and all this stuff to save our marriage and I just don't want to or see the point. Am I at fault?
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